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t3_4yfi8n
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weddingplanning
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bridal shower on Saturday. I'm allowed to just show up, right? [advice?]
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my mom and bridesmaids are hosting my shower at my parents house this weekend. I can't shake the feeling that I'm expected to DO something. or that there's some sort of script I'm supposed to follow. or there are expectations of me that I am not aware of. I basically just don't want to do anything wrong. I already feel weird that I'm not supposed to literally help do things but I can't really get comfortable with the fact that all I'm apparently expected to do is show up and have fun.
I don't have social anxiety and I've never had an issue with having attention on me so I have no idea where this is coming from. i mean my mom is the person that passively aggressively always asks for help when she's hosting parties and makes a big deal about how "no one helps" her with tasks so I think part of my feeling stems from that. but idk.
I've been in weddings. I've been to showers. I know how this stuff works! I am really not as inept as I seem here. I just can't seem to RELAX.
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PLS GIVE ME PERMISSION TO ENJOY MY BRIDAL SHOWER 😫
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t3_1lvfzs
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relationships
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My[22F] boyfriend's[26M] mom is invading our personal life way too much.
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My boyfriend's mom has moved across the country when he was 4 and left him and his sister with his dad. They stayed on good terms and she visited a few times over the course of 20 years.
Fast forward to present day. She decided to up and move her and her husband(boyfriend's step dad) back here, because he 22 year old daughter got pregnant and had a baby and she wants to be close to her grandson because she wasn't there for her own kids.
Well she moved down here and has been staying with my boyfriend for the past 5 months, it was supposed to be a short stay.... My boyfriend and I are coming up on our 1 year.
I do not live with my boyfriend but spend the night 2-3 times a week. At first I was fine with the new situation but now I feel like they are wearing out their welcome. Her daughter has also temporarily lost custody of her son and his mom stepped in and took him so now the baby is living there as well. She has started to make comments about how I and her son need to have kids, and constantly tries to talk to us about our sex life(which is great, but has gone down a tad bit since they moved in and are always there).
How do I talk to my boyfriend about this without making him upset because he has no problem with the situation so far. I don't want to overstep any boundaries.
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boyfriend's mom is butting in on his home life, our relationship, our sex life, and looks like she's not going anywhere soon.
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t3_2udk04
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tifu
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TIFU by getting to second base with my step mom
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So I'm a normal guy, decently fit, decently tall, decently diabetic, but I do have a thirst for milk. So Imagine my surprise when I come over to my father's house for the weekend, and find THREE jugs of it. Thought I was about to have a aneurysm from sheer delight right then and there. I get to drinking, and to my surprise, I learn that publix 2% milk has some god damned flavor! Tasty as shit right there. Anyways, my Saturday morning progresses much like this. Drink milk, eat food. Drink milk, play video games. Drink milk, have lunch. Drink milk, beat up my little brother. Anyways, come snack time, and I reach for my jug, to prepare my snack of choice, sugar coated cereal. My little sister, seeing my reach for the now almost empty first milk jug, says that that jug isn't for me. Questioning her, she informs me that the milk is for my other brother, Issac, who is only but a year old. Who I adore. Who my mother has been breastfeeding. I made that noise that you make when you eat something really gross, like some sort of hacking noise from the back of my throat, and then I run to the basement to grab a six pack of my brothers mountain eew. I have never been happier to down that piss. I dont think I'll ever drink milk again.
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Got to second base via the transitive property.
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t3_4vpu0w
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pettyrevenge
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I'll be polite if you are.
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I consider this to be my pettiest decision yet so I though you guys would love it.
I'm currently staying at a (crappy) resort that has a recreational building next to the pool with a ping pong table out front. To access the building you need the key card for your room.
I'm currently playing some ping pong when I see a family walking down the street towards the building. At one point the ball ricochets off the wall and falls through the fence surrounding the pool. To grab it, I have to walk out of the pool area and around the fence. On my way back I notice the family is behind me so I open the knob pull pool gate (no easy feat) and have the courtesy to hold the gate for them. Out of the three of them, no one thanks me. I am slightly offended but walk back to the table and resume my game. The group tries to enter the building but it becomes obvious they don't have a key. I am about ten feet away and could easily offer to open the door with my key card, but I didn't feel they would appreciate such a selfless act so I kept on playing and smiled to myself as they eventually had to leave.
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Wasn't thanked for holding the door so I made sure not to do it again.
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t3_3z7mkc
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relationships
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Me [21 F] confused......am I a FWB or more?
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Hey everyone,
So basically I have been seeing this guy for a few months and we have yet to talk about where we stand.....i dont have tonnes of relationship experience so Im just curious to hear what you redditors think! Basically this guy asked me out while I was working about 2, 2.5 months ago, and I accapted and we went on a sushi date. Since than, we have been going on dates (canoeing, icecream, drinks, the movies) , I have met all of his freinds, and having sex a tonne, and hes a pretty good guy to hang with. He recently brought me to the cottage with him and his freinds as well (2 month mark). My main concern is that he hasnt brought up the idea of exclusivity and we rarely ever show Public Displays of Affection. He always kisses me goodbye and we text all day......I just don't know if Im a FWB or not..........Im not NECCESSARILY pushing for a relationship, I just want to know I mean more to him than just sex. Before I ask him to talk about feelings, what do people on here think!?
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Looking for an opinion on my new guy
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t3_100tbl
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relationship_advice
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20f, 25m. I'm American studying abroad. Met an English guy at a small bar in Spain. How long do I wait to hear from him?
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We kicked it off really well and talked for hours while walking around the quiet cobblestone streets of the old city.
He kissed me goodnight and asked to see me again the next night.
The next day he texted and arranged for us to get together for drinks. We spent close to 7 hours together.
At the end of the date, he kissed me goodnight and said, "I'll see you soon."
The next day I texted him, casually thanking him for a pleasant night and he responded very formally, and signed his name at the end with a sincerely, ____
That night he texted me saying he was at a bar watching soccer with angry Spaniard men and that we should experience that together sometime. I sent him a response agreeing with his suggestion, but he didn't respond after that.
It has been three days since our first date and two days since I last heard from him.
How long should I possibly wait to hear from him?
I've always been accustomed to the 3 day rule and I haven't really been on a date in over 2 years so I'm not exactly sure what the protocol is for these sorts of things.
Do you just wait 3 days to hear from him or do you wait 3 days to arrange a second date?
I don't know if I should text him or wait for him to call/text?
I wouldn't mind texting him, but I don't want to seem too eager or forward. I'm not exactly sure how English guys think or behave.
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How long do English guys tend to wait to call after a first date?
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t3_31mxaa
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tifu
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TIFU by being salty.
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This happened yesterday night, and I can't get it off my mind so here's my fuck up.
So, I've been friends with this girl for about 3 months, and I'd always had the sense that she liked me, so when I talked to her, I would always be quite suggestive with what I said (subtly so, but nonetheless suggestive,) and she seemed to be the same way.
Around a month ago, I finally got the balls to ask her out, I'd never been good at that type of thing and I didn't really want to be rejected, so I waited to ask. It turns out that she didn't feel the same way about me and that "we're just good friends." I wasn't going to let that be the end of our friendship, because I still enjoyed speaking to her and we got on quite well.
Anyways, Last night, I'm round at my mate's house and it's getting quite late. We're all watching 22 Jump Street, and towards the end of the film, she starts getting closer to me and then leans in towards me to try and kiss me.
Now; here's the obvious fuck up...
The natural reaction for this would to be to go with the kiss - HOWEVER, something in my brain instantly reminded me of what she told me about a month ago, I pulled back and said
"I thought we were just friends?"
It then proceeded to get really fucking awkward in the room, with my friends staring blankly at me with a clear "What the fuck" look in their eyes. Anyways, she left after a few minutes more of watching the film, and the atmosphere never became any better, ending with me driving home at around 1am.
So yeah...
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Girl I had a "crush" on leant in for a kiss, I rejected her because I thought we were "Just friends."
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t3_2wtio3
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relationships
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I [18F] found out my crush [18M] watches porn.
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So I posted before about how my crush might like me. But now I found out he watches porn.
You may ask how? Well due to my friend's internet stalking during a sleepover we found his YouTube.
We start looking through the liked videos and started noticing a lot of porn. Me of course being extremely shocked and curious clicked on them and when straight to the comments.
I found that he commented 3 times all about how he wants this girl in his bed and how he wants to bang her.
I really don't know how to react. Me and him sit next to eachother for most of our classes. Now I'm not sure if I feel comfortable to him yet I still like him. Help?
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I found out my crush watches porn.
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t3_28gbx3
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tifu
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TIFU by not using the "Safely Remove Hardware" feature
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Today was my final exam, Business, all about China and how businesses operate, etc.
Because I have the handwriting of a 6 year old on meth, I was given a computer to use for the exam, which is great, No pressure for time, I can type so much faster, so get a lot more work done.
As you can imagine these computers are restricted to the bare minimum, there is a word processor with 0 features, there is the ability to write, no spell check, no color, no font selection, nothing.
Anyway, to submit the exam we have to save the work onto a Flash drive, and yeah, I did that and when the exam was finished I took it to the exam office to be printed and sent, and this is where I fucked up.
I didn't eject the device 'safely' so was greeted with a lovely corrupted file...
2 Hour exam, wasted. Have to re-sit now.
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Wrote an entire exam paper, only to have it corrupted.
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t3_2g9rpt
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legaladvice
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Employer wage problems (Phoenix, AZ)
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Ok, so there are a couple things I would like to be addressed. Sorry for the wall of text.
First: My employer recently wrote me up for discussing my wage with another employee. The context of the story was another employee opened the sealed envelope sitting on the counter with my name on it and looked at how much I made hourly. They did this because I mentioned that I was hired because my father is friends with the man that owns the franchise and I was hooked up with the job. Word spread rapidly about how much I earned and I never mentioned how much I earned until an employee (not entirely sure if they were the one who saw my check) confronted me about it. Being an honest man, I told them the rumor was true. The next day I walk into work and my manager and the franchise owner have me come into their office and basically tell me they were writing me up because I discussed my wage with an employee.
Second: Another employee clocked me out WITHOUT my permission about 20 minutes before my shift. I am not sure if they have done this in the past, but I am pretty sure this is illegal. It could be a possible explaination for my next issue.
Third: I was scheduled for 72 hours for the past month and a half, however I know for a fact that I always clock in 10-20 minutes early (as per request of the manager) and always clock out 10-20 minutes late (because I work at a gas station and there is always some reason you can't leave on time). I got my paycheck today and according to the check I was only being paid for 71.25 hours. That isn't even right by the schedule's standards, let alone what my time cards read.
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Employer punished me for discussing my wage with another employee despite them learning my wage by opening my sealed paycheck without my permission. Another employee clocked me out and attempted to make me work for free. Employer shorted me on my paycheck, even by the schedule's standards despite complimenting me on how I am early for work every day.
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t3_j8mjw
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AskReddit
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Where's the awkwardest place you've run into somebody you knew?
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Mine would have to be when I was about 7? My mother had taken me out with her friends and one of her friends kids as well to a festival. Only it wasn't a regular festival it was a **gay** festival. Literally a festival of gay pride. I don't know how my mom didn't stop to think before taking me that it could have had repercussions on my child psyche. Luckily, it didn't(Not gay). As we were walking around we happen to cross paths with a very familiar face whom I knew to be a counselor at the elementary school I was going to at the time.
I can recall his shirt being off and tucked into his back pocket, surrounded by his buddies. He took one glance at me and mom and his jaw just kind of dropped. I was like "OH! That's Mr.Jim!" and he nervously said hello to me and my mom and we went on our way. A couple weeks after maybe, I quietly asked him while at school if He really liked that festival. He said he did and quickly shushed me in a polite way. Something I never forgot, could be why I'm as open-minded as I am with that sort of thing.
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Mom took me to a Gay Pride festival as a kid. Saw a counselor there from my elementary school. **Am not gay now.**
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t3_i935v
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relationship_advice
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Want to break up with boyfriend, but feel guilty.
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Lately, I've been able to tell that my boyfriend and I aren't really compatible at all -- our interests, morality, and long-term goals for the relationship are different. Additionally, he has shown through comments he has made about/to my friends that he's an asshole. I don't think I could ever be in a long-term relationship with someone who's proven himself to be so unsympathetic to others.
Often, I find myself getting incredibly angry at him for something he's said/done that's clearly cruel, but he's never apologized and refuses to admit that other people's "emotional" problems are his fault.
Later, I feel guilty about my anger, because he's usually going through depression and his emotions can be unstable. Additionally, his life really sucks (has mental conditions, is very poor, etc.), and he doesn't have any close friends. The last time someone broke up with him, he was depressed for several months.
I know I don't want to be with him anymore, but guilt is a very strong emotion for me, and I don't think I could stand sending him into a full-on depression again. It's likely that the relationship is going to end because of sheer lack-of-contact at the end of summer anyway, and that would be a more "humane" way of ending it. Unfortunately, my anger and his comments makes it hard for me to deal with him on a regular basis at the moment.
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Boyfriend has a lot of issues, but is also an asshole. I don't want to be with him and become angry at him constantly, but I can't handle the guilt of sending him into depression. It might be better to wait until summer is over, when we might split naturally. Wat do?
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t3_smu0z
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AskReddit
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Reddit, I buried my grandfather this weekend. The man was an asshole, and I won't miss him or be sad that he's gone. Has anyone else ever been through something like this? I'll start.
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Some backstory: My parents divorced when I was 12. At the time, my mom was working for my grandfather's (on my dad's side) company, and he didn't approve of the divorce (despite the fact that my father was having an affair when he was in rehab). To get back at my mom, who was raising three kids by herself, he cut her pay to minimum wage. There were times when we legitimately did not know where our next meal was coming from, how we were going to pay rent, or if we'd ever be able afford anything. But, dear Redditors, the story does not end there.
My mom eventually got out of that job and into one that paid her fairly. We had to move out of our house and into a smaller one, but the rent was lower and we could survive here. My brothers and I stopped being invited on family vacations with my dad's side of the family. We only ever saw our cousins on their birthdays and Christmas, despite only living about ten minutes away from each other.
When I turned 16, my dad died of a drug overdose, and things only got worse from there. My dad was a partner in my grandpa's company, and when my grandpa sold the company, my dad's share was supposed to come to my brothers and I, but it's been five years now and we're only just now even hearing about it. And, no surprise, he was trying to stop us from getting a share which could be worth somewhere in the neighborhood of $70,000.
Anyway, this last week, my grandpa died. The funeral was yesterday. I didn't shed a single tear. It was a surreal experience sitting there in the service with everyone around me bawling their eyes out, and I was thinking about lunch. I just couldn't bring myself to feel sad for the death of a man that did everything he could to put us on the street, who tried his hardest to cut me out of the family, and who made it very clear that my brothers and I were not welcome in the family.
Has anyone else ever experienced anything like this?
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My grandpa tried his best to put my mom, brothers, and I on the street, cut my brothers and I out of the family gatherings, and was trying to steal $70,000 from my brothers and I. He died. I'm not sad.*
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t3_28q0od
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relationships
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Should I [26 M] even bother telling her [20 F] my feelings or just keep it to myself?
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Hi!
I met this girl (we call her Beth) 4 months ago at the birthday party of my best friends girlfriend. We talked quite a bit there and about 2 weeks later my friend asks me if I wanted to go to prague for the weekend with him, his girlfriend and Beth. We went there and had a great time.
After that weekend me and Beth started to hang out frequently and everything got more serious. We started going on dates and started to sleep with each other and overall having a great time.
Fast forward to about a month ago, I was hanging out with my best friend and his girlfriend and suddenly his girl mentions that Beth has told her she now has a new boyfriend. I was awe struck since she never mentioned that there was anybody beside me. I texted her, asking her if this is true, and she told me that she reconnected with a guy she met last summer, they went out once and he asked her if she wanted to be his girlfriend because he's abroad til September now.
My problem is that since he is abroad, we still hang out / go out on the regular. I dont know if she knows that this is kinda hard for me since I got feelings for her. Should I tell her that I cant do this anymore because I'm hurting everytime she tells me about him? I would really love to keep her company because I really like her, but this is kinda hard.
Thanks (I hope this is understandable, english is not my first language)
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Connected with a girl, she suddenly has a boyfriend out of nowhere. Still wants to hang out because he's abroad, but I get hurt when I see her. Should I tell her my feelings?
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t3_2zio1q
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personalfinance
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(CAN) I have a 1995 Toyota Corolla that has served me well for 4 years. It needs a new timing belt, worth it? (A bit long)
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Hi there, I'm hoping you can help me make a decision. This is objectively a great car. It has needed next to no repairs since I bought in April 2011 for $1800. The mechanic did recommend changing the timing belt back then, but I was a student and decided that the $900 estimate was too steep. Now I am in a much better financial position, and have had a couple different mechanics mention the timing belt during routine oil changes. I understand if I don't replace it before it breaks, the car will be totalled and a complete loss. My new mechanic says he can do it for less than $900 (he's currently pricing out an estimate, I'm thinking ~$700).
We are planning on staying with this car or another very similar one for about 3 more years until we have our first baby. At first glace $700 seems like it's not that bad, but we did just have to replace the starter - that cost $280 with labour. So we're looking at $1000 repairs or jumping ship after having invested $280 to get it running again. I believe I could sell the car for at least $1500 because these type of used cars are in high demand in my city and it's definitely a seller's market.
My concern is that if we buy another used car (perhaps a newer Toyota Corolla) we could end up having to replace its timing belt or have another equally expensive repair in the near future.
What do you all think? I'm leaning towards the repair, but doesn't $1000 of repairs on an $1800 sound too expensive? On the other hand, it's been good to us for 4 years, so $1000 over four years is not too bad at all.
Sorry for the long post, thank you in advance for your help.
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Bought 1995 Corolla for $1800 CDN 4 years ago, replace timing belt or sell and buy another, newer used car?
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t3_4a9k7f
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relationships
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I want to have more Sexy times with gf, am i being a douche?
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First of all: i'm M(18) my gf is F(18) we have been in a relationship for almost 14 months.
Hey reddit! I have been thinking for a long time now... Am i right or being a douche? Thing is my gf and i have been together for 13 months now, we haven't had sex because she is too afraid of it and her parents are constantly keeping an eye on her, although we don't have sex we do have what i call "sexy times" we touch each other and kiss passionately and that kind of stuff.
Now the problem is, it's been almost 2 months since the last "sexy time" and i really like those "sexy times" but whenever i try to initiate it she's like "ah honey not now" and it has happened like 4 times now, I've talked to her and ask if she doesn't like what i do and that stuff but she says she do enjoys "sexy times".
I feel like she doesn't like any sexual related thing and that's a big turndown for me... She says she loves me and ask me to not leave her because she really really loves me... But i'm really sad because of the "lack of sexy times" we're both 18! I think even she has to be more curious or something.
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My gf don't want me to do anything sexual related with her even when we have a LONG time together.
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t3_vbkza
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travel
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Travelers of Reddit! I just found out that I didn't qualify for as much financial aid as I had anticipated, and am spending a year doing an internship in Tanzania instead of going to college this year. How should I prepare?
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So yeah, the title says it all. I was planning on attending Rutgers University, but was only given 5k. I have 3 other members of my family going to college, and my dad is a minister, so the net income of the house (with my brothers working) is only about $50,000. This makes taking out a massive loan pretty much impossible for my family to afford. My dad being a minister and all, he has some friends that run a charity in Tanzania, and he suggested that I get some "life experience" while I can't attend college this year. I figured it was the best option for me, so I'm going this September. The only problem is, I have NO clue how to prepare-- and I haven't ever even been to a foreign country (besides Canada).
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I didn't get as much cash for college as I thought I would, and my family can't afford to take out loans right now. I'm going to Tanzania for a year on an internship, but don't know how to prepare for a venture like this.
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t3_12a6gk
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relationships
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My semi-long distance girlfriend of 4 months (25/f) appears to need me more than I (25/m) need her. How do I handle?
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I love my girlfriend, she's smart and beautiful and otherwise my dream girl. She lives an hour away, so while it's not technically an LDR there's still a bit of distance to endure. We see each other 3 or 4 times a week, usually hanging out the entire weekend and switching off spending a weeknight in each others city for a date night and to spend the night. We talk every day online and on the phone.
I think this is a healthy amount of time. She, however, constantly tells she misses me. That she wishes I were with her right now. That she wishes we lived closer together. Like, a lot. Like 6 or 7 times a day. I always feel compelled to respond with "I miss you too" because I realize it is polite and it would be a dick move to say "yeah I mean, I don't really miss you THAT much", but *honestly*? I really don't mind our time apart and actually enjoy it sometimes. I have my own work, family, and social life in my city, and also as an introvert I don't mind alone time at all. I also enjoy looking forward to seeing her.
I am afraid these are concepts she'll never understand though, because she appears to get very lonely very easily, and is very vocal about it. It is beginning to make me uncomfortable. She says things like "wouldn't it be great if we lived in the same city so we could see each other every day?" and I want to cringe. I don't know if I could stand to hang out with anyone EVERY day - even my parents have their own lives worked out so that they can spend time with their own friends often.
Have people ever overcome this imbalance of neediness in that past?
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Girlfriend is more needy than me, any fixes to this that DON'T involve breaking up?
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t3_nhxmp
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AskReddit
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How do I get myself to get shit done? How do you do it?
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It has become somewhat of a problem to me. I know I will get in trouble (read: sacrifice sleep or a better grade), but I actively seek distraction in order not to get shit done (and by that, I mean mostly university assignments). The saddest part is that I don't even enjoy it. I don't do anything fun, like playing games or the piano, and I even use it as an excuse not to socialize, because I think I'm just about to start, but then I don't. Mostly I will read stupid stuff on the internet, and it's not even reddit's fault, I would always find something. How can I motivate myself?
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I'm unable to get shit done, and don't even do fun stuff. I just don't do anything at all.
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t3_25deka
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relationships
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I'm [M22] attracted to my SO's [f24] roommate [f21] but it honestly doesn't mean anything
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A little background, my girlfriend [f24] and I [m22] have been together for about 3 years. She recently moved in with a good friend of hers into an apartment together. I spend quite a bit of time there bc of my SO, and the more I interact with her friend the more sexually attracted I am to her. There have been several occasions where we have gotten drunk together and they have made out and one occasion where they were both sober. This I feel has somewhat sexualized my feelings towards her as a friend. I've caught myself thinking "fantasy" type things involving her and I almost always feel guilty because I know if my SO were to hear those thoughts it would kill her. While it isn't an obsession (probably once or twice a month I catch myself) I still like the idea regardless of my guilt.
As for how I feel about my SO, I love her more than life itself. We are planning on getting married as soon as we are both finished with school and can move somewhere else. I have no doubt that she is who I want to take care of and grow old with. My issue is that while we are extremely open and honest about our thoughts and feelings so I've said something to the effect of I find her attractive. She said she understood that I'ts not something I can help (noticing the looks of another girl) but I could tell it hurt her self esteem.
I just need someone else's thoughts on how I should handle this. Do I admit I've had sexual thoughts about her friend? How would I approach that? Or is it just one of those things you keep to yourself to spare their feelings?
And just to make sure I'm absolutely clear, it is purely physical to me. I'm not trying to start something or initiate in any way. I value our friendship and would hate to see that dissolve in any way as well. I love my SO and would never ever do anything to hurt her, I just don't know how to handle these kinds of thoughts and feeling specifically.
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I'm physically attracted to my SO's friend and while I've admitted it before in honesty to my SO, it really affects her self esteem. Just need some idea on how to move on.
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t3_1u844s
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tifu
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TIFU by getting too drunk
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So I was at a friend's house party chugging back beers left and right as if it would last forever. I was feeling a bit bummed out about my date not coming because of some shit that happened the day before and whilst talking to a friend of mine decided to tell my ex girlfriend to go fuck herself. I did this because I was listening to my friend who encouraged me to do it even though he didn't really like her. I still care immensely about her and her family and this was really fucking idiotic of me. She's not talking to me now and is ignoring my messages, I have no idea what to do but I'm sure there is nothing I can do to regain her trust in me. I had a talk with her current boyfriend and I think we're alright but this is one of my big regrets and there is nothing I can do to make things better. I've wanted to cry since then.
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Don't drink and give in to peer pressure kids.
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t3_3ri4ih
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relationship_advice
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Me [20 M] with my ___ [20 F] 1 year, strangers for years.
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me [20 M] with my 'ex' [20 F] .....
Few years back when we were at highschool, we're like the most sweet people together where friends around us get admired easily thou we're not officially together. But one day, things changed dramatically, I don't know why she got mad that day, surely I did something wrong. She started to ignore me since then.
The next few days at school, I tried to approach her but she ended up telling me 'I hate you! Can you stop disturbing me!?' and we have never talked for another few years since then. In between, she tried to ask my friends to pass me her memo where she records all her highschool mates' details, but I didnt fill it up (Angerness maybe?)....
Years past, I finally gutted up to contact her again... But our conversations gave me a feeling that everything has changed, everything was kept short and straight to point without nonsenses...
I'm pretty sure she's single now, but, is there any way which I can try to save it? As I'm pretty sure that I still have a strong feelings for her after being years of strangers...
Or any good suggestions? Thanks a lot peeps! :/
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As a whole, I've given myself time to communicate with other girls but failed... I can't seem to accept any other girls out there after "being strangers" with her for 3 years... How should I ask her about it if it's the best way?
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t3_4bn0lk
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relationships
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My sister's boyfriend makes her take off her makeup when she comes home from work (sister is 25, boyfriend is 33) Is this a form of abuse?
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My other sister says it is, and that he is a bit controlling.
He is very unconventional in general, but doesn't use drugs or anything like that. For example, he has a doesn't register to vote because "the only person that could help me live my life is myself" sort of attitude. He doesn't believe in corporate work or big governments. However, he is committed to their 2 year relationship; he moved to a different state in order to live with my sister and got his first "regular" full time job (server at a restaurant), after she moved to chase her career dream. Thoughts?
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basically just the title, i guess
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t3_48hdin
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relationships
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Me [35F] with my co-worker [39 M] talked about having a relationship but now he acts like he hates me. What do I do or do I do nothing?
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This will be long so I apologize in advance. I'm just not sure what to do and could use some advice.
My co-worker and I have always had a very fun, flirty working relationship. We began to text after work hours a few weeks ago and discussed us dating. He knows my whole family. Everyone approved of this relationship even our boss. He is someone that I care a lot about and could possibly be "the one".
Then out of nowhere he began to ignore my texts, ignore me at work, give me short answers when I ask him a work related question and generally act like he hates me and treats me like shit. Completely threw me off as I wasn't sure where this was all coming from. I have asked what is going on and he just says nothing.
Another co-worker mentioned that he joined a dating site and saw me on there. (My profile is old, I no longer use it, and had forgotten all about it.) I think that he may have told my love interest this and that is what is causing his reaction to me.
I don't think he would believe me if I told him that I don't use the online profile because he has trust issues from a previous relationship that I had been working very hard to get him past so we could have a trusting relationship.
Now I am hurt and have no idea what to do. I'm not even sure the dating profile is the problem but it is the only thing I can think of. Should I even try to talk to him about it or just let it go and move on?
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Co-worker/love interest is ignoring me and acts like he hates me possibly because of an old online dating profile.
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t3_471o0z
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relationships
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Me [19 M] with my Girlfriend [19 F] of just 3 years, Thinks I've cheated when I haven't, how do I prove it?
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I live in student accommodation in a flat of 5 people, 3 of which are other girls. A pair of their underwear has been mixed up in washing and she has found them and thinks I've been cheating, around the same time as well an ear ring ended up in my room, of which I have no idea how, I leave my room unlocked all the time and during parties people like to come in and use my mirror or whatever. She's determined I've cheated and I don't blame her, it's hard to defend underwear and an ear ring no one in the flat is claiming... How do I prove I haven't cheated on her?!
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Girlfriend thinks I've cheated, how do I prove I haven't!?
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t3_42yhwi
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tifu
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TIFU by setting my living room on fire
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This actually happened yesterday..
So I recently got into quadcopters and for those of you who aren't familiar with them, they use LiPo batteries which are VERY dangerous. Just look up a video on youtube of LiPo failure.
So now on to the story.. I had just gotten home and wanted to start charging the battery as soon as possible since I had just gotten a new part and the batteries take a while to charge. I plug it in, set the voltage to 11.1v and 2.5a for a 2200mah battery. All is good so far, so I walk away to the other room to start putting the quadcopter together. I have [this] multi adapter charger and little to my knowledge, I had another battery plugged in whilst charging my main one. This second battery is a 2000mah 7.4v battery. I was putting 11.1v into a 7.4v LiPo (not a good idea). While putting the quad together, I hear a huge WHOOSH and turn around. The walls are lit up with orange and my desk with my computer, school books, and phone is ON FIRE. I grab a kitchen fire extinguisher from the pantry and put out the fire. FYI these things make a giant mess, it looked like it had snowed. Only about $150 in damage thankfully. Oops.
[Imgur] pic for proof
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LiPo batteries are a force not to be reckoned with
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t3_ptsxs
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relationships
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Is she getting ready to end it?
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I have a girlfriend, we are both 23, my second relationship, her first. She is in another country on a 6 month university course and a huge distance away. We will have been together as an item for 6 months very soon and I've noticed slips in any kind of level of affection or anything to that effect in all comms we have via e-mail, phone etc lately.
I'm supposed to be going to visit her in 2 months and feel like she's getting less and less interested; and more and more interested in her new male friend of whom she talks and talks endlessly in our conversations amidst her uni work and talk of few other friends. She wants to "have a talk about something before I book the hotels" for us when I arrive to visit her for a week. I've already booked my flights, spent a fair bit of money and I am really excited about it all - she seems less so.
My question is - Am I letting my mild paranoia over a male best mate a fair distance away get the better of me; or is my girlfriend trying to sum up the "balls" to cut things off, or suggest that for the week I visit - that we don't spend the time together? :/ I'm coming apart at the seams, please help me out :(
SUPER
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Girlfriend and I, 23, she's far away and seems less affectionate for me, increasingly close with guy out there. Trying to book hotels to visit her, wants to "talk about something" before I book, won't say anything when questioned on FB etc. Should I panic?
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t3_1qp4x0
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relationships
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Me [16 M] with my girlfriend [16 F] of almost a year, starting to feel attraction for another girl.
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Now I know at this age hormones are very much still a swaying factor but I want the same advice you would give to someone older than me in the same situation.
For the past almost year my girlfriend and I have been dating it has been nice. We do couple-y things and all the like. Not once have I really looked at another girl and had any feelings for her past the very skin deep things you feel for other people.
At least I hadn't until recently, our one year anniversary is coming up in December and I feel she's more into our relationship than I am. Not to say I'm done with the relationship or her but my feelings have sorta flat-lined where as hers haven't. Also recently I've been talking more and more with one of my few close lady friends and have begun to feel slightly attracted to her.
We have a class in common and most of the time when we aren't working in said class we're talking about just whatever. We share quite a few common interests (that I don't share with my current SO but that she accepts are part of me) and joke around about similar things. I haven't been seeing myself and my current SO staying together for too much longer after our one year (for a few various and complicated reasons) and want to know what I should do.
Should I cut it off early and let my feelings settle before going ahead or let my current relationship slowly die and then figure out what to do.
And yes I know I already posted this, I wanted to bring it around again a touch earlier in the day so I could get some more input.
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Should I cut off my current relationship to let my feelings settle and then (maybe) go after my friend that I'm feeling this for or go back to my SO (after thinking things over)?
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t3_mfljf
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relationship_advice
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Digging myself into a deep hole..
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for two years. I'm 19 and he's 20; we're in our second year. We are in a LDR and have been for a year. I go back three times a year (two breaks and then the whole summer) so it's not too bad. Last year was pretty difficult but this year has been a lot easier and we are closer than ever. I'm incredibly in love with him and I know he feels the same way.
The problem is that there is this guy here who I can't get out of my head. I would never physically cheat on my boyfriend; I respect him way too much. I feel like I have been emotionally cheating, though. I only see this guy once a week or every two weeks but I sometimes have dreams about him where we'll be talking for hours or do something romantic together and then I'll wake up and be like WTF and can't stop thinking about it all day.
We don't flirt or talk much; he's a friend of a friend. In fact, when we are physically together, I tend to avoid him like the plague, which is probably the wrong approach but I am trying to minimize this crush as much as possible. There have been a few instances where he has been a bit flirty and whenever another guy is flirting with me, he always gets pretty annoyed.
I'm just so confused because I love my boyfriend and want to be with him but I can't ignore this crush that has gone on for two months already. He is sort of a representation of my boyfriend but the difference is that he is HERE and my boyfriend is 3,000 miles away. I just need your advice as to what I should do here. I don't know if I should just keep doing what I'm doing (aka ignoring it) or see how this guy feels about me and if there could be something there. That would be a huge decision as it would completely ruin my relationship and that is not something I'm willing to give up on right now but who knows... Help, Redditors!
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boyfriend of 2 years, LDR, in love but have crush on a guy who is here, what should I do?
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t3_2axnbx
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relationships
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Advice about trust
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Sorryguys, this is a long one! Please bare with me.
About two months ago my boyfriend(22m) and I (20f) split up for your typical relationship problems- we spent way too much time together, we moved in together on bad circumstances, and we weren't being honest with eachother about what we wanted.
Well after that break we both discovered how to solve the issues and got back together. For the most part, I'm extremely happy! The only thing I keep having issues with is how we broke up. The last few months of our relationship I kept asking him if he felt a certain way or if something was bothering him about us. Everytime he said no, no, you're imagining problems.
Go figure, he was the one who initiated the break up and told me he'd been having all these doubts and problems, most of which I specifically asked him about and he denied. When I found out he was feeling that way I didn't react badly- I was hurt of course but I'm not someone who freaks out about how someone honestly feels. We learned how to communicate better and resolve the issues that were the problem.
Well now I'm having a really hard time trusting if he's actually happy. He lied to me before and broke up with me out of the blue and, although the break up was mutual, he denied feeling any doubts, which made me feel isolated and at fault for every argument. Has anyone here had a similar situation or any advice on how to trust someone again? This is making me hold back on talking about a future together even though he says he's being honest about what he wants.
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my boyfriend would say things didn't bother him when they did. We ended up being up over them. We solved the issues now but I'm having a hard time trusting what he says. How can I learn to trust him again and respect what he's saying?
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t3_34qe18
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relationships
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Me [23F] with my [23M] 4 months, -- started as a FWB situation, progressed to mutual feelings, told him that I was tired of a "pseudo-relationship". What should I do now?
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My guy and I have been dating for 4 months. He calls me his gf to others, I've met his family, we hang out all the time, etc. I've asked him before about us and he says he's scared to "fully give himself to me" due to past history of exes cheating on him and the fact that I'm moving away in the fall. He says he can see a future with me and we honestly are so good together.
I know that EVERYONE says communicate and I am... but I also don't want to convince him to actually make this official. When I told him that I was tired of our "pseudo-relationship", he said that he thought we did have a real relationship and asked me what needed to change. I said I didn't know (UGH I CHICKENED OUT. But do you need to tell a man that you want to be his gf? Like honestly, shouldn't he just want to do it?)
I've initiated most of the relationship [kissed him first, asked him to hang out all the time, kinda-sorta asked him to our first date]. I don't want to do this too. I feel myself getting distant and I don't want to play mind-games, but I also think that if I stop playing the part of a gf, he will realize what he's missing. I dunno. That sounds so shady.
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Dating for 4 months, SO is nervous to call me gf because of history with ex. I feel myself pulling away emotionally because of this -- is it a good thing to stop acting like a gf so he can appreciate what he has?
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t3_4nsjbx
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relationships
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I (17M) asked out my long time crush and friend (17F). She politely rejected me. It has now been 3 months since it happened and I can't seem to get over her, what should I do?
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Three years ago I met this girl, with whom I quickly became friends and developped a crush on. Until 3 months ago I didn't have the courage to ask her out. When I did she rejected me nicely. I remember I told her "I have feelings for you" and she told me she didn't love anyone. She hugged me and asked me if I was okay and I thought I was so I answered yes and just left.
At the time I told myself I could move on but I can't. All day I keep thinking about 'what if' scenarios where we could end up dating when I know there's almost no chance we are going to.
I really care about her, she is one of my great friends and has helped me a lot with some issues. I tried to forget her by stopping to talk to her but it just makes the pain of unrequited love worse. What can I do? Should I try to forget her?
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I liked a girl for a long time (3 years) got around to ask her to go out with me, 3 months ago, which she politely rejected. Yet I can't seem to get over her and I don't know what to do, or if I should just simply forget and act as if I had never known her?
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t3_2oiruq
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relationship_advice
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19/f Him 25/m Distance
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So I work at a bar and I met this guy originally I liked his friend but this guy just started trying hard and I gave him my number one night about a month ago and we've hung out about 3 times since then.
The second night we hung out he told me that he's going to Jamaica for 2 years and that he was afraid to tell me because he didn't want me to run off and I told him that I wasn't going to leave. I mean he hinted around about it before and so I just put it all together and had a good week to think about it before he actually told me.
But anyway he told me that he wanted to take things slow and to see where things go and I said ok.
Now i'm really starting to like him and every time i'm around him he says he likes me more. At this point I have no clue what e're doing or how things are really going. I can't says he's my boyfriend but I really want to know where things are going. I'm not in love with this guy but to me he's a breath of fresh air.I wouldn't mind still being with him even if he's gone for 2 years because I know he's coming back. And he's helping kids in another country I wouldn't want to stop him from doing what he's passionate about. And in 3 months he's leaving. I feel like it might be too early to ask him where things are going .
Should I stop being so insecure and just take things slow like he asked and let everything just happen or should I just ask him where things are going.
In my heart I feel like I should just let it go but i'm scared to get attached to someone and then just have them drop me like i'm nothing. It's happen too many times.
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New guy. 3 dates. Leave to another country in 3 months. Should I ask where things are going. Or just let things fall into place like he asked in the beginning.
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t3_2zfgtf
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Advice
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I can't sleep sober or I have terrible nightmares.
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I've been struggling with a drinking problem for about a year now but I'm currently working on cutting back. I've cut back to only drinking at night more to help me fall asleep but I've also tried sleeping without drinking at all but when I do I have intense terrifying dreams.
I just had this dream a few days ago. It's somewhat hard to explain do to dream logic but here it goes. I was some how stranded on top of a medium sized building in the middle of a city, let me just add I'm scared of heights without some kind of barrier. I remember being gripped with fear, along with the cold breeze from being so high up, I couldn't stop shaking. I remember laying down in a puddle and crying.
When I "woke up" I had realized I was oddly calm but I had no idea where I was. I remember someone approaching me and telling me I had died, for some reason I was oddly calm and accepting of my fate. I was taken into a room and my life up to that point was analyzed by a machine to set up my next life. Afterwards I was led into another room where I was able to give my family one last goodbye.
In there I remember my mother crying and completely calm I told her everything would be ok and that I had already accepted my death and so should she. I was taken into one last room that was basically a waiting room to be reborn. After about an hour everything went dark and all I could think was being completely ready and willing to be reborn. Then I slowly woke up in my own bed and was actually kind of upset that I wasn't reborn or ever actually died.
I don't know if the middle and end can really be considered terrifying but the whole thing felt so real I was completely convinced I had died. I've tried sleeping sober a few more times but each time it resulted in nightmares I couldn't escape or I'd literally scare myself awake.
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I can't sleep sober with out bad nightmares. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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t3_wt4wx
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AskReddit
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A black male bum walks into KFC and a random American starts making racist comments, whats your most racist experience?
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I live in Europe, me and a buddy always wanted to visit any part of America. so we decided we head to California. one day we desperatly needed some fast food like KFC/BK. so we took a different stop while driving the bus to the city. before we enter KFC some bum tries to follow us and touches our bags, now we are laughing because we hardly know how to react and just keep walking. i was to stupid to see the harm in this i guess. we walk into KFC and we have no sight anymore of the guy who was touching our bags. We order our food/drink and everything seems to be going fine untill i see someone complaining in the corner. i hear him mumbling some things about the food and people that enter the restaurant. then he starts telling a woman she should fuck off for no reason. so i burst in laughter and just look at him. then this bum comes in, who seems to be the same bum who touched our bags. and out of no where i hear "YOU FUCKING NIGGER, GO SOMEWHERE ELSE, YOU GIVING BLACK PEOPLE BAD NAME YOU CALL ME A WHITE TRASH I CALL YOU NIGGER, YOU FILTHY NIGGER" he just kept going like this and the bum just kept looking at him untill he stopped. the bum walks towards me and says "got some change?" while i was giving him money i couldnt hold my laughter, not because of the racisme but the man who was calling the bum names was being random as hell.
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you better read it.
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t3_1cbdtt
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relationships
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I[20]m don't know how to feel about my girlfriend[20] going Coachella with friend and ex
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We both go to the same college and have been in a relationship for 6 months. She broke up with her ex (LDR) right before to date me and she said she sees him as a friend now, he however, still loves her. She hangs out with when she goes home for break occasionally so it is not too weird for her to be hanging out with him.
Anyways one of their mutual friends got her a free vip ticket to coachella, so she went with their friend and her ex and they are all camping together right now. She is camping in their tent and has rolled with them, dropped acid and is doing shrooms.
I have never done these and they are all things we have talked about wanting to do together.
While I don't think it is reasonable to have told her not to go, and while I don't think she would do anything, I feel a little bummed and I guess envious that her ex gets to have these experiences with her. I do however want her to have a good time and enjoy it.
I don't know how I should really be feeling about this and wanted your guy's opinions and thoughts. Thanks in advance.
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Feel mixed feelings about girlfriend doing drugs with ex at coachella, are these feelings reasonable?
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t3_2f8bro
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relationships
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Me [21F] with my boyfriend [21M] 3 months, new LDR, SO says he wants a break. [x-post from /r/longdistance]
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Hi! I submitted this on /r/longdistance but haven't gotten feedback so I figured I'd try here as well. Using a throwaway for obvious reasons.
My SO and I have been seeing each other since the beginning of the summer. At first we told each other it would end once we left for college (a few hours apart), but then we decided we had developed such deep feelings for each other that we wanted to give an LDR a shot.
Keep in mind that he was the one who pushed us into seriousness.. He told me he wanted to give it a shot first, he told me he was falling in love with me first, he actually came on really strong with how he felt and how much he wanted to be with me.
Now he says he's freaking out and wants a break to think about things. He doesn't want to hook up with other people, but needs time to figure out if he wants to do long distance. I understand, but it still hurts that he feels he needs time away from me.
I guess my question is have any of you guys been through this and gotten through it? Have you or your partner asked for a break and then realized they want to stay with you? How did you cope while you waited? Also, how long should I wait until I end it myself? I want to give him the space he needs but I also want to respect myself. I've never been in this situation before so I have no idea how to handle it. Any advice would be very appreciated!
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Newly long distance with my boyfriend, he freaks out and says he needs an NC break (while still staying exclusive to one another). Need advice on how to handle the situation.
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t3_uqbkd
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AskReddit
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I started getting abnormally horny right after I got married.. Diet, lifestyle, medication, fitness, etc haven't changed. Should I be worried?
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I'm 23. I got married 3 months ago. I got abnormally horny on our honeymoon, but I figured that was normal because it was romantic as fuck. But that hasn't gone away since then.
My husband and I were together for 5 years before getting married. Throughout, we averaged having sex once a week (maybe twice), and that was more than enough for me, but I also gave him blowjobs 7-10 times a week. In the last 3 months, we've been having sex twice a day at least. Is this normal? Or should I be worried? I took a lot of ecstasy on our honeymoon, which was my first time taking it. I haven't taken any since. Could that still be effecting me?
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should I be worried about this change?
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t3_20wm3f
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running
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Treadmill running vs Outside running
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Holy shit, so I just started training for a 1/2 marathon (I've never been a runner, always go on the bike). I trained the first month on a treadmill, I could do 2 miles straight at a 10:00/pace without stopping, I was so excited that I was building endurance.
And then yesterday happened. I try running outside for the first time and it's like I haven't trained at all. Completely different parts of my body hurt, my pace is 2:30 minute slower, I feel like I can't stride out at all, which is usually what I do when I get tired. I'm buying running shoes today in hopes that that will help with some of the pain.
Any other tips from people for converting from a treadmill to outside?
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Training was going well on a treadmill, outside running makes me feel like someone beat the shit out of me...tips?
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t3_122mwn
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relationship_advice
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My usually chill mother has decided that she hates my (incredibly friendly and generally widely adored) boyfriend....
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Hey everyone!
So here's my backstory- I'm a 23 year old single mother who works full time and goes to school full time. I am currently living with my mother (who doesn't work) so that I have the ability to work and go to school without the worry of daycare. She adores my son and loves taking care of him while I'm away. I owe her a LOT.
So, I recently started dating someone for the first time since my son was born. I've known this guy for 2 years, so it's not like he's some random stranger. He's been around my son since he was born.
My mother met my boyfriend for the first time this past weekend. She hates him. She says she gets a "bad feeling" around him, and that there is just something about him that she doesn't like. She doesn't want me bringing my son anywhere near him, and is now threatening to "step-in" and take my son if need be. This is entirely plausible. I'm a damned good mother, but at this point I cannot support us on our own.
I love this guy- I always have. He has really kicked my butt into gear and makes sure that I am really focusing on the things that I need to be working on. My mother says that I need to drop the guy and focus on my son- who is always my main priority (and the boyfriend knows this).
I guess I don't know how to handle the situation. My son is my number one priority, so I'll do whatever needs to be done for things to be great for him. I adore my boyfriend, and I don't want to lose him, but my mother is being insane. everyone else adores him!
I need advice!!
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Mom hates my new boyfriend, threatening to take my son away.
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t3_15th6e
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relationships
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I (18M) have feelings for one of my best friends(17 F) but she has a boyfriend, and he's good to her.
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The situation isn't that complex. I've known this girl, lets call her Mandy, for almost two years, and have grown quite close to her over time. She's extremely attractive, much more so than any other girls that pay me attention, and she's very smart and multi-talented. The problem, as I said, is that she is taken. She has been dating a guy for about 5 months, we'll call him Evan (18), and they are a great couple. She's happy, and he treats her great.
I guess my problem is that I can't get over her. Every time I get to see her I'm mesmerized. I enjoy her company immensely. There was a time we almost dated but her emotional ties at the time kept anything from developing. She surely knows that I like her, but surely not how much. I dream of her, and I've been having daydreams like I did of middle school, stuff like the damsel in distress rescue/protect her fantasies. I think about her all the time.
So I guess my questions are.
1. What should I do? Bide my time or try to move on?
2. If the latter, how?
3. Should I tell her now, or wait?
4. Is my level of attachment to her unhealthy?
5. If so, what should I do?
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I like girl. Girl has boy. Girl is happy with boy. What do?
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t3_3qv3mu
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tifu
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TIFU at a Halloween party.
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I was hanging out with some friends at a costume party 3 years ago and there was this girl dressed up as a sexy cat (how original) and she just kept looking at me. Eventually it became a stare. Every time I looked in her direction, she was looking directly at me. I was dressed up as Han Solo, so I start thinking my costume came apart or something because I doubt a girl like that is interested in me. I'm an average, decent looking ass dude. So I go to the other room to check and I'm all good, no problems. I go back out to the living room where some friends are playing some Smash Bros. and she comes and sits by me... She whispers in my ear that she thinks I'm cute and asks if I'm with anyone and all that talk to confirm that I'm single... Fast forward and we get WASTED. She's super hot too by the way.
The night goes on and I'm playing some of my favorite songs for everyone and the party is perfect. She comes up to me and grabs my hand and starts leading me up the stairs... I'm totally about to get laid... I'm sitting on my friends bed taking off my blaster belt and she says, "I have to use the litter box." I laugh because, obviously, that was a hilarious bathroom reference to her costume... Well I think to myself, "I better use the bathroom real quick too." She had already left the room, so I do a quick jog across the hall to the bathroom.
I knock.
No answer.
I open the door.
She's squatted over the fucking litter box and now I'm the one staring... She's so drunk that she thinks this is a totally okay thing and I knew right there I wasn't about to stay hard with this image burned into my head. So I immediately walk out, and tell my friends to pack up, and it's time to roll out. I told them what I saw and they laughed uncontrollably and now they like to remind me about the time I almost fucked the "cat girl" on Halloween.
Yeah. What the fuck?
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I was totally about to bone this super hot girl dressed up as a sexy cat, and I walked in on her literally using the litter box to piss...
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t3_2kglje
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relationships
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I (16 m) still can't get over my girlfriend(18 f) after a year
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I first met Jade around two years ago on a forum. We quickly grew as friends until I confessed my feelings towards her a few months after I met her. We went into a relationship and were in one for about a year until we broke up in November of last year. I was clingy in our relationship and always worried she didn't love me. Looking back now, I realized she loved me dearly. Our breakup was over an argument over if she loved me. We had a lot in common and she meant the world to me. It's almost been a year since she left me and my life has been a downward spiral ever since. I have trouble functioning sometimes because I keep thinking about her and if she misses me or if she is doing well. What should I do? I feel it's almost impossible for me to get over her.
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I'm clingy and miss my girlfriend
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t3_16kj0u
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relationships
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My mom get's involved in our marriage [M24/F21]
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My mom get's involved in our marriage [M24/F21] married for [4 years tougher for 6 years]
Me and my wife recently went on a vacation.
We wanted to stay by her friends house (It was her best friend in HS , who moved away in 10th grade) after our tour. Since we booked tickets with the tour we had to contact the airline directly but the airline said only available a couple of days later then our attended stay since I needed to go back to work.
My wife decided to stay without me (7 extra days) after I told her I wanted her to come home with me. She felt she will not have another opportunity for a while to see her friend. We did go out for dinner with her friend durring our tour.
My wife did it anyway. When I got home I stayed by my parents house since I enjoy company. My mom was very upset that my wife stayed behind and not come home with me. She also called my wife's parents and complained. When my wife got home my mom gave my wife a cold shoulder. I did not tell my mom I am upset at my wife at all! I always took my wife's side in any conflict between her and my mom.
Just a few sides notes. Since after HS my has been helping us with rent, food, and even letting us live with her! Since we got married right after HS my mom felt that it was very importent that we both go to college.
So /r/relationships do you feel
A) my wife should of stayed back?
B) does my mom have the right to tell my wife she did something wrong ?
They are currently both mad at each other. They do not want to talk. If I even bring up my mom's name my wife get's upset.
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wife stays without me in a different country and my mom get's upset at her
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t3_4gt1b6
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relationships
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My [27F] band mates [40sM,M,F] are giving me a hard time for having a job. Who is being unreasonable?
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I have been in this band for a year, during which time I have been chronically unemployed but actively seeking work. I have recently gained temporary employment (8 weeks) that I am trying my hardest to convert into long term employment. My band (all unemployed) have been putting huge amounts of pressure on me to keep to the same rehursal schedule we had when I was unemployed (not possible) and are completely unwilling to compromise or give up their Friday's or Saturday's to practice because they "are busy too". Yesterday I travelled an hour and a half after work to meet them and was complaining about all the pressure they're putting me under taking all the joy out of making music. They all started having a massive go at me saying that this is a job for them and I need to sort my priorities out and they are sacrificing time with their kids [18-25] for me and I need to either shape up or quit. I got really upset after having such a long day and having 3 ppl chew me out so I just left. Also, I only have one more week of work left so I don't want to burn bridges. I don't want to lose this band, I love making music with them but I'm at my wits end.
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band are being dicks about my temporary 9 to 5 job making me unavailable. They refuse to compromise and rehurse on weekends. What do I do?
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t3_35l6fm
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tifu
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TIFU by mispronouncing the fish I had for lunch
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Deployed to a base in Afghanistan. In line at the chow hall where there's a variety of wonderful foods to choose from. I hand my plate to the server and request some fresh broccoli. He puts some on my plate and proceeds down the line. I notice some fish, but there were two types; catfish and pollock. I never had the pollock before and I couldnt just say "I'll have the fish". I then told the server "I'll have the pollock", instead of pronouncing it the proper way, I managed to say polack. It was about that time I noticed Polish soldiers in line right behind me giving me the death stare. So I'm hoping they don't speak English well, but I scurried out of there in a hurry just incase.
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Mispronounced pollock with polack when I had Polish soldiers behind me. Offended the shit out of them and embarassed myself.
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t3_33xxyk
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relationships
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I'm [22F] Being Threatened by my Co-Workers [14M] Older Sister [21F]
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I work at this restaurant and there's this 14 year old guy who started working here a couple weeks ago. Most people who work here are a bit older, since I'm the closest to his age I talk to him pretty often. We talked about school, his girlfriend, etc and when the stuff about his girlfriend came up I jokingly asked if he'd had sex with her yet, and another time I said something about being "safe" and it seemed he found it funny and wasn't bothered by it at all, so I didn't think anything of it.
But this weekend at the end of his shift, his parents or older sister usually pick him up, His sister comes into the restaurant and asks me if I'm free to have a talk with her, I agreed to, and she basically accused me of harassing him and making sexual comments to him and stuff. She was speaking in a really confrontational manner and I was kind of intimidated, and when she asked if I made these comments, I denied it, I was going to say yes and that it was just a joke but I was afraid to tell her that. She basically said I know you're lying, and she left and she seemed pissed off at me and she was being really rude.
I feel awkward now and I don't know how to act or what to say when I work with him next. I'm not sure if it's actually bothering him, or if she's making a big deal out of nothing. What should I do?
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I'm being threatened by my co-workers older sister, she's accusing me of harassing him even though I was just joking around and I thought he was fine with it, he didn't say he had a problem with it and he laughed. I'm not sure if he told her it's bothering him or if she's just making a big deal out of nothing. She confronted me about it and I denied it, she thinks I'm lying. What should I do?
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t3_21jwru
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relationship_advice
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Need advice(28/f) My SO(30/m)
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We have known each other for the last 5 years, been dating for 2.5 years. We have a great relationship, love each other- everything is great. However, i feel like he is extremely insensitive to certain things that are of huge importance to me. It has come down to this that, I am not sure if his though process works, or he does it deliberately. I want to believe he doesnt do it deliberately and he is just that way. But i also cannot keep ignorning these things. I should mention when i bring it up to him he does apologize and say he didnt think about it that way - but it still hurts that he wouldnt even think about me??
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my boyfriend is indifferent at times, not sure how to deal with it.
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t3_2bagk6
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relationship_advice
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My [19 F] boyfriend [22 M] of 10 months slept with someone else while we were broken up. How do I move past it?
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I'll try to keep this short. My boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago, and we just decided Saturday that we wanted to work things out and try again. Everything seemed like it was going really well (doesn't it always?) until last night he dropped the bomb that he slept with another girl while he was really drunk. I know he didn't do anything wrong or "against the rules", but the fact that I was doing all I could just to make it through the day and he felt okay enough to fuck another girl really stings. He says he regrets it and he seemed genuinely sorry. Also I should mention that I'm not mad, since we were broken up and everything, I'm just disappointed and hurt. It feels like our relationship couldn't have meant as much to him as it does to me if he felt like he could be with someone else so soon after leaving me.
I just want to move on. I want to know how to stop images of him with another woman from popping up in my mind. If any of you have gone through something similar, I would really like to know what you did to cope and if you ever overcame it.
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Boyfriend left me about a month ago and slept with someone else while we were broken up. I know he didn't technically do anything wrong, but I'm still hurt. How do I move past it?
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t3_35vl9b
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relationships
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Is it ever okay to hit your partner? I'm [23f] starting to feel like I'm going crazy.
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It's progressed kind of slowly over the relationship (1.5yr, living together 1yr). About a year ago we had a big argument and he [25m] spat in my face and since then it's got worse and worse until recently kicking me repeatedly while I was on the floor and hitting me over the head with the handle of a broom multiple times, to the point of bruise for weeks and pain.
He says that he has never done this to anyone before but he is so stressed out and angry because of how difficult I am (I have a non-specified mental illness) to deal with.
This has happened (to a lesser extent) with two partners before this who both also said they had never hit any previous girlfriends.
I always end up comforting him after and telling him it's okay because when he calms down he says he will break up with me, but I can't imagine not being with him when we have such amazing times together also.
I just want to know if it's ever okay? I don't know if there's something wrong with me that makes people want to hit me or if it's definitely not okay and I should be mad. I just feel confused and crazy.
Sorry this was in no coherent order.
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my boyfriend hits me when we argue because he says I'm too difficult to deal with, but he's never done it to anyone before. Two exam have said this also. Is it sometimes okay to hit people? Is it my fault?
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t3_352hbc
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personalfinance
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Apartment complex sent me to collections without notice.
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After leaving my previous apartment I was turned into collections for a water bill and a move out fee. I never received any notice if this bill in the mail, by phone, or email all if which they had information on. I would gladly have paid this bill (even after I was told my account was paid in full on move out) but instead collections has hassled me (In every way the apartment complex didn't. Mail, phone, email). Do I have options here? Some people have mentioned calling the complex to pay the bill and if they refuse payment it's done right there, but that doesn't seem legit. Any help would be awesome, I dot want to pay $100 in extra fees to these damn collectors just because the apartments didn't get ahold of me.
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sent to collections without notice (as far as I can tell) do I have options to pay the original bill.
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t3_4yo32j
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relationships
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My (19m) girlfriend (18f) still talks and hangs out with her ex (20m). How should I proceed?
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My girlfriend and I have been exclusive for around 6 months. She broke up with her boyfriend 2 months prior. When they hang out, which is usually just those two, he says things that always go back to sex. An example is "don't turn your back from me, it makes me want to fuck you." She says she hates it but still insists on being his friend. She has assured me that they are just friends, and I trust her. I told her my concerns with him but she still talks and sees him. I know his intentions, though. How should I proceed about this ex?
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ex and girlfriend still hangout. ex wants my girlfriend, but don't know how to proceed
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t3_34rwht
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relationships
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Me [23 M] was broken up with 3 months ago by my girlfriend [23 F] of 4 years. I'm still very much upset and depressed and can't figure out how to move on.
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We dated for 4 years throughout college. We were very serious, talked a lot about marriage and life together after college. Long distance and some disagreements caused her to break up with me 3 months ago and I've been a mess ever since. I've cried almost everyday and am overall very depressed. The part that frustrates me the most is that I don't feel any issues we ran into were impossible to get through. I think we needed some time to figure ourselves out and I want so badly to be with her. I'm just feeling incredibly hurt and misunderstood and unable to move on...
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Girlfriend of 4 years broke up with me 3 months ago. We were very serious and I can't figure how to move on. I've been very depressed and can't seem to get out of this rut I'm in. I just want to work things out because I don't think the things we ran into were fundamentally deal breakers; just typical relationship issues.
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t3_2g85pr
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tifu
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TIFU by trying to fix my air conditioner.
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My air conditioner stopped working 2 days ago. I checked online to see if I could figure out what was wrong. It seems it is either the capacitor or the fan motor. I'm leaning toward the fan motor because when you give the blades a whirl it doesn't keep spinning.
Yesterday I went to purchase a new fan motor, and the salesman said that you usually replace the capacitor when you replace a fan motor. A new capacitor wasn't that much more, so I figured "sure, why not".
Last night I went to do the replacing, and that's when I realized that the bad fan motor had 1 wire that goes to the capacitor, but the new motor has 2. The only thing is, there's only room on the capacitor for one wire to be connected (from the fan motor). My logic is, if they both attach at the same place, why can't I just splice them together into one connector and attach them both at the same time to the capacitor.
I'm not sure if that is the source of error, or there's something else...but when I plugged the fuse back in to start everything up there was sparking and the smell of electrical burning.
Tomorrow an A/C repairman will be coming out to fix everything.
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I tried to save money by fixing my A/C, but will probably end up spending much more to have someone repair my mistakes.
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t3_4n8cvq
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relationships
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Me [25/F] with my old high school friend(?) [26 F], invited me to her wedding thru FB, but we haven't hung out in years
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We're best friends at one point in high school, but drifted away due to changes in priority (me on school, her on popularity). I went to college, she went to work full-time. I've tried keeping in touch after high school, but it was tough since she was dating (now to be married) to this guy I never really liked (he hung out with the "wrong crowd" (drinking, drugs, gambling), but I'm probably being judgy.
A couple of years ago I initiated a text just saying something like "hey let me know when you have time to hang out, we need to catch up!" She responded she would, but nothing happened.
At this point I don't even really consider us friends anymore, so I was surprised to be invited to her wedding. My sister's opinion is that "it was nice of her", but if I go, am I obligated to get a gift?
I know, that last sentence sounded kind of petty, but I just don't feel close to her anymore. It's kind of expected to give a gift if I go, but I don't think I even want to. It honestly feels kind of messed up to me for her to think I would put effort into joining her on her big day, when she hasn't tried to maintain a friendship. We still live in the same city. I especially don't want to go since there will be a chance of running into other high school friends who I've also written off due to lack of effort (and posting of questionable/slightly racist/classist articles on FB, I've "unfriended" them already)
Am I being mean, or do I have a point?
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Old friend who I haven't hung out with in a long time invited me to her wedding. Don't feel comfortable going as we are no longer close. Do I have to go?
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t3_3dykxz
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tifu
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TIFU by almost giving my SIL a seizure =(
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Just happened a little bit ago, I'm still feeling really bummed about it.
My brother and SIL (sister in law) were delivering a mattress to my mom's house today so I was helping them carry it in. After we finished we all sat down and my dad's watch alarm went off. My dad can't hear the alarm even though it drives us all batty. So I pulled up one of those "Hearing Test" things with the different frequencies to see how many of them he could hear.
First one goes on and no one can really hear it except me, though my mom says she feels a kind of pressure more than hearing a sound. Second one goes on and my SIL suddenly looks like she is going to cry and asks me to turn it off. She was pale and stuttering and explained that she has epilepsy and certain noises can cause her to have a seizure.
It's not like I knew any of this information prior but she looked and sounded so freaked out and I felt like the biggest asshole.
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TIL certain frequencies can potentially cause seizures in epileptics :(
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t3_1ucams
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AskReddit
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What customer service experience made you dump a company for good?
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I recently moved all my money to a local credit union. When a payment from an account I forgot to switch over hit my old Bank of America checking account I got an overdraft fee because they processed the payment even though my account was at a zero balance for a month. After a live chat online and actual phone call with a representative they refused to withdraw the $35 fee and said they would actually charge me $35 more if not rectified within 5 days and that the fees would continue to pile on until the account was brought back to zero (FYI the payment was only $51.11). I had a flawless account history and had never dropped below a zero balance. I'm closing my account and not looking back. Customer service like this is exactly why I moved from a big bank to a credit union (member owned and non-profit). What a difference! Best decision I've made and wish I did it years ago.
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A payment was processed on my old zero balance dormant account, BOA wants to charge me $70 in fees (and increasing) for honoring a $51.11 charge.
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t3_2wce5q
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tifu
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TIFU by taking out the trash.
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I FINALLY HAVE SOMETHING TO POST HERE! HUZZAH!
I was too grossed out and embarrassed to post this yesterday, but whatever. At least it's short. I had 2 bags of trash to take out, and did so yesterday morning, on the way to my car.
I live in central Indiana, so the weather isn't as bad as you poor bastards up north or in Massachusetts, but it was still blustery and snowy. So, I had my fleecy winter gloves on. I deposited my trash in the dumpster, brushed the snow off my car, and got in to start my commute. Right then, my nose started to itch, so I scratched it. And accidentally rubbed trash juice on, and right under, my nose. Just barely missed the lip, and THANK GOODNESS because ew. I hadn't noticed that my gloves had gotten some leakage on them. Said gloves are now in the laundry hamper, and I was grossed out for the whole drive, until I could rush to my workplace bathroom and wash up. At least it's only like a 10 minute drive.
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Eau De Garbage Face.
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t3_l6e3w
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AskReddit
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Anyone have a good story about a time you stood up for yourself?
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I'll start. Once when I was in middle school a teacher was pissed off at me (I can't remember why) and gave me detention with her (as opposed to the "official" school-wide detention) as punishment.
Her detention: Students had to sit up perfectly straight in their chairs, arms flat on the desk, staring at the clock for 30 minutes. If the student's posture slipped, they talked, or they stopped looking at the clock she would start the time over again.
I had a rehearsal for a play the day she assigned me detention. Luckily, it started about 30 minutes after school ended, so I could do both. When the time was almost up, however, she said that I violated one of the rules and my time had started over. I told her that I had rehearsal and had to go. She said if I didn't do the extra time she would report me to my dean. I was pretty furious and beyond caring, so I told her to go ahead and went to my rehearsal.
The next day the dean called me in and asked me what happened. I explained to her the parameters of the detention and that I had already served close to the full time when she decided to extend it. The dean said she'd look into it and wouldn't punish me until she knew more. The dean never called me back into her office or penalized me in any way. And though the teacher hated me at first, after a while she started to like me.
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Teacher gave me a cruel detention on a day that I had rehearsal for a play. She tried to keep me late, I said "fuck that" and left to go to rehearsal. I wasn't penalized and after a while the teacher even liked me.
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t3_1dnxe4
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AskReddit
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Hitchhikers of Reddit, what is the one ride you won't forget?
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Mine is pretty tame. A few years ago I was hiking in Oregon. I got a ride from a guy who said he would take me from town toward the mountain (Grizzly, I believe). He was headed up the mountain to meet some friends so I hopped in. It didn't occur to me that I would be meeting his friends too, but the next thing I knew I was on the side of this logging road with an arsenal of weapons in the woods and with maybe six guys firing into a couple of drum sets perched all around the mountainside. Reportedly, one of these guys was an arms dealer, and while I don't know if that's true, I do know that this guy had a boatload of guns. I went from never shooting a gun in my life - in fact never even touching one - to firing all sorts of shotguns and semi auto rifles and pistols and whatever else there was. It was a mad house.
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Impromptu firing range.
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t3_p9uu9
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AskReddit
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Dear Reddit, what is your opinion on tattoos?
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My dad's older brother was a small time magician who was murdered before I was born. I grew up always hearing about him and our similarities. Last year, around the anniversary of his death, my dad got more upset than usual. He explained to me that I'm the age he was when he died and that everything I do reminds him of my uncle. I look like him, act like him, and I'm even taking the same courses as him in university. Since that night I've thought a lot about my role in my dad's life. I don't really believe in reincarnation, but I suppose a part of me wants my life to be an homage to my uncle. Anyway, recently I thought about getting a tattoo that says "Abracadabra", in memory of my uncle, and in a way representing his last trick for my dad. What does Reddit think of this idea? Tattoos are a permanent thing and I don't want to make a rash decision.
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I was considering getting a tattoo that says "Abracadabra" in memory of my late magician uncle.
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t3_3l32s3
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relationships
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Should I [23 F] rant to my ex [21 M] and let it off my chest? (9 months, short distance)
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So me and my ex ended on a bad note, while he was on holiday, so we didn't break up in person. I never got to have closure, and I feel like I really need to get a rant off my chest. I did see him again during our college graduation, but of course, that was not the time nor place to get things off my chest. It's been two weeks since we broke up/last talked.
We already broke up once before because he cheated, after which he claimed to cut all contact with the girl and claimed to ''hate'' her. I forgave him and gave him a second chance.
The main reason I want to rant to him so bad is because I found out he has been lying to me. Also, during our break up, he insulted and cursed at me, and during our graduation (recently) he did not even apologize for this. Also, during the graduation, he was constantly talking to the girl he had cheated on me with, taking pictures, laughing hugging etc.
This is a very long story short basically, and all I want to know is whether it is worth it to send him this long wall of text I have prepared to send him. Personally, both options seem appealing; I cut off all contact and don't send him my rant, hopefully he will realise for himself what a dick he has been, and feel sorry.
I have a feeling that won't happen though, and I really just want insult him one last time and confront him about the lies that I did indeed know about all along, and after this, block him.
I feel that that might make me look pathetic and psycho, though, so I don't know. Now would be my only time to do it however, since in 2 months it would be so out of the blue; now its still relevant (with graduation and all). I feel so mistreated and like I never had any say. I also can't do it in person because we live abroad now. Thoughts?
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should I send one final rant to my ex bf who I recently broke up with?
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t3_ss74j
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relationships
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Young couple, trying to move in together. How do I tell my overbearingly-traditional Catholic parents?
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So I met my girlfriend about a year ago, and things are going great. I have been in a half-dozen relationships in the past, and I can already tell that this one has something that all the others didn't.
We're both responsible, post-college (22 years old), with jobs in the city. We decided to start looking at places together, but I haven't told my parents yet. My dad's a cool guy, but is extremely right-wing Catholic whatever, so it's difficult to think of ways to tell him. And I know my mom is gonna bitch at me forever about it, even though she's made some pretty bold decisions of her own at my age. This move will definitely be frowned upon in my family's eyes, and my reputation with them may be soiled forever.
Reddit, please help. For those of you that have been faced with this before, as I am assuming there may be a few of you, give me some tips. My biggest fear is losing connection with my family, as I love them too.
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my parents are super religious, trying to move in with my girlfriend, what's the best way to tell them without alienating myself from them?
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t3_506h07
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relationships
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Me [26M] trying to get my friend [27M] to get back into the dating scene.
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Hey all!
So just to start off, the friend I am talking about is not me. We've kinda taken this journey together of getting better with women, as we never really had success with it. We're both good looking guys with good jobs, who live in cities (not the same one though).
I've been having success with online dating, mostly. I have a very healthy sex and love life now.
Him, however, not so much. He pretty much gave up at the first sign of difficulty. The thing is, he's probably even better looking than me (he's white and I'm black too, if that matters). Everywhere we go, women eye him up. I'm trying to tell him to go after it, but he just doesn't seem to care. It's just weird how the guy who probably has to do the least work overall won't even try.
Since this is such a big part of my life....I'm having issues continuing my friendship with this guy. He's not against my goals, but it's just kind of sad to me that he gave up so easily. Having success in this area has brought me a lot of happiness, and I know the same will be for him too. What do I do? How do I get him to see this matters?
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How to convince a good friend to not give up on dating?
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t3_p4i5k
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AskReddit
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Redditors, I come to you in a time of need! Whats the best way to get car insurance cheaper? (UK)
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My current car broke down the other day (spectacularly) and I am now looking at buying and insuring a new car in the UK. I previously payed £800 p/y for a classic 1ltr Mini, which of course I expected to pay more than when I was looking for a new(er) car.
I am a young driver (19) and currently my best quote is from LV at £2274.91 without the possibility of paying monthly, so thats pretty much out of the question! The car I am looking at is a 1.2ltr Polo 2002. With the 1ltr version being more expensive to insure (I have no idea why but so is 3rd P/F/T over comprehensive, I'm sure they make this shit up)
Any help would be awesome, and this could serve as a guide for all new drivers!
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I am being savaged by many a insurer.
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t3_174ksu
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relationships
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[M20] Feeling like my love is unrequited... [F17]
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Hey /r/relationships, I've been seeing this girl since November and I've been feeling pretty insecure about it for a while now... not sure where else to turn. Anyway, I've been seeing her for a few months now and I've never felt this way about a girl. I think I'm in love with her, and she assures me that she thinks about me all the time and loves me too... I have a great relationship with her parents and they treat me like I'm part of the family. The thing that gets me is a lot of the time she just seems really distant... I'm not sure if it's her afraid of getting too close because of past relationships, or if she's just not that into me. Just for further info, we started out as fuck buddies but as we got to know eachother better she told me she wanted to be more than that. I'm really into this girl and the uncertainty is breaking my heart :/ any advice?
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I'm in love but I feel like it's unrequited.
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t3_w7pf2
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relationship_advice
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Previously friendzoned guy is now my boyfriend, sex issue
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Throwaway. Me F/27 him M/26
He is one of my ex-es best friends. He got out of a 6 year relationship, where the only way to have sex with his GF was to beg for it.
Being my ex-es best friend, he knew details of the relationship with my ex, such as me wanting a lot of sex from my ex, which is true. I don't know what other details my ex told him.
Fast forward to today, he wants a relationship with me. I've accepted. We've only been together TWO DAYS, I repeat, two god damn days, and he wants to have sex already!!! I told him that I am not ready, he said "send me a memo when you are" . Really? I don't find him physically attractive at all, and I am having a VERY hard time coping with him being a boyfriend instead of just a friend (especially because of the issues I have with his parents also)
It turns out he liked me for about 8-9 months, during which I was recovering from the break-up with my ex. I told this new guy a lot of things from the relationship with my ex, and the new guy actually suggested that I need sex and I should get a friend with benefits. Yesterday he admitted that he was talking about him being the said friend with benefits although he was still in a relationship. Arghh, I'm gutted, I got a male FWB to whom I am extremely attracted to, and the sex was great. Now, obviously, I have to break things off with the FWB, since new guy already asked me about my FWB.
I obviously think that new guy got the completely wrong idea about me. and I feel like I've been cheated somehow, I told him all these things when all he wanted was to sleep with me? I am not sure if I want to even be in a relationship right now. What to do? For sure this will ruin our friendship if we decide to break up. (if I decide)
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New guy is my ex-es boyfriend friend, knows I wanted sex a lot while he had to beg for it from his ex. Asks for sex from the second day of us being a couple; I am having trouble in finding him attractive and unsure even if I want a relationship with him right now.
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t3_1uoo92
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relationships
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Me [21 M] never had a girlfriend before, new city, and the clock is ticking...
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Aside from a few dates in high school, I've never really been with a girl before. I took a year off to work to save up for school, then moved to a brand new city, and I am just finishing up my associates degree at a community college. I'm going to medical school in 2 years and my Dad has repeatedly told me he would not have survived med school if he hadn't been married.
The problem is I have no idea how to meet girls. I am a confident guy, I have no problem asking them out and getting rejected, I just don't know where to find them. The girls at the community college aren't exactly the ones I want to spend the rest of my life with.
And even if I found an cool girl I have no idea how to "date". The dates in high school, I based off of what I saw in romantic comedies, and it didn't work out so well.
I feel like if I don't find someone soon, I'm just gonna have to wait until after med school in order to find someone. I just really have NO earthly idea what to do at this point.
The biggest dilemma of all however, is that there are plenty of smart cute girls at the local Mormon church. I left the church 2 years ago because of serious issues I had with it. The girls would want me to be a devout member if we dated. Do I live a lie for the rest of my life for a potentially awesome girl?
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Never really dated before, in a new city, and feel like I need to get married before medical school in 2 years. Mormon girls are an option but have strong opposition to the church.
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t3_2tdlrx
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relationships
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Me [22F] with my 11 months boyfriend [26M]. He broke up with me. Why? I'm destroyed, is there anyone willing to talk to me?
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Everything was fine. I was staying at his for the week. Had a minor argument (well, he just walked away so not really argument). That was 9 pm, I was heading out with friends, he went to the pub. I left the club round 12.30 to get it sorted. Because I love him and I don't want to fight with him.
I got to his, he'd packed up all my stuff and he was saying that he doesn't love me, hasn't loved me since May(!!!) etc. It was 180 degrees from four hours before. He's like the best boyfriend, we work really well together. I know he loves me, I don't understand what happened in that space of time. It was just so odd. So sudden. And after I'd left his, he called up my flatmate for some reason and told him that he doesn't deserve me.
This was Tuesday. He's still adamant about that he wants this to happen.
I can't sleep or eat or drink, how do I get over this?
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Boyfriend broke up, I don't understand why, feeling broken.
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t3_2gf0by
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dogs
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Moving, and don't know what is best for my GSD
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I need some advice. I have a GSD, and have had him since he was a puppy. He just turned 2. I live in the US, and have a house with a fenced backyard, dog house, etc. He is really high energy, and we take him to play fetch almost daily in a big field. He is like the energizer bunny.
About a year ago I met my (now) German fiance, and the plan is (and has always been) to go back to Germany the end of next year when his work contract is over.
He owns an apartment over there, and if you don't know a lot about Germany: space is limited. Long term plans include maybe a house but it is a LOT of money so that would be years down the road. Going from a house with a yard to a little apartment is worrying me about the dog. I have looked into it and there are no daycare type places in the city we are moving to, so every day he would be inside, alone.
My coworker/friend lives on a bunch of land out in the country and has a female GSD a few months younger than my GSD and has offered to take him. I trust him a lot and know he would really take care of him.
That brings me to my question: What would really be better for my dog? Would he be happier with his original family, or living out on a bunch of land, with another dog (he is currently an only child, but I have always socialized him with daycare etc).
Other opinions greatly appreciated.
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moving to much smaller accomodations, will GSD be happier with us or on a bunch of land with another dog?
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t3_3rz5bd
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relationships
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Is it crazy for me (21m) to consider breaking up with my new (1mo) girlfriend (19f) over tattoos?
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I think tattoos are trashy and repulsive. I know it's stupid and a problem with me, but I can't help what I'm attracted to.
My girlfriend wants to get tattoos (yes, multiple) in a month - double the time of our relationship. She currently doesn't have any. She wants "flowers because she likes flowers," and "maybe some Asian writing." Ugh.
Her parents, who financially support her, would disown her if they found out, so I think it's also a really bad idea. She plans on getting one where it will always be visible, as well.
I had no idea she was the type of person to want them when we started dating. She asked what I thought and because she asked I told her that I really hate tattoos but also that it's her body so do what she wants, and that we've only been dating a month so I know I have no say. I wasn't going to lie and say "yeah I love them!"
The thing is, it's a new relationship - maybe if we had been dating for a year I could learn to accept it. But attraction is pretty important in a new relationship so I don't feel too crazy for thinking this is a deal breaker. I wouldn't have started dating her if I found her unattractive. I wouldn't have started dating her if she had tattoos.
I'm thinking I'll wait to see if she actually gets them and if she does, try to look past them. It may not be as bad as I'm imagining and maybe I will actually like them. My ex had a very small septum piercing that she had when I started dating her that did not bother me at all.
Our relationship is great otherwise. Am I a terrible person for even considering this, and she should break up with me for thinking it? I feel pretty terrible, but I'm also so conflicted. Advice please?
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New (1mo) girlfriend wants multiple tattoos, I find tattoos repulsive. Am I terrible for thinking this is a deal breaker?
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t3_2befb3
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relationships
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I (30/m) am having a very difficult time dealing with my wife's (30/f) food allergy.
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When we first met, my wife said she was "allergic to carbs". I didn't understand what this meant at the time, but I knew that if she ate bread or noodles, she had unbelievable stomach pain coupled with diarrhea and flatulence.
Turns out she has a gluten allergy and followed a gluten free diet. She still had the same symptoms, so she chose an even more restrictive "Paleo" diet. No more rice, noodles, bread, legumes, soy, lentils, beans...
Good news: her symptoms went away. Bad news: This diet is extremely restrictive and difficult to follow.
Every mealtime conversation revolves around the diet. She complains about how difficult it is to follow and gets very down on herself.
Sometimes she cheats and eats one of the restricted food groups. This leads to one of two things:
1. Me acting as her father and reminding her she can't eat something, which leads to a huge fight, which leads to her accusing me of being controlling and domineering
2. Me keeping quiet, her eating it, then having pain, diarrhea and flatulence, which leads to her accusing me of not supporting her
It seems that the only thing we ever talk about is her diet, digestion, and bowel movements. When she feels pain, it's the worst pain imaginable, and it's my fault.
I can't bear seeing my wife in constant pain, it breaks my heart. We get along great otherwise and don't really argue.
However, this situation is putting a huge strain on all facets of our relationship- sex is infrequent because of the gas, diarrhea, or fighting over the food restrictions.
I am starting to fear meals with her because I am in a no-win situation. Once or twice I've eaten dinner by myself on the way home from work just to get a reprieve. This means less time together, which leads to a lack of communication.
I love her immensely, but I'm really struggling with this.
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My wife's food allergy is very restrictive and putting a huge strain on the relationship.
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t3_jc2l6
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AskReddit
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What is the rudest thing a customer has said to you?
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Reddit for those of you in the customer service industry whether its retail, restaurants or otherwise, what is the rudest thing a customer has said to you?
I'll start. Today a customer and her husband were in need of a mini display port to HDMI adapter and an HDMI cable to hookup a Macbook Pro to a TV (I work at a major electronic retailer). The entire process took less than two minutes. To the customer's disbelief I had helped them faster than they expected. Instead of saying thank you and moving on, the wife says to me, "I expected you to be stupid and not help us as fast".
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customer thought I was too stupid to help.
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t3_4r82ao
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relationships
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My [31 M] wife [29 F] of 5 years REALLY wants me to stay asleep in the morning.
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I generally only need around 6 hours of sleep, so I like to stay up until 1 or 2 and get up at 8. I go to work at noon, so that gives me a few hours in the morning to have breakfast, play video games, go for a run and do other things before I head to work.
My wife hates that I sleep so little and thinks I should be getting 9 hours (yes, in spite of all the studies I've shown her about how not everyone needs that much sleep). She will do things like turn off my alarm clock, and if I get up anyway she will beg me to stay in bed and will even come onto me so we end up having sex and I end up going back to sleep because I'm groggy after. If I turn her down, she gets upset and says playing games/running/etc. are more important to me than she is (we have sex almost every night so it's not as if that's the only time we have).
I'm sick of sleeping until it's time to get ready for work. It's making me miserable. How can I get it through to her that I hate what she's doing? Whenever I bring it up, we fight.
This has been going on for a few years off-and-on but has become a daily thing for a few months now.
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My wife wants me to stay in bed in the morning and does everything possible to keep me there.
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t3_4urtyg
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relationships
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I [17M] was seeing a girl [16F] we went out on 3 double dates and she tells me we should be friends because she never felt a "connection".
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I'll try and keep it short, but basically, I was speaking to this girl over Facebook for about a month or so, and then one day she invited me out for a double date with her friend and a guy her friend was seeing.
It went pretty well, I was kinda awkward, but we kept talking afterwards and she invited me out on 2 more. I thought they went amazingly, we got on so well, she was laughing and smiling throughout them and I thought everything was going great, until about 2 days after the last date we had, she messages me saying she isn't ready for a relationship right now, but she loved the nights we spent together.
A few weeks later I talk to her again and she reveals instead that she feels we didn't have a "connection". Which is weird considering how young we are, I didn't really think that would be a thing girls my age would even think about.
As it stands now, we argued for a while about things that I haven't mentioned in this post, and then we decided to step back from each other for a while and sort things out later.
But, I guess the point of this post is to try and understand why after telling me she enjoyed the nights we spent together so much, she felt we didn't have a "connection". I understand she had a previous relationship that lasted for awhile, but ended on a really bad note and it messed her up a lot.
*There are quite a few details I'm leaving out, but the post would be ridiculously long if I included them all. If they really are that important I can make an edit with them all.
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Went out on 3 double dates with a girl, said she loved them, tells me she isn't ready for a relationship, then later reveals she felt we didn't have a connection.
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t3_2rkaoi
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relationships
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Me [24F] with my boyfriend [23 M] 5 weeks, commented he thinks I'm boring
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We've been together for 5 weeks and were meeting up for coffee 4/5 weeks texting etc prior.
I've got 3 small kids and am a full time student with no one helping me out so I don't go out often just stay at home a lot as rarely get a babysitter every 4 weeks. He will stay at mine every weekend and once or twice during week and go to work from mine.
He commented earlier that I'm a bit boring and apparently doesn't. It's really bothering me. I'm not massively social as I'm busy/tired a lot. Not sure how to be less boring? When we're at home it's hanging out with kids movies playing xbox sex/sleeping. I thought it was all fine but his comment is bothering me I don't want to be boring.
Any suggestions? Thanks
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boyfriend said I'm boring want to change that
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t3_uhpvl
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AskReddit
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I started an affair with this guy two years ago. Now I'm marrying him. What's the best mistake that you ever made?
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So, we both went to college overseas, and because we came from the same country, some interactions were bound to happen. He had a girlfriend of 2 years that time, and I was just starting a relationship with a really great guy. But our partners are in another country and LDR are hard. Me and this guy (let's call him Daryl) started spilling secrets to each other, and after a while, we started to hang out as friends.
Now, Daryl and I haven't been the best partners. He used to have girls in his room all the time (no sex) despite his relationship status, and I do flirt with guys from time to time despite being taken. Maybe we needed attention, maybe we're just desperate. But after a while, somehow we became very close to each other, and started making out. After the first kiss, I immediately knew that I should break up with my current bf at that time, but it took him 4 agonizing months to break up with his girlfriend. We got together after we're both single, and now, 2 years later, everyone still call us the power couple.
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Had an affair with a taken guy. Now we're dating and I'm happy as fuck.
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t3_4eoc3a
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relationships
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My [30s/F] boyfriend [M/37] of 2 months got a DUI a month ago, family and friends disapprove of me continuing the relationship.
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My friends think I'm crazy for being forgiving of my boyfriend's (He is 37, a professional) DUI about a month ago. He was pulled over for failing to signal, blew a .14. He didn't feel drunk. I believe everyone makes mistakes, and he's generally a generally responsible guy, and is taking full responsibility for it.
He typically only drinks on the weekend, admittedly somewhat heavily sometimes to the point of getting "drunk." He's totally sober during the workweek. It's his first DUI offense. He hasn't completed the court process yet but will very soon. He's voluntarily attending AA meetings at the suggestion of his attorney.
We expect that he'll lose his license for at least 6 months, maybe a year, only able to use it to go to-from work. We've been dating about 2 months. We live pretty close to each other, so me driving to him isn't a bother.
I understand my friends' and family's concerns. But I'd like some unbiased opinions from strangers. Please tell me your experiences with being involved with someone who's gotten a DUI or if you've been the person who's gotten a DUI, and how it's affected your relationship.
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Should I continue dating my boyfriend after his recent DUI?
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t3_2utode
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relationships
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My [21F] boyfriend [22M] of almost a year is addicted to video games and he admits it.
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My boyfriend got a
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Destiny is killing my relationship, but I don't want to end it and neither does he. He has an addiction that he admits to. What should I do?
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t3_3ltlg8
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relationships
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I [29M] went bald at a very young age and now resent everyone, especially women
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I started losing my hair at 15. By 17 it was already very noticeable. By 20, majority of it was gone. I'll be 30 in a few months and I'm completely bald. Ever since I've had conscious awareness, I have not had a full head of hair.
I've hated myself practically my entire life. I was born with talent but all of it went to waste because I felt it wasn't worth harvesting. I was a talented artist and musician but haven't practiced either since 18.
I have not had any positives or negatives with women and that's just the problem. I don't exist. When I do strike a conversation, I'm already at a disadvantage because of the way I look. I'm just some dude who doesn't have any effect on them one way or another. And I don't blame them. Why go for an average looking guy with no hair when there are plenty of other better looking guys that don't have the disadvantages I have?
I'm beginning to resent everyone. But lately the resent has turned to hatred and everyone night I go to bed with terrible thoughts of doing harm to myself or others. I'm not a violent person so this would never manifest itself but still, the thoughts are there.
What can I do? If I try therapy, I'll just put on the mask I use when I go to work or go socialize and it will look like I'm fine but inside there is turmoil. What are my options?
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Went bald at a young age, hate myself and hate everyone. Don't know what to do
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t3_5252t5
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relationships
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Why hasn't my ex tried to reach out to me after our breakup 4 months ago? I haven't stopped thinking about him for a second...
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We were together a year and broke up 4 months ago (I'm 20 and he's 24). He ended things carelessly and didn't try to fight for our relationship, which seemed super off cause he would always make sure I wasn't going anywhere. I think he's already seeing someone else he worked with so maybe it was that too. I did everything I possibly could for him during our relationship and when we broke up I told him everything I had to say/wanted him to hear, so there's not much more I could have done or told him. He knows how I feel. He stopped talking to me so I tried to do the same but after 2 months I asked him for some items back and he never replied. I Haven't tried talking to him since then and so far it's been about two more months. I have done a very good job occupying my time and doing things for myself but he's still on my mind no matter what! Even when I go on dates! I want to be hopeful that he'll come back but I'm not sure why. Maybe because I want him back or I want treat him like he treated me?
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Why hasn't he tried to come back? I don't think he could just forget about me. We did so much together and had really amazing times. I keep having this feeling that he is going to come back and it's what keeps me hanging on. I just want to go back to the way we used to be. I miss him so much. I don't understand how he could just drop me. He was my everything and I invested so much into him. Is he ever going to try to talk to me again?
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t3_38s41y
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relationships
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Should I[26M] marry her[25F] even though we have different religious view?
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I was born in a small western country to muslim parent. I was pretty religious growing up but now that I'm an adult I identify as an agnostic. There is only one other muslim family in the whole town where my parents live. They have only one child, a 25 year old daughter. Now my and the girl's parent REALLY want me to marry that girl. I know her well. We have been friends since we where teenagers. She's pretty cool, is a soon-to-be doctor, good looking, has a good sense of humor, is a brunette (I don't like blonds) and seems to like the idea of marring me.
But she is pretty religious, wears the head-scarf and everything (she was not religious when she was a teenager). She and her family are well aware of my believes. They have seen me make fun of their believes on multiple occasions. Its hard not make fun of an adult who believes that a 900 year old man build a giant boat for animals. But I guess in their position, I'm the best option they have.
So if you where in my position would you marry her?
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I'm agnostic, she is religious. Marring her: good idea or bad?
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t3_3mejur
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personalfinance
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Keep paying more than minimum on 40k undergrad loans or pay minimum to save for grad school next year?
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I'm putting most of my non-living expenses toward paying off about 40k student loan debt. I pay more than the minimum payments on the higher interest loan. I have $7,000 in the bank and will receive at least $5000 in unused vacation payout from my current job when I leave for grad school next summer.
If future school expenses didn't figure in, I would just keep trying to pay off my loans more quickly, but I don't want to find myself in a situation where I could have saved and didn't. I may not have an income while in school, so should I continue trying to reduce my existing loan debt, or should I pay the minimum and build my savings to minimize loans I'll need to take out for grad school. There's also the option of making forward payments on my higher interest loan, rather than putting extra payments toward the principal balance, like I currently am. Should I be doing that, so I only have to worry about a monthly interest payment when back in school? (My loans are consolidated, so not sure if deferment is an option).
I also need to buy a car in the next few weeks. I don't want to add a lot to my debt, but I need something more reliable than my current vehicle which is on its last leg. I'm thinking about partially financing a $5000 used vehicle so I don't deplete my savings/emergency/grad school fund. Not having a small cushion terrifies me.
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how should I be prioritizing my debt/savings in the year before I start grad school?
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t3_35nvbj
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relationships
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Me [21 M] with my Manager [32 F] of 6 months, I need to speak with my manager about why I left a confrontational note for a co-worker. Can you review what I've prepared?
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I was fed up. I had my Calculus final exam at 7:30 the next morning, and I was up to my neck in
things that had to get done. Luke(the cat) cut my finger so deep, that I thought I needed stitches.
The main reason I left the note, though, was that I wanted to promote a discussion that I did not feel
comfortable starting during the Kennel Staff meeting.
First off, I know what Ashley did was not technically wrong. I know that those baths were not her
responsibility. But, what happened is part of a larger issue that I have to deal with every day that I
come into work. On saturday, Minky's litter-box was so full, that he pooped all over his cage and
urinated on the walls . Four out of the five dogs in the basement had multiple bowel movements and
puddles of urine in their run's. Garbages didn't get changed and cages weren't cleaned, even though
they had been signed off on. This is not a rare example, these sorts of things happen frequently.
Every morning shift I worked this past month, I stayed late in order to get everything done.
I feel disrespected and frustrated when everyday things are not getting done, and it really seems
to me like no one cares. Co-workers have shown me pictures of Ashley sitting up front, with her feet
up, and talking. How is that supposed to make me feel, when everyday I am busting my ass and still
having to stay late?
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I work at an Animal Shelter and the only other Kennel technician refuses to do her job and
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t3_mvdzk
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relationships
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Meeting my long-distance boyfriend for the first time in January!
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The last time I met this guy was seven years ago - we were into each other but nothing happened, because he moved to a different country and our only contact was through the Internet; in '09, we decided to stop beating around the bush and give it a chance. I haven't seen him for a very, very long time and I don't know how I'm going to handle seeing him after so long. I keep feeling intensely insecure: what if I'm not pretty enough? What if he doesn't like me as much in person? whatifwhatifwhatif? Help! Any tips from people with similar experiences would be appreciated!
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meeting long distance BF for the first time in seven years. Intensely nervous. What do I do?
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t3_3zt7q8
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relationships
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I [24 M/F] gave my longtime FWB [24 F] an exclusivity Ultimatum, She Said Yes But I Feel Guilty
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In early December, I told my FWB of almost 11 months I wanted to be exclusive. I really care about her and we are inseparable. She seemed apprehensive at first and I told her that it makes me want to our situation all together. She then, after thinking for a few seconds, said yes with the condition that she can see girls on the side (she has never before but has interest) which I am ok with as long as she keeps me in the loop on things and is safe about it.
So now she is my girlfriend. I am happy with it but I feel kind of guilty about it and am worried that she resents me for it. I may just be reading into things. Was I wrong to give her this ultimatum?
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Gave long time FWB an exclusivity ultimatum and she agreed but I feel a little guilty.
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t3_tzj9l
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AskReddit
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Just graduated from college 2+ weeks ago, still looking for my first job...any advice to getting that first job without having to settle for something you don't really want to do?
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My biggest problem is that I think I am picky and don't want to settle for something that I don't really want to do for the next 5 years. I know what I want to do, but getting an entry level position in the sports industry is extremely difficult. I have great experience from interning with a Minor League Baseball team and could easily get a job with a different minor league team, but they don't pay that much and don't have that much room for moving up the ladder internally.
I've had a couple of interviews with Major League Baseball (still waiting to hear back from one job) but I didn't get any of the positions (a little under qualified/not the right fit so I'm not that upset).
I don't have a problem taking a crappy job in the industry and working my ass off to move up, I am completely fine with something that will eventually lead to my dream job if I put the hard work in.
So do I settle for something I won't like doing if I don't get this last job I recently interviewed for? Or do I suck it up and do my best to follow my dreams now rather than in a couple of years when it might not be as possible?
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I don't want to settle for a job I don't want and "waste" the next 5 years of my life. But I obviously need a job which is hard in this economy. What do I do?
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t3_3sfa6b
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tifu
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TIFU by thinking I was an ant overlord.
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So, I'm very lazy when it comes to cleaning my room and about 2 weeks ago, I notice a bunch of ants have started to make a home somewhere in the walls. They were very small ants, and apart from being bitten once in a while (not that painful), I didn't mind them at all for the fact that every time I dropped crumbs and other food stuff I couldn't be bothered to clean up, I noticed that given a bit of time, my ants would clean it up for me. SWEET!
I had a whole army of ants at my disposal and they were doign a great job of keeping my room clean. I would drop crumbs all over the place after snacking in front of my computer, go to bed, and wake up with them all gone. I was pretty satisfied with their work, and made no effort to get rid of them, they became my cleaning minions.
Several days ago, I started noticing that they had started working on cleaning my keyboard, ants were streaming in and out from under the keys (I have a mechanical keyboard), and I was really happy about it. It's going to be spotless under there! I paid no attention to them, and let them carry on with the good work.
This went on for a while, and my keyboard must of been really dirty because they continued working on it not stop. The fuckup happened today when one my keys got kind of stuck, and when I pressed it, a swarm of ants came out from underneath. I pulled off the key and looked underneath to find that in fact, they hadn't been cleaning my keyboard by hauling stuff out of there, they were using it to build a freaking nest! It was chock full of ants and saw-dust looking debris tightly packed into every crevice. I spent half the day taking my keyboard apart and cleaning it, dispersing a swarm of several hundred ants that made it their home. Luckily, keyboard still works fine.
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Thought I was pretty clever by using ants to clean my room and keyboard for me. Turns out they were using my keyboard as their storage place and hauling all the crap they found into it.
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t3_2phguu
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tifu
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TIFU by accidentally parking in a handicap spot
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So, like many others this happened Saturday.
I get home from work and living in a city parking is a bitch, especially when there are sporting events happening around town. I am searching for parking and manage to find a decent spot near my house. I have permitted parking in certain areas around my house which makes parking a little easier. So, I end up parking and checking the signs to make sure I am okay to stay in this spot. This is where I fuck up.
I head over to another part of the city in an Uber to a gift exchange with some friends. I then get a call from my roommate saying that the I have parked in a handicap spot and might have my car towed. Interestingly enough the person who had the right to park in that spot called the cops and the cops gave that person my address! Needless to say I was not happy about that. The person came to my house and was not in the happiest of moods.
My roommates SO ended up being able to move my car to another location without it getting towed. But, I still got stuck with a $500 parking ticket.
Today, I actually wrote a letter of apology and stuck it to the persons window. I do feel bad about what I did and had no intention of parking there illegally. Here is a picture of the letter I wrote
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Accidentally parked in a handicap spot, got a $500 ticket and still wrote a letter of apology!
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t3_xk8xe
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relationships
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Unbelievably lost and confused
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Hi all
Me (24) and my girlfriend (23) of 2.5 years have hit a rough patch. Well, I thought it was a rough patch, and then it turned out to be a bit more than that.
We live together and had talked kids, marriage etc.
Then on Sunday evening she calmly announces, after a good few weeks of things being tense between us... That she didn't see a future for us and didn't know where that left us.
This took me completely by surprise. I knew there had been some problems, I had had issues with depression but have been working through it. I hadn't been the easiest person the last few weeks as I was anxious and worried about starting a new job.
She has flipflopped between saying she doesn't think we can fix it, to trying to fix it. But i now feel stuck in some sort of limbo. I bought some chocolates and a DVD in an attempt to be concilloatory which she appreciated but not seeing much else there.
I don't really know where to go from here. I would like to try and sort it out, but when i ask for reasons i get told that it is about feelings and that you can't explain them. I don't want this to get nasty so i am wondering if the communal brain of reddit cab provide me an idea of where to go from here.. As mine is struggling quite a bit with this...
What is a good, healthy and constructive way of approaching this?
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girlfriend seems to have given up on relationship, not sure how to proceed
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t3_3asw2p
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tifu
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TIFU by making a hot mom wet on her birthday
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This happened about two hours ago.
Last month I started working at a rather upscale seafood restaurant as a server. I'm 19 years of age and this is my first serving job. I have performed really well up until today. The host stand usually gives me really easy tables, but today they decided to challenge me and gave me a table of eight adults. They were all 30-50 years old. I greeted them and took their order and immediately felt overwhelmed as they all ordered margaritas martinis and glasses of wine I had never heard before. They all look at me like I'm stupid as I ask questions to clarify.
I put their order in then go grab eight glasses of water and head to the bar and add eight more drinks. The beverage tray is completely full, but I'm feeling confident. I'm thinking, "It's time to remove noob status." I starting placing all of the drinks on the table as I move in a circle. I had served everyone their drinks except for this extremely attractive woman. I pour her glass of wine and then I went to grab her water glass and just slammed it off the tray and it hit her in the head, dumping all of the water onto her, and then went crashing into the floor and got glass EVERYWHERE.
She becomes absolutely livid and begins screaming at me about how I got her, "all wet" on her birthday and I then say, "I'm sorry I made you wet." RIP phrasing. For some reason I apparently had a sheepish smile on my face. Husband stands up and yells at me about how out of line I was for making a sexual joke to his wife. I go tell a manager, he fake fires me in front of the table, then my friend takes the table and gets a one hundred dollar tip.
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Made a MILF wet and lost a hundred dollars.
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AskReddit
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My boyfriend and I got kicked out of my parents' house and are living in an unsanitary house. Need better options. :(
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Sorry if this doesn't belong here. Suggest appropriate sub, if so.
I live in Illinois but am at university August-May in Arizona. My boyfriend lives and goes to school in Illinois. While home for the summer, we were living with my parents. Well, we got kicked out yesterday. We moved all of our stuff out and stayed in a hotel for the night. The current plan is to now stay with his mom at her house.
The problem is that she let her house go to waste. She has nine cats and doesn't clean up after them or even herself. Our bedroom had piles of cat puke/poop that is at least two months old and had larva crawling in it. The plumbing in the bathroom is all broken, and after a flood years ago, cockroaches have infested the walls and get into the house (bombings haven't helped, professionally and self-treated). She can hardly support herself and definitely doesn't have enough to fix up the house. **Basically, the house is unsanitary.**
However, he makes $600-$700 a month and doesn't have sufficient savings to find/rent an apartment and fully support himself. I'm not comfortable having my name on a lease when I'm only in Illinois for 3-4 months *and* I have to pay for university out-of-pocket.
We *might* be able to convince one of my other family members to let us stay with them temporarily, but that leaves my boyfriend with nowhere to go when I return to school.
The most ideal thing would be to find a place that will rent to my boyfriend and that he can support on his own while I'm at school (I would pay half the rent while I'm in Illinois), but we're afraid that with his income, that's impossible, and we just adopted a kitten (7 weeks), that we need to be able to take care of.
His school is a 30 minute drive from our town, so he would have to commute either way (to work or school).
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Got kicked out, living in his mom's unsanitary house, can't stay with friends, have kitten to take care of, can't afford own place, boyfriend needs permanent housing while I attend school in Arizona. Begging parents to move back in is not an option. Any advice?
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legaladvice
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What does the law say about being married in two different countries to two different people?
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A dear friend of mine recently proposed to his boyfriend, who said yes, but said friend refuses to acknowledge the fact that he was once married in Canada. Here's the situation: dear friend A got married in Canada a few years ago in an attempt to stay in Canada so that him and his partner might be able to actually date without being thousands of miles away. Things didn't work out with them nor did it work with his Canadian citizenship. The Canadian partner refused to deal with divorce papers and to this day they are still legally married. Present day friend A has been with his new partner for years, locally this time, and they both plan to get married. Will this marriage be valid or legal or will they have complications?
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Gay man married in Canada years ago, didn't work out and old partner refused to handle his side of divorce papers. Gay man now with someone new and both wanting to get married.
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t3_29ohyn
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relationships
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Me [20 F] with my best guy friend [22 M] of 7 years, I don't know if I am crushing on him when I shouldn't be.
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So, I (20 F) apologize in advance for the long text but I am having an issue. I have been best friends with this guy, lets call him dan, since high school. We have always had a close and trusting friendship, and he is someone I admire. I've been there for him with break-ups and he's always been there for me, but this is an issue I can't talk to him about. He recently started seeing this girl, and I actually feel jealous. I've never felt this way before about him, and I'm thinking its because I am developing a crush.
Normally, I would just come straight forward with my feelings, and tell him how I feel whether he was my best friend or not. However, one thing about Dan is that he's not white. He is of Indian descent and that is one thing I couldn't deal with, nor could my parents. My parents are extremely racist, and sadly that has been ingrained in me too. I can't get over his skin color, religious beliefs, and other things that are simply part of him. I respect him, and admire him greatly, but I could never bring myself to date anyone who is not white.
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I have feelings for an Indian guy who has been my friend for years, and I cant get him out of my head! My family has kind of molded me to be racist so I cant get past his skin color, which I know is very shallow of me. I feel like I am falling in love with him, but I could never date him. How do I get over myself or get over him?
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relationships
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I [21F] am worried my boyfriend [21M] is becoming a selfish lover. Not sure how to approach this.
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Me: 21F
Him: 21M
We've been together 4 months. Generally he's a good lover, for a while he just wanted me to go on top and finish him with blowjobs all the time but I threw out the phrase "pillow princess" and he's improved on that.
The thing is, he hasn't eaten me out yet. A few weeks in I asked him to and he said he needed time to become more comfortable with me sexually. No problem at all. A month later, we talked more about it. He's only done it twice ever, he said he's not nervous though. I asked if there was anything I could do to help, he said no, that I'm EXTREMELY clean. He hasn't given me a real reason, I ask him why he won't and he says he doesn't know. About a month ago he said he was "thinking about it", but every time I ask since then it's "not tonight".
I don't want to push him. That's the last thing I want to do. I won't enjoy it if I push him into it. The thing is, I'm not so sure it's discomfort any more. I think he may just be lazy and he has it good right now because I can only come on top and I love giving blowjobs.
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Boyfriend of four months still won't eat me out. He's given no good reason lately. I'm worried I'm being used a bit. What to do?
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relationships
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Me [18M] recently started chatting with this girl[19F] been chatting for a couple of days now. Pretty sure I've screwed up by going all desperate.
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Info: Every time I've found a girl I could imagine getting together with I go all desperate. I have no idea why. Why won't my mind let me act like a normal human being?
Current situation: Was in a relationship until the start of last summer when I was dumped. After that I signed up with Tinder and got matched up with this girl I've seen around while I was still in a relationship, but never given any second thought since I was off the market. Anyway, we've been chatting for a couple days. Problem is she just recently moved to study and won't have the opportunity to meet up until late november. Having over a month to just chat will definitely give me plenty of opportunities to go full retard way too often. Already done so exactly that like three or four times in the few days we've been chatting.
Is it possible that there's any chance to salvage it or just plain stop being retarded? Also seeing as we won't actually meet in person in a while, is it likely she'll have made up her mind about me at that point?
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Every time I have a chance to get with a girl I screw it up bigtime by going all desperate and retarded. Recently did with a girl I learned was interested through Tinder, any way to salvage? Or just plainly stop doing stupid shit all together.
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t3_mkgpe
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AskReddit
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What is your worst encounter with a Texan? (No Shared experiences like Perry or Bush)
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Daily I see people slam Texans. "Texans are *mean*" "Only *assholes* come from Texas." I spent most of my childhood and all of my adult years in this state. I have traveled to almost every state (my dad really loved that RV) except North Dakota, South Dakota and Alaska. To me, every state seems to have the same amount of assholes as the next. Seems people hate Texans because the global media depicts Texas as the USA; i.e. Bush and, more recently, Perry. I ask you, Reddit, to tell me the stories of when a Texan **truly** crossed you.
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What are you first-hand "Texans are jerkholes" story?
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t3_1swsjd
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relationships
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[M/18] My girlfriend [F/18] brought up the idea of an open relationship.
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There aren't really any mitigating factors. We're both in our first year of college (at different schools), and things have been harder than they were at home, obviously, but I wouldn't say our relationship has gone to shit. At this point, we've been together for a year and 10 months and have each had hookups in the past but only had sex with each other.
Like the title says, she brought up to me an open relationship. I reacted ambivalently; I wouldn't have brought it up myself, but now that she did, it sounds like something to try. She suggests that hook-ups would, in general, be fair game, but that we would not have sex except with each other and that we would tell the other when we hooked up.
Personally, it seems to me that this would be fine. We don't see each other all the time, so it would certainly be sexually satisfying, but I wanted to ask someone who had experienced something like this what pros/cons, general guidelines, or advice you might have. I know it'll be different for every couple, but I just wondered generally what everyone thought.
Thanks!
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My girlfriend asked if I might at some point be interested in having an open relationship, and I don't feel strongly one way or the other; what are some general thoughts/concerns about open relationships?
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t3_pch7i
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self
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I have an email for a person who tried to hack my hotmail/xbox/paypal accounts, what can I do to find them/stop them from trying again ?
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I started to get weird emails a few days ago about ms point purchases on my xbox account. In total there was about $180 worth of charges. I signed in and looked around to see what was happening. While looking around the download history I was signed out and got a message saying I signed in on a different system. I called my credit card company and got that cancelled. I went to change my password and noticed a new email listed as a contact email for password resets. I have never seen this email before and I'm thinking it must be the hackers. I'm not usually a poster and there's probably not a lot that I can do, but I figured this was the best place to find out if I have any options, thank you for your time.
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I have an email address of a would be hacker and am looking on advice of what I should do next
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relationships
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Me [28F] with my girlfriend [31F] of two years, I'm skittish about marriage after a previous divorce
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The history is as follows:
My previous serious relationship was five years long, with three years living together, and I was head over heels for her. We got married, and two months later I found out my wife had two boyfriends. This was a complete shock to me. When confronted, more issues came up and we could not reconcile. We are now divorced. It was finalized about three years ago.
I have been dating my current girlfriend for about two years and we are talking about marriage. I love her deeply and I'm not hung up on my ex at all. I also like thinking about marriage in the abstract and even doing some vague future planning. But whenever I think about getting married again, it puts me in a panic.
I thought I knew my ex and I thought she loved me. I am worried this will happen to me again where my wife will do something horrible and leave me. I don't think my current girlfriend would do that to me, but I didn't think my ex would either. I don't know how to deal with this.
My girlfriend is not pressuring me to propose, and I haven't talked to her or anyone else about this. But I want to get over this so that when I do decide it's time to take that next step, I can feel good about it.
Again, I love her, I don't doubt my own commitment, but I just don't know how to trust anyone like this again. I thought maybe other divorced folks in this sub might be able to give some advice.
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After being blindsided by a divorce, I find myself terrified of getting married again.
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