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As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> tl:dr at bottomnnshy, introverted, quiet, not social, anxious, large personal space bubble, heads always in the clouds. social interactions are obviously not my specialty. takes me a long time to warm up to people. nnmy previous place of employment (small company) invited me to their yearly lake house party, I get along really well with my old coworkers so they wanted me to come. We are all 20-30 years old. nnThere are new staff members I haven't met or been introduced to, so one of them comes to try and have a conversation with me and got really close, completely invading my personal space. we talked for a moment and she could tell I was uncomfortable which made her uncomfortable, which made my anxiety really bad, so we both moved to the group, and I kinda worked myself away from everyone to calm down. nnwe all eventually go on a pontoon boat ride around the lake and the same woman, my old boss with her kids and I wanted to be in the sun so we sat at the front which has two bench seats that wrap to the front of the boat that face each other, and everyone else (like 8 other people) were under the awning in the shade. nnsomehow I was sitting completely alone on my side of the boat while my old boss, her kids and this same woman who tried to talk to me earlier were crammed up on one side. every new staff member there was giving me that look that I'm a little weird sitting alone, I'm used to it. nnnew woman asks me if she can sit over on my side and it caught me off guard and my old boss was like </query> | <response>that was amazing, i'm happy for you! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> First of all I'm no authority on the subject, this is just my take on the matter. nnI have social anxiety along with other problems, and i used to smoke weed regularly. I didn't see the connection until one day i had this party with a bunch of new people a things went to shit right after i smoked one. Then it was obvious, every time i smoked, my social skills -not much but well...- disappeared and everything became self-centered (is that group talking about me? What's the impression I'm making? Is everyone looking at me right now?!) nSo i started to look into this and found out i was not the only one who got this reaction after smoking. nI'm now a couple weeks sober and i have to say, things are better. It's not like all my problems went away, but I've seen some improvement, I'm not as shy as to share my opinion or talk to new people and the stress of social interactions has diminished a lot. nAnyways, you can find out more at /r/leaves. nnPs: I'm not saying weed is necessarily bad, just that it isn't for everyone. </query> | <response>My psychiatrist told me that people with anxiety disorders can't smoke weed because it changes their brain chemistry permanently after a while. I have the same reaction. I even black out and have an extremely low tolerance. I've never met anyone who's reacted the way I react to weed. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> For those of you who know your mbti type, what is it?nnFor those of you who don't know but are interested in finding out: nn(http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp)nnI'm gonna go out on a limb and say most of us here are strong introverts. My type is INTJ. </query> | <response>I'm an INFJ, the description is almost dead on for me. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I find that wearing a mask anonymizes me. It also makes it significantly less likely that anyone will talk to me in public. Whenever I see the latest number of people who have had the vaccine, I feel bittersweet about it as it means we are getting closer to the end of social distancing and masks. I don't want it to end. </query> | <response>Yeah I love wearing masks. I'm gonna continue wearing them out as long as I can. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I often come back to the question, if we, who have social anxiety, have a bad character, which leads us to believe, others are as bad as us..nNarcissistic thoughts, sadistic thoughts, looking down on others. Trying to manipulate others, only take advantage from others... </query> | <response>It's not just social media. It's anything that rewards you. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I don't lack empathy and I am not entitled but I am so self absorbed. Always thinking about myself. When I redirect the conversation to the other person, I don't feel so anxious. nnOur thought process goes like, </query> | <response>I have read about covert narcissism and its different from the usual SAD. nnI'm not saying SAD is a type of narcissism, but maybe there is a bit of narcissism that causes SAD. I don't lack empathy and i am not entitled, but I care a lot about my self image and I keep wanting everyone else's approval. I think all socially anxious people have this problem. And this is also a narcissistic trait.nnNarcissism is a lack of empathy, entitlement and wanting people's approval. SAD is just wanting people's approval. So maybe SAD is a bit of narcissism, not a type of narcissism, but just a mild version of narcissism that isn't diagnosable. It is subtle narcissism. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Im from Slovakia, and when i was 9 i was extremly paranoid about someone poisoning my food. I became really afraid of death and i was crying almost every dinner because i tought that the food is poisoned when anybody will make it for me. I was ok just with food that i made for myself. Then just the paranoia dissapeared and i was no longer scared of death. Now im 13 and the paranoia came back and i dont know what i should do. please help.nnand sorry for grammar </query> | <response>You should probably see a therapist. Apart from that perhaps you could make yourself food or help out whoever is making you food so you know what's going in it </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I was in the cafeteria at my office and people just started a conversation looking in my direction, I didn't know what to do so I juste kept staring at the floor to avoid eye contact and I know I looked weird.nHow do you react in this sort of situation ? </query> | <response>I consciously have to remember to look at the person who is speaking to me but most of the time I completely forget and end up awkwardly glancing between the person and floor. Eye contact is hard to maintain so I just look at their mouth if I have to. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So...I'm doing a PhD and this year my School organised a conference for postgraduate students to give us all a chance practice our poster or oral presentation skills. In theory it's a great idea and I get why it was organised and why attendance was obligatory. Also, in theory, it wasn't supposed to be a big deal - I mean, it was only a simulated conference. The audience consisted of other students and some members of staff.nnAs you gathered from my title, I had to give a talk. I'm sure most of you can relate when I say I. Hate. Public. Speaking. I mean, sure, most people do but not at the level of losing sleep because of it weeks ahead and genuinely feeling like you're going to faint or puke before it. I was actually secretly sipping wine from a water bottle before my talk. The conference lasted all day and I was one of the last speakers so I felt sick for, essentially, the whole day. I had moments when I was so close to bursting in tears or I was absolutely sure I was going to faint it's not even funny (yet at least...). nnAnyway, my time is up. I walk at the front, feel an unpleasant rush of adrenaline on top all the other adrenaline I have been feeling all day. It makes my vision blurry and I feel lightheaded. I manage to introduce myself with a steady voice. Somehow miraculously the talk rolls on smoothly and I even manage to crack a couple of spontaneous jokes and get some laughs out of the audience. It's going well! I can't believe it! nnI have five minutes remaining. The chair of the session shows how many minutes I've got left. For some reason, I didn't realise they were doing that even though I do know it happens in real conferences. I'm a bit surprised and mess up my words a bit. Nothing huge though - well, in my opinion - but I speed up a bit. I finish bang on time and welcome questions. I feel ecstatic because, even though I know it wasn't the best presentation ever, it's a victory for me.nnWhen my presentation is done I walk back to my seat where a couple of my friends are seated too. We work in the same PhD office and are generally in friendly terms, occasionally gathering for a drink after work. There's a pause and they say 'yayy, weeell doooneee' in a way that clearly sounds fake. One of them carries on by saying: </query> | <response>No she doesn't. Good on you being brave enough to take a public speaking class! That's incredible :)! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm curious about other people's opinions of awkward silences during conversations.nnI've discussed this with a few people on Social Anxiety discord servers, who have all said they're fine with silences and actually quite like when it happens.nnMy experience is the complete opposite. Awkward silences make me feel more anxious and I feel like I put a lot of pressure on myself to move the conversation forward, but can't think of anything to say. nAfterwards, when I look back on the situation, I blame myself for it. I tell myself it's my fault for not having anything interesting to talk about, then actively avoid similar situations because I remind myself of what happened and tell myself </query> | <response>This!!! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> The title explains it all. Thanks for reading. :) </query> | <response>Thank you very much, I cannot even express how much help this is to me! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Same </query> | <response>That's a good tip! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I feel like I am going to have to talk about it. Im sure they will ask </query> | <response>nigga dont you say a mofuckin word bout that shit. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I wish i could get a job but my sa just don't let me do anything i'm so tired </query> | <response>From the academy award, winning film, varsity blues you need to tell your parents, “ I don't want your life”. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I always get depressed at the time change, always. (Depression is present but well managed at other times of the year) nnThis is the first year I've had major generalized anxiety that came on at that time. It's totally non specific and won't go away. nnAnyone else? Any ideas? It's awful. </query> | <response>I think I didn't clue in that anxiety can be from low serotonin also. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm having trouble accepting that I'm a goofy guy. I mean I'm really funny as I've been told a lot, but no girl would like a goofy guy and that's something I care about a lot right now. I want to change but I want to be myself at the same time. Whenever I think of how I am goofy I just feel like I'm super cringey and everyone just thinks I'm really weird. Also I don't really understand what a goofy person is entirely. </query> | <response>Find someone who shares your sense of humour, I suppose. I'm a bit </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have persistent depressive disorder, seasonal depression, generalized anxiety, and social anxiety -- and I kind of think I've become a hypochondriac over the course of the past 2 years too. I feel like I am really good at kidding myself into believing I'm a functional adult. I know I am doing okay and very lucky in a lot of ways (I can get out of bed in the morning, I can cook my own food sometimes, I have friends I trust I can speak with, I'm in therapy, I have an almost-full-time job, etc.). nnHowever, I look at others and they have so much more going on than me. My coworker is married with 2 dogs, works 50+ hours per week, is studying for her masters, and is a homeowner. My other coworker has 2 kids who she basically raises on her own, is pregnant, and is teaching and studying for her masters, and is a homeowner. My friend has traveled the world, plays sports semi-professionally, works a full-time job, cooks every single night, goes out dancing/partying on weekends (pre-c*vid), etc. **I literally cannot imagine having the time or energy to do half of the things the average adult does.**nnThings just *take me longer*. I'm fucking anxious, tired, and irritable all of the time. I feel like a failure at my job. I don't have a clear career path I want to take. There are few (if any) things I am truly passionate about. I feel like there is a wall between myself and other people in my life, where I just can't relate or feel closeness because I am so in my own head. I feel selfish because I am so wrapped in my own anxiety that I put that above my friends, etc. I hate myself. I know I could not hold down a serious relationship as much as I want one because I am so insecure. I know I would have a nervous breakdown if I tried to attend school and work at the same time. I just literally do not understand how people do so much.nnI'm considering medication, but I am terrified of it. I already have a fair number of health issues. I don't want to have more physical symptoms or cause long-term damage to my body because of medication. Sometimes I have good days and feel I don't need it. Sometimes I have breakdowns and wonder what the fuck I'm doing with my life. Ultimately, I just feel like there is this window between me and the success and contentment (not even happiness) and strength in relationships that I'd like to have in life, and no matter what I try - I can't break through the glass. If anything, it is getting thicker as I get older and see others succeeding at what I just can't seem to hold on to. I wonder if medication could (or even might be *needed* to) help me to break through (again I'm already in therapy). Or if I just need to get over myself and work harder. IDK. I know I could/should/whatever do more to take care of my mental and physical health and to improve my life. But I'm just fucking tired and terrified, and I just can't seem to make progress.nn**Has anyone else felt what I am feeling? If you are anxious and depressed and went on medication, what made you take the plunge? And how is taking meds going for you?** </query> | <response>I hope you get the results of your testing soon and that it provides you with some clarity! It is so helpful to know those pieces of yourself, especially when you are struggling. It would be fantastic if your work would make accommodations too! Good luck ud83dude42 </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Wearing sunglasses eases my social anxiety by a good 25% because people can't look at my wide open terrified vulnerable looking eyes.nnThat's why i hate going out at night if there are people present </query> | <response>Yes, when I go for a walk by myself it helps so much. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have never belonged to any friend group or had any real friends and in college I was being so awkward that people have started to ignore me. That is what usually happens and I have accepted that as my life. The truth is no one cares. They may act all friendly at first but it all goes away. At the end of the day, no one gives a shit about me and that is fine. I don't need them to accommodate me and they don't owe me anything. No one owes anyone anything. All friendships are fake and a complete illusion. </query> | <response>Stop thinking of </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> This might have alr gotten posted but I feel like wearing masks has eased my SA which is gonna make taking them off so tough. now that mask mandates are ending I've been dreading taking masks off at school. I feel so self conscious about how my face looks and i look better with the mask anyway. Either way you don't win…you take the masks off and face SA or you keep it on and face SA with getting judged for wearing it (bc they're no longer mandatory). Ugh I wish i could just not sweat this stuff. </query> | <response>Mask mandate has been the place I lived for over two years now and it worse my anxiety in the very beginning of vid. Mask can't hide the ugliest part of their bodies that triggers my anxiety so it doesn't matter I have to wear it or not in public </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Everyone around me is so smart and they know how to socialise whereas I'm just so socially awkward, dumb and downright stupid. It doesn't help that I have two very smart friends and often I'll feel so stupid for not understanding what they're taking about since I'm not on the same level as them academically. Don't get me wrong, they're really nice people and they don't ever put me down intentionally, but around them i feel like the most stupid person on earth. Why can't I be like everyone else. I'm such an outcast at school it's so annoying. It's like everyone's so clever and I'm illiterate or something. I wish my parents forced me to read books as a 5 year old, maybe I'd be so different right now! </query> | <response>I do read, a lot. I've tried self-help books that don't really help me at all. So it's not like I haven't tried. I've tried so hard to fix myself but nothing seems to work </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So. My online friend has major depression and anxiety like I do. I've been trying to help her the best I can. But lately it seems that she's just getting worse. And has been mentioning about offing herself. And then today. She's been leaving me on read or not talking to me at all. I'm scared that she tried to off herself. She won't respond to me on anything. And her snapchat shows her online 4 hours ago. The only contact I have with one of her friends is her ex. And whenever we talk about the ex she gets down. So I don't know what to do. And I'm really worrying. </query> | <response>I used to be in a similar situation, what I did was visiting her and enjoying the time together until she opens up, where you can help her </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm getting a little better but sometimes I'll sweat from feeling too constricted </query> | <response>I always felt very anxious getting my hair cut too, though I cut my own hair now instead. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Spilled boiling hot black coffee on my hand at work today. This is a new job & I was too scared to tell the people I was with at the time as I don't know them or really speak to them. I thought I would end up embarrassing myself even more if I told them so I just tried to fight through it until I eventually couldn't take the pain anymore nAlso I literally had to bite my tongue when i spilled it so I wouldn't draw attention, kinda funny tbh but so fucking painful nnThis also just happens with milder things like needing help in school but being too scared to tell the teacher so you're panicking the whole entire lessonnndoes anybody else do shit like this? </query> | <response>U just described it perfectlynnAfter I eventually told someone she kept asking if it still burned & if I needed cold water, I kept saying no so she wouldn't have to go through the trouble of helping me any further, even though it still hurt like a mother fucker haha </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm not sure if this is me over thinking due to my social anxiety but is it weird if you on your phone and you see someone has sent a snap to open it a minute after they sent it or us there no time? </query> | <response>Personally I'm a fast responder (extrovert). Had a friend who seemed to respond fast too but then the more we got to know each other her true self started showing and she literally would take days to respond back. That really fizzled out our relationship in my mind. Seemed like she was being forced to respond. It made me become disinterested in continuing communications with her. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> ^^ </query> | <response>you dont need a reason . Its normal to just text her and talk about weather or anything else really . </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hello everyone. nI'm 24 years old and I have social anxiety. However, I think I'm getting better. Now I'm capable of going to the supermarket alone and doing basic stuff outside. Unfortunately, I still cannot meet people and have conversations without feeling deep discomfort and fear of criticism. This caused my to quit my job and studies. nI feel I'm getting behind in life and I'm so stressed about it. nnDo any of you feel the same? </query> | <response>I have been doing this. Trying out small. But sometimes it gets too exhausting to constantly tell my mind. That it's all in my head. Some criticism is good. And they are not always criticizing. nnWill it ever become effortless? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hi all! I'm 21f and I have anxiety/depression and ADHD (plus other ADHD related things like auditory processing disorder and sensory processing disorder). nnThere is a girl I've been talking to since the end of last year and we've been on one date so far. That was in Jan though. At the start of our talking (on hinge) we talked so much, basically 5 convos in one. Then on our date, it was soo awkward, it was pretty much silence the whole time with some awkward small talk here and there. nnSome things happened and we didn't talk for a month. Then she messaged back, it hasn't been the same since but I think we're getting there. We talked about a second date - with no plan because I don't want to seem pushy. But, how do you have conversations when you've talked about pretty much everything?. nnI lack social skills so bad, like I never know how to depend a conversation because I'm so awkward. I guess I come off cold both emotionally and physically, maybe I'm scared of getting to attached to people. nI have no idea. But if anyone has any tips I'd love to know. </query> | <response>It definitely feels like we have. I mean, like I said we were having 5 or more convos at once. Like right now, we are literally talking about killing Eve and that's it cause I've run out of things to talk about. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm very terrified right now because of how much my social anxiety will probably affect the interview. I also have no clue what to wear. I tried doing my own research but it's all very scary.nnI want to do this job to help my anxiety and help me start talking to people.nnUpdate:nnThe only questions they asked were what my age was, to tell them about myself, my availability, and that's pretty much it! I believe I passed the interview. They said I was a good candidate and for me to bring my info Saturday. For all those out there, I wish you the best of luck, you'll do great!nnTalking was pretty hard, but the manager could easily tell I was anxious so she tried to be as friendly as possible. Worked out for me haha </query> | <response>I always prep for an interview by researching potential and common interview questions and practicing my answers.nnI was just offered a job today after I had my second interview with them. nnBest luck! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hi everyone. I am a filmmaker and last year I produced a short documentary spotlighting men's mental health. It's a topic that means a lot to me and hits close to home, so I felt it was important to produce something that made a difference in some way, however small or big. nnYou can watch that documentary here: https://youtu.be/Y0F1cICm9IMnnI am continuing the conversations around men's mental health. I have set up an Instagram called @thevoicesofmen where I will be posting individual anonymous stories, such as the ones featured in this documentary and in a similar style. If you would like to contribute, anonymously tell your story and talk about your experiences, please send a voice recording to my email: jonnyvisuals@outlook.comnnMy aim is to raise awareness and normalise hearing men speak vulnerably and openly in a society that still makes it difficult to do so. nnThank you in advance. </query> | <response>I love this. I am trying to accomplish the same thing. We need to normalize the conversation. I nearly lost myself because of the reluctance to talk about it. To the point that I ignored what I was feeling. I'm still working on that but I am not afraid to speak up now. But after so many years of holding back I have a hard time recognizing when I am struggling. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I do this all the time. Post something totally non-controversial that no one could take offense to. Yet, someone manages to write something even just slightly negative about and I immediately feel bad. I immediately just delete the post afterwards and stay away from posting in that subreddit for a while. Anyone else do this? </query> | <response>It's tough but every situation is an opportunity. I think a good exercise is to just read the negative comment, and be aware of the rejection feelings, of the desire to delete the post. And try to just wait, maybe it's too much and you end up deleting it, or maybe you can resist and endure the feelings.nnChange only comes with effort, but it's not impossible </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> You make my life just a little easier </query> | <response>They are good until you start clamming up bc you think your slow and ppl are judging u from behind you...then the employee walks over ud83dude48ud83dude48ud83dude48 </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I was thinking about using Omegle and just trying to chat to people, but what if I saw someone I knew or someone was recording. It's too much. I need something smaller, I'll be at home all weekend as usual, but I feel motivated to start somehow. Not sure how. </query> | <response>Yeah, no worries! I can totally relate to what you're going through. Joining a conversation with a group of people is really hard, especially when you don't know them very well. Maybe talk to someone who is walking by themselves? Doing this can help you make a few close friends who you can talk to easier. Anyways, good luck! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I want a relationship really badly, but I honestly don't see myself having one because I don't look forward to being alive (not suicidal, I mean I'm not happy on my own) so how can I share that happiness with someone else? I don't look forward to going out because of social anxiety, I have depression, I'm burned out from work, there's really not much to be happy about. nnnBut people are ALWAYS asking me why I'm single. As if you're not allowed to have happiness without being in a relationship if you're in your 20s or 30s…I genuinely do want a relationship, but I don't want one until I find genuine happiness for myself first.nnnI don't know if this makes sense, just a random thought </query> | <response>Oh she is. She's wonderful, which is why I don't want to ruin what we do have by telling her how I feel you know. Also I wouldn't say she really understands my anxiety and just how bad it really is. For the year she's known me I've been the quiet, shy nerd that she works while really I'm actually quite talkative and loud and very argumentative. I want o get back to that state So badly you have no idea. As much as I hated my anxiety back then I'd give anything to go back. This kinda went off topic into a rant but yeah </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Does any one with social anxiety get called quiet or feel they are not as social as they would like to be? </query> | <response>yes </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I stutter, stammer, can't make eye contact, always look down or to the side when someone's looking at me. People always think I'm about to cry or that I'm guilty when I avoid eye contact even though I've always been like this. Does anyone else experience this? why do other people want you to stare at their face?nnedi1: The most frustrating thing is I'm 24 and my social skills are way behind. </query> | <response>Do people tell you that they think you're gonna cry or guilty? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I live in a super conservative and anti-masker town, and I didn't feel weird about wearing a mask when there was a mandate even though literally no one else in my town was wearing one. But now that there is no mandate I feel like people are going to harshly judge me for still wearing one. But I'm not quite ready to give my mask up, my anxiety in public situations all but disappears when I wear one. </query> | <response>No I'm still wearing mine </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> In normal social situations I am super nervous and awkward and quiet but in interviews I force myself to be super talkative lol. The interviewers usually end up thinking I am a confident person but if I actually was hired they would slowly realise that I am actually super shy and anxious lol. </query> | <response>Well that's because I'm actually knowledgable about my field and have a lot to say, while in casual talk the only thing that shows is that I hate myself </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hello~I (20F) have not gotten my license yet and I still need to go take my permit test but I don't really know how it works? Especially for walk ins. I'm sorry, I feel like I should know these things but getting my license has never been a huge priority but now I've been getting pressured by my family to do it. To them it's super easy and I would just go do it, but since I don't even know where to go or who to talk to, it really stresses me out just thinking of the fast-paced environment that it already is. The only time I've ever gone was to get the handbook and granted this was in like 2018, pre-quarantine so everyone working was short fused and the lady who pointed to where the handbook was looked really irritated. I guess that experience scarred me and I'm so stressed to go back. Any steps on what to do to go take my permit test? </query> | <response>the first comment is pretty spot on about the whole process, and depending on where you are, they might even just give you your permit paper right then and there rather than through the mail if you pass (that's what happened in my case)! for me, there was also a nice dude standing by the computers to help people out, so hopefully there will be someone like that there in case you happen to need any assistance. good luck btw :D </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Does anyone else struggle with eye contact?nWhen someone is stood opposite me, talking to me, I end up focusing on what to do with my eyes and not what they are saying. Like, how long should I look at their eyes? Am I staring? Should I look away for a bit? Does it look like I'm now ignoring them? Are they noticing that I keep looking all over the place? nIs anyone else like this? </query> | <response>Just shift your focus every now and then, form a sort of triangular pattern between the eyes and mouth. Make it as natural as possible. I tend to not know what to do with my hands, eye contact is not a problem. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Is there something I can do to stop being so competitive with everything, every day I'm not in the mood all I have to do is go out on the street and I have to be the fastest person walking on the sidewalk, I turn on a pc game I need to see myself at the top, I'll do anything even though I know that if I am the best, my feeling will not be fulfilled, I feel like a soldier fighting for a fallen kingdom. When I know that I will not achieve something, I have emotional tension. I don't know, maybe it's just a feeling of disappointment in myself. </query> | <response>it's really hard to put it into words that people get. I would look it up it's great for seeing everyday situations from a new or several new perspectives. not for everyone tbh. buts it's something if you go into with or without an intention you figure out what you need to figure out. research research research </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Title </query> | <response>Run naked </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I know some cases I just can't comprehend how someone with social anxiety manages to get a girlfriend/boyfriend and keeps them. Thoughts? </query> | <response>I met my gf who lives across the country online. We were friends for a year then shortly after we saw each other in person for the first time, we started dating. I liked her for awhile but I was too worried to admit it for a long time because I never wanted to lose our close friendship. Eventually we both admitted our feelings for each other tho. Now that I look back on it I should've expressed my feelings earlier but social anxiety is mean lol. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I (30m) have finally found out, why i can not get a gf, longterm or shortterm. Because of my SA i just CANT ask a girl out. I have never done that, maybe when im drunk. I really envy girls for not having to ask guys out.nnDoes anyone have any tips how to bring your lovelife on a better ground with SA? I am already attending therapy, so dont mention that please.nnMy main problems are:nn1. Go to places where women are, that i find attractive (e.g. bars, parties, clubs)n2. Approach the individual of desiren3. When in the first convsersation, dont be a sweating, stuttering, anxious piece of crap (i dont want to make a bad first impression) </query> | <response>I think there is a dating app that actually requires the woman to contact the guy first. I think it was called bumble, or humble or something like that. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> having to deal every single day with people who see the need to make other people's life a living hell it's what makes me the most anxious when i have to interact. how to make mean people affect me less? </query> | <response>the mean people i'm referring to are some of my neighbors and classmates </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Edit: OKAY holy crap, huge influx of people from bestof convinced me. I think I'll create a subreddit to facilitate this idea, but not reveal who I am. I'll use this account to moderate it but I'll participate as another account. n nnI'm thinking of having call requests / call appointments as links, and then I can either assign someone to call someone at that time (volunteers can PM me and I'll have a list) or people can volunteer. n nnThen, if the call is completed, I'll get both participants to confirm, and I'll mark it as such, at which point the world should give an outpouring of karma as a reward. nnAnyway, when I get time, I'll get rolling. niiiin-----nnnSomething I've been thinking about for awhile. I hate talking on the phone. When my phone rings, I panic. In fact, when I think that my phone MIGHT be ringing, I panic. When I know that I have to make a phone call on Friday, it ruins my Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. This is bad, because my job requires me to be fairly decent on the phone (writer). I'm not so bad in person, but on the phone, I fall apart. I just end up getting all fight or flighty and wanting to do whatever I can to get off the phone as soon as possible. This sucks when I'm ordering pizza because I end up mumbling or rushing through things and then not getting the sweet delicious cheese sticks I've been feening for all week or something like that.nnSo, basically, we'd just get together and exchange phone numbers. And just have a standing appointment to call someone new once a week or or once a month or whatever. We could have talking points to help get things rolling or we can try to just shoot the shit for a set amount of time and see what happens. And if we sound like jackasses, then who cares, right? nnI know that some people have truly crippling social phobias that need to be treated more professionally, but if you are like me and think that you just need to face your fears in a controlled environment, let me know if you're interested.nnEdit: Thanks for your responses everyone. Looks like there is mild interest, and probably enough to at least try the idea out. Will try to put together a sign-up spreadsheet or something in the next few days. And let me know if you have more thoughts re: logistics. There was a suggestion for Google Talk/Skype, but my gut says that a phone would be better, just for authenticity's sake (unless you often make business/personal/other calls from Skype/Gtalk). I know it'll cost more, but I'm personally not concerned about that. Maybe add this as an option on the phone tree, e.g. </query> | <response>If you guys are interested in chatting with a brazilian friend you can send me a message and I will gladly send you my mobile number (It is surprisingly cheap for foreigners to call to Brazil, even to mobiles, it's about $0,10/minute) </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> If you don't know what's happening, you will unnecessarily put yourself lower nOr nPeople will put you lower and you won't even know it nnThere's very little you have to do if you understand, to not have anxiety over this </query> | <response>Can you explain further? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm sure many of us here have experienced hearing this at some point, all throughout my schooling years I would get asked...I am an adult now and was pondering this...why am i so quite?nnand then the memories came flooding back, when I was little my dad and my teachers would yell at me if I made any mistakes, if I said something wrong it would be </query> | <response>I grew up in a home (Asian) where physical contact and verbal means of expressing love was never a thing. Never have I heard my parents say </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> The ACE score is 10 question, yes/no, quiz about things that may or may not have happened in childhood. nnAre there people with low ACE scores that have social anxiety? And if that's the case, was there an event that's not touched upon in these questions that may be relevant or did you have a carefree life until you got anxious? nnI also read that emotional abuse predicts mental health problems stronger than other forms of abuse. I read this in Johann Hari's book about depression and anxiety called 'Lost Connections'. </query> | <response>I only got 1, my family is okay but in my opinion environment outside of just your household can also affect a childhood, like school. I felt okay at home but at school i never accepted, wanted or respected </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm having family issues and now I just can't think straight anymore. I seriously can't think about past,future or even what's going on right now. I csnt think what i even want to ask at this point.nI will try to say as much as i can think of, nmy memory very badnI can't 'connect' my thoughts. This is hard mannI don't feel interest in things that i used to like anymorenI feel like I have no choice, i don't want anyone to suffer and i always sacrifice myself for others do that they don't feel pain. I really need someone.. i can't think anymorenI'm poor, hungry, i feel cornerd by everyone even if it's not their fault. It's as if one movd that I'd make is going to put a beloved one to problem and i don't want thatnPlease what should I do to think straight? I want to think clear again.. what's wrong with me </query> | <response>There are many possibilities as to what caused this: lack of sleep, stress, too much technology/social media or even post-covid. Things that can help are: walks (especially in nature), meditation (or just deep breathing), exercise, journaling (try to write all your confused thoughts down), cut back on time in your phone and try to establish healthier sleep routine. Hope you get at least a little better soon. God bless you. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So I'm 24, I've been with my girlfriend for almost a year, her brother is 25 he's an extremely nice guy but suffers from social anxiety.nnI genuinely try my best, I used to ask him to come out with me and my friends (since I know he doesn't have any of his own) but quickly realized I was taking the wrong approach. I now regularly ask him to do stuff that I know he enjoys e.g. going to watch football, cinema, bowling etc but he never takes me up on my offer unless my girlfriend (his sister) comes along. I've no issue with the 3 of us hanging around together but really want him to feel comfortable just hanging with me. I'm pretty sure it's not an issue of him disliking me and my girlfriend is sure of that too. nnWhat would be a good way to approach him about hanging out just the two of us without coming off as condescending towards him? </query> | <response>If I'm him, I'm gonna turn you down when you invite me to hang out with your friends. You have no idea how uncomfortable that is. Tbh I think hanging out with the two of you is the best way to go. nnAdding people like your friends or other people who's a stranger to him will just push him farther away. nnBut then again, that's just how I feel. Just a suggestion. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have a constant urge to delete or destroy everything that is related to me. Photos from my childhood, my notes, my comments, my stuff, everything. When I look at my stuff I have an urge to throw it all away. When I login in some social media I have an urge to delete my accounts. When I see something I did - a sketch, a crochet, anything - I destroy it.nnIt's quite harmful for me and it prevents me from living like a normal person. I cannot participate in anything because then I would leave a footprint. I don't even have friends anymore because I withdrew from everything.nnSo what is this thing? How to cope with that? I cannot even work because I sabotage myself constantly </query> | <response>I used to be like this when I was really paranoid I wouldn't leave my information around cuz I was afraid of someone finding out where I was probably just delusions not sure if that's what your going thru but medication helped a lot I stopped worrying so much about leaving a footprint </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> This has been bothering me so much because I have no control over it. Whenever I'm in a social situation I completely freeze up, my mind goes completely blank and I stutter and stumble over my words. I'm usually very articulate and not like this around family. Work is the worst, someone asked me something today and I couldn't even get my words out - it's like my brain is disconnected from my mouth. I know how weird and awkward I must come across. Anyone relate? </query> | <response>Yea, it happens! I've tried to use mindfulness to really concentrate on what I'm saying rather than the annoying stuff yelling inside my head. It's like I step out of my self for a second but it can get exhausting. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hi everyone :)nnIt's gonna be my life story so if u want short version there's tl;dr in the bottom :) nnI just really need to get it off my chest.nnSo I was always kind of shy guy and had difficulties making new colleagues. Basically everyone I was ever friends with I met in school/college, because I need really long time to get comfortable with someone. I never in my life got to know someone I met at a party or some event etc. But I always had at least 1/2 people that I could call friends and also was a part of some small social group which I hung out with.nnHalfway through college I met this wonderful woman and we ended up in a relationship. She was really caring and sensitive and I loved her so much for this. But she also had severe depression. Some time later we were living together in a single room in the dormitory and she had a depression spike at that time. As I'm emphatetic person and tried to be supportive partner I was trying to comfort her. Of course I also tried to get her some psychiatric help (at that time she has never gone to the psychiatrist). I was trying to convince her to get help but she was so miserable then that she just couldn't do anything. And i just didn't have the balls to just drag her over there. She was just lying all afternoons numb staring at the ceiling, crying from time to time. Numerous times she told me with blank face that she wish she never woke up again. And I just couldn't (or even didnt want to?) distance myself from that because I wanted to help her get through (now I know this was the worst thing I could do for the sake of both of us). And something like this went for a couple of months. As you might suspect this just devastated my self-worth and my overall mental wellbeing.nnAs I was getting older my SA was kicking in more and more and my friendships started to fade away as I was mildly stressed out everytime I met with anyone (especially in a group). I didn't have contact with any of my friends for like 2 years now. The only close person to me was my girlfriend until not that long ago when we started to drift apart and eventually broke up.nnAnd now I can move to the thing mentioned in title.nnLast week I was at a bachelor party of my old friend who I know from middle school. Somehow he still cares about me after years of no contact, which Im so grateful for and don't understand it. This was first party I attended to in a really long time. Also I didn't want to go because I knew it will be 3-days party with like 20+ guys. But I forced myself because I knew I would disappoint him again. Some of them were my old colleagues also from middle school. And I just wasn't able to rebound with them. I know I can't expect to get along with them like nothing happened. But they didn't really changed that much, they have the same sense of humour etc. In past I used to be quiet most of the time, but also from time to time I was funny, could fool around with other people, I had something interesting to say occasionally. Now I have this feeling like I'm noone on the outside. I'm not able to have any positive interaction with anyone. I was just standing around ignoring everyone (most of the time) and I'm sure now they think I'm a plain jerk. I also tried to make some convos 1v1, which always has been much easier for me, but it was awkward as hell (it went well only when I was wasted). The only person there that I confessed about my struggle with SA is the friend who is getting married.nnThere's this saying that you are the average of 5 people you spend most time with. So I wonder if it is also true that if you don't spend your time with anyone, you become noone.nn&#x200B;nntl;drnnAs my SA got stronger I have withdrawn myself from social life. After not having any friends or even colleagues for years I feel like I can't be funny, enjoyable to be around or simply interesting in any way. I feel like I'm totally dull on the outside and it will keep me from connecting with people even if I try. fml </query> | <response>I can't really tell how she feels rn. After the period I described the depression went off a little and she managed to go to the psychiatrist, was on SSRI since then and things got better. However our relationship has started to decline like half a year ago and we broke up recently. I imagine it's hard for her. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Has any of you ever been at a point where you just lack energy bevause of your SA.Energy to go and buy groceries,energy to cook,or even do fun(chill) stuff like watching a movie.But yeah,starvation.Have y'all dealt with this?nnnNote:I've currently lost like 3kg/6.6lbs </query> | <response>I can't dm you but I'll pay for home delivery if go to the store tomorrow. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Does living with this life-crippling illness ever get easiernn(https://www.reddit.com/poll/sabzek) </query> | <response>With practice and training your mind to think differently, yes!! Not perfect, but much much better. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Wow this week seems to have flown by! The 14th of February already!nnSo how's your week been? What's been good? Whats been bad? And what's been plain Meh?nnOf course its valentines day too(eugh!) Any plans? I have a date with some assignment work but that's about it ud83dude06. Nothing quite like a whole day devoted to love - to make you feel even more of a reject.nnBut hey, we will all get there!.....myself included ud83dude06(maybe)nn </query> | <response>All over the place. Since I decided I wanted to be an adult and move out of my Mother's it's just been a rollercoaster. I thought it would be straight forward but the housing market where I am is awful. You get a house viewing, the viewing goes well, you get excited, put an offer in. thisishappening.gifnnAnd then you get an email the next day saying someone else got it. Oh no, I must have said something awkward to the landlord. I'm obsessing over everything now like that to the point where I'm second guessing if my friends actually like me or if they're just humouring me.nnI know it's a deadly circle because the more you think this way the less genuinely fun you are to be around. I need a break from my own brain and a place of my own to live in. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I am fed up of being anxious of talking to people. I have very few friends. 2 to be precise. We were in the same school but now we are in different colleges gradually going our separate ways. On my first few months in College, I used to sit alone and stare at my phone all time while everyone were having fun with their groups.nnIt is not like the problem is restricted till here. Supposedly I am not that good with my Cousins either. I would literally sit with them and only listen for hours and would only speak when asked about something. I think I am not that needed by them. They have other cousins to mix up with. The only cousins that like me are all below 13. Hence they don't mind me being silent. As they grow up, they might also get concerned by my introverts nature and might phase out.nnWhen I meet a friend, I usually say Hi and then ask where have you been. After this, a long moment of silence ensues as I can't think of anything to say to carry on the conversation. This deeply concerns me.nnThe one question I always get asked is, </query> | <response>Repeated exposure will help some. Maybe join something that forces you to socialize if you really don't want to be alone. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Every single time I'm inconvenienced by something in my life I can't shake off the urge to kill myself (for many other reasons) until I remember that my family members will be traumatized finding my dead body. This is also my last year of college and I want to move back for the last couple of months cuz I miss it there and I don't want to graduate from home. Only problem is that I'm worried there'd be no reason to stick around when a depressive episode hits while I'm all alone. </query> | <response>This is the part they never tell you about suicidal thoughts and depression. It's not some big moment, it's omnipresent, like a hangover you can't shake. nnIt sucks. It sucks that it has to be a part of our lives. It sucks that it doesn't leave us alone. It sucks that it kicks us when we're down. nnThe next time you feel this way, the next time you're feeling suicidal, talk to someone. Can be family, can be friends, can be me. Part of what makes this shit so tough is that we feel like we need to bottle it up, and bear its full weight ourselves. That's not true. nnYou should go back to campus. If nothing else, a change of scenery can help a lot. What I would suggest is this; most campuses offer some form of mental support for students who seek it. Even if it's nothing more than someone occasionally asking how you're doing, they will help you get through this. Contact them now, or immediately when you get there. If you like, I can help you find who to contact. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I wasn't even really into cartoons anymore, I just really liked Avatar </query> | <response>Im 35, I watch whatever I like and makes me happy, this includes cartoons and anime. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm starting a list of the weirdest things I have done, or still do, because of my social anxiety. I'm starting to get better with it, so some of these are from the wayy past and I just look back and laugh about them. I'll just keep adding as I remember things. HAVE A GOOD LAUGH!! ud83dude02ud83dude02ud83dude02nn1). I live in an apartment near my University. In leasing season, my apartment get's shown to potential tenants. I either hide in the bathroom with the shower running to pretend I'm showering, or I go to the laundry room (a bomb shelter not attached to my unit). nn2). I once had to buy groceries, and there is a grocery store across the street from my apartment. At the time, it didn't have an official crosswalk to get to it, so people would J walk to get to it (everyone would). I was terrified of having people see me awkwardly sprint across the street, so instead I walked 15 minutes longer in the winter to the campus bookstore, which was further, and way more expensive, to buy 2 items, just because it had a crosswalk. nn3). One time, my packages got delivered to the front entrance of the building. Where I live packages get stolen so I had to pick it up right away. I looked rough and didn't want anyone to recognize me on the 1 minute walk around my building, so I put on a baseball cap, and my huge, long, puffy winter trench coat. It was 60u00b0F that day, and sunny. I pick up my packages begin to walk away. I start to get loads of cars honking at me THINKING I WAS STEALING PACKAGES because of my outfit lol. nn4). When I shared an apartment, I used to eat only in my room if others were home. One time, nobody was home so I decided to eat in the kitchen. I prepare my meal, set it on the table with napkins, forks and everything. As soon as I sit, I hear my flatmate at the door with friends, about to walk in. I bolt to my room leaving my steaming plate of food awkwardly on the table. They all walk in and are like </query> | <response>The long coat and hat thing and the crosswalk thing are kind of weird. The rest of this is mostly normal everyday shit that you are thinking too much about. nnYou sound like you are more afraid of your own anxiety than the situations which trigger it. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have perfect hearing, but sometimes in social situations I can't make out what people are saying. I get so taxed with trying to keep pace with all the bits and pieces of interacting with people that I stop being able to comprehend what they are saying. I get to the point where I hear the individual words but can't put them together into sentences. I find that if someone hands me something to read (say for instance at work) and needs to discuss it then-and-there the same thing can happen. I'll struggle to try to force myself to mentally focus in as much as possible, but when this happens its like trying to understand or read a foreign language.nnI've learned to deal with a lot of SA over the years, but I can't seem to shake this. I often have to ask people to repeat themselves a lot, which sometimes aggravates them (which in turn doesn't help the problem). I've just started telling people I have a hearing problem, but that's not really true. This makes me feel like a crazy person sometimes...nnHas anyone else dealt with this? </query> | <response>I get the same way, particularly in large groups. I also have tinnitus from listening to too much music and going to too many live shows. This does not help matters.nnI found that I had more success with comprehension if I gave up trying to listen intently for the words and focused instead on the overall sense of what was being conveyed. I think focusing too much on the words can sometimes lead to missing the proverbial forest for the trees. This is only my personal experience talking, of course. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I didnt know I had social anxiety. I am an extremely shy person all my life and thought it was good to be modest. After hearing about social anxiety I discovered that I have the same symptoms. And now I know it, I became more anxious. My depression decreased but anxiety increased. Im at the bank now, so nervous to be the next customer :( I need someone to talk about this anxiety, maybe we can help eachother .. </query> | <response>How do we talk privately? </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> It's almost like I get anxious just thinking about improving my situation with social anxiety and how it would be like if I was just like everyone else.nnMaybe it's the thought of losing everything I've come to know. Or losing a part of myself. I mean, lots of us probably prefer consistency and aren't too open to new experiences.nnIt sounds so ironic since I obviously would like to get better and feel less anxious on the daily. But I'm almost scared to actually reach that destiny just from thinking about it. </query> | <response>I fear getting better because I've never known a life without anxiety. What if I get to a good place and get a taste of quote unquote normalcy and then something happens and I go back? nnIt's that saying, the devil you know versus the devil you don't. I know my anxiety. It's so ingrained in me that I don't know who I'd be without it. nnI don't want to make progress toward a societal norm only to backslide later. It would be too much. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I finally started talking with people again! I was at the bookstore today and I asked if they had the first volume of a manga that I like, and I even asked for help on where they had Uzumaki! I'm so proud of myself. Next step is to order a pizza. Hopefully, I'll be able to make friends after this next step. </query> | <response>Way to go! That's great (: </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hello. I'm not sure why I write, but I guess I would like to interact with people who maybe understand a little what I'm going through. Please be kind, it's quite vulnerable. nI am 20 years old and I am very lonely. I don't have any friends in real life I just get a few messages a yearly from old school </query> | <response>I hope it will help you :) Also, don't beat yourself up for feeling bad. It's only an emotion. You don't have to fight it, you can just live that emotion for a bit. Fighting emotions takes so much energy, while living them actually makes you feel better after a while. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I need some advice. nnI have a hard time breaking that </query> | <response>I kind of get that. But think about all the albums by your favorite artists you're gonna miss, all the next seasons of shows you're not gonna see, how you're not gonna see what your siblings, cousins, friends will do with their life when they grow up, all the places you could still see, and all the people you would still meet who will change the way you look at the world. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Can you still go shopping or socialize at all? </query> | <response>Oh, I'm sorry. I see you are female. Well, just... I dunno it's rough. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hi, I am about to start taking propranolol 3 times a day 10mg. I wanted to see if others have used it and had success with it.nnMy main worry is my blood pressure(already a bit low) and energy levels. I read that it takes a few weeks for side effects such as weakness and dizziness to disappear so I am hopeful. </query> | <response>I was definitely light headed and tired for the first few weeks, but after that subsided I found it really effective and has definitely helped my physical symptoms of anxiety. Not completely cured but definitely prevents me from getting myself into a state which I used to! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Guys, be honest. </query> | <response>My bro Hannibal a street mutt feels u </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> How do I die? </query> | <response>Yet another garbage teacher who knows absolutely nothing about mental health. You'd think these people would have to take basic psychology classes </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I need serious help and I don't know where else to look.. I've searched all over the internet.. I'm 21, I still live with my parents.. I have no friends at all and rarely talk to anyone, I dropped out of high school on the first day. I literally have no idea what to do or how to get my life back on track. I wish I could draw or write or anything but I have no talent at all, I don't know what to do.nnIt makes me sad and depresses the hell out of me every day because I'm just sitting at home doing nothing while my mom works really hard to make ends meet. I feel completely useless, I cry every day because I wish I could go back and change things or at least have a grip on life. My anxiety and depression have gotten so bad I just want to lay down all day, every day. I am terrified of leaving the house, driving - anything. It feels like I'm just spiraling downhill and I can't stop it. Getting any sort of job at this point is basically impossible. Who wants someone like me with no experience whatsoever and can't even keep it together? I can't afford a doctor or therapist... Education is also very hard because it is extremely difficult to pay attention and retain information. </query> | <response>You are not alone, my good friend. I, too, am 21, I'm still living with my family, I'm going through the same difficult predicament you're currently in. I began struggling with SA since last year, and it led to me experiencing several episodes of depression in the past. Hence why I still think about myself negatively sometimes. I've believed that this horrible thought process that will continue to remain within me for the rest of my life.nnFortunately, it's possible to change your life around, just like what I'm doing currently. Tell your parents about your situation right now, and that you want to seek a therapist for help. I'm sure that, after you tell them about your SA, they will understand. Maybe your mom can afford therapy, since she works so hard for the money. I've started meeting my therapist, and so far she has been helpful in dealing with some of my issues related to my SA. Also, meditation is great if you want to change your way of thinking. Most of the time, meditating helped me stop thinking about negative thoughts, and to focus living in the moment. I only began practicing meditation recently, but after a few sessions, I have already noticed the benefits. If you want to start, go to calm.com and practice your meditation. My SA is still present from within, but it has become less problematic thanks to therapy and meditation. nnI hope that you understand that the predicament you are in currently is only temporary, and that you have what it takes to pick yourself up and change the way you live. I've started taking small steps in dealing with my SA, so that it won't affect me for the rest of my life. And you can do the same too, if you want to stop your SA from holding you down. I hope that you and I will become victorious in this monumental battle. Stay strong, friend. nnnn </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> People all the time used to tell me they thought I was really cocky or arrogant because I didn't talk a lot, when in reality I was just anxious . </query> | <response>I started a course and I know the teachers thinks I'm weird. The teacher have asked me questions and I get surprised and didn't answer properly. I also sounded a bit defensive when she asked me about accessing a unit on the student portal. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hello everybody. This is my first time posting here. I'm a teenager and I've been dealing with severe social anxiety since I was four, mainly due to a lot of trauma I've experienced at a very very young age surrounding people. I am really glad to have found this community and I have related to a lot of the struggles that everyone has discussed here. nnAnyway, I was looking at another subreddit that showed a screenshot of a comment section on TikTok where people around my age were talking about wanting to make a change in the world and being the generation to try to make more of a positive impact. I thought the content in the screenshot was interesting until I scrolled down to the comments. A lot of other Reddit users were mocking the people in the screenshot, saying they were full of themselves, etc. nnBut the main reason why I got upset is because of this one particular comment that I came across. It stated: “It cracks me up how Gen Z thinks they could change the world when most of them are afraid of making a doctor's appointment or a phone call.” nnI am probably being sensitive, but I don't know how to really emphasize how much this comment bothered me and I feel it hit me more than it should have. For the past year or so my mom and I have been working on my social anxiety and I just recently learned how to make a doctor's appointment all by myself without randomly hanging up the phone. I still regress sometimes but I am truly trying my best and truly trying to deal with what I've experienced when I was younger that has negatively impacted a lot of aspects of my current social life. nThe comment just made me feel that my progress (even thought it was small progress) is ‘useless.' I know it sounds silly but my spirits were just broken a little bit.nnI understand that the internet is not always going to be a safe space, especially for those of us who have anxiety in general, but even knowing this, I still manage to let comments like that get under my skin. nnDoes anyone have any advice? Thank you so much. </query> | <response>“Should I be bothered by this comment?” No you shouldn't be but i understand how you could be and that's okay too. When you allow people to bother you though, that gives them power over you. School their asses instead and let them know how ignorant they are. “Well, actually, some people have social anxiety disorder, it's an actual illness. Read a book, bitch.” Lol. That's what I would do but I know not everyone would. Ignore the ignorant or try and throw some knowledge their way. Just don't cry in front of them cause that's exactly what they want and expect. This is one of the reasons I avoid social media. I recently rejoined Facebook, friended people, then unfollowed every single one of them. I'll see their shit when I choose. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I have another post on here basically giving my life story so I don't feel like going into detail here, but I'm almost 95% sure I have depression. It wouldn't be an issue for me if it didn't make me lose motivation in school. I literally do not care about it at all and it has the potential to affect my entire life. I can deal with it other than that, I have people I trust and talk to, and even though I don't feel better usually, but it's ok, I'm not in any danger of self harm or suicide, and I have people to lean on for when I need to. I just... I want to do better in school because every time I don't it hurts my parents and it makes me feel horrible to see them like that. Does anyone know any way to help me with motivation? </query> | <response>To see a therapist I would have to talk to my parents about this, and I'm just not ready to talk to them. I'm actually keeping two huge secrets from them (one being this) that I simply am not ready to tell them and I don't know if I ever will be. The thing with having a goal and taking a break is that I don't even care about most classes. History Specifically is the bane of my school life because I just don't see the point of it after a certain point. What I mean is that it's important to teach up to a certain point, but what they teach gets repetitive, with the same themes and it's too monotonous for me to care. I always have a mental struggle when it comes to doing schoolwork, and even giving myself incentives to work, like playing video games after my work is done doesn't work because I could either just play games now, or just sit there and do nothing. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> By driving my daughter up to each house. Just dawned on me today that I could do that for her and she could still get her candy and have fun. I almost didn't bring her trick or treating because my anxiety is so bad with Halloween - usually just go to her grandma's for a little treat. nnBut we did it! And it was glorious. She got a huge bag of candy like I used to do when I was a kid. So proud of her for going up to each house and myself for getting my a$$ out there. That's all. nnHappy Halloween! </query> | <response>Thank you, happy Halloween! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I know that nothing much will come out of this post but I was just thinking about how strange it is that lately I've been feeling like when I'm not around people, I have all these ideas and topics that I find interesting and want to explore further, but once I start interacting with someone it's like my brain can't function properly and I feel like I don't have anything relevant enough to add in a conversation. I'm terrified of opening my mouth and saying something stupid and embarassing and people figuring out what an inadequate human being I am. </query> | <response>Exactly, I don't mind when other people are quiet or are not engaging in conversation. I like the silence but I automatically assume that if I stay quiet for too long then people will think I'm weird and uninteresting so I try to think of something to say but I can't so I get anxious and yep. It's a lot :( </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Short illustrative story before I get to my point:nnI was recently walking my dog and got chatting with another guy who was walking his. While our dogs played we chatted and the guy told me all about himself: where he went to high school, where he goes to university, what and why he studies there, that he's a single child and orphan, and that he's passionate about 3D animation. What did the guy find out about me? Just my name. Why? Because he didn't bother asking me a single thing about myself.nnNow, the problem I personally have is that that's really the majority of my conversations with people. Following various tips that I've found online to help my struggles in paying attention during conversations I started trying to act interested, ask follow up questions, and generally try to engage with what the other person is saying. However, in the vast majority of cases I don't get the same treatment in return and this pisses me off.nnNow, I have a somewhat simplified view of what a conversation between two people should be: I say stuff and you listen, act interested (even if you're really not), don't interrupt, and then, once I'm done, the roles shift and it's my turn to listen and act interested. However, whenever I act interested and attentive but don't get the same in return (which is most of the time) I feel ripped off.nnNow, there's two main issues I experience connected with this:nn1. If I try to respond to a person looking and acting disinterested with the same treatment (not maintaining eye contact, looking bored, pulling out my phone) it feels really wrong, even if that's what the other person deserves (it's just not the way I've been brought up).n2. If I do respond to a display of disinterest in kind, the other person doesn't get that I'm acting this way because they did it first (maybe because most people lack self-awareness) and I end up looking like an asshole in their eyes.nnSo, I'm kind of confused as to what to do here. I've honestly just decided that I'll either avoid conversations with people I've only just met in general, or just act disinterested and bored in conversations by default (even if it feels bad to do) until I see the other person making an effort.nnOverall, I'm curious to know what other people think about my issue in general and my chosen solutions in particular. Also, I can't help but wonder, is this what all conversation normally is? Just people looking disinterested until they finally hear something interesting to them and the other person not being bothered by it?nn&#x200B;nnTL;DR: The vast majority of people I encounter in conversation act like conversational narcissists and I don't know how to deal with this. </query> | <response>Sometimes it's worth pushing through and sprinkle in answering questions that weren't asked. But personally I only do this if I get a positive feeling from the person. If they are talking and it feels like a wall is up like I'm not wanted around I just abort mission. Most of my attempts to talk to strangers are futile but it makes finding a decent human worth it. ud83eudd37u200du2640ufe0f </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> The teacher asked us what are favorite songs are to get to know us. And I blanked the whole 5 minutes she gave us to think. When my time came I said Complicated by Avril Lavigne... I have no fucking clue why. I don't hate that song but I could have said ANY other song and it would have been cooler. I think I was trying to be funny since I'm a guy but no one laughed. She was just like...okay... next. It's been eating me alive. I have to go back tomorrow and she said she's gonna ask a questions like that to us each time. I'm honestly considering dropping the class. </query> | <response>English. It's actually required so I guess I can't drop it </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> As in, if I'm uncomfortable in a social situation, I make it intentionally visible so people can tell what is bothering me. Hiding it so you appear </query> | <response>I've found that classes are easier when I let my professors know about it! For classes where participation is part of my grade I tell them to intentionally call on me if I haven't been speaking up enough, even if it stresses me out. I also find that sitting in the front of class so I can't see other people helps! </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Just a thought I have every time I visit this place. It's kinda silly, but yeah. Maybe I'm in denial. nnEdit: I didn't mean this as criticism towards the subreddit, more so a humorous glimpse into a mind of worry. </query> | <response>Sometimes I find it really challenges my SA. There are subreddits I'm subscribed to where my opinion is often argued, ridiculed, debated, or downvoted. I have two challenges - one is to choose very consciously whether I should actually comment, and the second is to forget about the criticism. I delete a lot of comments without posting - especially if its in response to someone criticizing my point of view. (I should point out, most of my SA appears in the form of filling in space/silence with too much irrational talk..so impulse control when I have an opinion sometimes is hard.) </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I kept mulling it over and decided to just not do it because the thought of it made me feel like I was going to be sick. An in-person interview? I've read all the guides for it, sure! But nobody told me about the phone interview. I hate the phone.nnIt's making me more and more depressed that I can't do it. I've tried to think of a future for myself but then I remember that talking to anyone makes me want to die. </query> | <response>Honestly, I've done this so many times. I used to be so ashamed of myself and would worry so much about telling my family or my therapist because I 'failed' at something. I'm 19. I've gone to interviews then declined job offers, done my first shift and not gone back, been for a couple of shifts then bailed. I started looking for jobs in 2018 so this happened over the last couple of years. Anyway, I wouldn't beat yourself up about it too much, I used to tell myself that I just jumped ahead too far, and I should dial it back a bit and try something slightly more within my current capabilities. So I started volunteering for an animal shelter (literally the SCARIEST thing I've ever tried to commit to in my life) but I'm still there two years later, I don't know all the people that work there still. I've done a couple of volunteer things since then, among all the jobs I bailed on! My point is, just keep trying, as cliched as it sounds. One day you may find you can push yourself a little bit further and do the interview, but not do the job, and then in the future have the confidence to actually turn up to a new job etc. It does get better honestly, just keep trying. It's so hard and shitty but don't beat yourself up for not doing something, and the most important thing is to remember that it doesn't matter how slow you take things. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So i have to talk in front of the class about any subject and it i need to talk for at least 1 min ( ex : The news ) and nnI just need some ideas pls ! Thank you. </query> | <response>And french class ;) </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I need help with talking to my daughter. Shes right out of the hospital....AGAIN! she won't talk to me. I have tried to support her and help her as much as I can. I need her to talk to her and help her. Now she's not eating. Any advice? </query> | <response>Your right I asked her to move out. The whole situation is making me crazy. They have tried. She doesn't listen. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I hate to make a post like this but it's been bothering me lately and it's making me a bit uncomfortable. I don't mind really I just want to know. It's like every time I start thinking about the possibility of my mind being read someone interrupts me or tries to change to topic. </query> | <response>I know I can't read minds, but often know what people are thinking/feeling because I'm hyper aware of their social cues. But no, mind reading is not a common thing. I won't say it's impossible but I'd have a hard time believing even %1 of the population could truly read minds. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Like even when I just think something to myself I feel like I still have to whisper or say it out loud to myself. Maybe because there is no one else I would speak to.nPerhaps I truly am going insane.. </query> | <response>This post makes me feel worlds better. This has been something I've felt ashamed about, tried to stop and beaten myself up about for years. Nice to feel like less of a weirdo. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> ive heard that SA can cause depression and i feel like im starting to have more </query> | <response>ty for commenting,, yeah ive started feeling the same way and hating myself more and more so im kinda worried. maybe ill try talk about it with my therapist and ask her if she thinks i should see a psychiatrist </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I've only started preparing for it today because I was super sick these past few days (I didn't email my professor for an extension because well…social anxiety ) and UGH this presentation plays a huge role in my grades and I JUST WANNA DO IT PROPERLY not just get it over with :( and the presentation includes a 3 minute qna session where i have to spontaneously answer questions?? fun!nnplease pray for me y'all and any last minute tips (especially involving speaking louder) would be super helpful too thank you! </query> | <response>It's okay to pause for a few seconds and think about your next sentence. I used to think that pausing at all was embarrassing because I'm not talking, but taking just a couple seconds to think about your words really helps! And it's not embarrassing at all, tons of people do it. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> it could all be so simple, my life would be 100x better without social anxiety.nnedit: looks like I'm trying MDMA lmao </query> | <response>I order from Liftmode </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> My wardrobe is extremely limited, only darkish colors and I can only wear shirts that don't have any writing or any design on them. nnI just wonder how would I look in well-fitting and more colorful clothes but I'm scared to take the steps. </query> | <response>I can't bring myself to change my style. Whenever I do, people point it out and it makes me self conscious. One time I decided to start wearing a necklace. That very night my friends were like, </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> How do you lot feel when you birthday comes around each year , I was 23 yesterday and to be honest besides from my close family it was just a reminder of how lonely I am. </query> | <response>My birthday is next month.nnI've never had a birthday party or even been told happy birthday from anyone that's not my mom nnMy plan is to take myself out on a movie date this year. Movie first then doordash some wings or something after nnHappy birthday </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm currently on the panic attack/ high blood pressure hamster wheel from hell. My BP was getting so high I had yo see a cardiologist. He put me on Losartan 50 MG 2x/day (it started out as 1x/day). Anyways, lately when I take my gabapentin I seem to be having super bad anxiety and my vagus nerve will spazz out until I have diarrhea. I need the gabapentin for pain and the Losartan so I don't stroke out while I'm panicking but I can't seem to find a happy medium. Anyone else experience this? </query> | <response>And this just occurred to me: McDonagh, B.: *DARE: The New Way to End Anxiety and Stop Panic Attacks*, Dublin: BMD Publishing, 2015. It's not a </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> I'm trying to get over a fetish that I don't like by trying to get back into things I used to love ( the fetish being ve, and what I used to like being curvy women, muscular women, anything that can relate to those two) there are some that I'm still into, but for now, I'm trying to forget the fetish permanently and get back to what I think I truly like. </query> | <response>I try Ignoring it. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> How long did it take for you to get used to it? Do you go during non busy hours? Do people stare? And what are some nonspoken gym rules that I should know? I really want to start working out during the summer </query> | <response>I don't care and have never cared. My SA has nothing to do with the gym, the gym feels like home to me so a can't speak for others who feel differently. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> You'd think I'd be an expert at socializing with all the social scenarios I prepare myself for, but alas, I embarrass myself every time I open my mouth. </query> | <response>Thank you for letting me know. I'm going to ask my doctor about it. Oddly enough, I also blush. I didn't even know there was a potential cure for that. Very cool! Thank you. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> So I have to do a group presentation of a maths paper in 2 weeks in front of 60 (!!!) people and I'm very very anxious about it. I know most people here will be able to relate to this so I'm hoping for some advice. Firstly I feel like I don't know anything about my degree and I don't understand the paper like everyone else does. Also the most daunting part is the Q&A at the end. I know for a fact a they'll ask me a question and i won't understand it and even if I do I'll freeze like I always do. My mind goes blank and I literally have no idea what to say, I can't string together any type of sentence let alone answer some really hard technical maths. I'm wondering if there's any ways to deal with this? what can I say to move the focus off me and basically say u2018I don't know' so that I don't seem completely stupid and very awkward? </query> | <response>If it's a group presentation, do you have to be the one to answer it? You could let a group member answer and then build on or elaborate on what they said. If you have to be the one to answer questions, then I am concerned that you said you </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> As pathetic as it may sound, I only have one friend irl. I find myself wanting to get things off of my chest, especially recently, and even though I am always welcome to do that with her, as she is with me, I don't wanna overwhelm her with my shit too much. I realize she has her own life and her own problems to sort out. nnSo today I decided it'd be nice for a change to post and reply to posts in different subreddits instead of just lurking all the time. Thought it'd give me some piece of mind to see others have the same problems as me, and to exchange advices and emotional support. Plus it'd help me be less of a wuss when it comes to people (at least online)nnI realize reddit is not a good replacement for going out there and meeting new people, but even something as minimal as posting here is so hard to do. Being social was never a breeze for me, I was always kind of shy. The fact that I was picked on in middle school didn't help. And after having to spend last 3 years of my life in complete isolation from people made socializing the worst nightmare for me. At least that's what I'd blame the most.nnThis is my very first </query> | <response>ExactlynIt's either that or rereading and rewriting it over and over until I'm convinced that it's written somewhat in a decent manner, and without any mistakes cuz god forbid that I make anynAnd I avoid group chats like a plague </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> This week was supposed to be a relaxing vacation at my mums place. I moved countries a few years back so I don't see her that often. My week is almost over, a few days is left and as awful as it sounds I just want to leave.nEverything I do my mother is ridiculing and judging me, pulling jokes and putting me on the spot either alone or Infront of people.nn'you do this wrong' 'why are you doing it that way' 'no wonder you do x and x when you do this' 'oh yea my daughter, she always is so -fill in degrading thing'nnToday I got up late because of pain I couldn't fall asleep before 4am. Guess who said her day is ruined cause I slept so long and now we cannot plan anything anymore and that tomorrow I will probably ruin the planning my taking to long doing my hair etc?nnOne more comment and I'll go to the roof. And worst is if I point out her being I credibly judgemental she's doing the good old gaslighting 'wow you are moody today'.nnThanks for the anxiety, ma </query> | <response>I ended up moving countries to get away from bring emotionally manipulated by my mum (it was not as bad as the OP, but got to be too much).nnBut the distance helped us both grow and realise our errors and make peace. Then she sadly passed away a few years ago (RIP) and I miss her every day.nnIt's funny how life is sometimes.nnBut remember, it isn't your fault and things will get better. </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Hi,nnI'm very interested in the two anxiolytic drugs Ph94b and BNC210. If anyone participates in the upcoming trails and doesn't mind to share his/her personal experiences with the drugs, concerning efficacy, side effects and duration of effect it would be much appreciated. </query> | <response>Sadly it's only for acute treatment, if you have chronic anxiety like me it probaly won't work </response> |
As a mental health counselor, your role is to provide empathetic and supportive responses to individuals seeking guidance and support for their mental health concerns. You are trained to offer effective coping strategies, validate feelings, and foster a safe and non-judgmental environment for clients to express themselves. Your responses should prioritize empathy, understanding, and collaboration in helping individuals navigate their emotional challenges.
<query> Well, I've known the girl I want to ask out for a while, all semester. We've grown to be good friends. 2 weeks ago I met her sister, not knowing it was her and became really good friends with her. So I kinda fell for the girl I like, let's call her G. I lied G the day I met. She was quiet and shy. So I kinda started talking to her, and we became friends. Now I met her sister, let's call her K. K became a really close friend of mine in like 1 day because my friends. So recently said group of friends were discussing crushes, and K asked if I liked G, I simply said no. But K talks to G a lot. I would ask K about G. But I feel too nervous. I don't want to ask out G either because I feel like it'll ruin the friendship. I really want help on what to do here. Should I ask K, or just try my luck with G and risk it. I only got 1 week to do this... </query> | <response>Well she asked cuz I said I had a crush I wouldn't say infront of her for the most part. Sooo </response> |
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