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As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm a 21M with extreme social anxiety all my life. I get extremely nervous around both genders but I am not as nervous around guys as I am with girls, even if I don't find them that attractive. I don't think I've had an actual conversation with a girl my age in my entire life. I've been working on coming out of my shell for the past month, and I have gotten slightly better. However, I still get way too nervous around girls. I go to the gym pretty often and there is this one girl I have seen frequently for the past 3 years. I've been trying to build up the courage to talk to her but whenever she walks or workout near me I completely freeze up and can't take my eyes off the floor. I'm mostly nervous that I'll end up looking like a creep or that she wants to be left alone. How can I approach her without getting so nervous? </query> | <response>Wow felt like I could have wrote that word for word it's like we're living the sane life. I have no confidence at all talking to girls, not as bad talking to boys unless I feel intimidated by them like if they're popular or a confident person. With girls even ones I'm not attracted to (although it is easier with ones I'm not attracted to) I can't my voice turns to a whisper and I stumble on my words </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So I had a date with this girl and her friend came too and 90% of the time I didn't talk , idk its like I have nothing to talk about and idk it makes me soooo sad because i can't really enjoy nothing :( it feels like I have brain damage or something , maaaan I just wanna b “normal” not so passive </query> | <response>To talk to people, ask them questions, people love to talk about themselves and then just engage into that and learn their opinions and interests </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I want to ghost them and not meet any new people again </query> | <response>Why would you want to be one? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> ....I'm so fucking lost about how to handle it. Unlike me, she happens to be </query> | <response>I think you are underestimating yourself. It will go much better than you think, I promise. This is just your fear speaking. If she's outgoing, it'll be easier for you. And if you mess up just say </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> nSocial anxiety is being unable to meet the eyes of someone talking to you. It's the cold, sinking dread that causes you to make up excuses to stay in the car instead of going into any public space. It's that shakiness in your voice as you order something as simple as a drink. It's the well recognized way you carry yourself, with shoulders slightly hunched and eyes cast downward so as to make yourself smaller, so that maybe... just maybe... you can disappear. nIt's not something to romanticize. It's not the cool, mysterious loner kid in the movies or the I-hate-people mentality carried by the badass antisocials. It's the mortification as soon as the words u201cclass participation is for a gradeu201d leaves the teacher's lips or the sudden feeling of words dying in your throat at any time that you're called out and all eyes seem to drill into you. It's not shyness, either. It's not the faint blush on the cheeks of the new kid or the stranger. It's the nervous sweating or shaky hands that only seem to get worse as you try to stop them and the thought that everyone must think you're a freak for being unable to hold up a conversation. It's not wanting to ask for anything you need from a teacher or a waiter, and trying to figure things out yourself because speaking up means attention on you.nSocial anxiety is self hatred. It's feeling like you don't belong and staring at other people to compare yourself to them and highlight the things that make you different, that make you unliked. It's being convinced that no one can like you for how you are now and being isolated from a world full of people who find being social easy. It's wanting recognition but despising it at the same time. nIt's the awkwardness after the exchange of how are you's in a text message since the only thing you can think of is how they won't like you. Or that they're judging you.nSocial anxiety isn't a bump in the road to get over. It's trying to rediscover a way of living your life, telling yourself not to care what people think, teaching yourself small tricks to not look as awkward as you feel. It's understanding your limits and pushing yourself to overcome them. It's small steps to no longer hate yourself for the anxiety that builds up as though people around you are a threat. nSocial anxiety is not the end. It's not impossible to get over. But it's hard. And no amount of laughter and u201cget over itu201d in attempt to belittle the mental disorder is going to help someone on their journey to overcoming it, so if you do this then stop.nThank you for reading. </query> | <response>You put it into words. The majority of this I how I feel. Especially around others. Thank you. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Idk if this will get taken down, but I'll share anyways. So I got over my social anxiety of going to meet this girl, I was super nervous, but I went and all went well. I left with some regret of “I can't believe I did this”, but also I feel happy and confident at the same time, all of a sudden now I'm riding this high of happiness even though I had some regret of going??? I'm not sure what it is, but my confidence in speaking to people and women in general has increased, I guess I don't feel so nervous around women anymore. Part of it might be because if things don't work out with a girl I'm flirting with, I can still go meet an escort the same day and do what I want. Any other dudes have a similar experience?nnEDIT: I'm not encouraging you guys to do it. But I haven't been with a women since my gf 4 years ago, and what I was trying to get from women by flirting and what not, I got so easily. It changed my mindset and the anxiety around trying to get laid. The fact that I don't really need the girl I'm flirting with to sleep with me, like she won't, Kiki will. </query> | <response>You liking something does not make it ethical. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> i know this is weird af but i don't have any friends irl and i feel really lonely at times, ecspecially during holidays and have no one to text. anyone interested in joining a group chat? i want to make new friends.nn@everyone that wants to join, pm me ur number with ur country code! sorry if i didn't mention this earlier, it might take one or two days for me to set up the chat so please be patient!! i'm excited too hehe:) </query> | <response>sure if you still want </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I do not know what to do, i have so many mental problems and im feeling so overwelmed. Ive wanted to end myself since i was 11 years old. I remember lieing in bed as a child terrified of the voices in the head constantly yelling and screaming at me. The voices stopped when i was 12 but i still get reminded of the feeling they brought me from certain triggers. Instead of voices i instead get loud noises (like ear splitting repeating bangs of metal) or ill hear my name or someone shuffling outside my door when no ones there. I feel like i have adhd i cant concentrate on anything, i stuggle to find the will to finish any of my work in school even though im more than capable of, i cant sleep at night and i feel as if im loosing touch with reality, i find it harder and harder to tell the difference between my dreams and real life. I just dont know what to do. I havnt told anyone about this and i probably will not be because the thought of someone worrying about me is something i cannot handle. Please help me i have bottled up everything my entire life i feel as if im going insane. </query> | <response>Are they... would it be dangerous to tell them? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I am a 35 year old man with severe social anxiety. I had it in High School, but it got really bad a few years after graduation. I live a very socially isolated life, and at times my anxiety is so bad I isolate from family due to feeling judged. I am currently in one of those periods, and have been for almost two months now. I haven't seen anyone except for people at the Gym or Stores, and those are all strangers. I feel like less of a loser during this Covid time, but know that I need to change something or I have no reason to be around anymore. I have also been unemployed since January, and my unemployment ended. I have applied for dozens of jobs and have only had one Zoom interview. I'm sure I didn't hear back due to how awkward I came across on camera. Anyone else feel this same way? </query> | <response>I'm 35 next month and pretty much feeling the same. I go through periods of socialising, then get bored of it because my anxiety makes me feel like I'm not connecting with people, so I see no point in maintaining superficial relationships. The only human contact I have these days is in stores and with my therapist. Admittedly, most of my lack of interaction these days is because of Covid-19. Most of my immediate family are dead so pretty much have no one. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Ok, I know it sounds weird, like why the heck would you wanna avoid someone you have a crush on, but please hear me out. nnnI'm 28, and male. I currently teach at the college I graduated from. Before graduation, I became somewhat infatuated with one of the girls in my class. Let's call her A. It just so happened that A became my colleague when I came to work there, along with several other classmates. We work in different departments, but since she was fairly friendly with me back in my college days, we became good friends as colleagues too. nnAs time has gone on, my infatuation for her has gone through the roof. I think about her constantly. Tbh I think I wanna marry her even (lmfao). She's easily a 7-8/10, great sense of humor, level headed, and unlike most other women I meet, very easy to talk to about anything from politics to religion. However, I'm quite certain she's very much out of my league. nnI am absolutely TERRIBLE when it comes to women due to my history of social anxiety and awkwardness. I've never had a proper gf, and women find me creepy. I'm not attractive either, r/amiugly gave me a 5/10 as my highest score. Every endeavour with women has almost always ended in rejection, disinterest, or friendzoning. Believe me when I say, I'm hopeless in this regard. The reason why I want to avoid her is because me knowing that she's never going to see me the way I see her is a constant source of pain and anxiety for me. It's not that I'm an incel, that I hate her because she doesn't like me, but I really just wanna distance myself from her company so I can stop feeling so hopeless all the time. nnnI know a lot of you reading this probably think I'm being really pathetic, and I wouldn't blame you. But please understand, after years upon years of rejection and getting nowhere romantically, it really is taking a toll on my mental health. Thank you so much for understanding </query> | <response>People have told me I'm creepy, lack confidence, and as evidenced by r/amiugly, below average in my appearance. I used to ignore these things, but I think I have to accept these as realities now, else I'm just going to keep hurting myself </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> My mom is saying that I cannot wear a mask to school anymore and is not going to give me them anymore. This helps my anxiety and not allowing me to have that makes me anxious. nnI'm really mad, like she knows I have social anxiety and she chooses to do this to me.nnJust a rant to get my thoughts out of my head, but if you have any thoughts or tips that could help me that would be great. </query> | <response>just a note that this topic is not an invitation for people to launch into anti mask or other political tirades. The discussion is about social anxiety and dealing with a specific issue with a parent - not the politics or effectiveness (or otherwise) of masks. Please take such discussions elsewhere. Thanks. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I want to take it for obvious reasons, but I feel the class will just make me anxious and nervous. Also, I don't know how much this class can help me. Does anyone have experience with this? Advice? Thanks! </query> | <response>I've done similar, shorter, courses in the past. Yes it will make you anxious, but it can also be a great boost to you self confidence once you get through it. Facing your fears (exposure therapy) is the best way to conquer your anxiety in the long term. My question to you would be do you have the courage and determination to push through the anxiety for the duration of the course? If the answer is yes then I'm sure it will benefit you greatly. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm always thinking how my life would be without the SA. I've wondered how'd it be having no SA having had it in the past. </query> | <response>Actually talk to a girl </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have a lot of thoughts swirling in my head about this, and I'm going to try and keep this as short and sweet as possible. I feel like I can relate to tons of stories here, but this is never the case face to face with other people. Anyways...nnI came from an environment as a shy child, to making a decent amount of friends and the occasional girl friend as a teenager. I was very connected from my mind to body, and felt mostly confident with myself and I could tell people picked up on this as well. I legitimately enjoyed my life and the people in it.nnAt around 18 I started suffering from major panic attacks, which eventually led to OCD. I immediately started feeling awkward with everyone around me and lost a majority of my own confidence, most actions felt very robotic. After a small stint with SRRI's and Xanex, I stopped all meds and remained 100% focused on beating my OCD, which I'm proud to say I was successful with.nnBut for the past few years I've been dealing with depression and social anxiety. The social anxiety definitely feeds into the depression, as I do not feel connected with most people around me. Because of this, I struggle to even go out and meet with people unless I've had/going to have at least a few drinks. And before I end up in AA meetings, I want to squash this now, which is why I'm reaching out here. I currently cannot go to therapy as I do not have health insurance, so I'm going to do my best with what resources I have.nnMy point is, I'm looking for someone that's experienced a similar situation to this and would be willing to talk. I'm really sick of dealing with this by myself and would be thrilled to meet people with similar interests that could help and vise versa. nnSo yeah, shoot away. If you're as ready as I am lets do this thing. </query> | <response>23M here and I feel the exact same way. I've always been a little shy but I was completely ok with it until I got to highschool.nnNever really had a reason for people to judge me but I still feel like everyone is and it's gotten astronomically worse since I graduated college and joined the real world. Less interactions means that even saying hi to someone in the break room sets me off of a deep end.nnAnd yes my social anxiety feeds into my depression ten fold. Due to just getting out of a 4 year relationship, I know I'll crash and burn if I don't do therapy. nnFeel free to PM me anytime you're feeling down. Even if it's a stranger on the internet, getting it out there in some shape or form is healthier than nothingnnnnn </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I don't really have a problem talking to people so long as there's something to talk about that isn't the weather forecast or pop-culture headlines. The problem is, I find very few moments to talk about my genuine interests with people.nnFor example, I'm into heavy metal music. That, unfortunately, isn't a popular genre in my little corner of existence, so talking to people about music is usually a rapid dead-end.nnI also like books, but I don't really read the current </query> | <response>Heck yeah, it's okay with me. Be sure to update us all on your progress. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> a </query> | <response>i would rather be invisible. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Okay, so my sister had her 18th last night and she had a few friends around. I was going to introduce myself as her new boyfriend came through the door, but we were sent away not to intimidate him as he walked in.nn I had a few drinks at this point and whilst lying down somehow managed to fall to sleep and by the time I woke up, two other friends had already arrived and the party was in full swing. At this point I just refused to even go down there, figured within myself I'd missed my chance of saying hello, but also playing in my head that I'd somehow fluff up and just look weird.nnI had some drinks downstairs in the fridge, I had to get my mum to bring them up and I made the excuse that I just really couldn't be bothered going down and getting involved, but truthfully I was just so anxiously stuck here unable to function.nnFast forward this morning, my sister's boyfriend is downstairs, I'm just playing it over in my head but at this point I just feel like he'd find it weird that I just stuck up here all night and didn't introduce myself. So here I am again just sat in bed and waiting for him to go home.nnAnyone give me some advice? I really hate being like this and I feel like I'm upsetting people, especially my sister because it seems like I'm not interested in meeting her boyfriend. I'm just unable to be myself and I hate it so much.nnEDIT: I forgot and should have mentioned, I'm 25 and this adds to why I feel like such an idiot. I shouldn't be struggling like this at this age. </query> | <response>Thanks for your response. Yeah, you're probably right. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> 18M Pansexual.nnSo I have ocd anxiety depersonalization derealisation and autism I keep having these what I call Moments and they usually happen when something bad happens to mennLike a friend leaves me or I get made fun of. I just go home and I change instantly I just start laughing cutting myself wiping the blood on my face believing that I'm god then end up crying or talking to myself things likenn </query> | <response>Are you taking your OCD meds? People with OCD simply MUST take their meds or suffer the ratty consequences. (Although that Zoloft you were taking *may* NOT be the </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> For me, I think it comes from my junior high school years... you know, going through puberty, a lot of new emotions and shit. I got bullied a lot those years. I hated it. I remember days were I sat alone in the lunch room, crying... I was a loser. This continued into my freshman year of high school. It wasn't until my sophomore year that I put on a fake persona, completely untrue to my actual self, and started getting accepted into social circles. I think my SA comes from a sense of fear of being found out. I'm a freshman in college right now, and I've been to parties with my roommates and have done shit I would have never imagined doing five years ago. I guess I'm just scared of being seen through. Conformity is how I stopped the bullying from my childhood, and I guess I'm scared that nonconformity will just put me right back where I left off, despite everyone around me being more mature. It's an irrational fear but its roots are deep and I'm struggling to pull them out.nnWhat about you? I think this kind of self reflection is important in identifying the problem and looking for solutions. Where do you think your social anxiety originates from? </query> | <response>Honestly I think it multiple things. My parents getting divorced, moving a ton, and getting way too little sleep at a young age. Then it only worsened after I spent more years socially isolated at school (thank God I wasn't bullied, but I still had no friends) and kinda just forgot how you are supposed to talk to people. Maybe also genetics a since someone else in my family has social issues. It was also worsened by my extreme perfectionism that resulted from sibling rivalry. My dad totally engaged in parental alienation after the divorce as, so maybe a bit from that as well. Idk a whole lot issues resulted in this anxious mess and I had no idea any of them affected me until I started writing in a diary. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> To me it just feels like older people seem a little less judgy compared to people your age or younger. For example, you go to the grocery store and you enter the soda aisle or whatever aisle, and you see a group of people around your age (for me it's college students) versus entering an aisle and seeing a group of old ladies or old men. </query> | <response>Yes. I feel like I have something to prove to people my own age, that I'm cool or whatever, and I don't have to worry about that with older people </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Cycling over and over negative thought, fear, what ifs... </query> | <response>Thank u! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Whats the best job for someone with social anxiety </query> | <response>Gardener, Cook, scientist, janitor, garbage man, dog walker... I imagine these or any job that doesn't require you to talk to a lot of people would be ideal. On the other hand, being told what to do is sometimes comforting for social anxieties. Maybe a maid or assistant or animal carer. Perhaps going out in public is your crutch... try digital jobs like advertising, video editing, or web design. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm overwhelmed by the things going on for past 2-3 years. I don't feel anything at all lately (more than 1 year actually). I'm sick of being lonely all the time currently living with my parents but still have no one to talk like genuinely talk. My parents always had high expectations. They always loved me when I was successful, high grades etc. When I got bad grades they did ignore me in primary school and high school. Now I'm completely burnt out. I have a good degree in university entrance exam currently studying medicine. If you know medicine is quite heavy. My parents always had a fav child which is my bigger sister they care about her more than me I can see that very clearly. They always sacrifice their needs for her and I get the leftovers from that. I help them every time they ask for help but I can't keep it anymore. I was the one that always goes for their help not my sister. Always made sure to be less of a burden to them but that sure didn't work out. My social anxiety makes it even worse. I don't have someone to trust and be vulnerable. Can't speak to people if I don't really need it. I can't keep up anymore. When I go to the hospital I always smile and be kind to the patients but also thinking that I'm not like this. The only thing I have is my academic success but even that is I don't know it feels like I have never been enough, capable. I don't have anyone that loves me for who I am people just drift away from me all the time even though I try extremely hard to be myself around them. My will to continue is really close to 0 at this point. </query> | <response>Please keep trying. I'm still trudging along too. It's painful, isn't it? But we have to keep fighting. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hello everybody,nnI am 21 years old, and an immigrant.nI got married with a US citizen two years ago and since that I have been forced by immigration and COVID to stay home.nnIt's been two years that I practically live on my couch, waiting for this green card allowing me to work and go to school at least. Unfortunately I live in a remote area too, with nothing to do, but I have a few months left here.nI spend my days watching Netflix and staring at the wall, and I have no friends here. I talk to my pets and that's it. nI have developed a severe anxiety: I wake up anxious, I'm depressed during the day, and I can't sleep in the night. I started going to the gym, and then stopped because I was always unmotivated and lacking energy. I stopped eating and I lost weight, when I am already underweight. I used to love cleaning, and have a clean house, and now just the thought of cleaning makes me tired.nI am surrounded by negativity, trapped inside my own mind, and I don't have anything to keep me busy. nI sleep my mornings away, and sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and cry. I cry because I feel so worthless. What am I doing with my life? Is this living? I need help, because I am really stuck and I feel like I am losing myself. </query> | <response>Heyyy! I know this is very hard! But please let me know if you want to talk about anything! I'd love to make a new friend <3nHope you are safe and doing well now! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I grew very far apart from people I once called friends. I started to find them immature and that we had absolutely nothing in common. I smoked a ton of weed, avoided parties, and even avoided my roommates at every opportunity. I would go to online therapy and I fear that they might have overheard me talking with my therapist about how disconnected I felt from them. nnI have now graduated and they all still continue to hang out and apparently really enjoy each others company. Must be nice. nnThe thing is that it's all my fault. I feel like I completely squashed my last 2 years of college because I didn't know how to make true friends that had similar interests as me, and now I'm paying the price in loneliness and frustration. I like my life, but I don't have many friends. I could've really lived it up my last two years but instead I just hid in my bedroom and smoked it away. I hate myself for it and thinking about it makes me want to cry. </query> | <response>I peaked in highschool and after that I just fell off the face of the earth. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Why do I take everything so personally? Why do I give one rude stranger the power to ruin my day? It's especially shitty when it's like a cashier being rude to you and being nice to another customer.nnHow can I get myself to not care? </query> | <response>This has happened to me before too. I've had difficulty not caring about it too. Fortunately, these days I'm a homebody so the probability is low now and hasn't happened in a while. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hello everyone, I have posted here before but I am back because I have made a revelation but am still equally confused.nnBasically, I have discovered that the root of my anxiety stems from the fact that for awhile I thought I knew what everyone was thinking and that I could read them so well. This translated into extreme negativity and narcissm because I have developed this weird nervous anxiety. This has popped up after I had a bad acid trip with two friends and I thought that everyone in the trip was in on this joke and knew what was going on but I had no idea. It was like I thought they could read my mind and see all of these terrible intrusive thoughts I had in my mind. That wasn't the case obviously but I think my anxiety made it known and turned the whole trip into a very strange and paranoid trip.nnAnd from this I have started to notice I get extremely tense and get these small micro-trembles in my arms, neck, and legs. Now whenever I have to sit next to someone in silence or I can see their face when I am listening I start to focus intensely on trying not to get this twitch because I feel like if they see it its clear I am thinking about them and very nervous.nnHow do I get past this terrible mind reading anxiety and thinking that everybody can see through my actions and knows how fucked up of a mind I have? It also goes hand in hand other people seeing through my bullshit and me looking into their mind and thinking that I know what they are thinking about me.nnThis makes me feel so powerless. I have big aspirations and goals in life and I like to have deep one on one talks with people but I cannot just keep things simple or not say something because I am so concerned with the little shit and body language and unconscious stuff. I's like I am living a lie. </query> | <response>Nah, this trip was about a year ago. I also have stopped smoking weed after that trip because it made me so self-conscious. Trying to calm down my mind. I suppose it takes time. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Everyone In my family Is mad at me because I can't focus or remember anything and I'm just very depressed </query> | <response>Half of what is said I forget </response> |
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<query> I am going to be 26 in July and what has me bothered which it consumes a lot of my time thinking about is the fact that getting older has nothing great coming. I wish I can be 18 again and know my body is still growing as the older I get, the more responsibilities come with it and I don't know how people are able to keep going. As after a certain age, everything starts going downhill as far as your health, skin, hair, etc; I believe the biggest thing that social anxiety may make it almost impossible for me to do is find motivation to keep going for u201cMYSELF.u201d Which I truly cannot find that motivation as nothing wants me to keep going, I am living more than comfortably with a high paying job and I knew before even having money that it does nothing for happiness. When I was with my ex is the last time I remember actually being motivated to push myself and ever since then, I've been stuck as my psychiatrist tells me that I am the only one that has the capability to change my mindset as obviously, others can't change the way I feel. The only time I feel happiness is when I am helping others as I never come first when it comes to anything even when I know I am getting the short stick out of the group. </query> | <response>Im 24 and used to be like you, tried to fish for any kind of validation and was super helpful even if it was hurtful for me and in general i thought that i needed somebody to help me to live MY life right lol. Turned out it was due overcontrolling anxious mother who pushed her shit onto me.nI dont do this anymore tho I still have sa and life is not good in general even more it sucks but wellp im trying and i want to see how i will look like with long and naturally grey hair lmaonSorry if i understood you not right but still emphasize with ya dude hope things will get better </response> |
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<query> What date/month it was. :) </query> | <response>Idk honestly. Probably 5/6 years ago :/ </response> |
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<query> One (of two) of my friends wants to set me up with a friend of her boyfriend. The guy is newly single and isn't really looking for anything serious, but seemed interested in meeting me when my friend's boyfriend mentioned me to him. He quickly added me on facebook and within a couple days, his interest level dropped significantly. Perhaps he decided that I was a hideous beast. That's totally fine! I'm not by any means, but that certainly could have played a role! He mentioned to my friend's boyfriend yesterday (who mentioned it to his girlfriend who mentioned it to me...a game of telephone basically) that 1) he was still upset about his breakup and 2) he was a social guy.nnBoth of these things seem to say 'I'm not interested anymore, but I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings by saying so.'nnI wasn't quite sure what to think about him saying he was a social guy. What does that even mean? My first thought was that he saw my facebook and made the (correct) assumption that I don't really hang out with anyone other than this particular friend. He's social. He doesn't want anything to do with someone like me. Maybe they mentioned to him that I was shy and he just didn't think it would work.nnHave any of you ever gotten that? Before even meeting/getting to know the person?nnIt's not that I really care about this set up at all. I've actually tried online dating for a few months this year, but decided I'd try to get a bit of therapy before I complicated my life with boys. This summer is the summer of recovery and I wasn't going to look for any sort of relationship. BUT...this situation hurts because having social anxiety hasn't been much of a problem before, but now it's becoming obvious. I haven't been able to take part in a lot of things (dating being one of them), but I've been okay with that. It's been easy to fake normality. Nobody has ever turned me away because I wasn't social enough. Ever. The thing is, you can't fake not having friends. It's weird to people that you don't have friends. It's like you need an established group of friends in order to make any new friends and if you don't have that group, you're hooped.nnBut anyway. If anyone has anything to say about this (or dating with SA in general), please do. :) I've been doing little exposures for the past week and a half or so and it's going quite well. My next step is to go to a meetup.com meetup!n </query> | <response>I got on here from r/random so bear with me this may be direct.nnFirst off, I didn't finish reading past the second paragraph. I apologize, as my conclusion regarding your dilemma was made before I gave enough a damn to read the rest.nnI don't have social anxiety, at least not in the way people in the subreddit do. However, I do partake in activities socially that push me outside my comfort zone all the time (in a social context). Hence, I have an idea of how much stress you have, and how you can improve your social skills.nnFirst thing I want to say is don't overanalyze shit. This guy didn't like you before he even talked to you, who gives a fuck. At this rate you will be doing what ifs for every small thing and spending your life pondering every single insecurity as opposed to moving on and LIVING your life.nnSecondly, I suggest you make a consistent and persistent effort to be more comfortable in social settings. Set small goals for yourself, like go to the grocery store and ask a question. Then the next time, start a conversation. Then the next time maybe start a convo with a guy you find cute. Take small steps, stack them up, and eventually you will get somewhere. Do important points about this approach 1)make sure your goals are explicit and doable, yet slightly go beyond your comfort zone. This way, you know you can do it, but it's also a step forward for you. Secondly, make sure your goal is dependent on you and your actions. For example, going back to the grocery store example, when you ask someone a question, you shouldn't base whether or not you reached your goal on how the person reacted. You should simply be content knowing you had the balls go ask the question. What's the point? The point is you can control WHAT YOU DO, but you can't control (and consistently know) how other people react. In fact, the entire purpose of your question on this thread indicates to me your failure to do this. You need to seek validation from yourself, not on the reaction of others. nn </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> It's a long weekend here where I live, and I was supposed to meet up with some friends and have a nice lunch. It was a couple of close friends and some of their friends. Nothing too special.nnBut I ended up bailing. Last minute. Again.nnI couldn't do it. The thought of arriving there made me feel physically sick to my stomach. Very nauseas and like I really needed to poo. I kept thinking, </query> | <response>I know how you feel. I have like zero social life and no friends because, despite being invited out by coworkers, I flake because I too have social anxiety.nnI can sit all day at home binge watching movies or a television series, or playing a video-game, and tell myself it's alright but deep down inside I'm so lonely yet I bail every time there's something social planned. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm an undergrad and I've to call a retired professor to ask him to go for a walk (cause he made me promise I would). The walk is for urban research purposes. Yesterday I told myself I'd do it today. I started working up to it at 9 am and it's now 11:30. In that period I've cried twice and probably annoyed my bf with all my irrational venting.nnIt's so fucking frustrating and debilitating. This morning I've questioned my sanity: </query> | <response>Phone calls are especially hard for me as well. But if there's one thing valuable that I got out of therapy, it's calming/coping strategies. To be honest, therapy was a very valuable experience, but to 12-year-old me it was wildly unnecessary and stressful. Anyway, the calming/coping strategies helped put a stop to the destructive anxiety cycle by distracting my brain from whatever I was thinking about. You might think distracting yourself from the phone call you've been ruminating on for the entire morning might be a bad thing since YOU HAVE TO DO IT. But distraction is the BEST THING you can do for yourself in that moment. It helps you to find your bearings and take a break from all the unnecessary thoughts that cause the anxiety. My therapist helped me devise special coping strategies just for me based on my interests, but some of them are pretty general ones that anyone can use. Although they might seem silly at first, they are virtually undetectable calming mechanisms that help a lot.nnThese are some of the coping strategies:nn-fiddling with a paper clip (working it almost like clayu2014 My paper clip would always be super disfigured after I was done with it lol)nn-imagining your happy placenn-listening to musicnn-using your five senses (ie. counting all the blue things in one room)nn-taking deep breaths (using the 4-7-8 breathing technique)nn-drawing/coloring (meditative coloring and drawing mandalas helped me the most)nnHope this helps! If you have any questions about the coping strategies, feel free to DM me :) </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Whenever I'm in a social setting and my anxiety starts to kick in, my neck, arms, and legs will become stiff and shake. With my arms and legs, my movements are rigid and it's hard to have a good posture. And with my neck, it shakes uncontrollably to the point that I have neck spasms and people will quickly turn away from me when this happens.nnI want to know if anyone else has problems similar to this and if there is any treatment for it? I really hate that I have to deal with this and it's causing me great distress. I want to appear normal in society, but it feels like that chance is robbed from me when I can't socialize correctly, yet alone control my body so people can approach me.nn----------------------nEdit: This was a pleasant and overwhelming surprise waking up to this much messages in my inbox. I didn't know a lot of people struggle with muscle stiffness or neck shakiness when their anxiety increases. This makes me feel a lot less lonely and crazy considering everyone in my life sees me as unhinged or mentally unwell. Thank you to everyone who responded! I appreciate it. </query> | <response>Thank you so much, I appreciate your reply! I went through 4 rounds of video calls today that included 4 other people I don't really talk to, and they were really good at participating and talking, which somehow made the meeting more difficult for me. Like I wanted to be on their “level of being social” so bad that it threw me off. Idk that's my best guess anyways.nnAnd they are such good people tbh. I felt no judgement whatsoever from them. But I'm my worst critic, and as much as I wanna be happy to have gone through the meetings, I can't help but feel down because I think I should've done better.nnYou're right though, I think a big part of it is being more comfortable with my coworkers and with being on camera. I think seeing my self not sit still throws me off the most.nnBut really thank you again! Hearing that this has gotten easier for you really gives me hope for getting more comfortable on video calls. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> When I look back at childhood moments where I dealt with humiliation in front of others I can't help but realize that I was only in those situation because of my parents. If I had it my way I would have never been there in the first place. </query> | <response>Whenever I encountered humiliation from a specific incident I usually didn't overcome it but did everything I could to prevent it from happening again. The worst part is when my efforts to avoid humiliation were halted by my parents. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I cannot imagine not wearing one, I feel naked if I don't. And it makes me feel much less anxious too </query> | <response>That's true, ultimately getting too comfortable with wearing masks isn't going to improve the anxiety. nnI think people in a lot of Asian countries have been wearing masks for a very long time for various reasons -pollution, dust, aesthetics, etc- so maybe we won't be too out of place:) </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm in college and recently began to make an effort in my appearance. I suffered from depression and dressed in baggy clothes and sweats, but after seeking help I'm doing much better. Now I'm noticing I'm getting more attention from guys (I am a female) and it's making my social anxiety worse. n </query> | <response>Just dress however makes you feel the most comfortable I guess. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Thought I'm an asocial person, I'm also that so-called people pleaser. I hardly feel good unless others are happy, or I do something that makes them happy. I often struggle to say </query> | <response>I do the same, tbh. Except I try to keep things balanced. Suppose you feel you're taking it too far, then stop. Ask yourself whether an average person would do this. From my experience, many people aren't very fond of people pleasers. Unless you genuinely want to make others happy, that's fine </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I went to the doctor recently and I read the report she wrote afterwards, I thought I acted pretty normal but I was described as </query> | <response>Yep, I have to act very polite and wel mannered with eye contact so people don't write me off as anti social </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm currently a student and because of that I don't have to talk to people all the time. When I do, I can't keep the conversation and it is awkward 100% of the time. So I avoid. But I'm wondering what kind of job you have and how you handle social situations. I'm a CS major and I'm worried when I get a job about how I'm going to communicate. I'm way too quiet and can't hold convos. </query> | <response>I work as a delivery driver for a Chinese restaurant, being located in proximity to one of the rich sides of town I've learned to be polite and try small-talk. Usually stuff about the weather or other common topics like a football game or popular movie if one has been released recently. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I joked in an ex Mormon group (causs we aren't suppose to drink wine, I left at age 21, I'm now 28, I didn't start drinking till recently I just tried some,) and I commented that wine tasted nasty and made a joke about it and someone got mad and told me to u201cgrow up.u201dnnI am severely traumatized by a situation I'm in and by a situation I came from and have honestly not been sleeping well so I had a little bit. I was just making jokes. nnWas I being immature/obnoxious? It made me feel stupid. I'm already worried I'm angering or posing people off all the time. nnI am behind on an adult on a lot of things. I'm afraid because of it no one will ever like me and I'll never be able to connect with others because of it and I am getting over her comment really stabbed a deep insecurity I already had and I wasn't aware I was apparently being obnoxious I was just saying wine tastes gross, u201chow could anyone like thisu201d (like banger humor/ it's my first time trying this.) nnI am trying to leave an agency that I had to go to flee abuse, most my life I've been surviving abuse. I feel like a loser and unworthy of love and connection because of all that I haven't experienced at my age. It just hurt. But I question if people hate me all the time and I wonder if that's why. I usually try not to say anything I'm always afraid of being annoying or obnoxious. I feel embarrassed and stupid now. </query> | <response>I mean mad to where they berate/verbally abuse you over it </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I am fully vaccinated and still wear it everyday. I really don't know what I am going to do when it becomes strange to wear the mask. Anyone else relate? </query> | <response>Same here. Sometimes I only manage to leave the house because I know I can wear a mask. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I can't stop analysing the shit out of everything. When people don't sit next to me, when people look down when they walk by me, when people engage others more than they do me. Every time something happens, I analyse it, and I don't know how to stop. Some days, I wake up feeling fine and I go about my day like normal. That'll last for a few days, then I go back to being self conscious about everything, continuously hoping that things will get better.nnMy question for you, Reddit, is how can I stop giving a shit what other people think (which is all in my head, I believe), or how can I stop analysing everything I do? I just want to go about my day and not have to be worried about... worrying. </query> | <response>Have you given therapy a thought? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Especially if there's some sort of group around my iq drops when talking to new people and I usually only get tiny bits of what they're saying which makes it even worse, do you guys know of any solutions for this specifically? </query> | <response>Been trying but there's steps I'm taking before just jumping into talking as many people as possible </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I dont know why it is, but I find myself getting socially anxious even with family members. I haven't seen my younger siblings or my step mom in years and a couple of weeks ago we decided to meet. The whole time during our visit I was an anxious mess. Stuttering over words and not making any sense. My sister even went live on instagram just a minute ago and she wanted me to join the live and I declined like always (she told me I was weird for doing that) Why is that? I know they won't judge me especially after not seeing them in so long. Having a strong bond is something I always wanted with my family but why do I feel like something is holding me back, when there really shouldn't be. :( </query> | <response>Hey thank you for taking the time to write this. I totally relate to what you just said about being avoidant. And I think you're right about it having to do with not wanting to embarrass myself or in other words become the </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> How do you explain anxiety and depression to someone who doesn't understand it? nI'm deep in the depths right now, every day I struggle to survive. nThe man I love tries to help but ends up getting frustrated when he asks what's wrong and I can't give him an answer. nHow can I help him understand that nothing specifically is wrong today, it's just shit. Everything is just shit </query> | <response>Suggested: Read these first. Then float the ones that fit for you to him.nn(https://www.reddit.com/r/CPTSD/comments/7qp9ck/what_is_complex_ptsd_an_excellent_description/) nn(https://pairadocks.blogspot.com/2019/07/dread-essential-emotional-experience-of.html) (which includes an explanation of how some people </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Used to be terrified of being perceived as creepy , until I actually looked at the fear itself , when people think you're creepy , they think you're hiding something about yourself , they think you could be potentially dangerous “Weirdo” “serial killer “ “ Thief” etc etc. I helped break this fear down by realizing at the end of the day I'm just someone who suffers immensely from anxiety , who has a really hard to socializing , but would actually really love to form genuine connections with others . If someone wants to think I'm a creep , because I'm genuinely trying my best to connect w others while facing an onslaught of negative thoughts , than so be it . I know what my true intentions are , and I know what's on my heart as well as cheesy as that may sound. I CANNOT control the perceptions of others , no matter how much I think I can, and I do not have to let it define me, no matter how much it may hurt for others to assume I'm a bad person with malicious intent. Not about to keep allowing that persons opinion to dictate the image I have of myself , how the fuck could they know me better than me . </query> | <response>I end my messages with “not to come off creepy” when I sincerely wasn't trying to. nnMy dads side of the family said I'd be the one to grow up to be the crazy one of the family when we were talking about what everyone's going to accomplish when they got older (the kids). They said so and so was going to become a doctor, someone something else, then me.. I was going to be the one that ends up crazy. 15 years after they said that, I'm still in the position I'm in. I guess they weren't completely wrong.nnI don't like being called a creep/crazy person but like you said, doesn't matter what they think. It's you that knows yourself better than anyone else. And I know I'm not crazy. Just a useless piece of shit that's gotten nowhere in life because of anxiety </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have my chemistry final tomorrow and it's 2 am and I really can't sleep thinking about this so this is kinda a rant so thank you sm for anyone who's reading this but basically im a 16 yr old junior in high school. I'm that stereotypical quiet kid who sits at the back of the class and doesn't say a word. At the start of junior year, I moved schools and obviously the whole thing was extremely scary and it didn't help that I was already socially anxious. nnOnce school reopened after the pandemic, I started making friends but everything was still scary and I wouldn't contribute much in convos that my friend group had. One day in economics class, our teacher was absent. Everyone was crowding around the whiteboard doodling idk what. But I was the only one actually seated in class all by myself and I started freaking out bcs I thought this was bringing attention to me. So I just went on my phone mindlessly scrolling through the apps hoping everyone would come back to their seats so I wouldn't look lonely, but they didn't. But this one guy came up to me and asked me if I wanted to join him and his friends and he was rlly nice to me. At that point, I wasn't that into him yet but as months passed, I started liking him. We didn't talk much. But whenever he had the chance, he would come to the back of the class and try to make conversation with me. He'd compliment my work or say something to make me laugh. But it was always short and he'd leave quickly. After that, I'd always find him looking at me. During class, he'd look back at me and when I looked at him, he'd quickly turn back. nnSometimes I'd overhear him asking his friends to look into my computer to see what I was doing so he could start a convo with me. (I may not talk a lot but my hearing skills are fully capable). And then shortly after, his friend would pass by and he'd come talk to me about exactly what I was working on. From those short conversations we'd have, I started crushing on him really hard. Especially bcs a guy rarely shows interest in me and we had a lot of things in similar except that he was a bit more outgoing. At first, I tried to convince myself that I didn't like him bcs having a crush only means more overthinking but soon I accepted my feelings. nnFor the past few weeks, we'd make eye contact wether if it was in the hallway or if we were passing by each other's classes. Also maybe not relevant but he had the most beautiful brown eyes and fluffy black hair and I saw him smiling with his mask down once and istg my heart stopped. After I realised how much I liked him, I decided to try my best to make a move which meant I needed to find a way to talk to him which also meant I needed to get over my social anxiety which was the hardest thing to do. After 3 months of not being able to initiate a convo, I decided to tell one of my friends which I normally don't ever do bcs they tend to make things obvious when around crushes. nnI told her and turns out she did a little stalking and found out he has a girlfriend. When I heard that I honestly felt ashamed of myself that I thought someone would even like me and that it should have been obvious that he was probably just being nice and I misunderstood the whole situation. I've spent the week trying to forget him but I can't and I feel so guilty for that bcs he has a girlfriend and I cannot have feelings for him. And the worst part was that I really thought he liked me too and I feel like I cannot trust my judgement in the future bcs he was obviously just being friendly. And I also feel bad for feeling down if that makes sense. Bcs I barely knew the guy so what gives me the right to feel down abt this when it was the fault of MY misinterpretation all along. nnAnyways thank you sm for reading till the end, I appreciate it and thank you for reading my lil rant <3 </query> | <response>I was literally in the exact same situation before school ended except the girl I was interested in was also very shy and quiet. It turns out she has a boyfriend and I felt really weird for even thinking I could get with her. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Could this be an anxiety symptom? Have you experienced anything like this before? They're like tremors. I almost feel it could be muscle or nerve related but I don't know, maybe its just anxiety? I actually had some brain zaps last few days too. Different feeling - they are like shocks. These little tremors feel like maybe a little spasm or shaking/trembling. nnnI was on lexapro for about a year and have been off of it for about 10 months. Have had very heightened anxiety last few months. </query> | <response>One of my best friends would always mention these little brains zaps that she would get. She would describe this like a small electrical pulse that sometimes were so strong it would twitch other parts of her body, like her hands. One day, in the middle of a very stressful situation, she ended up having a minor seizure. It turns out that she was epileptic and had no idea! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> He's 22 and just struggles to cope. He's on medication and sees a psychiatrist and has been doing so well. He is 4 weeks into a new college course and again seemed to be coping. But somethings tipped him over the edge and he's almost back to square one. I feel he's on the verge of quitting that (similar to an apprenticeship he got) nnWife and I are supportive but at same time he need to find a way to cope. He will visit the psychiatrist on Friday.nnMy wife is so worried and I don't know what to do. I don't know if we are mollycoddling him, whether we need to be stronger. I have no one really taht I can talk to for advice. </query> | <response>Living away but during week </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I (23M) suffer with moderate social anxiety and have somehow managed to be in a position where I am dating a girl I find incredibly attractive. Although I am quite comfortable around her, I sincerely dread introducing her to my friends, as I think it will be embarrassing for her to be dating an evidently socially anxious man and I fear she will lose attraction for me. Same goes for meeting her family and friends. She knows I am shy, but not to a degree of social anxiety and hasn't really seen me in situations like these. It makes me want to push her away to protect myself. nAny tips? Alcohol is not a long term solution, but really might help me in these situations </query> | <response>Thanks :) </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Okay so I have a lot to vent about so it might not even make grammatical sense since I'm typing as I'm thinking but please bare with me :(nnI am the youngest in my workplace. I graduated from college at 18 and got recruited by my work as soon as I graduated. Then at 19, I finally moved to London for my job. I've dealt with regular anxiety for a while now but as soon as I moved into the UK, it just went downhill. Maybe it's because I am an asian girl, but I never felt like I fit in with all these people starring at me and especially with the whole pandemic. Anyway that's just my background for my story. nnHere's the thing: my colleagues and the company I work for are very nice people and do not seem to have any problem with me. Which is why I am so frustrated with myself. nnI am a very quiet worker and a type of person who likes to get my job done quickly and efficiently. I don't have anyone I dislike at work (other than my manager he really intimidates me) and I genuinely have no problem with my colleagues. But the thing is, all of them have constantly pointed out that I am really quiet and ask if something's wrong (Which is so fuckingn annoying lmao), WHEN THATS JUST HOW I AM. nnBut because everyone at work except me is so extroverted and all friends with each other (I am the newest member, everyone has been together for at least a year), I feel excluded and feel like they don't like me because I am quiet and don't like to talk with them much. When I do talk with them I make sure I am always smiling and listening attentively and make sure I'm polite.nnSince this pandemic has started, my manager and team members constantly wanna zoom call each week AND I FUCKING HATE IT. I always dread phone calls and dread having to take out time from MY DAY to have small talks, that I don't even want, facing all my colleagues through the phone. I've tried a couple of times to pull out saying I'm doing something else, but since it's too obvious that I don't wanna call if I do this too much, I join the calls. The thing is, these calls aren't mandatory which drives me fucking insane. Like I constantly feel like if I refuse to join these calls, everyone would think im u201cnot a team playeru201d, but at the same time why bother joining if there's nothing important???? I piss myself off everyday and my brain has literally gone bonkers. nnOne time during the zoom call, my manager lightly suggested we have a BBQ party altogether since we can't go to work, and everyone else was all like u201cYea totally! Let's do thatu201d. I stayed silent. After the call I literally started freaking out over this. Omg do I HAVE to go outside and SOCIALIZE with them now?! When I just joined and have no close colleagues?! That was all I was thinking. Then for the next TWO WEEKS, all I was thinking about was if I should go to the BBQ or not. I started CRYING somedays cuz it just blew up in my brain the fact that I would have to socialize and also cuz I got frustrated with myself of why I have to freak out over something so deemed as normal. The thing is, the BBQ didn't even happen and it was just something lightly tossed in incase the colleagues were bored at home. nnI really wanna be professional since now I am in the adult working world, but it's just so hard when nobody at work would understand what I am going through. I feel as if they are very shallow and would not understand a thing about mental health since all of them seem to be so happy working together. They really intimidate me in that aspect for some reason. I even tried searching on google u201cdo i have to join non mandatory social events at worku201d but all of the answers were up in the air. nnMaybe it's because I am the youngest (JUST turned 20) out of all of these adults (in between the ages of 25-55) but I don't even see any topics we can relate to. Also I am like a literal korean weeb, the only asian whose interests lie in tiktok and shit my generation is interested in (kpop, anime, fashion, whatever u can think of that gen z is interested in) while the rest of them are all sophisticated, white adults who wanna u201cchill together over a beeru201d or u201cgo out to the pubu201d. Like POLAR OPPOSITES. Maybe that's why I feel so uncomfortable with them??? Idk but they are wayyy too talkative and extroverted. All of them in our groupchat keep saying things like u201comg I cannot wait to go back to work and see you allu201d or u201ci miss workingu201d, and I'm just like..... nnNo u2764ufe0fnnI seriously don't know how I'm going to cope with work when the lockdown is over. Somebody please help me :( </query> | <response>My comment was a bit provocative I have to say (thanks for answering nonetheless) but I think when you feel like you are so different from other people, that's not a very good thing. It's maybe because you have a definition of yourself that is too narrow. Or said otherwise imagine someone that is interested by everything, proteiform and adaptable ; such a person will never feel like they are so different from other people, because they'll always find some common ground.nnI think there's some legitimate cases where you really can't find that common ground, but in my experience (I'm a bit older) it's still very rare, and it's best to try to expand yourself as much as possible. Specially when you have social anxiety, you can't really have the luxury to be picky on top of it. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I went to the store earlier and when the cashier seen that was all I was getting I was told I could just go. WHY? I don't get it. nnIs it because it would have been a waste of time ringing me up?nWas it a small flirt?nWas it because someone thought I couldn't afford it?nnMy hands are shaking and my heart rate is crazy high just writing this out trying to figure out why I wasn't forced to pay. </query> | <response>C H I L L. They were probably just a cool dude who wanted to do a minor good deed. Maybe they were having a good day and wanted to pay it forward. Hell maybe it was a small flirt. Is that bad thing? If you're gonna overthink things at least try to sprinkle in some positive possibilities. Maybe then you'll be more likely to settle on one of those instead of a negative one. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm into video games, hiking, making music, listening to alternative/rock/hiphop music, dogs, beer, meeting new people (ironically), plants and drawing. If you'd like to chat, hmu! My Instagram is (DM me)nnEdit: removed my Instagram lol </query> | <response>I'm currently working on a drawing about social anxiety </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I just recently got into therapy that I've needed for a very long time. She told me I have S.A.D. (I'm F24) I might have to find a new job soon and its stressing me the hell out. I hate interviews and sometimes I don't feel good enough. Any advice? I have 4 years experience in scheduling and office admin work </query> | <response>I'm going to go for a software engineer position once I've got my degree. Anti social behaviour is kinda their stereotype. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm on a weird, outdated device so I apologize for format. Also, due to me using whatever I'm using its really hard to write this. It's the third time in typing this because of the backspace button is broken -_-nnAnyway, about a week ago I had a nervous breakdown of something and I started crying during a zoom meeting. I was able to get over it, but it was clear that I was not ok. My mom noticed this and asked me what was wrong and so, I decided to be honest. I told her that I think I have social anxiety (don't want to self diagnose but I am which is bad) and that I feel very afraid. She responded that I was a very sensitive teenager, and she told me that she to all the hormones in my body, i was bound to have something happen to me (teenagers am I right haha). She also told me that I should be more confident in myself. IMO, she didn't seem to take me too seriously and brushed it off as a phase. She had a very light-hearted tone when talking to me.nnId like to know if I'm being oversensitive and some outsider opinions would be cool. Some advice would be nice as well. </query> | <response>I'm not sure how old you are but if you are an adult and she's ignoring social anxiety that's a bad thing . On the other hand if you are a teen , it might take a little bit more work to get her to really understand . Maybe you can work up the courage to ask about seeking help or finding options that can help . Come out and tell her this is serious and shouldn't be taken lightly . Best of wishes ! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm just curious but when it comes to social anxiety, what do you struggle with the most? What do you think would also help you be more less socially anxious?nnFor me, I think I struggle with perfectionism and I think that makes me really afraid of rejection, and that's why I'm really trying to be okay with not being perfect (work in progress for sure) </query> | <response>I usually overthink about how I presented myself, the things I said, how I looked, just other people's view of me. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have cripplingly low self-esteem and I feel like I'm lying to myself if I tell myself positive fluff crap. How do people like me who really need it start? </query> | <response>Fair enoughnI didn't think of it like that. Do you have any go-to upbeat songs or poems? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> ***trigger warning: mention of self-harmnnnnI'm 21, and ever since I was a young girl, I've had anxiety. I never wanted to label myself as anxious. I would've described myself as a pretty nervous person when I was younger (my family would too), but I've only recently (the past 2-3 years) have come to terms with the word </query> | <response>Just go one day at a time, and you will get through it. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> and you feel that way because you've come to the conclusion that you'll probably never get any of the above? you'll probably never be the friendly happy confident person that brightens a room or makes others jealous. you'll probably never have a friend group, a proper one, one where you smile and giggle together, have eachothers backs. you'll probably never have somebody have the patience to get to know you. to completely fall for you, to see the good sides of you (if they even exist). you'll never have any of that because you're an inferior, burdensome presence that's as boring as a wall. nnslice of life was my favorite genre as a child and in my early teens. always gave me hope that i could recover one day. now i can't watch it without crying because i don't think i'll ever have something that precious. sigh </query> | <response>All the time, and I'm not young. It's been a lifelong thing. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Ever since the pandemic began and I started going out less, I gradually have been losing my ability to socialize. I now no longer leave my house very often, if I leave 2-3 times in one week that's a really good week for me. nnI no longer talk to any of my friends either, which breaks my heart because I think about them all the time but I get so much anxiety talking to people. I fully stopped responding to literally everyone without explaining my feelings. I even moved states and only told 2 of my friends the week I was leaving. I also barely respond to my family, to a point where they have threatened to call the police for wellness checks. My phone is set to do not disturb 24/7 so I don't have to face anyone. nnMy whole life I have struggled with avoiding things I find difficult, so the longer I don't talk to someone, the more terrifying it becomes, and I feel so stuck in this cycle. At this point I feel I've dug myself so deep I don't know how to bounce back and live my life and become happy again. I look back at my life before I got to this point and I am so disappointed in who I have become. nnI also want to add that I really don't like myself because I have been unproductive for years and really struggle with my appearance, and this makes my depression 100x worse. I believe this is a big part of the reason I avoid people, because I'm embarrassed watching my friends living their best lives, achieving their goals, etc, while I'm doing literally nothing. nnI would love to hear advice from anyone who has gone through this or something similar. How do you cope? How do you motivate yourself to change? How do you become in control of your life? Also if you read this all thank you so much for your time, it means a lot. nnTL;DR: I have lost my ability to socialize. I ghosted everyone in my life and that brings me immense sadness, but I feel stuck in this cycle of avoiding people because I have so much social anxiety and so little motivation. I would love advice on gaining control of your own life, and I would love for people to share their similar experiences so I don't feel so alone. </query> | <response>Same! And my shift comes from a traumatic event so it's also accepting that I'll never be who I was but the future me can be great too. I've been doing things lately out of my comfort zone and I do think it's helpful. Thank you so much and I know things will get better for us both </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So I'm 23 F and I would really want friends that would understand me like someone else with social anxiety. I don't know if this is the right place to look for friends but I don't know where else to look for them. </query> | <response>I'm up for talking if you want. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Soooo...I wake up very late in the day due to insomnia. I make coffee. I do a few mundane chores and take the cover off of the bird cage, feed and water them. Then, I get dinner out (cheap, tasteless stuff) and begin the maddening routine of jumping between playing the same old video game that I've been playing for ages and surfing my phone (news, social media, etc). I do this practically ALL day.nnThen, night finally rolls around and I eat my cheap, tasteless dinner, watch TV on my phone, eat a cheap, tasteless snack and go to bed where it takes 2-3 hours to fall asleep and I wake up repeatedly.nnSometimes, I'll text a family member or do some extra thing but mostly, I have little money, few friends, no car and no hobbies. I'm stuck here in a rat-trap with family almost 1,000 miles away and no way out.nnAnyone else here living in a maddening, repetative loop?...a treadmill with no end? </query> | <response>Yeah, even tho I am bored I can't make myself do anything. Its kinda comforting knowing that you are not alone stuck like that.nnIf anyone would like to chat or just vent please do </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Idk if this will get taken down, but I'll share anyways. So I got over my social anxiety of going to meet this girl, I was super nervous, but I went and all went well. I left with some regret of “I can't believe I did this”, but also I feel happy and confident at the same time, all of a sudden now I'm riding this high of happiness even though I had some regret of going??? I'm not sure what it is, but my confidence in speaking to people and women in general has increased, I guess I don't feel so nervous around women anymore. Part of it might be because if things don't work out with a girl I'm flirting with, I can still go meet an escort the same day and do what I want. Any other dudes have a similar experience?nnEDIT: I'm not encouraging you guys to do it. But I haven't been with a women since my gf 4 years ago, and what I was trying to get from women by flirting and what not, I got so easily. It changed my mindset and the anxiety around trying to get laid. The fact that I don't really need the girl I'm flirting with to sleep with me, like she won't, Kiki will. </query> | <response>I feel like things like seeing an escort (mindfully) could be a could catalyst mostly, if approached in the right way and not as a replacement </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> To start I want to say I love my wife. She's my best friend and means the world to me. About 2 years ago she was diagnosed as Bipolar and things have been very rocky ever since. Between the steady medication changes, suicideal ideation, and severe bouts of mania that's led to maxed out credit cards and dating profiles I'm at my wit's end. We have two children and I've started feeling like a single parent at times. I feel like any time I mention my feelings or critique her on anything I'm met with severe hostility with the excuse of </query> | <response>I understand your problem . Mental illness is not good . your wife needs proper psychological counseling which helps her to overcome with her problem I suggest you to take psychological treatment from the best psychologist in Delhi at pschowellness center .This center provides best counselling and having best psychologists team who understands your problem calmly and helps your wife to get rid from her mental illness problem permanentally </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> This is my first time doing this on here,hopefully you guys can help or give me some advice.Here's a little backstory,Im 18 years old I play soccer,I'm really good and hoping to play D1.I guess I'm popular and fairly good looking(from what I've been told) and get a lot of chicks(that's a fact) Seriously though,I had a girlfriend who me and her had a toxic relationship with I don't care about her, but I still reminisce on some of the good times.I'm not one to date but I really liked her.During that time I was smoking alot of pot because it made her happy and whatever her made her happy made me happy.Now fast foward a year I quit weed and still drink and vape as of now.Im a good person but I also feel guilty about random things that don't pertain to me.I give good advice but can't seem to take my own.I have weird spirts of anxiety and I have bad mentally sometimes but have been trying to break the cycle.I sometimes wish I was like other people even though I like myself.I have a great father who I love and very thankful for him.But he's old school and probably would think this shits stupid. I want to be the best version of myself.Can anyone give me advice on what to do?Also I get mad at myself when I'm lazy and when I know I should do better but then I still don't accomplish the task.I'm not really a hard worker.I have a 3.64 gpa I got into 3 colleges so far.Why am I not happy also sorry this is very sporadic. </query> | <response>why would stopping these things make you better? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> nn(https://www.reddit.com/poll/o11645) </query> | <response>Me too ud83dude2a </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> is this normal? my social anxiety has gotten so bad to the point where i'm so self conscious i can't even eat in front of people. i've been starving myself at school for years now and i've also stopped feeling comfortable eating around family members. nndo you guys experience this too? did you ever get over it? </query> | <response>I was always a shy and quiet kid but it really started before high school. I think i was very insecure and didn't have many friends (still dont but i've reached a point where i'm confident and self sufficient) Then some traumatic stuff happened to me which set me back and made me way more socially anxious which is why i had to see a therapist. I still don't really know if she helped me that much since i haven't dealt with much anxiety since being online. Although i will say having a retail job and being forced to be outgoing to customers has made me less socially anxious. I recommend! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> i feel so frustrated lately. i feel like no matter what i do, i feel like people are constantly judging when in reality, no one says anything bad about me. I have anxiety but urgh, this is too much for me. can someone please give me tips/advice? </query> | <response>I still haven't figured out how to get rid of the u201cvoicesu201d and what I call my u201cghosts.u201d In my head I'm constantly hearing criticisms that aren't real and ruminate on real criticisms from the past. One of the things that helps me sometimes is listening to music. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I cannot confront people. I will die before I have to confront someone. I don't have the words and I panic. If I'm able to confront them, it turns into me panicking and sobbing (so then I look like I'm having some kind of mental breakdown). I'm so tired of this and so sad about it. I've done therapy, taken communications and assertiveness courses. What works? What can I do? </query> | <response>Being afraid of confrontation is not normal, it's part of having Social anxiety disorder. You're saying you can't change mental illnesses? Would you say that to someone who has depression? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Like the title states, I just want some advice or words of encouragement right now. nnDue to my disability, I meet all of my basic self care needs by myself like drive or clean. So, I have to rely on my partner to essentially be able to live. I feel embarrassed and hopeless to know that I can't survive independently. It's eating me up that I'm just a big bother. nnI can't help but be jealous of everyone who doesn't have to deal with this. I'm beginning to resent others because of this jealousy and, in turn, resenting myself because I'll never be good enough. I'm starting to get incessant suicidal thoughts.nnI know this is pathetic but I just need one person to just tell my it's going to be okay. Right now I just feel hopeless </query> | <response>I feel the same way every day my friend. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I like to save my money because I have no one else to depend on to help me financially. I am afraid that things in the economy will get worse in the next coming months so I am saving money like there's no tomorrow and I'm miserable about it.nn&#x200B;nnI only spend about $30 a week at aldis on grocery shopping. With food prices going higher, I might have to do with less.nnGas prices are going up. I should definitely drive less. It's bad enough I commute 10 miles to work and back. Costs me $30 a week to do it.nnMost of my money other than bills goes to fixing up my car and health care. Sure I got a $2800 deductible, but that's money gone for the year.nnI just don't feel comfortable going out, dating, buying booze, and doing stuff that normal people do because for me, it costs too much money.nnI want to retire eventually, but my 401k is going down. I want to buy a house, but it's hard to save $1000 a month. I know most people don't. I just don't want to live with roommates forever.nnI need to find a better job, but my mental health is bad and it's hard to learn new skills.nnIt's hard to live life to the fullest. I guess I could be a paycheck to paycheck person, but I don't want to do that. </query> | <response>A lot of times I refuse to spend because I just feel guilty. Not to mention, some things are incredibly overpriced.nnAlso, I may end up being disappointed with the product. Such as food. If it's pricey and I can do a better job at home, then yeah, I wouldn't enjoy it.nnRegardless of how others want to live their life, you should do what matters to you. If you want to save, and you want to become a homeowner, do exactly that. Don't let anyone make you think that's weird, especially when we all have our own paths and interests. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> There is a queer bar near my apartment that I have been wanting to attend events at. They're having a singles night soon and have other frequent events. nnI'm 25 and have only been to a bar once or twice. I managed to go to this bar once before during a day event and stayed for around half an hour, but was only able to talk to the pop up vendors at the event. I haven't been able to go back since, not because I had a bad experience but because my nerves keep getting the best of me.nnI've never really ordered from or attended an actual bar before this. How does tipping work (do you give the tip to the bartender directly or leave it on the counter)? If you don't come with anyone is it okay to try and strike up a conversation with a stranger? Is there a dress code if I were to go to a singles event, and does that depend on the type of bar? nnDoes anyone have any tips for managing the anxiety before you go or while you're there? I usually end up worrying about it so much that by the time I'm supposed to try and go I'm exhausted. </query> | <response>I've never really enjoyed bars. Some people do some don't. If you don't enjoy them, I wouldn't keep going </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So basically... where I live you only need half a credit (one semester) of physical education to graduate, and so around 3 years ago when I was a freshman I just thought to myself, </query> | <response>My school requires 2 years of PE, and I'm not going to sugar coat it, it was awful. Picking out partners was by far the hardest part because I had no friends in the class, so teacher usually had to assign me one, or throw me into a group of three. Playing in teams sucked too because I never understood the rules, was bad at playing, and was too scared to try. nnBut hey, even through all that embarrassment I got through it, and I honestly think you can too. What I will say is that most kids in highschool are more mature and aren't as competitive. There are still a few athletes who might get mad, but most people hate PE and couldn't care less if you're bad. It should be pretty easy to find a group or partner who doesn't care about being good at the game. The most important advice I could give you tho is to make a friend, because I was assigned random partners everyday which was torture and cringeworthy... It doesn't even have to be someone you like or have a lot in common with, just someone you talk to only in that class. It took me around 2/3 of the year to finally make a friend, but it helped so much. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm tired of trying to be the person I'm not. Trying to be extra social, outgoing, bubbly, interesting- and it is sooo exhausting and it seems like it makes my social anxiety even worse because afterwards I'm so drained, depressed, want to be alone and ruminate over everything that happened. </query> | <response>bc otherwise you're a “problem” at work. Literally had HR discuss this with me yesterday. Guess my performance isn't fooling anyone lmao. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I (35f) have my kid's 6th grade orchestra concert in three hours and I want to hide in a hole. Sitting there trying to smile and be normal is excruciating, but I have to look thrilled for my child </query> | <response>And you know what? That's okay. You're there to support your kiddo! They will remember that, and know that they are loved, and maybe someday they'll even understand how hard it was for you to do that, and love you even more for it. I'm only an auntie, but I've had to suck it up and attend a few functions before. But I know that it means the world to them to feel supported. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> 1. Procrastinate until it's late.nn2. Write the message in notes, read it back 5 times, copy it.nn3. Turn off vibration and sound off on your phone (very important).nn4. Do something else, go make food, take a shower, or make a reddit post (haha). </query> | <response>I was asking if she's still interested in a date. Honestly, it's a win - win if you have social anxiety, says no, huge weight off of my shoulders. Says yes - I have a date with a cute girl. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Does this question ever arise in your minds? I rarely make eye contact, and when I do, I keep getting confused on which eye to focus on (as I can't focus on both at once). Can the person I am talking to notice this? </query> | <response>I could stand to work on my appearance a little more I'm just uncertain as to if it would make a difference. I've never thought of eye contact as relating to respect for people but I guess it makes sense. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> the other day after about 8-10 years of thinking about getting help i finally made the decision to go to the doctors about my anxiety, i was pleased i finally made the effort to get help but now i just feel completely lost and more helpless than before, i even broke down in tears after the appointment. I was told to do therapy and have been put on a waiting list for an online text chat therapist on a site called silvercloud, does anyone have any experince with this? I really dont feel this will help me as i have trouble with social situations, and would much prefer to work on them in person. i was also told that i dont need medication and this really upset me as it feels like they are giving me the minimum amount of help possible.nWould it be wise to possibly talk to another doctor? Or go back and ask if i could be put on medication alongside therapy? </query> | <response>ill give that a go, eye contact in public is deffo something thats a strugle, how did you get to the goal of complimenting girls as i struggle to even talk to a stranger its like i have no words to say to them and yet i see others talk with ease like they know them when they have just met. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I think I've found a really good online friend, we get along well, she doesn't make me as anxious as most people, however I still have issues being the first to start the conversation, I want to message her hello or smth but idk how to lead on the conversation, I have nothing to say except I simply just want to send some kinda message that's like </query> | <response>I'm usually in the same boat so don't take this as the best advice. But have you tried just asking her about her day? If she had anything interesting going on, that could be something to start with. If both of you open up a little with each other you can have some laughs over anything silly. It allows you to keep communicating more frequently in a casual way if you both feel comfortable </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Like even when I just think something to myself I feel like I still have to whisper or say it out loud to myself. Maybe because there is no one else I would speak to.nPerhaps I truly am going insane.. </query> | <response>Im always mouthing </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I just recently moved to a new state & finding one has proven very difficult. I have tried to browse through my insurances website & keep getting outdated information. I went to a general family doctor for a referral specifically FOR A PSYCHIATRIST and she sent me to an instensive care psychology program (??!) nnI tried doing a teledoc appointment and the psychiatrist never joined the call. nnI'm just pissed off right now and don't know if there's anything else I could try. I'm already about to switch to another new doctor because this current one is messing up everything already.nnDid you go through a referral with the right doctor or have to search through your insurance? Or something else that I'm missing??nnAlso, does your psych seem to actually listen and try to diagnose things for prescriptions? Or are they more of the </query> | <response>I have never had a good psychiatrist.... they just over perscribe. I have had a good psychotherapist tho </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So this has happened twice now and I have a theory. Hear me out… this morning I had a super engaging intellectual discussion with an Xbox friend of mine where I was able to actually articulate my points and had him thinking about my responses. It went on for like, 20 minutes and I actually made sense the whole time - I didn't stumble through my responses or sound like a complete dipshit even once, and then I started to shake. Like teeth rattling, trying to keep my voice steady shake. Was this an adrenaline dump? Like a fight or flight type response? I think so. </query> | <response>No, I think all it is is that it's easier to communicate when you don't have to worry about your physical appearance and body language. I'm sure the anonymity also helps. I suppose conversing through a voice chat such as this one would be good practice for the real world, but I don't know for sure as it might just prepare you for online conversations but do nothing for you for irl conversations. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> so basically i told them i dont speak that much in therapy because i get very anxious then they started telling me that to get the best out of it and not waste it i need to say what i want to say (i know that obv, and now i also feel guilty and like im wasting their money) and then they were telling me how a therapist wont judge and that i can tell them anything and they were basically saying just do it / just say whatever u want. they are trying to help but they dont understand that i literally cant get myself to speak more and if i could i would,, like im trying my best.nnthis was also after a session where i ended up getting really mad and frustrated with myself for not talking about something that i had really wanted to talk about and i already felt like shit so my parents telling me that i needed to open up more when i was already trying my hardest and already beating myself up about it just made it worse.nnidk has anyone elses parents said the same thing and how do i explain that i cant get myself to say more no matter how much i want to and that i am trying my best </query> | <response>Just think about the fact that therapists do an insane amount of training to be able to extrapolate themself from judging you in any way shape or form. Of course, going to a therapist is like creating a deep and profound relationship in which, you, in theory, you should be able to open yourself up to them so they can help you understand better your problems and how to deal with them. For the fact that you can't open up don't knock yourself down it's not an easy thing and even if you think you're wasting your parent's money YOU ARE NOT you are taking steps to solve a problem and like any type of relationship it takes time and effort so just try to be honest and give yourself the time to feel comfortable around your therapist. Wish you the best </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> This might be a long one but I'll try and keep it short but just like the title says I don't like touching, any human contact and its not a like </query> | <response>I think the only solution is getting used from being touched. It will be really hard, but I can't imagine another way around this.nnI really can't think of any other solution.nI wish you luck! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Me and my crush work together and I can't even say hi when I see her, I have these things I think I'll say to her but I never do and I feel so empty and lonely because of the fact I can't talk to her I really want to but in the moment it just doesn't happen. I get mad when I think about the fact how happy I was when I had a basic 20 second conversation with her a few weeks ago, like I couldn't stop smiling all day, but it's not like I asked her out or anything I just asked about work. I need help I want to talk with her so bad but I just can't and I know it's all in my head </query> | <response>Why are you so sure that you can't talk to her? You probably will be nervous and your voice will maybe not sound strong, but I doubt that you are just gonna walk up to her and make anxiety noises. nnAlthough socially anxious people are akward and stuff, we imagine these scenarios way worse in our heads </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hey everyone,nnI'm really needing some help. I live with a woman who is very mentally unwell. She does not want to help herself by seeking out mental health support. We live in Alberta Canada and she's an older woman in her late 40's. She doesn't take care of herself at all and her family has just been watching her slowly wither away. It's heartbreaking. They have tried to encourage her to get help so many times but she just gets angry and explosive. Is there anything we can do to like </query> | <response>The thing with helping her with things is that she gets upset when we try and do things for her like she perceives us trying to help as a personal attack or something. Like I clean the whole house for her all the time and its like she's mad at me. She's stopped sleeping in the house altogether and just sleeps on the floor of her garage ud83dude14. We clean the garage for her so she has room to move and work in there and she goes into a fit of rage and puts everything back to a mess like it was before we cleaned and organized for her. She's pushing everyone away. I have to be really protective of my own mental health around her because I absorb her negative energy and spending even ten minutes with her is intensely emotionally draining for me. I'm trying to work two jobs and go to college at the same time while also trying to think of ways we can help her while also trying to keep on top of house and yard work. It's been really tough for me for the last two years. She doesn't do anything productive unless someone yells at her to get her shit together including showering and going to the Dr (not me but her sons and ex-partner). I have been battling my own mental illnesses since I was 12 and went into another deep depression after moving in with them so I have to be EXTREMELY careful around her which also makes me feel worse about everything because I feel like I should be able to do better for her (I was basically nom functional back in April 2020 because of my depression and being jobless and being around her more often trying to help her with things). She's been declining since then and I really don't know what else to do. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I tried to play it cool but I think they knew. Fml. </query> | <response>Oh my god how horrible. How did you even make it through the day </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I generally feel as if having anxiety and depression.Holds me back, I was diagnosed last June and it's really helped me make of instances where I feel I'll and my head's all fuzzy(explanation being that it's the influx of stress hormone) according to my psychiatrist .I also have broken heart syndrome which is great but generally speaking how am I supposed to deal with these in a healthy manner? </query> | <response>I don't know. But feel my support! I feel like my body is shutting down. Which it might be since I don't eat or drink. It's awful. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hey! Does anyone let texts they get </query> | <response>It be like that man </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> This is mostly for guys but I guess it might work for girls too. It's a simple (free) online program to help overcome SA or approach anxiety as they call it. As long as you can get out of the house you can do this. nnMost of my SA deals with communcating with women, relationships, and sex. (I usually run away when I see girls or won't talk if I manage to stay). It starts out easy, I'm already starting day 7 and thought yall should try since there's a lot of us in this same boat.nnIf you want to change, try this with me.nnHere's the link: nhttp://www.goodlookingloser.com/entry/approach-anxiety-program/approach-anxiety-programnnLet me know what you think. </query> | <response>I did mention that if you can get out of the house, you have a good chance. It starts really easy, asking people for the time, and takes off from there. Don't look ahead too far, it will seem scary. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Just random observations about other people, but more so about myself I guess..nnDo y'all ever watch a movie where two people are having an intense conversation with their faces inches away from each other, and instead of focusing on what they're saying, you're like- “Wow how is he/she not shaking/sweating/stuttering/etc.?”nnAnd true story- me and a friend stepped out to run an errand and right before we leave, she downs a whole can of Redbull. And she was just her regular self the whole time. No noticeable increase in energy or anything. I watched in amazement because if I did that my regular anxiety that kicks in when I'm in public would have quadrupled!nnIt's these little things that “normal” people probably take for granted that I'm just amazed by. Relatable? </query> | <response>Yeah it's crazy to think how hard I push myself to be social when to others it's just natural and I can't imagine what my life would be like if I just had that skill naturally too </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> What would your life be like?nnYou wake up one day and.you no longer have anxiety.nnWhat is that like?nnWhat are you able to do? </query> | <response>College, or university. Army , fitness , World travel nnMy life is none of those and has been wasted </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> There's always been something wrong with me , I didn't learn quick enough,didn't pick up simple skills until years later than most people I am 27 years old and don't feel like a functioning adult at all I have to concentrate and stress just to complete simple tasks like a child walking around in a mature body , I'm married now and trying to support us but failing,she deserves so much better than me i know deep down I will continue to let us down. A life spent beating your head against a wall is no life at all I'm terrified of dying but even more scared of living like this and even worse dragging the people I care about down with me. I just want people to know I REALLY tried,I quit all the drugs and drinking and threw myself into menial jobs and took all the overtime I could get,I did excersise and ate well ,tried to pick up hobbies even though I'm useless with no skills I tried to make it work with this broken fucking brain but I'm just not cut out for this world.what's wrong with me was wrong from the beginning and is wrong all the way through me . I'm so tired and just want to let go,the burden of being a worthless deadweight is too much I know if I end it people I love will get hurt but surely I will hurt them more inadvertently blundering through life the way I am . </query> | <response>Honestly, I'm actually super impressed by you. You quit drugs and drinking, which is incredibly difficult, you got a job, you strive to make enough to support yourself and your wife by going above and beyond with overtime, and you even take care of your body and mind by exercising, eating well, and picking up hobbies. And then on top of that, you said that didn't learn quickly when you were younger, which means that doing a lot of those things required additional effort. That's genuinely amazing!!! You have more self-discipline than most people I know, tbh.nnMy story is different from yours, but I do know how it feels to feel broken, and I know the feeling of wanting to end it all because you think your life is doing damage to those around you. Something that helps me keep going is writing down just one or two good things I do each day: you could write things as simple as </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Just posted a story on Snapchat and I don't give a fuck if anyone has a problem nnEdit: HOLY SHIT THANKS FOR GOLD KIND STRANGER! </query> | <response>What was your story of </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> My life story: My name is Gem and I am a girl from the Philippines. When I was in kinder, I remember being able to socialize with other people up to grade 1. Grade 2 is where everything goes wrong. One day in school, it was a normal day. Then the teacher goes outside to talk to someone. Then suddenly I had to poop, we have to ask for permission to go to the bathroom.(There was a bathroom inside our classrom). But I didn't want to either disturb the teacher or I was too shy, so I decided to just for her. Minutes go by.. I really had to go now, so then I go. Just as I was about to reach the door... I pooped myself. I quickly went in the bathroom, took off my undies and my dumb 7 year old self decided to put the poop in the sink long story short the poop got everywhere in the bathroom but I tried to hide it as best as I can. I went out and still smelled bad. I sat on my seat, then my classmate said </query> | <response>It's okay. It was just for me to rant about stuff that happened since I don't have anyone to talk about it to. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have to start looking for a part time job, and this requires me to show up at businesses and ask someone for a job. I'm not good at asking for stuff anyways, never mind a job. I'm kinda freaking out. </query> | <response>I always find a face-to-face chat is the easiest way to break the ice, I really hate phone conversations, and a complete stranger handing over a resume is probably just going to be ignored. Phone anxiety is something I never quite managed to get over even in adulthood. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I mean I can have input but I'm either at a loss of words or I just am unsure of how the other person will react. Is anybody else like this? Most of the time I just draw a blank, even with my friends, and so I have nothing to talk about. it's so frustrating. </query> | <response>I tend to get really into one or two things at a time so all the friends I have hear the same thing again and again from me no matter how hard I try not to because I just want to find something to talk about and I can tell they get really annoyed by it. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I hate my situation but honestly, it is all my fault. I had friends, I had a social life but then people started leaving me out and hanging without me. So, I decided to just....stop meeting anyone. While I had friends, I tried my absolute best to hide any sort of negative thought I had in relation to what I thought of how they really thought of me (idk if that makes sense or not) because i didnt want to come across as strange. Anyway, after I realised I was being left out, I did what I thought (and still think) was the best the best thing to do, and just cut them out of my life. I don't regret that decision but I do regret my actions afterwards. nnI started to ponder on the reasons - what it was about me that made them so inclined to just leave me out. It seemed that often times that they'd just forget about me, other times they'd just not want me around. Anyway, I came to the conclusion that I was boring but at the same time a pathetic attention whore (i know it doesnt make sense, i just really hate myself)e. I still think I am so incredibly boring. I think that is the reason I've rarely made any deep long lasting connections in my life. If I have friends, they're extremely shallow relationships. I don't let myself get close to people. I don't want to. nnAnyway, I stopped meeting people months ago. I have met anyone socially in months. I go to work and come home. That's it. nnThe thing is though...my social anxiety nowadays is fucking awful. It has been for months. I want to start meeting people but also, at the same time, i really don't want to see anyone because i feel like i'd be wasting their time and that they could have a better time with someone who was less shit. nnI am also so fucking terrified of going shopping....i can't do it. i've been getting groceries from online. Also, i am so scared to take out the trash in my room because i am afraid that i'll run into someone outside the building that i live in. nnThe thought of doing anything surrounding people is so scary. nnI am so sorry if this is written badly. nobody;s gonna read it anyway lol </query> | <response>Yeah social anxiety fucking sucks fr. When I order fast food i have to get someone else to order my food because I fucking hate talking to people.nnBut like you, I also would love to meet new people and at the same time, hate getting out and talking to people. I think mostly what my problem is that I look like fucking Igor and I'm not in great shape so it absolutely decreases my confidence </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Does anyone else feel like they have a hard time accepting themselves? For example, I can't help but think I'm just not good enough for a person or to accomplish certain things like becoming more relatable and connecting with others. </query> | <response>Macro or microdosing? </response> |
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