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jlz1rw7mqfp6 | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | [
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"content": "The most important thing is to protect yourself, your family, and your dad, by getting him committed. Other people have commented on how to do this. For my family in Florida, this was always a rollercoaster, and I have literally been told that my brother is \"not psychotic enough\" to be admitted. You may have better luck doing this through the court system than through the cops. Background: my brother has paranoid schizophrenia and my mom had bipolar, and their episodes would feed into each other, and my dad and I were left to our own devices to figure it out. Also, I cannot recommend NAMI enough. They have support groups, and a 12 week Family-to-Family caregiving course that was a lifesaver. Lastly, I also encourage you to look into alternative approaches to healing mental illness, specifically shamanic healing. When I was exacerbated because my brother was having recurring psychotic episodes, and the medications, therapy, and involuntary hospitalizations weren't working, I sought out a shamanic healer for him. The healer ended up being profoundly more helpful for my brother than any therapist ever was. Other cultures around the world have different, yet very similar ways, of addressing mental illness, and it is surprisingly effective. It may require some suspension of disbelief, but my brother has been stable for years, and I'm so glad I did it.",
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jlz1rwskvlwo | Not sure if this the right place because it’s not EXACTLY legal advice? But here goes: My dad is insane and I think me and my family may be in danger and we’re not sure what our options are. So a brief rundown: the past 8 years my dad has had random spikes of psychotic behavior and it’s gotten worse and worse over time. This year, and specifically the past few months, it has gotten worse exponentially. I’m pretty sure he has an extreme case of paranoid schizophrenia and possibly other debilitations. There have been several times that police have come to our house because of calls related to his behavior, but without evidence for an obvious crime, there’s never really been much success there. Especially since he seems to be able to flip off his craziness like a switch when police show up— then we end up looking like we made the whole thing up. A little more background, his father fought in Vietnam and had exposure to Agent Orange (suspected, I don’t know the specific details) and ended up becoming very violent and disconnected later in life. My father’s oldest brother has also been diagnosed with schizophrenia and is currently in the state hospital for murdering their mother (my grandmother). My father’s second oldest brother is currently in prison for attempted murder, which he had tried to convince my father to help him with. To put it bluntly: there is a family history of psychopathic tendencies and murder on my dad’s side. Lately, my father has been getting increasingly crazier. He says he sees spirits jumping in and out of animals and people, he calls it a gift from god. He’s also been watching a lot of murder documentaries and has been making weird comments about murdering people. He told my mother that he needed to kill this guy he suspected of stalking my mother, or “at least cut his legs off” so he can’t stalk her anymore. And then the other day he told my mother that the shows he’s watching are making him want to attempt murder. Specifically, he said he’s been wanting to “take a hammer and bash someone’s head in”. At this point, we don’t know what our options are but I fear we’re in a lot of danger. I’ve been sleeping with a pocket knife under my pillow because I seriously wouldn’t put it past him to try and kill me in the middle of the night while I’m sleeping. Police don’t seem to be an option because we don’t have proof of a crime and also because he always seems to flip it off like a switch. Not really sure what to do but I’m scared and any advice is appreciated | [
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iumuve2u8tso | I cannot park in my own driveway because of our Neighbor. What are the options to remove his bus from the road? I live in MD. My wife and I just bought a house in a small neighborhood. Our house is on a one-lane road that allows parking on both sides of the street. The issue is that our neighbor "Mike" across the street has a large, old Greyhound-style bus. It takes up a lot of space on the road (width and length) and has even attached a trailer behind the bus, completely using all of the space to park in front of his house and part of his neighbors house. This leads him to not only block a lot of space, but also park in front of our house, often blocking our driveway because he has nowhere else to park. The first night we were moving in some stuff, Mike comes up to us and introduces himself. The first thing he says is that his bus is totally fine and he already won a big fight with the town about it. Mike then proceeds to tell us about all of his cop friends/connections and how he is going to law school (which is doubtful as he is retired in his 70s). After that, we were like, okay, we can deal with the bus if it's legally permittee. Then, a car appears in front of our house with a gas can and propane tank clearly visible in the backseat from our property. I was concerned about something fishy so I reported it. Turns out it was Mike's car. He then confronts me about it, saying that i should just have talked to him, all offended and upset, going as far to state that i committed a cardinal sin by calling a cop on a black man in America (funny because I am a POC). I thought we resolved this and then he then proceeds to park his pickup such that it blocks our driveway. My wife and I thought we could talk to him about it. It turns out to be a big blow out fight. He says that we aren't using "logic" because it is conceivably possible to back into our driveway. Apparently, my wife and I are bad drivers to have issues maneuvering (and going over our curve) around a bus and truck parked in and around our driveway. The problem is that my wife and I both have cars and have borrowed my dad's truck to make the moving easier. We can't park everything in our driveway as he has been blocking it and we are afraid to park cars on the street because the road becomes so narrow that a sedan can just barely pass through. This guy has at least three cars and a bunch of motorcycles parked in his driveway so moving it to there is out of the picture. As we have met some of our other new neighbors, they all have had issues with Mike regarding parking and this dilapidated bus. So far, we know of at least 6 people who have fought with him. One said that this bus hasn't even moved for over 10 years. We have all tried to talk to him to resolve this on our own and he cannot be civil or respectful. We want to do something about this bus and parking issue but aren't sure what, if any, our legal rights are. Is there anything we can do to make him move the bus and stop blocking our driveway? | [
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"content": "1. Don't just take his word about his winning a big fight with the town over this. 2. If a vehicle blocks your driveway you can have it towed. Find out who from the town he had the \"big fight\" over this with. It might be he's allowed to park it, but you almost always have to move a vehicle within some time frame when it's on a public street. Get the details from someone else.",
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"content": "If a car is blocking your drive way, you just call the police. If the bus hasen't moved in 10 years, more then likely it is illegally parked, as many municipalities will dictate that \"parked\" vehicles must be moved once in a while, with a time frame defined in the law. I would not trust him for a second that he \"his bus is totally fine and he already won a big fight with the town about it.\" I would be willing to bet, that the previous owner dropped their complaints when they moved away. Seriously, does the bus have valid inspection and registration clearly displayed? Flat tires or broken glass? I don't know what county you are in, but here is the info for Montgomery County: How do I report an abandoned vehicle in Montgomery County MD? Reporting an Abandoned, Unregistered, or Inoperable Vehicle or Bicycle Call: 240-773-6411, Press 3 and leave a message. Email: abandoned.vehicle@montgomerycountymd.gov You might consider reaching out to your local municipality and find out how long vehicles can be parked on a street, and to determine if the bus id legally parked, registered, and inspected. HERE https://library.municode.com/md/prince_george's_county/codes/code_of_ordinances?nodeId=PTIITI17PULOLAPRGECOMA_SUBTITLE_26VETR_DIV8PARE_S26-122PALOSEOHOPR#:~:text=26%2D122.,than%20seventy%2Dtwo%20hours%20prohibited.&text=No%20person%20shall%20park%20or,%2Dtwo%20(72)%20hours. Sec. 26-122. - Parking for longer than seventy-two hours prohibited. (a)No person shall park or allow to stand any vehicle on any of the public streets or roadways in the County for a period in excess of seventy-two (72) hours. There you go. **The bus must move every 72 hours.** Here is another that might be relevant: Sec. 26-123. - Overnight and weekend parking of commercial buses, trailers, and trucks restricted; impounding; penalty. (a)No person shall park any commercial bus, commercial trailer, or heavy commercial truck on any street or highway in the County, outside the corporate limits of any municipality. (c)Any vehicle which is parked in violation of this Section shall be subject to being towed by the Police Department from such highway or street and impounded after it has been parked for a twenty-four (24) hour period. The impoundment of the vehicle shall be done pursuant to Division 18 of this Subtitle. This will be contingent how how the bus is registered. (which, again, I would assume it is not registered, since then he would need to have insurance on it) On the assumption that the bus is not properly registered: Sec. 26-127.01. - Parking of unregistered motor vehicles or unregistered trailers. (a)A vehicle for which two registration plates are required, one plate shall be attached on the front and the other on the rear of the vehicle. (b)No person shall park any unregistered motor vehicle or unregistered trailer upon the highways, roads, streets, or other public property in the County at any time.",
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"content": "I'm concerned he's bluffing about all this. If he's \"friends\" with cops, why would he be mad you called the cops on his truck? I would bring this up with the city yourself. Worst case scenario, you find out he really did fight the city on it and won. Best case, you caught him in a lie. If the city won't do anything about it, escalate it to the state level. Your state senate and/or representatives may be able to overturn the city's ruling if you and your neighbors convince them that it's a nuisance and a danger. Go as high up as you can.",
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iumuve1ffumr | I cannot park in my own driveway because of our Neighbor. What are the options to remove his bus from the road? I live in MD. My wife and I just bought a house in a small neighborhood. Our house is on a one-lane road that allows parking on both sides of the street. The issue is that our neighbor "Mike" across the street has a large, old Greyhound-style bus. It takes up a lot of space on the road (width and length) and has even attached a trailer behind the bus, completely using all of the space to park in front of his house and part of his neighbors house. This leads him to not only block a lot of space, but also park in front of our house, often blocking our driveway because he has nowhere else to park. The first night we were moving in some stuff, Mike comes up to us and introduces himself. The first thing he says is that his bus is totally fine and he already won a big fight with the town about it. Mike then proceeds to tell us about all of his cop friends/connections and how he is going to law school (which is doubtful as he is retired in his 70s). After that, we were like, okay, we can deal with the bus if it's legally permittee. Then, a car appears in front of our house with a gas can and propane tank clearly visible in the backseat from our property. I was concerned about something fishy so I reported it. Turns out it was Mike's car. He then confronts me about it, saying that i should just have talked to him, all offended and upset, going as far to state that i committed a cardinal sin by calling a cop on a black man in America (funny because I am a POC). I thought we resolved this and then he then proceeds to park his pickup such that it blocks our driveway. My wife and I thought we could talk to him about it. It turns out to be a big blow out fight. He says that we aren't using "logic" because it is conceivably possible to back into our driveway. Apparently, my wife and I are bad drivers to have issues maneuvering (and going over our curve) around a bus and truck parked in and around our driveway. The problem is that my wife and I both have cars and have borrowed my dad's truck to make the moving easier. We can't park everything in our driveway as he has been blocking it and we are afraid to park cars on the street because the road becomes so narrow that a sedan can just barely pass through. This guy has at least three cars and a bunch of motorcycles parked in his driveway so moving it to there is out of the picture. As we have met some of our other new neighbors, they all have had issues with Mike regarding parking and this dilapidated bus. So far, we know of at least 6 people who have fought with him. One said that this bus hasn't even moved for over 10 years. We have all tried to talk to him to resolve this on our own and he cannot be civil or respectful. We want to do something about this bus and parking issue but aren't sure what, if any, our legal rights are. Is there anything we can do to make him move the bus and stop blocking our driveway? | [
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iumuve603kie | I cannot park in my own driveway because of our Neighbor. What are the options to remove his bus from the road? I live in MD. My wife and I just bought a house in a small neighborhood. Our house is on a one-lane road that allows parking on both sides of the street. The issue is that our neighbor "Mike" across the street has a large, old Greyhound-style bus. It takes up a lot of space on the road (width and length) and has even attached a trailer behind the bus, completely using all of the space to park in front of his house and part of his neighbors house. This leads him to not only block a lot of space, but also park in front of our house, often blocking our driveway because he has nowhere else to park. The first night we were moving in some stuff, Mike comes up to us and introduces himself. The first thing he says is that his bus is totally fine and he already won a big fight with the town about it. Mike then proceeds to tell us about all of his cop friends/connections and how he is going to law school (which is doubtful as he is retired in his 70s). After that, we were like, okay, we can deal with the bus if it's legally permittee. Then, a car appears in front of our house with a gas can and propane tank clearly visible in the backseat from our property. I was concerned about something fishy so I reported it. Turns out it was Mike's car. He then confronts me about it, saying that i should just have talked to him, all offended and upset, going as far to state that i committed a cardinal sin by calling a cop on a black man in America (funny because I am a POC). I thought we resolved this and then he then proceeds to park his pickup such that it blocks our driveway. My wife and I thought we could talk to him about it. It turns out to be a big blow out fight. He says that we aren't using "logic" because it is conceivably possible to back into our driveway. Apparently, my wife and I are bad drivers to have issues maneuvering (and going over our curve) around a bus and truck parked in and around our driveway. The problem is that my wife and I both have cars and have borrowed my dad's truck to make the moving easier. We can't park everything in our driveway as he has been blocking it and we are afraid to park cars on the street because the road becomes so narrow that a sedan can just barely pass through. This guy has at least three cars and a bunch of motorcycles parked in his driveway so moving it to there is out of the picture. As we have met some of our other new neighbors, they all have had issues with Mike regarding parking and this dilapidated bus. So far, we know of at least 6 people who have fought with him. One said that this bus hasn't even moved for over 10 years. We have all tried to talk to him to resolve this on our own and he cannot be civil or respectful. We want to do something about this bus and parking issue but aren't sure what, if any, our legal rights are. Is there anything we can do to make him move the bus and stop blocking our driveway? | [
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"content": "This is a safety issue, in the event of a fire how would a fire truck get in there? I'd contact the local fire department.",
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"content": "One thing I would add is that this is a condition that materially affects the value and usability of your property. Based on your account it seems inconceivable that the prior homeowners were unaware. This is something that should have been disclosed to you during the real estate transaction. If it wasn't then you could (if you really wanted to press it) go after the prior homeowners. Obviously that wouldn't fix the bus issue as it stands now, but if you feel this was hidden from you you might pursue it.",
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xipdjzzt7t3n | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "Are you sure Sis has never used your name when arrested? You can self check your FBI record here: https://www.fbi.gov/services/cjis/identity-history-summary-checks Your state should have a similar process. You should check any state you, or sis, have lived. Sometimes state records do not make it to FBI database.",
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "Honestly if it's affecting your life that much, maybe consider legally changing your name to something that will not be confused with her name. Maybe weird advice but, consider it an option.",
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xipdjzi6kg91 | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "This will never be fixed, practically speaking. It might happen less if you change your name. I'm a pediatrician. I see kids with this situation not too uncommonly. One family named the twins \"John Jacob Jingleheimer Jr.\" and \"John Jacob Jingleheimer II\". Those kids records are fucked forever. Their medical records, credit reports, legal documents, etc, will be permanently entwined. Even in our hospital, stuff was being documented in the wrong chart all the time. People think it's cute to give the twins the same/similar names. But causes a hell of a headache at traffic stops and when applying for mortgages.",
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "My sister and I suffered the same: similar names, same address, our socials being literally ONE DIGIT OFF from one another despite different birthdates (our birthdate also look like a typo between the two). Once we got separate addresses, and later different last names, life became easier. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, but it starts with untangling where you can.",
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xipdjzh032s5 | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "This will never be fixed, practically speaking. It might happen less if you change your name. I'm a pediatrician. I see kids with this situation not too uncommonly. One family named the twins \"John Jacob Jingleheimer Jr.\" and \"John Jacob Jingleheimer II\". Those kids records are fucked forever. Their medical records, credit reports, legal documents, etc, will be permanently entwined. Even in our hospital, stuff was being documented in the wrong chart all the time. People think it's cute to give the twins the same/similar names. But causes a hell of a headache at traffic stops and when applying for mortgages.",
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "Honestly if it's affecting your life that much, maybe consider legally changing your name to something that will not be confused with her name. Maybe weird advice but, consider it an option.",
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xipdjzuic0ok | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "This will never be fixed, practically speaking. It might happen less if you change your name. I'm a pediatrician. I see kids with this situation not too uncommonly. One family named the twins \"John Jacob Jingleheimer Jr.\" and \"John Jacob Jingleheimer II\". Those kids records are fucked forever. Their medical records, credit reports, legal documents, etc, will be permanently entwined. Even in our hospital, stuff was being documented in the wrong chart all the time. People think it's cute to give the twins the same/similar names. But causes a hell of a headache at traffic stops and when applying for mortgages.",
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "Not the exact same issue but may help with the motor vehicle reports: I had an issue when I was shopping for auto insurance where the company was asking for information for an accident involved on my record that I was not involved in and had no knowledge of. I found out that they were using my record from Lexis Nexis, which is one of the data companies. As a consumer, I could request my own report from Lexis Nexis and found out that the accident was involving someone who I lived with, but was my report anyways. I ended up being able to resolve it with the insurance company, but there was a way for me as the consumer to dispute info in my Lexis Nexis report. So maybe try requesting your own consumer file from Lexis Nexis (or whatever other company that's done a background check on you in the past) and see if you can at least get some if the incorrect info removed.",
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xipdjz5gmc7e | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "This will never be fixed, practically speaking. It might happen less if you change your name. I'm a pediatrician. I see kids with this situation not too uncommonly. One family named the twins \"John Jacob Jingleheimer Jr.\" and \"John Jacob Jingleheimer II\". Those kids records are fucked forever. Their medical records, credit reports, legal documents, etc, will be permanently entwined. Even in our hospital, stuff was being documented in the wrong chart all the time. People think it's cute to give the twins the same/similar names. But causes a hell of a headache at traffic stops and when applying for mortgages.",
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "Have you pulled your credit report? If there are mistakes on it you can send dispute letters.",
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xipdjzq0xub8 | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "My sister and I suffered the same: similar names, same address, our socials being literally ONE DIGIT OFF from one another despite different birthdates (our birthdate also look like a typo between the two). Once we got separate addresses, and later different last names, life became easier. There’s a light at the end of the tunnel, but it starts with untangling where you can.",
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"content": "The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before…",
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"content": "Honestly if it's affecting your life that much, maybe consider legally changing your name to something that will not be confused with her name. Maybe weird advice but, consider it an option.",
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xipdjzbp2v6v | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "Not the exact same issue but may help with the motor vehicle reports: I had an issue when I was shopping for auto insurance where the company was asking for information for an accident involved on my record that I was not involved in and had no knowledge of. I found out that they were using my record from Lexis Nexis, which is one of the data companies. As a consumer, I could request my own report from Lexis Nexis and found out that the accident was involving someone who I lived with, but was my report anyways. I ended up being able to resolve it with the insurance company, but there was a way for me as the consumer to dispute info in my Lexis Nexis report. So maybe try requesting your own consumer file from Lexis Nexis (or whatever other company that's done a background check on you in the past) and see if you can at least get some if the incorrect info removed.",
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xipdjz5s47s8 | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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"content": "I know this would be a rash decision, but what if you changed your first name? You already have a different social, meaning that the confusion comes in with having similar names and wondering if its multiple people. Say your name is: Johnny Cash Lemons. You could be Robert Johnny Lemons. Everyone you know continues to call you Johnny, but legally as time goes on all reports indicated you are Robert Lemons.",
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"content": "Have you pulled your credit report? If there are mistakes on it you can send dispute letters.",
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xipdjzjmarsr | The system thinks me and my twin sister are the same person…she has NEVER USED MY IDENTITY… we have very similar names with the same initials and the same birthdate and address but two different socials My sister has a criminal background I don’t, she had her license suspended i didnt, she has a warrant and I don’t….every time a get a new job they give me a hard time…thinking I have a criminal background and I have to prove that it’s not me…i just got a motor vehicle report done and they put her license suspension on my record as well…so now it looks like I have a suspicion along with a criminal background…even though she got her license first and I didn’t get mines until years later and I have never been arrested….we have very similar names and the same birthday and address but we have TWO DIFFERENT SOCIALS….What can i do about this and who can i talk to…they even took my car thinking I was my sister because of unpaid parking tickets and I don’t have any unpaid tickets….they think shes my “alias” I’m living in a nightmare…again she has never used my identity…we even go to the same doctors office and they got her mixed up with me before… | [
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amt51742vacr | Sister (25) has been finding her clothes with semen on them, most evidence points to it being our uncle. What can she do? Let me start by saying our uncle is around 65 and had a stroke that caused him to be on a feeding tube three years ago, but has lived with our parents for over 10 years. My sister also lives with our parents because she’s currently in school. My younger brother (22) lives with my parents as well. They live in the state of Massachusetts, as do I. This whole fiasco started about in October, where my sister left her a clean set of clothes on her bed for when she got out of the shower, and her underwear went missing while she was in the shower. She looked everywhere in her room but didn’t find it, so she put another one after drying up. After getting dressed, she finds her underwear covered in semen underneath the kitchen sink. She immediately screams for my brother to come into the kitchen, where she shows him the underwear but he says it wasn’t him. The only other person in the house at the time was our uncle, because the outside cameras show no cars in the driveway other than my sister’s. They confront uncle about it but he says it wasn’t him, so nothing comes out of it. Fast forward a day after that, and my sister again leaves out her clothes on her bed for after she’s out of the shower. She makes sure to lock her door and brings the key with her into the bathroom, where she also locks the door. The only one in the house at that time was our uncle and our mother. Sister comes out to find her door open, and her underwear is missing. She screams for my mom who rushes to her room. Sister tells my mom what happened the day before, then tells her she’s afraid it happened again. Our mother was furious, and goes to look under the sink where my sister found her underwear last time. Sure enough, there’s her underwear covered in semen again. This continues to happen once a week over the course of a month, so my sister decides to change her door and lock. This stops her clothes from going missing for about three months. So now it’s January and my sister, brother, and parents all go out for dinner with me for my birthday , but our uncle stays home because he “isn’t feeling well”. When they return home, my sister finds two of her shirts on her bed covered in semen. She’s had enough and yells at my uncle telling him to leave her alone or she’ll call the police, but Uncle says it wasn’t him and goes into his room. My sister decides to buy 3 EXTRA LOCKS for her door the day after for extra security, and gives her spare key to me since I live in my own house. Ever since then it hasn’t happened, but my sister is very afraid that our uncle might try and rape her. She refuses to shower at our parents house so she goes to her friends house to shower. I let her sleep over my house whenever I can, but I fear for her safety. My mother doesn’t want to kick out our uncle because he can’t work and needs special food packs for his feeding tube. What kind of legal action, if any, can we take? I’m willing to buy a camera to catch him in the act if need be, but I am very worried for my sister’s safety. | [
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"content": "You can put him in a nursing home. He is old enough and on bad enough shape. Your sister has the right to feel safe at her parents. Your uncles care could be covered by the state. Check into medicare and medicaid. They will usually pay for nursing home care.",
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ien92mb7qpsw | Brother critically injured on the job, I was recently contact by OSHA then a second insurance company. Advice needed. (MA) Hi all. I really need some advice. Last year, my younger brother (31) was critically injured on the job. He stepped out on some scaffolding that witnesses say crumbled like paper. He fell 30 feet to the concrete below with the scaffolding coming down on top of him. His injuries were catastrophic. He broke his neck, had a traumatic brain injury, traumatic cardiac arrest (he was dead for eight minutes) broke his clavicle, multiple ribs, femur, tib-fib and has multiple lacerations and contusions. He was life-flighted to the nearest level one trauma center. He was in the ICU for three months and had three surgeries. We were told he may never walk, talk or be able to take care of himself again. He went from the ICU to a long-term rehab. He defied everyone. In eight months he has relearned to walk, talk, do all his own ADL’s and every single day is improving. He will be discharged this coming Monday with outpatient care for occupational and physical therapy, some speech language pathology and with his neurosurgeon and PCP. He is not at a medical end result and everyone on his care team is uncertain how far he may actually progress. There is a chance he could go back to his same type of work as much as there is a chance he may not. He will be living with me for a while. During this time I had brief contact with his bosses who were exceptional. They took care of filing his worker’s compensation claim (or however that works) and contacted OSHA to do an investigation. Since his accident last year, he has received checks bi-weekly that seem like a good portion of what he had been making and all of his hospital and rehab bills have been paid to date (over 1 million dollars.) His checks were direct deposited in to his savings account and every cent is there for his discharge. This is where things get dicey. On Monday, an OSHA investigator contacted me indicating that he had completed his report and was submitting his findings. He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. | [
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"content": "DO NOT call the scaffolding company back under any circumstances. They are fully aware of the severity of their evidently multiple, ongoing fuckups and would love nothing more than to pay you an amount that sounds like a lot but is a slap on the wrist compared to what they deserve. A lawyer should be your most immediate priority, and with that OSHA report any lawyer would be eager to take your case, putting it extremely lightly. They will navigate all of the concerns you have. You CAN NOT do this anymore without a lawyer OP, please try to take some time off work Monday if possible and meet with a few. Regardless, DO NOT call the scaffolding company back, do not answer the phone if they call, do not communicate with them in any way unless directed to by the lawyer you have hired.",
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"content": "This is legit lawyer territory you're in. Worth noting that this line seems shady: \"She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts.\" ...in that most likely the scaffolding company is trying to low ball you and frighten you with an artificial time limit before you get an attorney. The Massachusett's Bar Association can help you find a worker's compensation attorney. Sorry for your brother's injuries and good luck.",
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ien92mnpwsrr | Brother critically injured on the job, I was recently contact by OSHA then a second insurance company. Advice needed. (MA) Hi all. I really need some advice. Last year, my younger brother (31) was critically injured on the job. He stepped out on some scaffolding that witnesses say crumbled like paper. He fell 30 feet to the concrete below with the scaffolding coming down on top of him. His injuries were catastrophic. He broke his neck, had a traumatic brain injury, traumatic cardiac arrest (he was dead for eight minutes) broke his clavicle, multiple ribs, femur, tib-fib and has multiple lacerations and contusions. He was life-flighted to the nearest level one trauma center. He was in the ICU for three months and had three surgeries. We were told he may never walk, talk or be able to take care of himself again. He went from the ICU to a long-term rehab. He defied everyone. In eight months he has relearned to walk, talk, do all his own ADL’s and every single day is improving. He will be discharged this coming Monday with outpatient care for occupational and physical therapy, some speech language pathology and with his neurosurgeon and PCP. He is not at a medical end result and everyone on his care team is uncertain how far he may actually progress. There is a chance he could go back to his same type of work as much as there is a chance he may not. He will be living with me for a while. During this time I had brief contact with his bosses who were exceptional. They took care of filing his worker’s compensation claim (or however that works) and contacted OSHA to do an investigation. Since his accident last year, he has received checks bi-weekly that seem like a good portion of what he had been making and all of his hospital and rehab bills have been paid to date (over 1 million dollars.) His checks were direct deposited in to his savings account and every cent is there for his discharge. This is where things get dicey. On Monday, an OSHA investigator contacted me indicating that he had completed his report and was submitting his findings. He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. | [
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"content": "Workers comp could place a lien on any settlement with the at fault party. This is a complicated scenario with many potential variables. You need an attorney, stat.",
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ien92mcelyo8 | Brother critically injured on the job, I was recently contact by OSHA then a second insurance company. Advice needed. (MA) Hi all. I really need some advice. Last year, my younger brother (31) was critically injured on the job. He stepped out on some scaffolding that witnesses say crumbled like paper. He fell 30 feet to the concrete below with the scaffolding coming down on top of him. His injuries were catastrophic. He broke his neck, had a traumatic brain injury, traumatic cardiac arrest (he was dead for eight minutes) broke his clavicle, multiple ribs, femur, tib-fib and has multiple lacerations and contusions. He was life-flighted to the nearest level one trauma center. He was in the ICU for three months and had three surgeries. We were told he may never walk, talk or be able to take care of himself again. He went from the ICU to a long-term rehab. He defied everyone. In eight months he has relearned to walk, talk, do all his own ADL’s and every single day is improving. He will be discharged this coming Monday with outpatient care for occupational and physical therapy, some speech language pathology and with his neurosurgeon and PCP. He is not at a medical end result and everyone on his care team is uncertain how far he may actually progress. There is a chance he could go back to his same type of work as much as there is a chance he may not. He will be living with me for a while. During this time I had brief contact with his bosses who were exceptional. They took care of filing his worker’s compensation claim (or however that works) and contacted OSHA to do an investigation. Since his accident last year, he has received checks bi-weekly that seem like a good portion of what he had been making and all of his hospital and rehab bills have been paid to date (over 1 million dollars.) His checks were direct deposited in to his savings account and every cent is there for his discharge. This is where things get dicey. On Monday, an OSHA investigator contacted me indicating that he had completed his report and was submitting his findings. He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. | [
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ien92m0r35gc | Brother critically injured on the job, I was recently contact by OSHA then a second insurance company. Advice needed. (MA) Hi all. I really need some advice. Last year, my younger brother (31) was critically injured on the job. He stepped out on some scaffolding that witnesses say crumbled like paper. He fell 30 feet to the concrete below with the scaffolding coming down on top of him. His injuries were catastrophic. He broke his neck, had a traumatic brain injury, traumatic cardiac arrest (he was dead for eight minutes) broke his clavicle, multiple ribs, femur, tib-fib and has multiple lacerations and contusions. He was life-flighted to the nearest level one trauma center. He was in the ICU for three months and had three surgeries. We were told he may never walk, talk or be able to take care of himself again. He went from the ICU to a long-term rehab. He defied everyone. In eight months he has relearned to walk, talk, do all his own ADL’s and every single day is improving. He will be discharged this coming Monday with outpatient care for occupational and physical therapy, some speech language pathology and with his neurosurgeon and PCP. He is not at a medical end result and everyone on his care team is uncertain how far he may actually progress. There is a chance he could go back to his same type of work as much as there is a chance he may not. He will be living with me for a while. During this time I had brief contact with his bosses who were exceptional. They took care of filing his worker’s compensation claim (or however that works) and contacted OSHA to do an investigation. Since his accident last year, he has received checks bi-weekly that seem like a good portion of what he had been making and all of his hospital and rehab bills have been paid to date (over 1 million dollars.) His checks were direct deposited in to his savings account and every cent is there for his discharge. This is where things get dicey. On Monday, an OSHA investigator contacted me indicating that he had completed his report and was submitting his findings. He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. | [
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"content": "Lawyer. Now. Do not talk to the scaffolding company. Any offer they make can be clawed back by both your brothers insurance company and workers comp to pay for his treatment if the employer is not deemed to be the responsible party. They are offering you a settlement because 1) they know they're at fault, and of that OSHA report is as damning as it sounds they are well and truly fucked, and 2) have done an analysis on how much they can offer you to get you to go away and sign an NDA and it is damn sure to be a lot less than their actual legal exposure. If they're offering you 7 figures for an injury that has already cost 7 figures in treatment..... Do the math.",
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ien92ma6fcaq | Brother critically injured on the job, I was recently contact by OSHA then a second insurance company. Advice needed. (MA) Hi all. I really need some advice. Last year, my younger brother (31) was critically injured on the job. He stepped out on some scaffolding that witnesses say crumbled like paper. He fell 30 feet to the concrete below with the scaffolding coming down on top of him. His injuries were catastrophic. He broke his neck, had a traumatic brain injury, traumatic cardiac arrest (he was dead for eight minutes) broke his clavicle, multiple ribs, femur, tib-fib and has multiple lacerations and contusions. He was life-flighted to the nearest level one trauma center. He was in the ICU for three months and had three surgeries. We were told he may never walk, talk or be able to take care of himself again. He went from the ICU to a long-term rehab. He defied everyone. In eight months he has relearned to walk, talk, do all his own ADL’s and every single day is improving. He will be discharged this coming Monday with outpatient care for occupational and physical therapy, some speech language pathology and with his neurosurgeon and PCP. He is not at a medical end result and everyone on his care team is uncertain how far he may actually progress. There is a chance he could go back to his same type of work as much as there is a chance he may not. He will be living with me for a while. During this time I had brief contact with his bosses who were exceptional. They took care of filing his worker’s compensation claim (or however that works) and contacted OSHA to do an investigation. Since his accident last year, he has received checks bi-weekly that seem like a good portion of what he had been making and all of his hospital and rehab bills have been paid to date (over 1 million dollars.) His checks were direct deposited in to his savings account and every cent is there for his discharge. This is where things get dicey. On Monday, an OSHA investigator contacted me indicating that he had completed his report and was submitting his findings. He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. | [
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"content": "Lawyer. Now. Do not talk to the scaffolding company. Any offer they make can be clawed back by both your brothers insurance company and workers comp to pay for his treatment if the employer is not deemed to be the responsible party. They are offering you a settlement because 1) they know they're at fault, and of that OSHA report is as damning as it sounds they are well and truly fucked, and 2) have done an analysis on how much they can offer you to get you to go away and sign an NDA and it is damn sure to be a lot less than their actual legal exposure. If they're offering you 7 figures for an injury that has already cost 7 figures in treatment..... Do the math.",
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"content": "This is more negotiating advice rather than legal per se, but I suspect that the adjuster's implication that this offer vanishes on Monday is gamesmanship. While the offer will officially be \"rescinded\" on Monday, nothing stops them from remaking the same offer again. \"Rescinding\" an offer only means that you can no longer unilaterally bind them to the offer by accepting. As others have indicated though, you desperately need to speak to a lawyer. They're trying to get you to ack quickly so that you rush into the settlement and dont get a lawyer",
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ien92mifjyk2 | Brother critically injured on the job, I was recently contact by OSHA then a second insurance company. Advice needed. (MA) Hi all. I really need some advice. Last year, my younger brother (31) was critically injured on the job. He stepped out on some scaffolding that witnesses say crumbled like paper. He fell 30 feet to the concrete below with the scaffolding coming down on top of him. His injuries were catastrophic. He broke his neck, had a traumatic brain injury, traumatic cardiac arrest (he was dead for eight minutes) broke his clavicle, multiple ribs, femur, tib-fib and has multiple lacerations and contusions. He was life-flighted to the nearest level one trauma center. He was in the ICU for three months and had three surgeries. We were told he may never walk, talk or be able to take care of himself again. He went from the ICU to a long-term rehab. He defied everyone. In eight months he has relearned to walk, talk, do all his own ADL’s and every single day is improving. He will be discharged this coming Monday with outpatient care for occupational and physical therapy, some speech language pathology and with his neurosurgeon and PCP. He is not at a medical end result and everyone on his care team is uncertain how far he may actually progress. There is a chance he could go back to his same type of work as much as there is a chance he may not. He will be living with me for a while. During this time I had brief contact with his bosses who were exceptional. They took care of filing his worker’s compensation claim (or however that works) and contacted OSHA to do an investigation. Since his accident last year, he has received checks bi-weekly that seem like a good portion of what he had been making and all of his hospital and rehab bills have been paid to date (over 1 million dollars.) His checks were direct deposited in to his savings account and every cent is there for his discharge. This is where things get dicey. On Monday, an OSHA investigator contacted me indicating that he had completed his report and was submitting his findings. He wanted to let me know that his report found the scaffolding company (separate from my brothers job) to be completely at fault. The scaffolding was not installed or maintained properly, certifying documents had been falsified and employee safety training documents were also falsified. There were findings of employee alcohol intoxication on the job without reprimand or termination. He said the report was in the mail and in an off-hand way mentioned if I had not gotten an attorney for my brother, I should as soon as possible. The week was crazy with getting my home prepared for my brother being discharged, setting up appointments and I also work a full time job. On Friday I received a call from a woman who called herself an adjuster for an insurance company that represents the scaffolding company. She said she would like to speak with myself and my brother and discuss settling things quickly so my brother can focus on recovery and we don’t need to waste time with the courts. She threw out a number (seven figures) and asked that I call her by Monday next week or the offer is rescinded. She then called again this morning and said she had “wiggle room” to offer a bit more but to please call. I’m at a loss. I work in excess of 60 hours a week in medicine, I take care of my brother the remaining time and coordinating everything that’s been needed to get him home has been exhausting. I thought maybe I should speak with a lawyer but everything on google said their offices are closed on Saturday’s. If he accepts this settlement what happens with his worker’s compensation? If the scaffolding company and not his job is at fault, then wouldn’t they want their money back? His job has paid for everything and it doesn’t sound like they should have. If he’s not at a medical end result, how is it determined that he receives x amount of dollars if that makes sense. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated. | [
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"content": "Lawyer. Now. Do not talk to the scaffolding company. Any offer they make can be clawed back by both your brothers insurance company and workers comp to pay for his treatment if the employer is not deemed to be the responsible party. They are offering you a settlement because 1) they know they're at fault, and of that OSHA report is as damning as it sounds they are well and truly fucked, and 2) have done an analysis on how much they can offer you to get you to go away and sign an NDA and it is damn sure to be a lot less than their actual legal exposure. If they're offering you 7 figures for an injury that has already cost 7 figures in treatment..... Do the math.",
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vftzxdf59pwa | Neighbor put up a fence while we left on holiday A neighboring property owner in DC had a fence erected across our backyard when we went away on holiday. We returned to find the fence and had it removed because they came inside our backyard and removed our gate to then put the fence up. We have been here for many years without any knowledge until recently that they were entering our yard without our knowledge. Can someone do this secretly and get away with it? | [
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"content": "Not a lawyer - Do you know where your actual legal lot lines for the property are? Have you had the property surveyed to determine where the property lines are? Your neighbors may have placed the fence on the surveyed property lines.",
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"content": "All fences in DC need a permit - a postcard permit, I believe, is what is generally necessary. DCRA has a permit search on their website. That'd be my first step. Second step is to call DCRA and talk to them. Hell hath no fury like a city planning department scorned.",
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q7xy8wdh6kpu | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "Not your lawyer but you sort of hit on the crux of your case: did the delay of 11 days cause additional damage (to the tendon/ligaments or otherwise). That may be difficult to sort out as your mechanism of injury sounds like it was pretty severe. There's no doubt that the first ER made a mistake but the question then becomes: what are your damages? If the 11 days of waiting caused additional damage as you suspect, you may have a case worth pursuing. If the 11 days didn't cause any additional damage and your damages are just 11 days of bad pain....you may have trouble finding an attorney that will take your case. Regardless, I'm glad you got a more precise diagnosis and hope you're on the mend.",
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"content": "Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this??",
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q7xy8wkw9v12 | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "Not your lawyer but you sort of hit on the crux of your case: did the delay of 11 days cause additional damage (to the tendon/ligaments or otherwise). That may be difficult to sort out as your mechanism of injury sounds like it was pretty severe. There's no doubt that the first ER made a mistake but the question then becomes: what are your damages? If the 11 days of waiting caused additional damage as you suspect, you may have a case worth pursuing. If the 11 days didn't cause any additional damage and your damages are just 11 days of bad pain....you may have trouble finding an attorney that will take your case. Regardless, I'm glad you got a more precise diagnosis and hope you're on the mend.",
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q7xy8w5xkvg3 | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "Not a lawyer. You should definitely look for a medical malpractice lawyer but don't be surprised if no one takes the case. It SHOULD be very cut and dry that yes, the hospital should absolutely have caught the fractures and should be held responsible for *not looking where you told them you got hurt* and thus missing the damage, but depending on your state you may not have a case at all. Some states require ridiculous conditions to be met for medical malpractice that may not apply in your situation. A few years ago I developed a life threatening post op infection. Surgeon on call told me to go to the hospital so I did. Hospital #1 refused to do any imaging despite my repeated requests and refused to contact my surgeon. Based on their behavior I'm pretty sure they thought I was there for pain meds (I wasn't and can't even take them, which is noted in my chart) because they were rude, dismissive, ignored my allergies, and at one point a doctor came to \"check\" on my fresh incisions by *pressing down on them* to make sure they were actually real. Sent me home saying nothing is wrong and obligatory \"come back if it gets worse\". Two days later I ended up at hospital #2 where I was told I had a life threatening infection that required emergency surgery and hospitalization, plus a month of hardcore antibiotics and many months of PT because of the emergency surgery. They gave me 50/50 odds and were horrified about what hospital #1 did. After I was discharged I tried to find someone to take my case and no one would, despite doctors telling me that had hospital #1 done its job I wouldn't have needed the emergency surgery, hospital stay, or PT, just a few weeks of antibiotics. I have permanent health issues now because of the infection and aftermath that I would not have if they had caught the infection early, including chronic pain. I'm still upset that no one would take my case, but it is what it is. Hospitals get away with so much crap these days.",
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q7xy8we6ji9z | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "Not a lawyer. You should definitely look for a medical malpractice lawyer but don't be surprised if no one takes the case. It SHOULD be very cut and dry that yes, the hospital should absolutely have caught the fractures and should be held responsible for *not looking where you told them you got hurt* and thus missing the damage, but depending on your state you may not have a case at all. Some states require ridiculous conditions to be met for medical malpractice that may not apply in your situation. A few years ago I developed a life threatening post op infection. Surgeon on call told me to go to the hospital so I did. Hospital #1 refused to do any imaging despite my repeated requests and refused to contact my surgeon. Based on their behavior I'm pretty sure they thought I was there for pain meds (I wasn't and can't even take them, which is noted in my chart) because they were rude, dismissive, ignored my allergies, and at one point a doctor came to \"check\" on my fresh incisions by *pressing down on them* to make sure they were actually real. Sent me home saying nothing is wrong and obligatory \"come back if it gets worse\". Two days later I ended up at hospital #2 where I was told I had a life threatening infection that required emergency surgery and hospitalization, plus a month of hardcore antibiotics and many months of PT because of the emergency surgery. They gave me 50/50 odds and were horrified about what hospital #1 did. After I was discharged I tried to find someone to take my case and no one would, despite doctors telling me that had hospital #1 done its job I wouldn't have needed the emergency surgery, hospital stay, or PT, just a few weeks of antibiotics. I have permanent health issues now because of the infection and aftermath that I would not have if they had caught the infection early, including chronic pain. I'm still upset that no one would take my case, but it is what it is. Hospitals get away with so much crap these days.",
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q7xy8whw96iw | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "I am a plain-old registered nurse. I can order extremity x-rays without a doctor telling me to when someone walks into the ER and they \"need it\" (I'm deliberately leaving this vague). OPs complaint would have easily crossed into that threshold for me. At first glance, it is pretty whack that they didn't have plain films of the foot/ankle done. I distinctly remember a very similar case involving a fall from a ladder where my patient came into my hospital after having been at another and was told he was ok but had not had appropriate imaging done in my opinion - we had a long wait in our lobby but I went ahead and put in for ankle films - he also had bilateral extremity injuries that were not found previously, which I found to be pretty unfortunate. I am not a lawyer but I have heard/seen/read plenty of times that medmal is extremely specific and certainly requires a lawyer and specialty support. Additionally, I read so many healthcare cases on here that clearly have facts missing or have the obvious tone of a layperson that would likely have not even seen 95% of what was happening around them. While I think it was a miss that they didn't take a look at your feet/ankles the first time around, a medmal lawyer and expert consultation would have to agree after looking at all of the case in detail.",
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q7xy8wx2bh0b | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "Not a lawyer. You should definitely look for a medical malpractice lawyer but don't be surprised if no one takes the case. It SHOULD be very cut and dry that yes, the hospital should absolutely have caught the fractures and should be held responsible for *not looking where you told them you got hurt* and thus missing the damage, but depending on your state you may not have a case at all. Some states require ridiculous conditions to be met for medical malpractice that may not apply in your situation. A few years ago I developed a life threatening post op infection. Surgeon on call told me to go to the hospital so I did. Hospital #1 refused to do any imaging despite my repeated requests and refused to contact my surgeon. Based on their behavior I'm pretty sure they thought I was there for pain meds (I wasn't and can't even take them, which is noted in my chart) because they were rude, dismissive, ignored my allergies, and at one point a doctor came to \"check\" on my fresh incisions by *pressing down on them* to make sure they were actually real. Sent me home saying nothing is wrong and obligatory \"come back if it gets worse\". Two days later I ended up at hospital #2 where I was told I had a life threatening infection that required emergency surgery and hospitalization, plus a month of hardcore antibiotics and many months of PT because of the emergency surgery. They gave me 50/50 odds and were horrified about what hospital #1 did. After I was discharged I tried to find someone to take my case and no one would, despite doctors telling me that had hospital #1 done its job I wouldn't have needed the emergency surgery, hospital stay, or PT, just a few weeks of antibiotics. I have permanent health issues now because of the infection and aftermath that I would not have if they had caught the infection early, including chronic pain. I'm still upset that no one would take my case, but it is what it is. Hospitals get away with so much crap these days.",
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"content": "Short answer yes. Your damages and legal claim here is large enough to say that you need to consult a malpractice attorney in your state. You have have various theories of recovery, since the ER may not have imaged the correct area even though you described an ankle injury, you were on it for 11 days, the ER may have failed to read an image of the ankle if one was taken, there may have been signs on injury in the imaged area, etc. The questions become very fact specific and very state law specific on damages and legal liability. Suffice it to say, you likely have a cause of action, and you need to consult an attorney.",
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q7xy8wiwqp5k | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "I am a plain-old registered nurse. I can order extremity x-rays without a doctor telling me to when someone walks into the ER and they \"need it\" (I'm deliberately leaving this vague). OPs complaint would have easily crossed into that threshold for me. At first glance, it is pretty whack that they didn't have plain films of the foot/ankle done. I distinctly remember a very similar case involving a fall from a ladder where my patient came into my hospital after having been at another and was told he was ok but had not had appropriate imaging done in my opinion - we had a long wait in our lobby but I went ahead and put in for ankle films - he also had bilateral extremity injuries that were not found previously, which I found to be pretty unfortunate. I am not a lawyer but I have heard/seen/read plenty of times that medmal is extremely specific and certainly requires a lawyer and specialty support. Additionally, I read so many healthcare cases on here that clearly have facts missing or have the obvious tone of a layperson that would likely have not even seen 95% of what was happening around them. While I think it was a miss that they didn't take a look at your feet/ankles the first time around, a medmal lawyer and expert consultation would have to agree after looking at all of the case in detail.",
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q7xy8wz4y2re | Fell 50ft while rock climbing clipped my ankle on a rock in my fall. I went to the ER they did xrays but on my leg not my ankle. Was told I'm fine go home, 2 weeks later at another doctor I find out my talus and calcaneus exploded into hundreds of pieces. Can I hold the hospital responsible It's mid January 2020 When I reached the ground (my belay caught me 20ft before I decked out) immediately there was a 90° indent about and 1.5inches deep on the inside of my ankle. Fully in shock and filled with adrenaline oddly chipper I stated huh that's not supposed to look like that. It was a Sunday so all the clinics were closed and we drove the 40 minutes to the ER. By this time my ankle was so swollen there was no more indent. I told the doctors where I clipped the rock just below the medial( malleolus (the boney area on the inside of your ankle). For whatever reason the hospital took images not of my ankle but of my tib fib (shin) they came back told me I had sprained it and would be fine in a week or two. 8 days in my boss tells me he thinks I really need to get a second opinion. 11 days in I wake up in so much pain it was worse than labor. I straight ugly cried. You know the kind where snot is running down your face and it's hard to actually breathe between the sobbing. Yeah that was me and also the moment I decided a second opinion was needed. This time I went to my local clinic (both the hospital and clinic are part of IHC). When I walked in I told them I was pretty certain the hospital took the wrong images of my ankle and that it was really broken. They gave me that your just here for drugs look and rolled their eyes but agreed to see me. The doctor tells me I'm fine probably just a little in my head and sends me off for imaging. After I wait in his office for what feels like an eternity. He walks in looking at the floor avoiding all eye contact with me. He first asks how much time I have. Then goes onto say there appeared to be several complex fractures and they were waiting for a call from the on call orthopedic surgeon. The surgeon orders a CT scan for the next day and a visit to his office the day after that. The CT scan revealed the absolute devastation of my ankle. My Talus was in probably close to 25+ pieces. The top of my calcaneus had exploded backwards like millions of little pieces of shrapnel. Some of it had almost escaped its fleshy prison. Some of the larger pieces were displaced by 10mm; the smaller pieces like bread crumbs even more so. The swelling was so intense the surgeon told me I needed two weeks of bed rest with my ankle above my heart before he could operate. The surgery took 4 hours. So the thing is I know I fucked my ankle. I just don't think I would have so much tendon/ligament issues had it been caught when I first went to the ER. Instead I had hundreds of bone chips moving around for 2 weeks tearing my ankle apart. Do I have any legal route in this?? | [
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"content": "I am a plain-old registered nurse. I can order extremity x-rays without a doctor telling me to when someone walks into the ER and they \"need it\" (I'm deliberately leaving this vague). OPs complaint would have easily crossed into that threshold for me. At first glance, it is pretty whack that they didn't have plain films of the foot/ankle done. I distinctly remember a very similar case involving a fall from a ladder where my patient came into my hospital after having been at another and was told he was ok but had not had appropriate imaging done in my opinion - we had a long wait in our lobby but I went ahead and put in for ankle films - he also had bilateral extremity injuries that were not found previously, which I found to be pretty unfortunate. I am not a lawyer but I have heard/seen/read plenty of times that medmal is extremely specific and certainly requires a lawyer and specialty support. Additionally, I read so many healthcare cases on here that clearly have facts missing or have the obvious tone of a layperson that would likely have not even seen 95% of what was happening around them. While I think it was a miss that they didn't take a look at your feet/ankles the first time around, a medmal lawyer and expert consultation would have to agree after looking at all of the case in detail.",
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"content": "Short answer yes. Your damages and legal claim here is large enough to say that you need to consult a malpractice attorney in your state. You have have various theories of recovery, since the ER may not have imaged the correct area even though you described an ankle injury, you were on it for 11 days, the ER may have failed to read an image of the ankle if one was taken, there may have been signs on injury in the imaged area, etc. The questions become very fact specific and very state law specific on damages and legal liability. Suffice it to say, you likely have a cause of action, and you need to consult an attorney.",
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xi0wopdqpk9r | Ex girlfriend wants me to pay for her medical bills A few years ago, I was in a very bad relationship and in an argument with my ex, where I tried to leave the apartment, but she was pulling and dragging me, to the point where I had to shove her off of me. The breaking point was when she thought I was cheating on her with a classmate and she ended up destroying my stuff and striking me several times to the point where I had to call the police. In the past few years she was sending me terrible messages and I made sure to screenshot everything she sent, refusing to have any contact with her. Now she says, that when I shoved her, she sustained and injury, for which I am liable for all medical charges. Can she legally do this? She never contacted the police, however I have proof her striking me, calling the police, and of her constantly harassing me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. | [
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"content": "You need to block this person. Phone. Social Media, etc. She can sue, but it would be a very long/tough battle and unless she is cash rich, she won’t be able to afford the process. Block her.",
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"content": "Ex girlfriend wants me to pay for her medical bills A few years ago, I was in a very bad relationship and in an argument with my ex, where I tried to leave the apartment, but she was pulling and dragging me, to the point where I had to shove her off of me. The breaking point was when she thought I was cheating on her with a classmate and she ended up destroying my stuff and striking me several times to the point where I had to call the police. In the past few years she was sending me terrible messages and I made sure to screenshot everything she sent, refusing to have any contact with her. Now she says, that when I shoved her, she sustained and injury, for which I am liable for all medical charges. Can she legally do this? She never contacted the police, however I have proof her striking me, calling the police, and of her constantly harassing me. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.",
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"content": "She’s just trying to stay in your life. Don’t ever respond to anything she says or does and try your best to live as though she doesn’t exist.",
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ilvp8zbp8mc6 | [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next? | [
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"content": "The other users are right. They can sue her. Before they do so they might try involving Animal Control. If they find sufficient information to cite her for this offense, the court may order her to pay losses as restitution.",
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"content": "The child's parents can sue the neighbor for their medical bills. Depending on how much they are, they may be able to sue in small claims. The small claims limit in Iowa is $6,500.",
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "351.28 Liability for damages. “ The owner of a dog shall be liable to an injured party for all damages done by the dog, when the dog is caught in the action of worrying, maiming, or killing a domestic animal, or the dog is attacking or attempting to bite a person, except when the party damaged is doing an unlawful act, directly contributing to the injury. This section does not apply to damage done by a dog affected with hydrophobia unless the owner of the dog had reasonable grounds to know that the dog was afflicted with hydrophobia and by reasonable effort might have prevented the injury.” Iowa is a strict liability state which means the owner is liable. A lawsuit may need to be filed.",
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"content": "The child's parents can sue the neighbor for their medical bills. Depending on how much they are, they may be able to sue in small claims. The small claims limit in Iowa is $6,500.",
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ilvp8zebjqyq | [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next? | [
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "351.28 Liability for damages. “ The owner of a dog shall be liable to an injured party for all damages done by the dog, when the dog is caught in the action of worrying, maiming, or killing a domestic animal, or the dog is attacking or attempting to bite a person, except when the party damaged is doing an unlawful act, directly contributing to the injury. This section does not apply to damage done by a dog affected with hydrophobia unless the owner of the dog had reasonable grounds to know that the dog was afflicted with hydrophobia and by reasonable effort might have prevented the injury.” Iowa is a strict liability state which means the owner is liable. A lawsuit may need to be filed.",
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "Question: Assuming the neighbor has a homeowners policy, and that policy would cover injuries caused by pets, what are the odds that coverage would apply where, as here, the pet has escaped from the insured property? Alternatively, what about OP’s friend’s own home owners policy assuming the friend’s son was on the friend’s property when the dog bit his/her son? I don’t know what OP’s friend’s costs are, but if there’s an angle to bring in the neighbor’s insurance policy, or to allow the friend’s insurer(s) to subrogate, it may improve OP’s friend’s ability to recover and/or make the process less time consuming.",
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ilvp8z5jid0b | [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next? | [
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "It sounds like the dog owner is trying to deny responsibility because she doesn't have (or doesn't want you to know she has) insurance. The legal term for that is \"bullshit.\" She's trying to bullshit your friend. Your friend should contact a personal injury attorney. They will almost always offer free consultations, and are usually paid only if they win a claim. They can also explain that your friend should be asking for far more than just medical bills. She should be asking for medical, counseling, pain and suffering, and probably a bunch of other stuff. You don't necessarily get everything you ask for, but if you don't ask, you get nothing.",
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"content": "Question: Assuming the neighbor has a homeowners policy, and that policy would cover injuries caused by pets, what are the odds that coverage would apply where, as here, the pet has escaped from the insured property? Alternatively, what about OP’s friend’s own home owners policy assuming the friend’s son was on the friend’s property when the dog bit his/her son? I don’t know what OP’s friend’s costs are, but if there’s an angle to bring in the neighbor’s insurance policy, or to allow the friend’s insurer(s) to subrogate, it may improve OP’s friend’s ability to recover and/or make the process less time consuming.",
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ilvp8zlmlbqe | [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next? | [
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"content": "It sounds like the dog owner is trying to deny responsibility because she doesn't have (or doesn't want you to know she has) insurance. The legal term for that is \"bullshit.\" She's trying to bullshit your friend. Your friend should contact a personal injury attorney. They will almost always offer free consultations, and are usually paid only if they win a claim. They can also explain that your friend should be asking for far more than just medical bills. She should be asking for medical, counseling, pain and suffering, and probably a bunch of other stuff. You don't necessarily get everything you ask for, but if you don't ask, you get nothing.",
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "Has your friend reported this attack to their city/county, and the police? Dog bites need to be reported. Doesn’t matter what neighbour says they do and don’t have; they are liable. Get a lawyer.",
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"content": "Don't take someone's word for whether they have liability. You should talk to a person injury attorney about this. It is very likely the neighbors are responsible for this as they were negligent in controlling the dog, and Iowa is a strict liability state for dog bites Going forward your options are to tell your health insurance co the neighbor is responsible and if they succeed in pursuing them you get your copays returned, or you hire a personal injury attorney. If the neighbor has renters or homeowners insurance this is likely to be settled without any out of pocket cost to the neighbor.",
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"content": "Question: Assuming the neighbor has a homeowners policy, and that policy would cover injuries caused by pets, what are the odds that coverage would apply where, as here, the pet has escaped from the insured property? Alternatively, what about OP’s friend’s own home owners policy assuming the friend’s son was on the friend’s property when the dog bit his/her son? I don’t know what OP’s friend’s costs are, but if there’s an angle to bring in the neighbor’s insurance policy, or to allow the friend’s insurer(s) to subrogate, it may improve OP’s friend’s ability to recover and/or make the process less time consuming.",
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ilvp8zmpx6wy | [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next? | [
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"content": "I am a lawyer. She is almost certainly liable. 1) Under a theory of ordinary negligence she owed a duty of due care to anyone within a foreseeable zone of danger of her actions. A neighbor getting bit is definitely foreseeable if you do not properly lock up your dog. I would argue that a dog does not typically get out without some lack of due care. Her failure to do this was the actual and proximate cause of the injury. 2) She might be liable even if she showed due care under a theory of strict liability. The owner of a domestic animal of a known dangerous disposition is liable for attacks of that animal when they escape the property. Here it would turn on if owner had actual or constructive knowledge of the dog's disposition. If it had ever bitten anyone before, that would typically be enough. The breed here is relevant since some jurisdictions state that Pit Bulls are naturally dangerous. Though this last fact is not common.",
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "Has your friend reported this attack to their city/county, and the police? Dog bites need to be reported. Doesn’t matter what neighbour says they do and don’t have; they are liable. Get a lawyer.",
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"content": "I am a lawyer. She is almost certainly liable. 1) Under a theory of ordinary negligence she owed a duty of due care to anyone within a foreseeable zone of danger of her actions. A neighbor getting bit is definitely foreseeable if you do not properly lock up your dog. I would argue that a dog does not typically get out without some lack of due care. Her failure to do this was the actual and proximate cause of the injury. 2) She might be liable even if she showed due care under a theory of strict liability. The owner of a domestic animal of a known dangerous disposition is liable for attacks of that animal when they escape the property. Here it would turn on if owner had actual or constructive knowledge of the dog's disposition. If it had ever bitten anyone before, that would typically be enough. The breed here is relevant since some jurisdictions state that Pit Bulls are naturally dangerous. Though this last fact is not common.",
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "Do they own that home or are renting? If theyre renting, make sure to get in contact with the landlord and make sure they are aware. Most rental properties do not allow pits and if they do, their insurance could be liable.",
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ilvp8zykur73 | [Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next? | [
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"content": "I am a lawyer. She is almost certainly liable. 1) Under a theory of ordinary negligence she owed a duty of due care to anyone within a foreseeable zone of danger of her actions. A neighbor getting bit is definitely foreseeable if you do not properly lock up your dog. I would argue that a dog does not typically get out without some lack of due care. Her failure to do this was the actual and proximate cause of the injury. 2) She might be liable even if she showed due care under a theory of strict liability. The owner of a domestic animal of a known dangerous disposition is liable for attacks of that animal when they escape the property. Here it would turn on if owner had actual or constructive knowledge of the dog's disposition. If it had ever bitten anyone before, that would typically be enough. The breed here is relevant since some jurisdictions state that Pit Bulls are naturally dangerous. Though this last fact is not common.",
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"content": "[Iowa] neighbors pit bull got loose ran across the road and bit my friends son which caused him to have 5 staples and a trip to the E.R. We want the neighbor to pay for medical bills but she says she doesn’t have liability. What options do we have or what actions should we take next?",
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"content": "If she has no liability insurance attached to her home, you can still sue in civil court for a judgement. I’d consult with an attorney. if they have health insurance, health insurance will recover all expenses paid for the medical claim first before your friends get money (former PI law clerk and have dealt with my own PI case)",
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"content": "This thread or another older thread on smart locks might help if you don't get more comments. https://www.reddit.com/r/legaladvice/comments/vln3mu/apartment_wants_to_install_smartlocks_we_dont/",
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"content": "Can I fight my Apt. Complex making me need an app to enter my own front door? My apartment complex in Florida is installing smart home keyless locks that require an app. I absolutely want no part of this but they are saying it's mandatory. What recourse can they take against me if I just continue to refuse to let the technicians in? Can they legally do this if the lease has a stipulation specifically about 'keyed locks will be rekeyed between residents and you can at any time request a rekeying at your expense and we must comply with that request'. Wouldn't eliminating the keyed lock be a violation of my right to request a rekeying, if I were to make that request? Please help me avoid this dystopian nightmare where I'm being forced to get an app, make an account, disclose personal info, and connect the smarthome to wifi.. all just to walk in my front door.",
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"content": "So they are installing locks that can't be opened in case of a power outage? That shit can't be legal, all smart locks I've seen til now still have a keyhole",
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cu6m1uml8tg0 | The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on. | [
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Reading the link provided about SSI overpayments, I think what happened is, your mum was receiving more child support from you dad than she declared, so you received SSI benefits that you technically weren’t entitled to. The link also explains that yes, the minor can be held responsible, which I think is whack!",
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cu6m1u2xrlsr | The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on. | [
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "So i don't know if this is helpful or relevant to anyone reading this, but i *did* find this document from the SSA website from a brief search... https://oig.ssa.gov/sites/default/files/audit/full/pdf/A-04-16-50110.pdf",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Contact your congressperson as per here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ctxfzk/comment/exp69iv Read that comment chain.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Not a lawyer, but before you do anything, make sure the letter is legit. Get it checked out by a lawyer. Do not send anything to anyone until you know for a fact it is real.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Okay, several others have brought this up and we need direct and clear answers to be able to help you further. 1. You say you walked into the Social Security office and they verified its legit. **At any point, did the representative actually ask for your social security number and look in their system?** Or did they just read over the letter and tell you to pay it. 2. The judge you talked to - where did you get their information from? Was it a phone number from the letter or did you just call your local courthouse? 3. What type of judge was it that you talked to? **who verified and how did they verify that this judge is in charge of the case?** 4. You said there’s going to be a final decision Monday - have you been given any notice about a hearing or a time/place where you can plead your case? If you can’t or won’t answer these questions, I don’t think you can expect to get any help here. This isn’t the time to be vague or general because the little details matter. It’s very possible that this is real but it’s also very possible that it’s a scam designed to trick people into thinking “it’s legit”.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "~~*SCAM*. SSA has nothing to do with child support. Children are not given child support, only the other parent or guardian is.~~ Edit: more info below makes this less a scam and more of a possible problem. Still fishy.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Reading the link provided about SSI overpayments, I think what happened is, your mum was receiving more child support from you dad than she declared, so you received SSI benefits that you technically weren’t entitled to. The link also explains that yes, the minor can be held responsible, which I think is whack!",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "So i don't know if this is helpful or relevant to anyone reading this, but i *did* find this document from the SSA website from a brief search... https://oig.ssa.gov/sites/default/files/audit/full/pdf/A-04-16-50110.pdf",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Reading the link provided about SSI overpayments, I think what happened is, your mum was receiving more child support from you dad than she declared, so you received SSI benefits that you technically weren’t entitled to. The link also explains that yes, the minor can be held responsible, which I think is whack!",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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cu6m1uy3visl | The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on. | [
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Reading the link provided about SSI overpayments, I think what happened is, your mum was receiving more child support from you dad than she declared, so you received SSI benefits that you technically weren’t entitled to. The link also explains that yes, the minor can be held responsible, which I think is whack!",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Not a lawyer, but before you do anything, make sure the letter is legit. Get it checked out by a lawyer. Do not send anything to anyone until you know for a fact it is real.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Reading the link provided about SSI overpayments, I think what happened is, your mum was receiving more child support from you dad than she declared, so you received SSI benefits that you technically weren’t entitled to. The link also explains that yes, the minor can be held responsible, which I think is whack!",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "~~*SCAM*. SSA has nothing to do with child support. Children are not given child support, only the other parent or guardian is.~~ Edit: more info below makes this less a scam and more of a possible problem. Still fishy.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "So i don't know if this is helpful or relevant to anyone reading this, but i *did* find this document from the SSA website from a brief search... https://oig.ssa.gov/sites/default/files/audit/full/pdf/A-04-16-50110.pdf",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "So i don't know if this is helpful or relevant to anyone reading this, but i *did* find this document from the SSA website from a brief search... https://oig.ssa.gov/sites/default/files/audit/full/pdf/A-04-16-50110.pdf",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "~~*SCAM*. SSA has nothing to do with child support. Children are not given child support, only the other parent or guardian is.~~ Edit: more info below makes this less a scam and more of a possible problem. Still fishy.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Contact your congressperson as per here: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/ctxfzk/comment/exp69iv Read that comment chain.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Not a lawyer, but before you do anything, make sure the letter is legit. Get it checked out by a lawyer. Do not send anything to anyone until you know for a fact it is real.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "~~*SCAM*. SSA has nothing to do with child support. Children are not given child support, only the other parent or guardian is.~~ Edit: more info below makes this less a scam and more of a possible problem. Still fishy.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "OP isn't providing any information that makes any kind of sense. If father is retired on social security and his social security was being garnished and continued to pay out after OP reached the age of 18. Could this be the reason the OP has received said letter? That's all I could come up with.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Not a lawyer, but before you do anything, make sure the letter is legit. Get it checked out by a lawyer. Do not send anything to anyone until you know for a fact it is real.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "OP isn't providing any information that makes any kind of sense. If father is retired on social security and his social security was being garnished and continued to pay out after OP reached the age of 18. Could this be the reason the OP has received said letter? That's all I could come up with.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "~~*SCAM*. SSA has nothing to do with child support. Children are not given child support, only the other parent or guardian is.~~ Edit: more info below makes this less a scam and more of a possible problem. Still fishy.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "OP isn't providing any information that makes any kind of sense. If father is retired on social security and his social security was being garnished and continued to pay out after OP reached the age of 18. Could this be the reason the OP has received said letter? That's all I could come up with.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "If he overpaid, shouldn’t he be getting the money back? Asking you to pay makes no sense. What are you paying?",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "Does this judge you are in contact with have anything to with the case? Most of the time you can’t just waltz into judges quarters or get a direct line to the judge discuss your case..something seems off about this.",
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"content": "The Social Security Admin. sent me a bill for $10k saying my father over paid in child support I live in the United States. I am 21 years old, and i got a letter saying that from the time i was 10-13 years old my dad overpaid in child support and that I am being held responsible for it, they are demanding $10,000 and are threatening to go into my bank account and taking the money from me. My first question is *WHAT THE FUCK* My second question is how is it legal to hold a 10-13 year old responsible for this like wtf is going on.",
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"content": "I wouldn't take the advice of the office clerk. Definitely send a message to the judge. I think worst case you will have to explain in person that your mother received the money while you were a child. That said, none of us can really help without seeing the letter. Additional advice, stay calm and dont swear. People will straight up refuse to help you if you get mad at them.",
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6bpe8s1al9sx | My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA | [
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Sorry about your penis mate :(",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "odds are, that money is gone. remind them that it's your money received because someone damaged your body so now you want access to it like they've been promising. ask them to see the statement for the account it's in. if they decline, straight up ask them if they spent it. but i would not rely on that money being there.",
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6bpe8somr1hc | My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA | [
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Sorry about your penis mate :(",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Their may be legitimate reasons why they don't want to give an 18 year old kid a bunch of money. You'll blow it. It seems perfectly reasonable though that you would want to use the money for your education and I can't think of any good reason why they would refuse that if the money were there.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Sorry about your penis mate :(",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Sorry about your penis mate :(",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Alternatively, you could ask them to see the most recent statement of wherever that money is. If they can't provide that (which they should get monthly), it's because the money doesn't exist. If in fact, the money DOES exist, there's your evidence (and consequently, it's location.)",
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"content": "Sorry about your penis mate :(",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Your parents screwed you. Instead of putting your money into a separate interest bearing account for your benefit, they used it for their own benefit, to buy themselves a house and start a business that your father wanted to start. That's exactly what they would have done if THEY had $475,000. They treated your money as theirs. If they had put the money in an interested bearing low risk investment account of some sort for you, you would have WELL over $1 million right now. If they had just put it in an S&P 500 index fund and left it alone, you'd have close to $2 million. Instead your Dad says he'll give you some profits of the business later? If you had $2 million, you could invest it and probably withdraw $50,000 a year for the rest of your life without dipping into the $2 million principal. Is the house in your name? Do you have brothers and sisters and will they share in it when your parents die? Do they have one or two mortgages on the house? I'm sorry, they treated your settlement as their personal piggy bank and now they are promising you scraps.",
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"content": "odds are, that money is gone. remind them that it's your money received because someone damaged your body so now you want access to it like they've been promising. ask them to see the statement for the account it's in. if they decline, straight up ask them if they spent it. but i would not rely on that money being there.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Your parents screwed you. Instead of putting your money into a separate interest bearing account for your benefit, they used it for their own benefit, to buy themselves a house and start a business that your father wanted to start. That's exactly what they would have done if THEY had $475,000. They treated your money as theirs. If they had put the money in an interested bearing low risk investment account of some sort for you, you would have WELL over $1 million right now. If they had just put it in an S&P 500 index fund and left it alone, you'd have close to $2 million. Instead your Dad says he'll give you some profits of the business later? If you had $2 million, you could invest it and probably withdraw $50,000 a year for the rest of your life without dipping into the $2 million principal. Is the house in your name? Do you have brothers and sisters and will they share in it when your parents die? Do they have one or two mortgages on the house? I'm sorry, they treated your settlement as their personal piggy bank and now they are promising you scraps.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Their may be legitimate reasons why they don't want to give an 18 year old kid a bunch of money. You'll blow it. It seems perfectly reasonable though that you would want to use the money for your education and I can't think of any good reason why they would refuse that if the money were there.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Your parents screwed you. Instead of putting your money into a separate interest bearing account for your benefit, they used it for their own benefit, to buy themselves a house and start a business that your father wanted to start. That's exactly what they would have done if THEY had $475,000. They treated your money as theirs. If they had put the money in an interested bearing low risk investment account of some sort for you, you would have WELL over $1 million right now. If they had just put it in an S&P 500 index fund and left it alone, you'd have close to $2 million. Instead your Dad says he'll give you some profits of the business later? If you had $2 million, you could invest it and probably withdraw $50,000 a year for the rest of your life without dipping into the $2 million principal. Is the house in your name? Do you have brothers and sisters and will they share in it when your parents die? Do they have one or two mortgages on the house? I'm sorry, they treated your settlement as their personal piggy bank and now they are promising you scraps.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I see you updated and mods locked it so no one can give you advice, but you got royally screwed out of $475,000. Your parents are horrible people for taking that money for their house and business. You need to seriously see the and audit books on the business to even see if it is profitable or has your $475,000 just been paying for everything. You can even ask them to pay a CPA to come in and audit the business. 90% of businesses are failures so your money may have been stolen for the business. Most likely the business is failing. If the business is profitable then ask them to transfer 100% ownership to your name as you paid for it or make contract where you get paid. If they love you then have them transfer the house to you at 18 and then they should pay you rent for the maintenance, taxes, and insurance. That is your penis's house and your penis's business, not theirs. Dont let them get away with this. You parents really are horrible to be so irresponsible with $475,000.",
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6bpe8sobjgu2 | My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA | [
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Your parents screwed you. Instead of putting your money into a separate interest bearing account for your benefit, they used it for their own benefit, to buy themselves a house and start a business that your father wanted to start. That's exactly what they would have done if THEY had $475,000. They treated your money as theirs. If they had put the money in an interested bearing low risk investment account of some sort for you, you would have WELL over $1 million right now. If they had just put it in an S&P 500 index fund and left it alone, you'd have close to $2 million. Instead your Dad says he'll give you some profits of the business later? If you had $2 million, you could invest it and probably withdraw $50,000 a year for the rest of your life without dipping into the $2 million principal. Is the house in your name? Do you have brothers and sisters and will they share in it when your parents die? Do they have one or two mortgages on the house? I'm sorry, they treated your settlement as their personal piggy bank and now they are promising you scraps.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).",
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"content": "Your parents screwed you. Instead of putting your money into a separate interest bearing account for your benefit, they used it for their own benefit, to buy themselves a house and start a business that your father wanted to start. That's exactly what they would have done if THEY had $475,000. They treated your money as theirs. If they had put the money in an interested bearing low risk investment account of some sort for you, you would have WELL over $1 million right now. If they had just put it in an S&P 500 index fund and left it alone, you'd have close to $2 million. Instead your Dad says he'll give you some profits of the business later? If you had $2 million, you could invest it and probably withdraw $50,000 a year for the rest of your life without dipping into the $2 million principal. Is the house in your name? Do you have brothers and sisters and will they share in it when your parents die? Do they have one or two mortgages on the house? I'm sorry, they treated your settlement as their personal piggy bank and now they are promising you scraps.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Alternatively, you could ask them to see the most recent statement of wherever that money is. If they can't provide that (which they should get monthly), it's because the money doesn't exist. If in fact, the money DOES exist, there's your evidence (and consequently, it's location.)",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Your parents screwed you. Instead of putting your money into a separate interest bearing account for your benefit, they used it for their own benefit, to buy themselves a house and start a business that your father wanted to start. That's exactly what they would have done if THEY had $475,000. They treated your money as theirs. If they had put the money in an interested bearing low risk investment account of some sort for you, you would have WELL over $1 million right now. If they had just put it in an S&P 500 index fund and left it alone, you'd have close to $2 million. Instead your Dad says he'll give you some profits of the business later? If you had $2 million, you could invest it and probably withdraw $50,000 a year for the rest of your life without dipping into the $2 million principal. Is the house in your name? Do you have brothers and sisters and will they share in it when your parents die? Do they have one or two mortgages on the house? I'm sorry, they treated your settlement as their personal piggy bank and now they are promising you scraps.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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6bpe8sucbvia | My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA | [
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "odds are, that money is gone. remind them that it's your money received because someone damaged your body so now you want access to it like they've been promising. ask them to see the statement for the account it's in. if they decline, straight up ask them if they spent it. but i would not rely on that money being there.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Their may be legitimate reasons why they don't want to give an 18 year old kid a bunch of money. You'll blow it. It seems perfectly reasonable though that you would want to use the money for your education and I can't think of any good reason why they would refuse that if the money were there.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I see you updated and mods locked it so no one can give you advice, but you got royally screwed out of $475,000. Your parents are horrible people for taking that money for their house and business. You need to seriously see the and audit books on the business to even see if it is profitable or has your $475,000 just been paying for everything. You can even ask them to pay a CPA to come in and audit the business. 90% of businesses are failures so your money may have been stolen for the business. Most likely the business is failing. If the business is profitable then ask them to transfer 100% ownership to your name as you paid for it or make contract where you get paid. If they love you then have them transfer the house to you at 18 and then they should pay you rent for the maintenance, taxes, and insurance. That is your penis's house and your penis's business, not theirs. Dont let them get away with this. You parents really are horrible to be so irresponsible with $475,000.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I see you updated and mods locked it so no one can give you advice, but you got royally screwed out of $475,000. Your parents are horrible people for taking that money for their house and business. You need to seriously see the and audit books on the business to even see if it is profitable or has your $475,000 just been paying for everything. You can even ask them to pay a CPA to come in and audit the business. 90% of businesses are failures so your money may have been stolen for the business. Most likely the business is failing. If the business is profitable then ask them to transfer 100% ownership to your name as you paid for it or make contract where you get paid. If they love you then have them transfer the house to you at 18 and then they should pay you rent for the maintenance, taxes, and insurance. That is your penis's house and your penis's business, not theirs. Dont let them get away with this. You parents really are horrible to be so irresponsible with $475,000.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Alternatively, you could ask them to see the most recent statement of wherever that money is. If they can't provide that (which they should get monthly), it's because the money doesn't exist. If in fact, the money DOES exist, there's your evidence (and consequently, it's location.)",
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"content": "I see you updated and mods locked it so no one can give you advice, but you got royally screwed out of $475,000. Your parents are horrible people for taking that money for their house and business. You need to seriously see the and audit books on the business to even see if it is profitable or has your $475,000 just been paying for everything. You can even ask them to pay a CPA to come in and audit the business. 90% of businesses are failures so your money may have been stolen for the business. Most likely the business is failing. If the business is profitable then ask them to transfer 100% ownership to your name as you paid for it or make contract where you get paid. If they love you then have them transfer the house to you at 18 and then they should pay you rent for the maintenance, taxes, and insurance. That is your penis's house and your penis's business, not theirs. Dont let them get away with this. You parents really are horrible to be so irresponsible with $475,000.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Alternatively, you could ask them to see the most recent statement of wherever that money is. If they can't provide that (which they should get monthly), it's because the money doesn't exist. If in fact, the money DOES exist, there's your evidence (and consequently, it's location.)",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Oh man, they did not have the right to spend or use that money, regardless of the fact that they made you an owner in the business. You put a roof over their heads and you funded their business. At the very least, the house needs to go in your name asap and they need to start paying you back rent, and rent from here on out to cover taxes, insurance and maintenance, etc. The business needs to pay more than just profits. They owe you that full amount in addition to profits you're entitled to as owner, and no business decisions should be made without your okay. Get a financial advisor and a lawyer to ensure you get back your settlement and a fair share of the figures from here on out. I know you don't see this as a huge issue but trust me, you'll feel a lot different in a few years.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "OP, since the update is locked, I'll ask here. Are you also a part owner of the house? How much of the money went to the business, and what percentage stake does that represent?",
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"content": "Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Alternatively, you could ask them to see the most recent statement of wherever that money is. If they can't provide that (which they should get monthly), it's because the money doesn't exist. If in fact, the money DOES exist, there's your evidence (and consequently, it's location.)",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Consult a lawyer. It is very possible that you have one to three years from the date of your 18th birthday (or sooner if emancipated) to sue anyone involved including (but not limited to) your own parents. Your parents may be attempting to run the clock down. I'm also guessing that they have already blown the money. Every state sets their own statute of limitations. How I know: I had a childhood injury. My parents informed me of the statute of limitations. I chose not to sue anyone as I already had a settlement that my parents did keep for me (I would have had to forfeit the settlement to proceed with litigation).",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "\"He said he will start paying me money from the profits which I will use for education.\" Shit op, they didn't even put money away for your education.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "Oh man, they did not have the right to spend or use that money, regardless of the fact that they made you an owner in the business. You put a roof over their heads and you funded their business. At the very least, the house needs to go in your name asap and they need to start paying you back rent, and rent from here on out to cover taxes, insurance and maintenance, etc. The business needs to pay more than just profits. They owe you that full amount in addition to profits you're entitled to as owner, and no business decisions should be made without your okay. Get a financial advisor and a lawyer to ensure you get back your settlement and a fair share of the figures from here on out. I know you don't see this as a huge issue but trust me, you'll feel a lot different in a few years.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "\"He said he will start paying me money from the profits which I will use for education.\" Shit op, they didn't even put money away for your education.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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"content": "OP, since the update is locked, I'll ask here. Are you also a part owner of the house? How much of the money went to the business, and what percentage stake does that represent?",
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"content": "Oh man, they did not have the right to spend or use that money, regardless of the fact that they made you an owner in the business. You put a roof over their heads and you funded their business. At the very least, the house needs to go in your name asap and they need to start paying you back rent, and rent from here on out to cover taxes, insurance and maintenance, etc. The business needs to pay more than just profits. They owe you that full amount in addition to profits you're entitled to as owner, and no business decisions should be made without your okay. Get a financial advisor and a lawyer to ensure you get back your settlement and a fair share of the figures from here on out. I know you don't see this as a huge issue but trust me, you'll feel a lot different in a few years.",
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"content": "My circumcision went horribly wrong many years ago. Parents received settlement. Now I'm 18 and they're refusing to give me the money. (WA) Alright so as a result I have part of my penis removed including the entire tip. I know the hospital did settle with my parents. They always told me that the money is invested for my future. I'm 18 now. I want to use this for my education this year but they haven't given me any details. They keep telling me that it is so soon and they will do it in due time. Is there a way for me to find out where this money is and access it? And was the money required to be put somewhere safe for me or could it be that my parents spent it and are just buying time with me? Seattle, WA",
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"content": "I'm terribly sorry to hear this. I think it is likely that your parents spent the money or otherwise lost it. Following the advice above, look into the IRS records for yourself. 1099 filings should probably contain information about this. You might inquire of any relatives in case they know anything more about the situation. This isn't foolproof but if you trust Aunt Colleen or know Uncle Dale is an accountant, they could give you a direction to start with. You may be able to sue your parents for the funds if you are certain they were inappropriately squandered, but you would need to consult with a lawyer on that. Prepare yourself for the likelihood the cash is gone.",
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"content": "If the lawyer needs to go in front a judge, then you can expect it to take at least a month to get on the docket. Very little will happen before you get a court date. Once the lawyer files suit, the other side gets a minimum of 30 days to respond. Your lawyer will need time to go through the criminal case. They will need time to collect and review victim statements. Expect at least 2 weeks before you hear anything. Court dates will be at least 6 weeks apart. If you go to trial, expect aat least 6 months to get a trial date, and several months before you get to the point of asking for a trial date. I would have several days of back and forth with my lawyer when something came up, and then nothing for a month. Consider asking yours for an estimated timeline. It's a marathon, not a sprint.",
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"content": "It really depends on the case and the attorney. I've had clients that I never interact with after our first consultation until we show up at a hearing and then I have had clients that email me every day. In a perfect world, you wouldn't have to reach out to your attorney ever, they would just follow up with you as needed. But in that perfect world, attorneys never miss deadlines or commit malpractice. It would be perfectly acceptable at this point to maybe email them and just say that you want to keep track of your responsibilities and ask for the next deadline/next point of action and if there is any documentation or other actions you can take to prepare and assist.",
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"content": "At a minimum, you should expect to hear from them when anything meaningful happens with the case. Personally, I speak with the client whenever something happens, and if nothing is happening with the case for an extended period of time (3-4 weeks), I will make a point to send an email/letter, or have a quick call, just to let them know nothing is going on. Not wanting to be “that person” is nice, but remember, your lawyer works for you. So, if you really feel the need to call, call. Now, how often should that be? Hard to say. What I would suggest is whenever you speak with the attorney ask, “when would you expect for me to hear from you again?” They should be able to give you a pretty good idea of when the next development should be. Give the attorney a chance to report back to you after that, and if don’t, you are certainly entitled to call them.",
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