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t3_2gy5cx | tifu | TIFU by assaulting my girlfriend in my sleep | I have always been a sleepwalker, but I have never attacked anyone in my sleep until last night. I had fallen asleep during Breaking Bad, and we were cuddling while sleeping. Then when I wake up, she is on the ground crying.
Apparently I had asked her who she was, and pulled her out of the bed, trying to grab her. She was screaming and that's when I woke up. I vaguely remember dreaming about someone attacking her, but I can't say for sure. I fucked up by falling asleep in Breaking Bad, as I think that's what made me have the nightmare that someone was coming to attack my girlfriend, which ironically caused me to attack her.
I don't know who was more shocked, her or me. It sucked for both of us, and now I feel like an abuser. I ended up choosing to stay on the floor for the rest of the night, and only slept 6 hours later, and now have a nasty scrape on my knuckle. (But she's fine!) | Fell asleep while watching Breaking Bad, which caused me to sleepwalk and attack my poor girlfriend |
t3_2url00 | tifu | Tifu by expanding a house | So this was on Friday, my buddy had called me and asked if I would come work for him as he was attempting to add on to his home, his wife is pregnant so I'm guessing he was adding a room for his newborn to come.
Anyways, he was running a backhoe at the side of the house, when all of the sudden a huge pop sounds and the hole starts to fill with the most foul smelling liquid I have ever smelled in my life. Like if a hooker managed to drink gallons of afterbirth and defecated all over herself before her insides roasted and dried out in the summer sun, but twenty times worse. He hit the sewer pipe and it busted, shit everywhere. Well it ends up getting stopped or whatever until the next day he goes to another side of the house to avoid the sewage, and somehow this fuck up seems to find and pull up the water pipe and completely ruin his yard. | Hire a professional to do you work, hookers and afterbirth everywhere. |
t3_1t0ld1 | relationships | Help! I [21F] can't get along with the guys [~20M] in my group project at all! | For this group project I was randomly paired up with three guys that are best friends and know each other really well.
They would talk about important decisions about the project while they were hanging out and I wasn't there. After the first half of the project, we had a talk with our teacher and the issue was pointed out and I thought we were ok.
That was until yesterday. See, in this project we all have our own roles. There's a programmer, a visual artist, a content manager and then me, the interaction designer. Our programmer had been slacking off for quite a while when it came to the programming and can't finish the site in time.
Yesterday night my group suddenly decided every team member would program one page. Problem is, I can't program at all and there's only a few days left.
I decided to try and help them even though I didn't know much about programming. There were a few things I didn't understand and I asked a question about it. One of the guys reply "Lol you don't know?" and another "seriously...". We kind of had a little fight on Facebook with a lot of hurtful remarks from them aimed at me (for instance: Can't you do just a little bit of work? Geez).
I am super upset because of this. We never really got along because I think we're very different (like for instance how they talk about cheating on their girlfriends and I'm super faithfull), but they really hurt my feelings now. I was trying to help and they acted very mean.. I know I shouldn't let it get to me but I feel sad ever since. Why can't we just get along enough to do the project?
The teacher won't do anything about it: he says we should treat him as our employer and we should talk things over between the four of us. But it's hard when they're best friends already!!
Four weeks to go from now.
What would you guys do? Any tips? | Project guys are mean to me, can't ditch them and I get very upset because of them. |
t3_38si8r | tifu | TIFU by accidentally putting cum in my mouth NSFW | Disclaimer: this happened to my friend, but i was there and it is extremely embaressing
So me and my buddies are in the school band and orchestra. There was an opportunity to go on a cruise and play, so all 4 of us took it up. One night for whatever reason, we decided to measure our dicks because we were teasing my asian friend about the stereotypical asian toothpick and by marking the length on a piece of paper. So we all take turns going in the bathroom etc. (Were all straight) so my friend takes his turn, and comes out of the bathroom and says he came in the f*king paper. We didnt belive him, but my one friend wants to see it to make sure hes not lying(pretty weird) and so he attempts to take it out of the trash, but my friend who came in it snatches it up, panics and shoves it in his mouth. Dont worry, the guys in the room next to us measured with toothpaste it could be worse | was measuring our dicks on a band crusise and one of my friends came into the paper using to measure it and paniced and shoved it in his mouth when one of my friends wanted to see proof |
t3_2w5d72 | tifu | TIFU by making an off-color joke at a family dinner | So I got dragged by my parents to some stupid family dinner in upstate New York which was being hosted by some Polish immigrants in my family who are like 90 years old. After being bored to death by my uncle who keeps talking about his son, I mention how delicious the peas were, and somehow the conversation shifted towards horses. I compared them to "big riding dogs" and I was stupid enough to start talking about ponies. I said that I hate anyone who ever owned a pony as a child, because it's pointless. I mean, come on. A child doesn't need a pony, it's ridiculous! So apparently the 90 year-old hostess of the party had a pony of her own back in Poland! I tried to talk my way out of it and apologize, but the whole dinner was ruined and she retired to her room, saying she felt ill. The next day I get a call telling me that she ended up dying! And of course, the funeral is at the same time as my championship softball match. Her funeral was on a Wednesday! Who plans their funeral for a Wednesday!?
So I end up going to the funeral because I'm pretty sure I killed this woman, and I lucked out and it rained, which postponed the game. So I guess her spirit rewarded me for my kindness, or so I thought. The next day, I play the worst soft-ball game of my life! And I'm pretty sure that old bat ended up cursing me! And the worst part is Elaine didn't even get her hands on their apartment! | I killed an old, Polish immigrant and she made me lose my softball game. |
t3_3fvae4 | tifu | TIFU By being clumsy | Been lurking in this subreddit for a while and to tell you guys about my annoying fuck up, sorry for bad formatting as I'm on mobile and it is my first post.
This happened early this morning, around 2 am I decided to go onto omegle to talk to people. I eventually found this girl (D) for almost 3 hours we were having conversations about life, football, all the sorts. It came to about 8 am and I told her I was going to try to wake up a bit and asked her if she wanted to add me on steam. She agreed and I went to check my steam i.d. When I accidentally clicked refresh on my iPod, deleting the conversation and chance of future talking to her. I looked back on omegle for about a half hour before losing hope. | Don't accidentally refresh. |
t3_4osioc | relationships | I [23 M] am lost between my job,health and family. Can anyone help ? | I [23 M] have recently got a job and have been transferred to a city which is very far from my hometown. I am diagnosed with a tumor in my
neck which needs to be operated immediately because it is creating lot of problems in my neck region.I also have AV malformation in my left leg which was removed surgically but it hasnt been cured completed till now.
I discussed this issue with my family about the surgery which needs to be done and my family has clearly said that they wont be able to come and stay with me and has advised me to come to my hometown or to place nearby so that they can easily come there and can help me. Since they are also old and have some medical problems also.
My Manager knows about my health problems and every time i go and ask about a transfer to a place where i can get treated he ignores this thing. My HR manager has also said they cant give me transfer because i am fresher and said me to resign.
It is very tough for me to decide what to do as i am stuck between my health, family and my job as if i resign it will be very tough to get a new job and i dont want to go against my family as well. | So please can someone advice me something that can help me to get out of this problem ? |
t3_3kewdr | relationships | My (20F) boyfriend's (22M) best friend (24F) is cheating on her boyfriend (23M). He doesn't know. | I've been together with my boyfriend for a year. His best friend (Anna) lived in a different city for a few weeks during spring for an internship and started a affaire there with some guy that is still going on until today. She has been in a relationship with her boyfriend (Joe) for 4 years and he has no idea something is going on. I'm not very close to Joe, just met him a few times when the whole group got together, but he's nice.
He's really commited to the relationship and has been talking about plans for the future, whereas Anna is becoming really brazen. She lies to him about going to visit her affaire, talks openly about it in her friend circle. Just this weekend she told him she's going to visit her family but instead goes to the other guy.
My boyfriend is aware of it as well, but he doesn't want to tell him and made me promise not to tell him either. He doesn't want to sell out Anna and thinks it's none of our business and not out place to tell Joe. I, on the other hand, feel really bad for him and want to tell him. Any advice on what to do? | Boyfriend's best friend cheats on her boyfriend. I want to tell him, he doesn't. |
t3_yefeo | relationship_advice | Long Distance help for a 21/m, share your advice and stories with me Reddit. | I live in Las Vegas, Nevada and my on again off again girlfriend who is my age moved to Washington state for graduate school to eventually become a teacher. She will be graduating next summer, and where she goes from there to actually teach, assuming she can get a job, I have no idea. We used to live together and I did have plans at one point months ago to move up there with her, but, you guessed it, the intermittent status of our relationship prevented that.
She's a pretty emotional girl, so arguments tend to rise up from that, in a lot of ways we are really opposite. She lives her life based on how she feels and I'm the logical type, a mechanical engineering student, I kind of have to have this mindset for my future. But enough with the back story. It seems like every time we call it quits, I go a month or two not hearing from her, only to have her resurface which eventually leads to her attempts of reconciliation. I literally never talk to her again when we do actually seperate, and I always get into the frame of mind that I will never hear from her again, i guess to spare my mind of the pain always wondering if she is even thinking about me (i always figured that's how exes were supposed to behave). I feel I have allowed this for too long, because regardless of what she says it just leads to more hurt later on. Is she using me because she can't find anyone else there, or does she genuinely want to work things out? Is there a solution to this long distance to leave us not arguing over petty texts or should I just move on.
My question to you is, where do I go from here, where has my reddit community been and how have they come out for the better?
I'll do my best to respond to comments, this is my first post ever, please be gentle!! :D | Girlfriend moves away, breaks happen, she always comes back (I never do) we try again only to fail some more, solution, or move on? |
t3_ho4n4 | AskReddit | What's the most unexpected way your best friend affirmed your relationship? | Inspired by this (insanely dis-heartening) post: where stories of friends' dickishness are told, I have a question.
Sometimes you just go through the motions in relationships, be it with friends or girlfriends, family, etc. But then there's that odd time when you friend or loved one does something unexpected to show how close you actually are, spontaneous or planned.
My best friend since kindergarten and I were on a binge-drinking-kind of vacation to the Canary Islands a few years ago. We were about 19 at the time. We were in this trashy euro-disco club at about 4 am (the selection over there isn't great). I was pretty wasted, checking out a girl dancing alone. My friend is over at the bar getting beer, when a big burly guy grabs my shoulder from behind and walks me to a shady corner of the club. I'm not particularily well-built, weighing in around 65 kg at the time, and my friend's not much bigger. This guy was more stallone-esque. It turns out the girl I was looking at was his gf, and he owns the club. Two more even bigger guys (the guards) join us the corner. They don't speak english, I don't speak spanish, so I'm not gonna be able to talk myself out of this one. Looks like I'm going to be roughed up right? I'm all alone, cornered and desperation starts to set in. Suddenly the guys all back up a bit, and I notice that my friend has found me, and joined up right next to me giving the biggest evil eyes I've ever seen to these guys. They back off without any exchange of words, and we got out of there. My friend has never been in a fight and I'd never seen him angry before. But he sure had my back this time, and always have, before and after that, without me realizing it! | Friend managed to stare down three gorilla-type guys wanting to beat me up, in a foreign country while we were both crazy drunk. How have your friends affirmed your relationship? |
t3_2gpkr0 | relationships | My boss (49f) called me (22f) immature. Do I confront? | I am a nanny. I recently accuired a fantastic job caring for two wonderful kids. Their mother is a workaholic who is very stern and has no idea how children act, or how to handle it.
Today the son (8) told me that his mother said I was immature.
First of all, I am independant and pay for everything that I have. I am immature with the kids, but I'm simply not afraid to get down on the floor and play legos with them. That doesnt seem "immature" to me. I also noticed a strength the children have and that is their creativity on the game, Minecraft .I have broadened their horizons and have showed them games on my xbox like Skyrim and Oblivion. I bring my xbox on fridays to let the kids play. Could this also be considered immature?
My feelings are hurt, should I confront it? Write her an email asking what I did that implied I was immature and not a "grownup"?
Any opinions are welcome! | the kid I nanny, told me his mom called me immature and not a "grown up" Do I confront it? |
t3_tjysx | AskReddit | What is the best plan of action to catch and stop our cats from multiplying? (story Inside) | Ok first off this is not for the Karma i seriously want to know.
I work at a Bed and Breakfast out in the Texas Hill country and last year at about this time an ex co-worker brought out a stray cat to the property. She happened to be pregnant so about a month later she gave birth to 4 female kittens. We were under the impression that there were no males on the property but you probably know where this is going. this year all 5 of them have given birth within a 3 week period and we now have around 20 kittens. We know where 2 liters are and are unsure about the other three. Also one of the known litters are in a roof of one of our rooms. These cats are basically feral and wont let us get near them, unless we have food.
My boss has made it clear that we will try to adopt them out to guest or anyone else who wants them. With whatever cats that dont get adopted we are going to keep and actually plan on building them there own little barn so that they have shelter and a warm place for the winter.
What I would like to know is some ideas on how we can get these cats fixed. I understand that there are some different programs set up but I honestly have no idea where to even begin to look. We need to get them all spayed/nudered (sp?)
So basically the questions I would like to ask/ have answered are
-How can we catch all of these cats and bring them in
-where can we bring them for a good price that isn't sketchy
-what age are the kittens ready to under go the surgery
if anyone can let me know please help | Cats multiply fast |
t3_3vjxor | Pets | Kitten begs for human food | Hi Reddit! So, this past year I've rescued two cats, one was feral and living under the restaurant I work at and survived last year's Michigan winter because the staff fed him scraps from the restaurant- ribeye and filet mignon, whitefish, salmon, lamb, potatoes, you name it. I rescued him cuz the owner wanted him gone, and now he won't touch my food which is great. The other cat, is still a 6 month old kitten who was abandoned in a box in a coworker's back field. I adopted him, had him checked out, he had worms, but the vet gave him meds. I feed him Iams kitten food twice a day, and he eats it all but whenever I'm cooking or eating, he begs for my food and has even gone so far as to steal bacon off my plate or food off my cutting board if I'm not watching him. He even went digging through my trash can, which i hide under the sink and ended up with an upset stomach for a bout a week. I've since put a lid on the trash can but how can I get him to stop wanting MY food? | Healthy kitten eats well but still begs for my food and tries to steal it. Help? |
t3_2zrn9t | relationships | How can I [18 M] convince my girlfriend [18 F] of 5 months that her "best friend" is negatively impacting her life? | I have been dating my girlfriend, let's call her Jess, for 5 months now. Here is some background: In her earlier high school years Jess made some questionable choices that put her in bad situations. She got into smoking weed and drinking alcohol at a young age and made friends accordingly. Her and her friends have a bad track record with men taking advantage of their altered state, resulting in one of them getting raped. Jess is a genuinely nice person and tries very hard to keep an open mind and befriend everyone. She hates starting problems or getting into fights with people who have different opinions. Many times she will "give in" and comply with other people in order to not start a problem.
In many instances people exploit this in her and take advantage of it. In this case, it is her "best friend". I do not know much about this friend of hers other than they have known each other for a good amount of time. Let's call Jess' best friend Kathy. In almost every case I have interacted with Jess and Kathy, Kathy always ends up guilting Jess into doing something for her or manipulating her in some way. She is always the "devil on the shoulder" urging her to go out and smoke/drink or something of the like. Kathy puts Jess in harmful situations and I get very concerned for her well-being.
I bring this to her attention, and sometimes she recognizes it. In many cases Kathy is a real asshole. The problem is, Jess doesn't have many other very close friends due to her track record, and she doesn't want to be isolated.
I like to think that I came into Jess' life and sort of "straightened her out" for lack of better terms. She's gotten a somewhat better about getting put in harmful situations but it still keeps happening when she is with her other "friends". I care about Jess and I want her to know she doesn't have to give in all the time just to fit in or satisfy her friends. Can I get some advice here? How can I get her to realize my viewpoint? | My girlfriend's "best friend" is negatively impacting her life and keeps putting her in harmful situations. |
t3_ecyoa | needadvice | Pulled/strained a muscle in my groin, what should I do? | Hi Reddit. I am not a very athletic person, and on Friday I somehow managed to hurt myself while casually strolling downtown. I noticed a pain where my left leg meets my pelvic area. Since then the pain has intensified.
It feels like a burning or tearing pain in the muscle, and is worst when I lift my torso, stand on my left leg, or shift weight off my left leg. Doing regular things like walking and going up and down steps hurts a lot too. I've been taking it easy all weekend but tomorrow I have to go back to work. My job isn't terribly strenuous but I do have to stand up pretty frequently and lift stacks of small items. I'm afraid the sort of movements I have to do could injure me more.
Is there something I can do to alleviate the pain and ensure I don't damage myself? This really fucking hurts. D: | Hurt my groin, what do? |
t3_uua1i | AskReddit | my dad is a stubborn eater and has Crohn's disease, how can i help him? | my dad has had digestive problems since i can remember, and has had Crohn's for years now. if anyone has it, or knows someone who does, it is a miserable thing to have. i feel for my dad, i know it's rough on him. the doctor has suggested a long time ago that diet and exercise could make his Crohn's more manageable, even make it so he doesn't need the medication any longer. but, my dad is a stubborn eater. a steak and potatoes kind of guy. literally. because that and spaghetti are all he seems to want to eat. my mom tries to integrate some vegetables in there, and he throws a tantrum. i try cooking food that i've read is easily digestible, more tantrums. he never wants to try anything new. i send him articles to try and give him some hope in improving and he seems to have given up. i know it must be a terrible thing that i just can't relate to, and i don't want to make it worse by shoving information down his throat when he's not willing to listen so reddit, what do you think i should do? | my dad has crohn's and won't try eating healthy or take any helpful suggestions whatsoever. halp. |
t3_39qn0z | relationships | Me [28F] with my SO [28M] together almost a year, long distance mess | So, before I begin please don't just say "long-distance relationships never work" because that's not helpful. I already know how challenging they are believe me.
In person, when I see my SO it's a dream. Everything is so nice. He treats me like a queen. He tells me he loves me all the time. He is just very attentive and thoughtful.
Once we haven't seen each other for a while, suddenly the tables turn and I feel like I'm not even his friend. He easily gets irritated with me. He has very little time to talk. He doesn't initiate communication very often.
And then in person, boom, he's super sweet and in love with me again.
I feel like I'm going crazy. This isn't normal right?
I KNOW that he loves me in person, but once I'm gone I feel like he stops loving me. Which isn't possible. Love doesn't go away like that. And our relationship is definitely not based on the physical, so I know that's not it (even though it's a very nice part). | SO's actions in person vs actions when he is away do not add up |
t3_2yxv8l | tifu | TIFU when I took my kids to school while I was half asleep and not paying attention | On the eve of this woeful tale, I had found myself unable to succumb to the sweet bliss of evenings sleep. After the fourth hour of waning rest, I was awoken to the crowing alarm of my time keeper. Unable to evade the day, I stumbled from my keep, and prepared myself with hours of rest still due to me. My dutiful spouse also arose, and prepared our offspring for their morning lessons, and then attended to our youngest.
My second daughter was expressing a desire to wear a dress bottom of style equal to her top dress, and I acquiesced to her wishes. A Quarter of an hour later, I was preparing to venture off with them to their place of learning.
Upon arrival, my second child was expressing dismay at not having found her a dress bottom for her attire. Glancing back into my reflection glass, I tried to comfort her, in her big purple coat, telling her 'its ok honey. You can wear one tomorrow.'
Little did my words bring the needed relief, and the tears of 1000 cute puppies perishing did leave her voice. And in my groggy haste, did I raise my voice, and with a commanding thunder, doth I instructed her to vacate her carriage at once.
Not one hour hath passed upon my arrival at my trade, did I not get to hear the tinder voice of my dear spouse. 'Red' she queried 'why did the school call to tell me Angie doesn't have any pants on?'
At once, all lack of rest left me, and the memory of the passing morning came rushing at me at once. Doth my daughter, unable to find her required garment, not find suitable substitute? Hath my eyes not gazed upon her, and seen her body not exposed? Doth her purple coat not reveal enough, but cover too little?
I expressed my dismay at my error, and begged for her understanding. But too little, too late for the damage was done. | Daughter asked to wear a jumper/skirt to school, but couldn't find one. Thinking she was upset about not finding what she wanted, and not seeing she was lacking pants, shorts, or anything else, I yelled at her to go to school only wearing a shirt and coat, no bottoms. |
t3_46sgi6 | relationships | Is my [26M] GF's [25F] friend greedy or am I wrong? | Hi,
my[26] GF[25] of two years has a good friend who also happens to be a manicurist. Sometimes she does my GF's nails and she is paid for it.
We have invited that friend and her family (husband, kids) over for dinner and my GF would like to have her nails done. Do you think it's normal if my GF's friend insists that she is paid as usual?
1. I do not have a problem if we invite them over as friends (without nail treatment).
2. I do not have a problem if the whole nail thing is handled professionally (without invitation) and that my GF pays her.
3. However, I do find it weird (and personally I would find it embarassing) to show up with the whole family for dinner and then asking for money when leaving.
We've had a big fight over this. What is your opinion? | We've invited my GF's friend (a manicurist)+entire family over for dinner; For doing my GF's nails she wants money when leaving! Is that greedy? |
t3_goqbw | AskReddit | What can help me deal with my loneliness? | I'm 22 years old and due to circumstances outside of my control I'm going to be single and lonely for the next five years or so. I'd rather not go into the reasons again. I've said why I'm stuck like this many times on my regular account. I'd rather not retell that story again. But for the past couple of years I've been struggling with ways to deal with my loneliness. I've tried burying my head into school work, spending too much money on strippers, hanging with the few friends that I do have (I have to conceal that I'm an atheist from them because of the threat of disowning), playing video games, surfing Reddit and Facebook. The only thing I haven't tried doing is hookers and drugs. But I've have a strong fear of going to jail so that's out.
None of those things solve my loneliness. In fact while I'm doing those things I feel even more lonely that I normally do. I sometimes I can't even do my school work because I become so depressed about being lonely. Then all I do is surf Reddit and YouTube. Does anybody have any suggestions on how to deal With my loneliness until I can change my life circumstances? | I'm a lonely mother fucker that needs a distraction from my loneliness. |
t3_3837s0 | relationships | Me [21 M] and my girlfriend [21 F] have been together for almost a year, do we fight too much? | Hey guys, throwaway obviously. I've been with my girlfriend for a little over a year now and I love her to death. Until recently, we've always gotten along great and had a really special relationship, she has made me extremely happy and I want this to work out.
Now, this is my first really serious relationship, so I'm a little unclear on whats normal and what isn't. Up until a couple months ago, me and my girl almost NEVER fought. Now, it seems like every little thing I do sets her off. Even over little things, it's like she loses it and gets so angry at me, saying some really mean things when she's heated.
I know I'm a sensitive guy so maybe I'm just taking these fights too personally, but some of the things she says really hurts me deep down (like last fight she said "why am I even dating you.") I understand that people say things when they are angry that they don't mean, but I'm not the kind of guy who can just 'forget about it'.
It's gotten to the point where we are fighting at least 3 times a week, and I really don't know how to handle it anymore. How do I handle this? Am I just being too sensitive? I want this to work out but I refuse to be anybody's punching bag. | Been together for a year and now fighting a lot; how do I fix this? |
t3_31sie9 | relationships | My boyfriend [25M] of a year and I [22F] hardly ever argue, except when we are with his family. I can't figure out why this is happening or how to stop it. Help! | My boyfriend and I have a great relationship. We communicate well and our conflict resolution styles seem to compliment one another. We rarely disagree on things, and when we do it's resolved with a simple conversation.
Here's the problem:
When we visit his parents, we argue constantly. It's really starting to bother me because I can't figure out why it's happening. I know that his parents see this and think there's no way we are happy together (because his mom has told me). His parents tend to bicker fairly often, but that shouldn't impact our communication, should it? It doesn't matter if it's just his parents, or if it's the whole extended family. We just seem to argue so much more in their presence. The only exception being when it's just us with his brother and SIL. I've also noticed that they (brother and SIL) seem to be holding back from arguing with one another while we're with the whole family, and they are not like this when it's just the 4 of us.
I don't know if it's the stress of seeing his family - I know that they don't *love* us together (probably because we're always arguing!). Or if the family's communication style impacts us. Or if it's just that I'm stressed and little things bother me, and we can't have our simple resolving conversations while we're there.
Any ideas what could be causing it? Or how we can stop it from happening? | Boyfriend and I always seem to be arguing when with family. This is not the case when we are alone or with other people. How can we keep this from happening? |
t3_42yg5u | tifu | TIFU by smoking weed at University | First post so have mercy on my soul.
The fuck ups just keep accumulating so a lil backstory. 19 y/o who's been smoking a lot of that green stuff lately, especially at University just because it's so easy to get a hold of. Trying to stop blah blah blah.
Ok couple of months back my friend and i decide to go do some work at a campus we've never been to before. we get to the library, sit down and get on with some work when i cute girl sits down next to us with her friends. Let's call her Samantha. Samantha was a decent 7-quite cute. We exchange looks nothing more (i have no balls). During that week i visit the same campus hoping to find Samantha only to always see her with her friends :( i feel like shit so i leave it and return to my campus.
A few weeks go by and while high my friends have a brilliant idea of going to Samantha's campus as they've never been there. so about 5 of us get there and roam around. Of course i see her but guess what? Im High AF right about now. So brilliant me decides nows the best time to go say high.
Her back was facing me, all her friends knew i was there but her. When she looked back she just jumped out of shock :/ i think i scared the life out of her being red eyed n all. my brain could not process words properly and at the end she said no, with a smile i just backed off. BTW that was my first time ever going to a girl. First fail meh
Fast forward 2 months, i see Samantha at my campus. really never wanted to see her again after initial contact. Decided it's probably a good thing if i don't speak to her. Turns out she's got a big group of friends that are at my campus. She's probably told all of em about my stupid attempt at speaking to her.
Today i got high...again and while stoned i was just chilling and i noticed that i'm being stared at by a her group of friends. Well now they know i get high, Great! All they ever did that day was stare at me/Talk about me. I think i'm going to get jumped now | Got high, Did dumb shit now i might get stabbed |
t3_13llbj | BreakUps | Ex Girlfriend [F 18] says she wants to get back together with me [M 18] after she dumped me two months ago. | My ex [F 18], dumped me [M 18] over Facebook while she was holidaying. Harsh right? We had been going out for 6 months and i'd never felt so strongly about a girl before.. She also never gave me a reason why she dumped me..
It's two months later and I've only just got out of missing her. We talked, in that time a bit. She wanted to be friends with benefits in that time but I turned it down. Now she wants me back. She said she misses me and she didn't know why she broke up with me in the first place.
I said we should take it slow and work things out which she is happy with.
Too bad I can't keep to that. I'm getting my old feelings back and i'm going to get needy. I can feel it. I'ts just hard because I don't want to lose her.
But at the same time. I don't know if It's a good idea to take her back. I know, Fucked aye?
Anyways, making my Reddit posting debut so sorry if I did a shit job. | My ex wants me back, after I just stopped missing her I said we'd take it slow, but I can feel myself getting too attached already after a week. |
t3_38mx69 | relationships | Me [24F] with my SO [25M] of 2 years. We've lost the 'spark'. How to get it back? | My SO and I live together. We just recently had a very long talk where we made it clear that he and I have lost the 'spark' to our relationship. We know that long term relationships will not ever be like the beginning honeymoon stages of new romance but we're not sure how to rekindle the romance with each other again. There's very little romance with us, everything is so domestic.
We both agreed that we love each other and want to work on it rather than just give up, we're just not too sure how to do it.
I need your help. I don't know if something like going out on dates once a week or something is going to help, but I'm open to all suggestions. | SO and I decided we needed to rekindle our romance, ignite that 'spark' again. How do we do this? What experience have you guys had with this? |
t3_1kjp8k | GetMotivated | Just do it. | Today I went on my first solo 5km run. My first ever 5km run was last Sunday with my Dad. It was really cold this morning and I didn't feel confident about doing it on my own, my Dad has a good pace a I thought I might go beyond my limit and become too tired to continue. The previous night I made a weekend goal with my Dad for myself to do the run on my own as he was going away for the weekend. I decided I will try and that would be all that mattered. I went on the run and when I got into my rhythm I just kept going. I didn't stop, I came home feeling good and I had done the run successfully. I am 14.
I've decided that every weekend I am going to set myself one achievable goal. You should too. | Set an achievable goal each weekend. |
t3_1u8mbk | relationships | I [24 M] broke up with my GF [24 F] about 5 months ago after a 4 year relationship.. | And I fucking miss her to death.
I thought this was what I wanted because I was unhappy in the relationship. Turns out I was only unhappy with myself and attributed all the negative toward her or our relationship instead of looking at myself. I used to smoke heavily and was stupid as fuck to not quit. I was high almost all the time, and didn't have a very clear mind thinking about it all. It turns out it was the weed that was depressing me, and all I really wanted was to sober up and love her.
I gave her some talk about how I wasn't ready and wouldn't feel fulfilled if I was to continue the pace we were; we already lived together, the next step would've been married and kids, etc. We did both work full time, but we were in no position financially to actually support kids. We lived fairly comfortably in a small studio apartment.
I've heard many stories of "don't get back with your ex".. Reddit, are there any success stories with your ex? Do you think it is possible to win back their heart? | Broke up with GF ~5 months ago, thoughts of her all day every day. |
t3_e3ijy | AskReddit | How do I reduce/eliminate attraction to a coworker? | I want to preface by saying I am happily married to a wonderful, attractive woman and am in **no way** contemplating cheating.
That said, I have a coworker who is also a business partner in a new venture that we and some additional coworkers are starting. I have known and been friends with this woman for a number of years but have never worked closely with her. She is an attractive woman, but beyond that she also is extremely good at manipulating men. You know the type, smiles at the right time, touches your arm lightly, makes easily misconstrued comments, and basically makes you believe she might be interested in you sexually even though she really isn't. She is very intelligent though and doesn't just get by on this behavior, although I know it has helped her career.
The issue is that as much as I am aware of this behavior, when it is directed towards me it doesn't stop me from becoming "hormonally charged" if you catch my drift. I find that this seems to cloud my judgement a bit and is very distracting. Once our first round of funding comes through, we will likely be working together closely every day, and I want to reduce or eliminate altogether this distraction.
One possible solution that has been mentioned is to use the Seinfeld "man hands" technique, which is to focus on something you don't like about a woman to reduce attraction. I have found this to be of limited success. Does anyone have any additional suggestions or can tell me how they dealt with a similar situation? | Attracted to coworker. No cheating involved or desired. How can I reduce the attraction? |
t3_ox7g1 | AskReddit | My Dad just committed suicide. My family is completey divided and I'm the executor. Help. | My Dad took an overdose of pills a week and a half ago. He was in a coma on life support in the ICU until Thursday, when he died. I loved my Dad so much and I'm still trying to make sense of it. I have a lot of guilt because I am also depressive and I feel I should've recognized the symptoms. I also was the last to talk to him and it was only hours later that I got a "feeling" that something was really wrong.
Honestly, I'm just heartbroken.
Dad and Mom divorced about a year ago. I'm 28, and the executor, and Dad left a lot of family rifts behind. I'm basically the only one who has remained neutral to each side of the canyon, my two families at either end. I feel like no one trusts me and each side has their own agenda, as objective as I am trying to remain. (I loved my Dad, dearly, but what am I to do? Disown my mom? Seriously? Becuase she gets part of his pension? I was really hoping the breakup would help both of them with their own unhappiness.)
On the other side, I have hearsay beliefs and my own personal experience that my aunt, the second executor may not be completely someone I can trust. But is that just more drama? Everyone is pushing me to make all these decisions RIGHT NOW. I'm just trying to deal with the fact that my father is dead, and everyone is squabbling over this monetary BS. I feel like I really need guidance right now, and I'm not sure where to turn with all of this family dissonance and the Dad-size hole in my heart that he left behind. | My dad committed suicide. I am so sad, my family is in turmoil, and I'm the executor of his will. Advice? |
t3_i5b7i | AskReddit | Can anyone share experiences changing you last name(s)? | Background:
My parents gave me both last names and didn't change either of theirs. Growing up and trying to explain how I have a hyphenated last name became like muscle memory or a officer's Miranda rights.
Now I'm getting married and I am not doing this to my kids. My fiance doesn't want to keep her last name and I don't want to give her my hyphenated last names.
Was planning on just dropping one and sharing it with my wife.
But I'm more concerned with the process of changing it. Can't say I've looked into it much via Google or government sites. | I don't like having a long hyphenated last name. Help. |
t3_htyts | AskReddit | Obese 21 year old male with no experience/skills. How do I get a job? | As the title suggests, I'm 21, obese, and have no real work experience, or skills I can flaunt. I've just finished an arts degree, and it's time I stop suckling the parental teat (Well, mostly they've stopped paying up) Also, I'm Indian, and living in Australia (Fat brown and ugly..the holy trinity)
I've tried searching for most jobs that require "no experience", and get rejected flat out because
A) I am Indian. (Racism exists, trust me :) )
B) I'm fat so that rules out any physical labour type job (They won't hire anyone overweight as thye would obviously be less productive)
C) I'm fat so that rules out any work at McD/KFC or any retail store in Australia (From what I've noticed, they're extremely prissy about who they portray as their image to the customer..and clearly I'm not)
D) No experience means almost 90% of the jobs are a straight no-go.
What kind of jobs can I apply for? Am I completely fucked?
And before you guys go there, yes, I am working on losing weight. I've come down from 340 lbs to 300 in the last 3 months, I'm 6'2'' so I'm still working on it, hoping to reach 200 and i'll be satisfied.
I wasted most of my years at college either going out with friends, playing video games, or skipping class. I didn't take part in any social activity/join any club, and that's my biggest regret to this day. | Fat guy is no longer getting welfare checks from parents, needs to face the real world. HALP! |
t3_1ga2b1 | relationships | Me (19m) feeling underappreciated by my live-in 24 year old SO (f) | So we started hooking up back in January and due to a crisis with her former roommate, she moved in with me in February. Since then we have made it official and these have been some of the happiest times of my life. However, since early march she has been without work and without income. Being a tradesman from a wealthy background, I picked up slack and started supporting the household. All these months later, I still spoil her rotten and cover her bills. The unfortunate thing is, I believe she no longer appreciates my willingness to support her in her position. I clean, buy groceries, and pay for all of our outtings yet she can't help herself from calling me out on the smallest of details. How do I address this issue without making it a matter of finance? | need to discuss underappreciation without talking money. |
t3_1g2yiu | offmychest | Very recently separated, married 11+ years | Wife left me less than a week ago on my birthday, with the question 'How would your life be without me in it?' I had known we were drifting apart but it still took me for a ride. When she got home, I tried to talk to her about it, but she was having none of it. Eventually, this led to her saying very painful things about our time together.
Some background details:
When we married she helped me get custody of my then 3 year old daughter, who was in an abusive household and has been the only mother she knows.
We both have mental health issues, She is PTSD and bipolar, while I have ADHD combo type and have anxiety issues.
Other contributing factors:
I was arrested last year for a felony embezzlement charge, which I just completed a diversion program so it wont fuck up me life. Could have fought the charge due to some really bad combo's of medicine that really skewed my sense of reality and it being such a low amount. But I have taught my daughter about taking responsibility for your actions, so I didnt want to take the easy way out.
About 18 months ago, she went through weight loss surgery, and has not been back to work for more than 2-3 due to her fucking up her back and being out on workmans comp since September.
She has agreed to help my daughter and I find a new place to live that is in the current school district as I could barely afford the place we are in now. She will help us with the bills she is paying currently until we find a new place, under 250 a month. She also wants to continue to be my daughter's mom even though she is bolting half a state a way.
I have been getting sleep better in the past 3 nights than I thought possible, I am pretty much at each with all this now. | I am a 35 year old recently single father with a 14 year old daughter. WTH do I do with my life now? |
t3_ohrn9 | AskReddit | Redditors, I'm graduating with my Bachelors in May and hopefully continuing on to Law School in the fall. I'm scared shitless of becoming a real adult. What is the most important advice you wish you would have had upon graduating? | Where I'm coming from:
I am about to begin my last semester of my undergraduate degree before I hopefully go on to law school (waiting to hear back).
I will likely move somewhere somewhere different to continue my education, leaving behind my family (I study 1 hr from home) and close friends. I've applied to some local law schools, but am ready to leave this state.
What is particularly tough is I've been in a wonderfully fulfilling relationship with an amazing guy for almost two years. He has a job offer close to home and has to accept or decline by the end of this month. He has applied for jobs in some of the same areas as law schools I've applied to, but no definitive offers yet from those.
I will make my decisions for my future based on seeking my own personal fulfillment, but I'm devastated at the thought of not being with this person- he is so, so special. I'm not ready to leave him. And I'm not really sure if I'm ready to be far from home yet. It's scary to think I'm about to gain greater independence from my parents and become a citizen of the world.
So, my fellow Redditors, any advice on how to take this time of transition in stride? Thank you so much for your consideration- Reddit has been such a saving grace for me, and I'd be grateful for those older and wiser to leave their insight. | Last semester of college, hopefully going to law school, scared of the thought of leaving everyone and everything I know behind, especially long term boyfriend. HELP! |
t3_2f3tp5 | relationship_advice | How do I show the girl I really like, that I like her? [16M] [16f] | So basically I started liking this girl in the start of summer, she likes me as well. And showed me that she liked me. Recently she stopped and now told me that she showed me that she likes me for 3 months and did not receive anything back. Now, we aren't in the same place because of summer holidays, so I couldn't see her, which is probably a factor why she feels like this. But most of our talking was either through texting or calling. Well, today, after 2-3 months of liking each other she said this, and I blame myself of course, and explains why she wasn't showing her feelings for a while. I just want advice on how am I going to show her that I like her a lot, through texting and calling, to fix everything until I actually see her, which is very soon. | How do I show a girl that I like her a lot through texting and calling? |
t3_1thw8w | relationship_advice | Should social media be a problem in my two year relationship between a [20/m] and [20/F]? | So I've always been bothered by my girlfriend posting selfies of herself on instagram/tumblr. In my head, posting selfies of yourself is to get attention from other people. My girlfriend posts selfies that are usually chest up, but occasionally are full body mirror shots. The pictures aren't nude and don't show any goods but it bugs me that her curvey figure is out there for people to look at and like. Her need for attention is what bothers me. I've talked to her about it before and have told her how I don't like them and that it bothers me that she puts them up.
But still, she puts one up about once a week.
Now I get this is may be my insecurity speaking but am I wrong to think that if something bothers me she should respect my feelings and not do it?
Meanwhile, she tells me how she likes me not having social media and that it's a plus to her. So I've deleted my Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram as a result. In return, I get nothing. Her facebook does not have her relationship status listed either.
So am I being too insecure and controlling? Or should she care more that it bugs me? | My girlfriend doesn't like me on social media so I've deleted all of my accounts. Meanwhile, she posts selfies even though I let her know I don't like them. |
t3_1u524p | relationships | Me [26 M] with my girlfriend [20 F] of five months broke up because of a few months of long distance, very sad, help? | I'm ex military, studying overseas, my girlfriend of 5 years broke up with me last summer, met this incredible girl and dated her for 5 months. It was the best relationship I could have ever asked for.
She's so smart, so chill, not the jealous type, and she's fun to be around. Sex was amazing, we knew how to push each other's buttons. She shares my sense of adventure and surpasses me in witty banter... She's back in Colorado now, my home state, and we broke up because she wants to be single before I move back.
I'd be happy with waiting, but she doesn't want to. She said her life has been defined by guys her whole adult life and she needs to find herself. I want her to, because it's important, and I actually care about her in that I want her to be happy, and I want her to be the best person she can be.
I know that distance relationships bog couples down. I don't want that. She wants to go on a date when I get back to see if we can still try this again. But she also isn't sure if she'll want to be single or not at that time.
She's 20, I'm 26. Maybe I'm too old fashioned. Maybe it's just normal that it hurts so much to let go. My relationship experience is pretty much that five year one and one very bad one when I was 16 that culminated in me finding her in a bathtub with her wrists cut. I loved my last one, but it wasn't working anymore. With this girl, there was never anything wrong. We got along so well. It was just the distance. But I don't really know how to deal with it. I can be her friend. I could claim not to be upset that she's probably going to date around more. I could easily meet other women too, I'm really open and not bad looking. It's just that I felt more for this girl than I ever felt for someone I loved for five years, like a real connection, and I couldn't think of it. How do the pros deal with heartache? | Breakup because of distance, sad and sad :( |
t3_2127uh | relationships | I (20,F) need to tell this guy (21,M) To leave me alone | So, I went on a blind date with this kid that goes to my school. He seemed a little weird at first but somewhat normal and it was going okay. But, after a little bit he's getting a little too weird. The breaking point/red flag was that he told me he "deeply loved me" and "that we were meant to be together". keep in mind I've only known this man for a day (if even). I just felt uncomfortable and stupidly said nothing/didn't tell him I didn't feel the same way at all. So, the next day I tell him that I don't think it's going to work out and that I don't really want to be with him. But, he still thinks we're friends. He tries to flirt with me and I've been telling him over and over again to leave me alone. As time goes on, the comments are getting creepier and creepier. For example, he told me that he could "watch you forever" and that he wants me to be the parent of his kids. Just weird shit like that. No matter how many different approaches I try he doesn't leave me alone. I've tried telling him bluntly to leave me alone, I've tried being overly mean, overly nice. Everything. What should I do? | Guy won't leave me alone no matter how much I tell him to stop. |
t3_uszbq | travel | Nightmare transit through USA when flying UK->New Zealand | Just a bit of a rant I guess.. My dad is based in Europe but travels around a lot, mainly to the Middle East and Asia. That usually means travelling the 'right way' round the globe, even flying to Sydney from EU usually means via Singapore, Istanbul or Hong Kong. Point is, he flies a lot, transits a lot, no problems anywhere.
Today he flew to New Zealand via LA and says it was the biggest nightmare and/or joke ever. It's just a technical stop in LA to refuel the plane, you get off, sit at the gate for half an hour and get on again. Technically nothing to do with the USA at all. But what does Homeland Security do? Transit visas, fingerprinting, passport stamping, long queues. If you're flying economy, you actually have to exit the air-side, get your bags, and go check-in again. Don't know how many of you travel a lot, but that's just ridiculous.
It is pointless, creates massive hassle and annoyance, and probably costs tax-payers a fair bit of change. | Travelling through, let alone TO the US is a nightmare. Avoid. |
t3_2g7gcs | tifu | TIFU by using my security badge at work | I exit my car, grab my bag, my coffee, and attach my security badge to my belt loop. Normally I use the 2nd belt loop to the right of the fly, but today, with my hands full of coffee, keys, phone, the easiest loop to reach was the 1st belt loop to the right of the button to my jeans.
I approach the security door, extend my badge (it's on one of those elastic lines that stretches out, and retracts automatically). I extend it out, swipe it over the sensor, and let it go, as I do every M-F.
Well, given that I had clipped it 1 belt loop closer to my crotch, my badge ID begins to retract, accelerates, and the corner of it accelerates right into the tip of my dick.
It stung, and I dropped my coffee in reaction, spilling it all over the entryway mat. Got to my desk, dropped off my stuff, and went to the restroom to check for damage. There's a bruise forming just to the right of my pee hole :(
I'll make sure to go back to using a belt loop more on the side from now on :/ | let my extended security badge retract via it's spring-loaded system, badge recoiled into my junk. |
t3_2s7rle | tifu | TIFU by watching a video featuring Hitler with my 2 year old daughter. | Okay, you know that Hitler scene taken from that movie "Downfall" where you can put in words and make your own video, well it was a recent one of those. So, it is more like an actor playing Hitler, but same affect.
Well, I decided to watch one because it has to do with the Seattle Seahawks and the Green Bay Packers, and given that I am a Hawks fan, it seemed relevant. The problem is that my daughter wants to be involved with everything, so I let her watch it without a second thought.
Despite not understanding what was going on, she was busting up laughing the entire time. She loved it, and her laughter was cracking me up. No harm done.
Until a moment later when my daughter is screaming like Hitler was in the video. My daughter only turned 2 less than a month ago, but believe me, she speaks very well for her age, and her Hitler impression is about as good as it can possibly be for a 2 year old.
My daughter now screams like Hitler at people at the grocery store, the park, and everywhere else we go.
For anyone interested, here is the video: | I watched a video of Hitler with my 2 year old daughter and now she screams at people like Hitler wherever we go. |
t3_31jq0v | relationships | I [19M] didn't want a friends with benefits relationship with my ex [21F] things got out of control from there... | This is a repost just because I forgot to tag this the first time, sorry I'm new to this.
So I only saw my most recent ex girlfriend for five months, but we go to the same school so it was very time/sexually intensive. I'm somewhat of a prude and I haven't been with many people so this was something entirely new to me.
We have so many mutual friends and we go to a small school in the midwest. She's extremely popular and known by everyone and many people out there and heavily involved in the most exclusive clubs on campus. So we dated for 5 months and I went all out on her. We traveled, I bought her gifts, and did so many random romantic things for her. She did not really give me back much but I figured she had a much higher status and was a much better person than I was so that was ok, I was the one who was supposed to be reaching. I dropped the L bomb, she didn't requite. We came back from spring break and she broke up with me because things felt different. I was under a lot of pressure and I was not able to be the totally fun, carefree person she had come to love so she ended it. Tt was really tough but I was ok with it in a way I still can't explain. Immediately (1 day) after we broke up she wanted to get back together, but not officially. She wanted an open or friends with benefits relationship. I tried it for two weeks and it was too much for me and so I ended it.
She was really pissed off and found someone new about two weeks later. He is also very heavily involved in our school and he lives in the building next to me and many of my best friends, even one of my roommates are really close with him. She ignores me now and I feel like a complete loser. I've even gone to a psyche crisis center from what all of this has caused me and started going to therapy. I feel like the excluded loser now and even though I know it's not true I feel that way. I need some help. | Ex who treated me badly wanted to be FWB, I didn't want to. Is now seeing one of my friends |
t3_3tg9dd | relationships | Me [21 M] with my Friend [21 M] a couple years, I have feelings for him, need help | Hey reddit. i'm a guy, a senior in college, and recently started accepting the fact that I like other dudes. I've never been in a romantic relationship and I really like having close friends because they're the closest I can get to being in a romantic relationship (i'll explain more further down). Also, seeing as i'm gay, many societal and religious forces have discouraged me from pursuing a gay relationship/marriage. And I really don't feel comfortable being in one for that reason.
This is a problem because it makes me very insecure about my friendships since these relationships are the "epitome" of whatever kind of intimacy I'll ever have with another human being. I feel like my friends don't put in as much effort as I do in the friendship because they have tangible romantic relationships or the IDEA of having one (getting married in the future, etc.) that they can fall back on--and I don't. Like this is it for me. It's ridiculously depressing. Is my way of thinking flawed?
Additionally, I have this one really close friend that I have major feelings for. I'm unsure of his sexuality but we joke around about having sex/dating each other pretty regularly. He's my best bud and I confide in him every little thing about my life and so does he. It feels weird to say this but I love him. It feels awesome but also depressing because I know that some day he'll probably find a girl or something and I'll be left to rot. the idea is so much more salient now that graduation is right around the corner.
He also always asks me to "f*ck" him jokingly but keeps repeating it on occasion. We've discussed girls before--he thinks i'm straight--but I'm still unsure of his sexuality. Does him asking me mean he has homosexual tendencies? Do straight guys do that with their friends? I'd really appreciate any help!
i'm WAY too obsessed over this guy, I can't stop thinking about him and I miss him the second we end a conversation. How do i stop these feelings, if I should stop them at all? | gay, have feelings for straight (?) friend...unsure about how my friendships will pan out. Kinda hard to summarize. Any words of advice? |
t3_1mwpbm | dating_advice | Is it weird asking someone out over Facebook? [19M] | So there is this girl [19] I'm interested in going out with. She used to work with me but had to be transferred to a store closer to her university after her summer break was up. I think she really liked me, and from what other co-workers have told me, she was crushing on me pretty hard. I really liked her but I didn't want to get attached because I knew she'd be gone in less than a month to go back to school. Shes been gone for about a month or so now, and I was kind of expecting her to find another guy on campus that she'd find the likes for and they'd hit it off.
I guess she still likes me because last week she surprised me with a visit at work. She came home for the weekend and stayed for nearly an hour just talking to me before I said that I had to get back to work, but was it was really nice catching up. We had messaged each other back and forth on Facebook throughout the week, just talking/playfully flirting like we usually do but she mentioned that she'd probably stop by again at work and see me. She did, and I had planned to ask her out then, but I couldn't find the right time to drop the question, mainly because my other co-workers joined in on the visit. Then her dad came by after he finished their shopping and told her they needed to head out. So it was like a 5-10 minuted chat.
Now I want to ask her out, but I'm not too sure when I'll see her in person again. Would it be weird to ask her on Facebook? Just be like "I mean't to ask you this yesterday but couldn't find the right time. Do you want to get some lunch sometime?" | Don't know when I'll see her again in person, is it weird to ask her out via Facebook? |
t3_3cw61l | tifu | TIFU by asking a dad if he wanted to sleep with his daughter. | I work at a youth hostel i Norway this summer, working in the reception and cleaning rooms.
Late one night a polish man walks in and says he wants a room for his wife and his daughter who is 3.
I check the booking system and sees that we have a room with two beds available. Being the service minded worker I am, I ask if he needs an extra madras in the room, or if he or his wife wants to share a bed with their daughter. He does not get me. Due to the language barrier I try again; "Do you want to sleep with your daughter, or do you want a madras? Or your wife can sleep with your daughter? It's not that big a bed, but it should work." After a couple of tries explaining, I give up and get them the madras.
Half an hour pass and the entire family walks in, the man I talked with and his wife, and their 13 year old daughter.. | Receptionist: "Do you or your wife want to sleep with your 13 year old daughter?" |
t3_narvg | dating_advice | Male, 25 Still trying to get back into the dating scene | About me: I'm 25, I've had 2? serious girlfriends in my life. One wasn't meant to be after a year, lack of communication is always going to end badly.
The second one was the doozie. I dated this girl for almost 3 years, we were long distance, but made sure to spend as much time together whenever possible (I went to school in NY and she was in MD). When I got out of school due to personal issues in my family life, things still seemed ok, until she dropped those infamous words "We need to talk." You all know what happened when I saw her next.
Now, it is about 4-5 years later, she's been married for 2 years, (I was probably played the more and more I think about it, although I always try to give the benefit of the doubt), and I have had 0 girlfriends since.
When I was with her, she kind of molded me, passively made me push away some of my friends, and now I am only really close to one person and have a few others I consider good friends. More importantly, she destroyed my confidence when she left me, and when I had no hint of trouble, until those 4 words came out of her mouth.
(In the years since she dumped me, I've been on 2 dates through OK Cupid and it wasn't working out apparently (her choice) and I thought there was something good there.)
Now I know that I need to get into good shape, girls love fit guys, but I don't know how to approach women or how to strike up a conversation even. I've had a few people I've hooked up with, usually when I was drunk, but it's not necessarily what I want. I enjoy the fun, but I would much rather something meaningful, I always have. What do I do to stop being so shy and unconfident with girls?
p.s. Also been shot down by 3 girls I think this year that I've tried to ask out, which doesn't help at all. It makes me even more petrified of rejection. | 25, male, out of dating game for 4-5 years, had hook ups, need advice on how to talk to women/break the ice |
t3_3x5nng | relationships | Me [28M] with a "friend" [26F] ask to do something, but not a date | So I met this girl when I was working remotely out of another office for my job. Kind of hit it off as we both have a lot in common. I am really not interested in dating anyone, but want to ask her to drinks to simply talk about our study abroad experiences. Is it okay/acceptable to say when asking her out that "this is not a date"?
I kind of want to phrase it like "i know whenever a guy asks a girl to do something in a social setting it is usually construed as a date. Well that is not what I am after, just general friendship. | when asking out as a friend, is it acceptable to say its not a date. |
t3_3678tr | relationships | My (18/M) Friends (18/M, 18/M, 19/M, 17/F, 18/F) ditched my birthday to get drunk after showing up 2 1/2 hours late and staying for 45 minutes | So A few weeks ago I had a really bad injury that left me unable to walk for the next 3 months. I'm on painkillers and in physio and shit. That's just sort of a preface.
So before this, my friends have been astounding. They've always been there when i've needed them and we all come from shitty home situations, so we're more family to eachother than our actual family. Anyways, yesterday was my 18th (yay) and my friends offered to come around 6. They ended up coming at 8:30 because they wanted to go to the LCBO and get booze so they can get piss-drunk at one of their houses (19/m) who has the house to himself for the night. Two of them left after a half an hour to go pick up from some guy and they never came back. 15 minutes later, 19/m's girlfriend, 17/f gets a call from him saying that everyone should leave and go to his house, and he'd come chill today instead bc he felt bad. I said nothing because I'm the sort of person who likes to keep the harmony, but it really hurt my feelings. From my perspective, I'm trapped on a fucking couch for 3 months straight in a shitty home situation with no one to keep me company and nothing to do, I cant walk, cant smoke, cant drink or do anything because of my meds, and they ditch on my 18th birthday, the big one, to go get drunk. Am I overreacting or are they being fucking assholes? If so, what do I do/say, if anything? | friends ditched on my 18th to get drunk after showing up 2 1/2 hours late and after staying for like 45 minutes. Happy bday to me right? |
t3_50ednz | relationships | Me [29 M] going on a second date for breakfast with a girl [30 F], how do I got for the kiss? | Hey there,
I am not very experienced with this so here is the question.
I met an amazing girl at a bar a few days ago, we exchanged numbers and went on a date a few days ago. All went great, we hugged and kissed on the cheek at the end, but I usually do not push things on the first date ( was maybe a mistake this time).
We are meeting for coffee tomorrow morning, because she works late for the rest of the week and then I am away for a few days - it was her idea. She also texted me after our first date and seems interested.
My question is how do I kiss her tomorrow? I suck at this part and have always usually gone to a bar or had some drinks before, which is not an option now. How do I make the move on a breakfast date? I feel like if I do not make my intentions very clear i will miss my opportunity, as we cannot see each other for almost a week. Any suggestions would be appreciated. | Meeting a girl for second date @ breakfast. how do I go for the kiss on a breakfast date? |
t3_3gx2ze | tifu | TIFU by not opening my text messages. | So yesterday as I was leaving work my boss says to me "there's no work tomorrow" so I say "no worries let me know" (he's very prone to changing his mind).
So I went out last night, and went to the movies and got a bit drunk in gold lounge (I get extremely bad hangovers no matter how much I drink or what I do).
So I'm having a merry old time, wind up at a mates house, have a few more fire waters and go to bed at 3am. So I wake up at just about bang on 8 and look at my phone because I downloaded Fallout Shelter and was keen to check on my vault. Pull down the top drawer of my phone and there's a message from Rob (bossman) at 8:35pm. I get a knot in my stomach. I click on it "8am start". I think fuckfuckfuckfuckfuck. I like to think cheesy comedy movie music started playing at I was running through his house looking for all my shit, making a coffee and getting dressed into the work clothes I always keep in my overnight bag. Anyway so I fucking bailed all ready for work in very impressive time I shoot him a text "fuck man I'm so sorry I'll be there in 10". I get one back as I'm nearly at his house " what? I said there's no work today " so I was thinking "wtf was that message?"
It was from fucking Tuesday. So now I'm sitting in traffic, hungover to actual fuck. And my boss thinks I'm a fucking spoon. | got drunk, thought I had the day off today. Freaked out because a message from 2 days ago said 8am start. |
t3_12p2th | Advice | My parents are splitting up. Also I'm 21. | Not really sure what else to say, but I have no idea how to deal with this. To make a long story short, my parents haven't had a functional marriage since I was about 9 or so. They finally decided to go to counseling about 6 months ago, so this kinda came out of left field. I guess I'm mostly looking for advice on helping my family and myself cope. I'm most worried about my mom since she's been a stay at home mom since I was born, and she's had pretty bad depression issues for a long time. I have a younger brother (15), and I have no idea what's going to happen there. Thanksgiving holidays are completely ruined, I'm panicking trying to plan a last minute trip out to see them (I'm away at college), and just in general have no idea what the hell to do. It probably sounds like I'm being selfish, but I'm just frustrated because I feel like I have to be the adult here and sort this out. | Parents are splitting up, family has been thrown into chaos. And advice is appreciated. |
t3_4j46f8 | legaladvice | Father wants to charge room & board, rough past with financial deals (Ontario, Canada) | Hi legal advice,
I am a 22 (f) recent graduate from University. I currently hold a full time job, but because of school I was working reduced hours and therefore had a lower pay check.
My father and I have been having a long drawn-out battle over room and board. We finally agreed to a price of $75 a week, but there's now a catch. He's demanding that I pay every Friday the amount and refuses to do bi-weekly schedule, but that's just semantics.
My issue is, is that he wants cash. Now, to point the obvious out, cash is not traceable, and he will not take a cheque.
In the past I bought a car, but had to put it under his name because he had me convinced that my credit score was not strong enough for it to be a loan under just my name. Now, when i agreed to this he forced me to pay the entire year including insurance in one summer, which i did, but it killed any savings I had, and every time we got in a fight, he pulled my keys, even though it was technically my car.
So I guess the advice I'm seeking is, is how do I basically cover my ass for these rent payments when things go inevitably sour? He has threatened to kick me out in the past, and I want to be able to trace the payments if I ever need to. If I call my bank to put a note on my account saying that as of May 13, 2016, the withdrawals of $150 every pay day are for rent, will that hold any grounds?
Thanks for any advice!! | Dad's a jerk and has screwed me before, how do I prove my money is paying rent with no cheques? |
t3_q65wd | relationship_advice | Didn't go to dinner with ex and his new girlfriend. Did i do the right thing? | I'm 22 and my ex is 22 as well. We broke up over a year ago and we had dated for 2.5 years. We had a pretty amicable break up and are still pretty close friends. I have had a relationship since the break up but this is his first one. Our relationship was alright but at the end i really felt like he needed to grow up.
He came back in to town for the weekend and wanted to go grab dinner together to catch up. I had no problem doing this until I found out he was going to being his new gf too. I have no feelings left for him besides friendship. My reason for not going is that i would be extrememly awkward. Also, as i mentioned before I have been in relationship since our breakup and he use to hang out with me and my bf. Which usually led to my bf getting upset and usually an argument.
So, i decided not to go dinner and let them have the time together. I don't want to cause problems in his relationship. | Did I do the right thing? |
t3_1tf9re | running | Night running (or: the most useless run I've ever had) | Just a rambling anecdote about the failed run I just did.
So I set out on my old route for the first time in a few months (I'm visiting home from uni for the holidays). Decided I'd go for a night run since I've been doing that at university. I stuck a head torch on, since I'm out in the countryside.
During the day, my route (a winding bridleway through the countryside) looks [like this] Pretty idyllic, right? Well, it turns out that in the pitch black, with none of the city lights I've gotten used to, it looks like [this] Naturally, I pussied out and decided to take a detour down a shorter route that I usually use as a distance extension when I'm feeling like I still have some distance left in me. Its only about two miles but it goes through the town centre so theres lighting and, hey, better than nothing, right?
So I'm heading down this route idly thinking about a game called 'metro 2033' when my damp shoelace flicks up into the back of my leg. It was still dark because I hadn't got to the streetlights yet, and I instantly decided that one of [these things] had leapt out of my nightmares and was attacking my calves. I squeaked a bit, jumped about 2 feet in the air and was almost sprinting for about 600 metres until I managed to get a grip.
Things went a little less shittily when I reached the down centre (apart from the fact that i had a headlamp on in a thoroughly lit area and therefore looked like a complete twat to the Saturday night revellers) until I realised that it had only been 2 hours since my dinner (pulled pork in rolls with a kind of gravy sauce. I normally don't eat all day before a run but my mum made it as a treat and I could hardly say no) and it was starting to make a return on me. So I had to cut my short route even shorter and limp home. | expected 6-12 miles at a sub 8 minute mile. Got <2 miles fraught with invisible demons and narrowly-evaded vomiting |
t3_ub6m9 | AskReddit | Wouldn't the whole copyright thing be a lot easier if an artist's 'product' became free (to use) after his/her death? | I mean, when an artist (in this case most likely a musician/band) dies, he or she cant be financially rewarded for their art anymore. So why pay others good money for stuff that isn't theirs?
And I understand that this wont work with, for example, games and film, because these are usually the fruit of a larger corporate effort. But a song should belong to a band or musician, and it should be their descision who pays or doesnt pay for it and when.
Now I am a musician, and I study architecture/art, and I see no reason why anybody (not even the kids I will eventually have) should get a penny of the revenue of my work. I see no need to pay an organisation or government to help me in the eventuality of someone using or copying my work for any reason other than to make money, and I think most artists nowadays are perfectly capable of fighting their own legal battles íf they choose to.
Off course, when someone steals work to gain money, there should be a law and punisent to follow. But again; only when the original artist is alive and wants to fight it. | I think art should belong to the original artists as long as they are alive. When they die, their work should be free (to use). |
t3_4es15o | relationships | Me [23 F] with this guy [20s M] that I want to meet. Need simple advice and some encouragement, maybe? | Hi reddit! Need an advice which may sound too simple to you maybe, but because I am a reserved and a very shy person, it's kind of hard for me. So I'm in a foreign country now and staying in a shared house, you know like, there's a big apartment with lots of people (mostly students but all youngsters) and there are common bathrooms/kitchen and stuff like that and you stay in private or 2-persons rooms. It's very common here to greet people with pleasantries when you encounter even if you are going to toilet or something. It's a very friendly place. So this Guy I want to meet stays on the same floor as me. We encountered each other many times and all that time we exchanged goodnights, hellos and stuff all kindly and smiling. Everybody smiles in this house.
I need some encouragement here. I don't go to the dining room often, which is a place to meet and talk with all the people living here so I haven't seen him outside of our lucky encounters. I really really want to stop him when I next see him and just ask his name like everyone else did to me, but I am just...super shy(you get it) and the last time we were getting out of our room at the same time I didn't even say anything other than smile then instantly turn my head back. Would it be weird to just stop him and start a convo after all this time? Fuck, how do I even do this simple thing? | Living in a shared house, and there's a guy I would like to meet. Because I'm super shy, I can not engage in a convo with him. Please help me? |
t3_oj3gn | relationships | Am I expecting too much of him? [warning: word vomit] | Some background info: I'm a 19 y/o f dating a 21 y/o m, we've been dating for about 2 1/2 months. He is good friends with my brother and I've been nursing a crush on him for about three years so we've had a friendly, however tense, relationship for some time.
He is a non-working art school student and I work full time. Our days off usually coincide an we get to see a lot of each other but I feel as though it is constantly me who is initiating contact and making plans. He's a shy person by nature, a bit anxious as well, and at the very beginning it was difficult for him to show affection for me, especially around our tightly-knit friend group. I'm pretty easy going so I didn't take issue with it but the problem now is that his unattentiveness hasn't changed.
I'm the kind of person who is uncomfortable with too much PDA but it has gotten to the point where I feel ignored by him, as though he is embarassed to show me more attention than other people or express the need to be alone with me. I also sense apprehension at spending alone time. I feel like opportunities to develop our relationship are limited to due his apprehension.
I trust him and love him but at times feel like he is acting solely out of obligation. I have had troubled relationships in the past and perhaps this is lending itself to my insecurity. | new boyfriend is stand-offish, am I being a worrisome bitch? |
t3_3muun9 | relationships | My LDR boyfriend(?) [23/M] is moving in with me [21/F], but won't label our relationship. | In a few months I'm driving across the country to Nevada to pick up my SO(?), and bringing him back home for him to live with me. I have my life together, for the record. I have a full time job, a mortgage, a car, a cat - the works. He doesn't, but I have really strong feelings for him. And he's established that he wants to live with me so he can do all the things he wants to with me and make me happy. I think this will be good for both of us.
We've been talking for a year and Skype (video, so there's no catfish situation here) all the time. Recently we decided that he'd move in with me. However, I told him that if he moves in with me we're in a relationship. We're together. Exclusive. He wasn't receptive and said that he doesn't like labels.
Now I'm worrying. It's very clear this isn't going to be a ~roomates~ situation. This is an adult relationship, but he refuses to define it. If we were just seeing each other (read: not living with each other) I could accept that. But he'll be living in OUR home, sleeping in OUR bed. Is it ridiculous that I want it to be clear that we're TOGETHER?
I'm just trying to look out for myself. I don't want to get hurt. | Moving in with man, man refuses to define our relationship. |
t3_3cex64 | relationships | Me [35 M] left my family 12 years ago, they think I'm probably dead. | I am not entirely sure why am I doing this, but I felt like I needed to talk to someone about it.
I was always an anti-social person and always thought there is something wrong about me. I never felt connected to my family or any place in particular. My father is slovak, my mother is polish. We kept moving to different countries because of their work, this stopped when I was 16, they live outside Europe now. I moved away as soon as I turned 18 and started working. We stayed in touch but did not meet too often.
I was always alone and never looked for any relationship. I had no idea what to do with my life; I always felt empty and emotionless. People who wanted to become friends of mine only made me angry and irritated. This included my brother, sisters and my mother and father.
One evening I had the crazy idea to leave everything behind and just go. I sold everything I had and traveled Europe a little bit. I never told my family nor my boss, and I didn't have any friends. I just disappeared. I had no education or any specific skills, my only talent was the ability to learn languages very quick. I was doing shady stuff. A guy I met in France convinced me to join the French Foreign Legion, which I did. I got dispatched in various places... Lebanon, Djibouti... After the first 5 year long contract expired I signed another one which came to an end recently. I never contacted my family and had no idea how they are doing at all. It was only recently I started using facebook - even though we had access to the internet I didn't use it before. I was able to track down my whole family. It looks like they kept searching for me the whole time and it made me feel strange. They wasted so much time on that and so many resources I feel like I owe them some explanation, but I really don't know what to do. Should I contact them? What should I say? I feel indiferrent towards them. | Left family 12 years ago they think I'm likely dead. Should I contact them? |
t3_3wdkdy | relationships | My [F31] boyfriend [M40] has started to become very jealous of me working with male colleagues | Hello, long time lurker first time poster to relationships. I'm at my wits end over my boyfriend's recent onset of severe jealousy whenever I talk about who I'm working with for the day.
For a bit of background, we've been together just under two years and this issue has only recently come to light (over the past 2-3 months). I work in a male dominated industry, it's the same line of work that my boyfriend is in (we met at work). Anyways, recently I've been tasked with a new job that requires me to work with mostly males (there's only two women that preform this specialized job in the whole state) and it requires a considerable amount of time spent away from home as well as working long hours under extreme stress. My boyfriend has started questioning me every day (in a weird tone) who I'm working with for the day and what they're like. He gets extremely upset when I work extended hours without letting him know (it's difficult to let him know I'll be working late because I'm focussing on the job and am under stress).
How can I reassure him that my working relationship with my colleagues is purely professional and that he has nothing to worry about? I say the words but he still doesn't feel secure. A mutual friend has suggested that he may feel emasculated because I've been rising up the ranks in the same industry as him but he's still doing the same job he has been doing for the last 10 years.
Not sure how to proceed or what else to say... | boyfriend is jealous of me working with guys |
t3_2bdbyz | relationships | I've been friend zoned, should I keep trying? | Me and this girl have known each for like two years now. I was a completely different person when I met her (sad, pessimistic, etc.) and she's changed me and she knows that. She's admitted it. We actually dated, but things didn't work out.
When we made up, we talked about it and she only broke up with me because she needed to focus on school and her family and she was stressed out, she couldn't handle trying to make me feel happy, so she ended it, she said she loved how I treated her, and was sorry about everything.
Now we are great friends, she knows everything about me, and I'd like to think I know everything about her. She's practically the first person I go to for every situation. I told her my feelings for her recently and she said that she wants to stay friends, and even confirmed that she friend zoned me when I asked. She said that she loves our relationship now, and that our friendship is really important in her life. I think that I still might have a chance, but I don't know. Should I keep trying? What should I do? Ask anything you think you need to know. | I've been friend zoned directly but I still think I got a shot. |
t3_4hmp0h | relationships | Me [24 M] trying to become FWB [21 F]. Not sure how to do so/the etiquette for that. | I met this girl [21 F] at a party last summer and we made out, went to her place and fooled around for a bit. We talked about grabbing coffee in the morning, but afterwards she completely ignored me, prompting me to delete her contact info.
Since then I met someone else [19 F] and we dated for 4 months. We had a dumb fight, and broke up last week. A couple days ago [21 F] saw my exgf on a date with some guy, realized that meant I was single, and she invited me over that night. We fooled around for a bit, and then I went home, but she said we should do it again soon.
I understand it was just a bootie call, but how can I turn this into a normal thing? I find her very attractive, and don't want anything serious right now, and I think she feels the same way, and a FWB might be just what I want/need.
Additionally, should this turn into a casual hook up situation, what is the typical etiquette for such? Does it cross a line to invite her to a college party? I'm trying to play it really casual, 'cause I don't want to scare her off like I feel I did the last time. Should I tell her I'm heading home for the summer this time (stayed at school last summer) or is that presumptuous to assume she'd care? | How do turn a couple hookups into a regular FWB, and what is the typical etiquette for such? |
t3_3hnzsj | relationships | [21 F] What are realistic expectations I can have of my boyfriend? [21 M] (dating 5 months) | My boyfriend is well aware of the fact that he's not good at or used to being communicative/keeping in touch with people well. However, since we're in a relationship, I've told him that it's important to me and makes me feel overlooked/like he doesn't care about me much when he sees but doesn't respond to my messages/texts, doesn't make any effort to keep in touch with me unless it's necessary to arrange meeting up next.
What are some reasonable things to expect from him when it comes to keeping in touch when in a relationship and in the relationship in general?
I've been in a serious relationship before but I was the first girl to even hold his hand let alone be his girlfriend.
Right now I'd be very happy if he:
- texts me occasionally (maybe once every other day or so) about something besides when we're meeting up next
- acknowledges the few texts that I do send, when he sees them and isn't busy, even if what I send isn't a question (for example a picture of me in my underwear, I've sent him that before and he never responded, didn't even know what he thought until I saw him in person later and he said he was happy to get it but didn't want to 'say anything creepy')
- make a habit of texting goodnight, even if we don't say anything else to eachother for the whole day (it was his idea, but sometimes he forgets)
- don't say 'I love you' if you're not going to make eye contact or seem confident about it (he would say it on his own, I never pressured him to say it, but often he would mumble it while looking anywhere but me)
- Say goodbye at the end of online conversations instead of just logging off
Those are the only things about the relationship that bother me and they seem so small, but I don't know if they're unreasonable to think that those things are normal in a relationship.
Please let me know what expectations are reasonable and what aren't. | What is it normal to expect from a boyfriend in terms of a relationship/keeping in touch? (In an at least decent relationship) |
t3_tsi1r | relationship_advice | How should I proceed in a mutual attraction for a guy in an LTR? | I have gotten to know "this guy" over the past year. After months of dropping hints about his decaying relationship of 4 years and alluding to liking me, we finally admitted we like each other. However, now that the cat is out of the bag he is hesitant to seal the deal. He isn't ready to leave his girlfriend whom he claims he still loves despite their problems, and doesn't want to begin a side affair with me because he doesn't want me to feel slighted or used if he has to stop seeing me. We have intense chemistry, get along great, and at the risk of sounding like a shallow moron – I know I am more attractive than his current girlfriend. I have never felt so drawn or connected to someone and he has expressed similar sentiments. The smarter part of me knows I should just let it go, but the naïve ass backwards part thinks if I am able to convince him to begin an affair with me, he'll realize how great it can be and end things with her. Can you talk some sense into me one way or another? Either tell me why I'm an idiot, or give me some lame inspirational anecdote so I can forge ahead. Why would he admit his attraction if he wouldn't go all the way? | He's in an LTR that has fizzled. We have intense chemistry that recently surfaced but he is afraid/hesitant to leave gf. How should I proceed in this situation? |
t3_vuazg | AskReddit | I want to build something. | Lately I have found myself thinking more and more that I want to build something. Maybe a box, a doghouse, a table; I don't really know for sure. The problem is that I really don't own any tools, and I don't know what tools I should have to get started. I just started a new job so in the next few weeks I'll finally have some extra income again. For the first time in as long as I can remember, I don't want to spend it on some new game. Any suggestions on where to buy some cheap but quality tools and materials in central Florida? | I want to build something but I don't know where to begin. |
t3_prjrp | AskReddit | Reddit, do you have someone in your past that you could easily say you're still in love with? (May be a long one, sorry ): | I recently saw someone I had known years ago in a way that seemed quite serendipitous at the time. Nothing
happened, life went on as usual. And yet, I feel as though this event has warped my mind somewhat. I loved him for the entire time that I even remotely interacted with him. Yes, he was pretty, and all the other girls
were aware of this and tried to take advantage. I really, truly just loved this person, flaws and all. It
genuinely seemed at times that the attraction was mutual, but I digress. Once again, life happened. he made his choices, I made mine. I NEVER stopped thinking of him. Over the years, I would Google him on occasion, even when I was in a relationship and married. My mind is like a steel trap, especially when I am searching and
researching. I retain tiny details and then apply them in further searches. One night I "over-Googled" and discovered that he had spent some time with debilitating depression, I would say a year or two. Most people would
be swayed by this information, but I wasn't. I have spent many years battling depression and mood swings,
and I know how that can impact one's existence. I can relate to these things, and I know that not many
people can.I know my details are boring Reddit, but I have been keeping this to myself all week, unable to explain it to anyone out of a sense of my own embarrassment. My questions, if you have made it through my silly post....
Does this feeling, this sense of longing for the company of a past love/interest ever go away?Is this kind of thing productive? Have anyone of you or someone you know ever had a happy ending come of this? I'm not even looing to date this person on the regular, I just want to see him, get a cup of coffee, simple shit like that... | Saw someone I loved from years ago quite randomly. Now I can't get them off my mind. Does anyone else |
t3_35vczr | tifu | TIFU by making the worst joke possible in that situation. | Didn't happen today, throwaway because I still cringe about this, blah blah.
So this happened way back when I was a freshman in high school. I went to a fairly small school, so everyone really knew each other.
I'd been out sick the day before, and when I got to school that morning everyone was uncharacteristically quiet. Nobody was really talking or doing much at all. So me, not thinking too much about it, exclaimed:
"Jesus guys, who died?"
I was immediately met with glares and incredulous looks.
Turns out, a kid (who was really good friends with some people in the group) had died in a freak accident the day prior. | Tried to brighten the mood, ended up painting it black. |
t3_2r7t8w | relationships | Me [24 M] with my girlfriend [25 F] 9 months, worried about moving in together | Basically I'm getting worried about moving in with my girlfriend. I'm a med student and just inherited money from death in the family so I can finally afford my own place. My girlfriend's just about to finish her college degree in the next town over and now wants to move in with me this summer. I'm getting super freaked out about this; I'm a clean freak (parents are MASSIVE hoarders and I can't stand that) and all I've wanted for the last 6 years of college is somewhere of my own. it's finally on the horizon, but my girlfriend is chaotic, messy, and although she always says she won't be like that when we move in, visiting her apartment is like a maze of dirty dishes and clothes on every surface. Second issue is that my family *really* don't like her, for some reason I can't work out. | Freaking out about moving in with girlfriend, not sure what to do, I'm a clean freak, she's super messy, my family don't like her either. |
t3_4nfvqy | relationships | Me [20F] don't know how to make friends in non-English speaking country | I moved to a Middle Eastern country in January for a study abroad, and had a blast with my host family and the others in my program and decided to stay for the summer. However, now that the other Americans are gone and my coworkers are much older than me (and male), I'm incredibly lonely here and extremely anxious about going another 2 months here. I turned to a language exchange site to make some friends and practice my (only decent) Arabic but the people I met are very sketchy, with fake Facebook profiles and all suggesting to meet me at the same time/place... which scares me.
The expatriate community here is also incredibly inactive -- I haven't been able to find group activities, classes, or anything along those lines even though I'm in a big city. I love my host brothers (17M and 20M) and hang out with them a lot, but they get annoyed that I have no other friends and always want to do things. They're very reluctant to introduce me to their friends.
I've also tried to start tutoring here, or babysitting, but nobody seems to want a foreigner.
Does anyone have advice on how I can start meeting people here? I can't spend so much time cooped up in my apartment but the interactions I've had with the girls from the conversation exchange really creeped me out. | Can't find friends in an Arabic country, out of ideas, would really appreciate some |
t3_2c7792 | tifu | TIFU by playing with an exercise ball. | This happened a couple hours ago. Me and my friend were messing around, and found my Moms old exercise balls. Great idea, play with them because exercise balls are fun and shit. Anyways we start kicked them, and a full on soccer game ensues.
We're playing in an about 15x7 room, with lots of valuable easily breakable stuff in it I.E swords, pictures, china cabinet ect. Well I keep telling my friend to kick it softer, and with the back of your foot, not full on kicking it, that way it would stop bouncing all over the place. My friend being the idiot he is, doesn't understand how to kick the ball still. He kicks it as hard as he can, it bounces off the wall and lands directly on this small glass dragon my Step Dad has had forever. It pretty much shatters, leaving about 2 big pieces left. I try super glueing it, but it's glass and wont comply. After about 3 hours of trying to fix it, I give up, throw all the small pieces away and just say fuck it. Put it on the shelf it was on, half ass fixed.
About 30 minutes ago my Step Dad barges into my room and asked what the fuck happened? We both deny knowing what happened. I feel so bad, one for breaking a novelty item he's had for as long as I can remember, and for lying about it... Me and my friend are very stupid. | Me and friend played soccer with an exercise ball inside the house. Friend full on kicks the ball, lands directly on a novelty small glass dragon my Step Dad has had since the beginning of time. |
t3_12ze4e | AskReddit | I need your help! Can you help me create a name and ideas for our Youtube Group? | So, a friend and I are creating a Youtube Account to have fun with in our spare time.
We are just looking for some opinions. You don't have to waste your time by saying, "DUDE MAKE UP UR OWN IDEEEAZZZ< U ARE SO UNORIGINALLL COPYCATTER."
We want to start making videos soon, but we need help creating a name and/or ideas you would like to see. What are videos will consists of are funny/awkward situations around our college campus with other students. We do not want to physically harm anyone or ruin others things. We just want to make situations funny/awkward
What would make campus more fun?
**Info:** So here is info about us that could help to make our channel better. Our names are Billy (or William) and Klaudio. We are 18 year old PreMed students that go to a highly respected university in Michigan. Our studies/homework come first before our youtube channel though.
**Our Inspirations are:** LAHWF, MediocreFilms, LifeAccordingToJimmy, AwesomenessTV, EdBassMaster, JackValeFilms, etc.
**Name Ideas:**
- RealCollegeLife
- OnCampusTV
- CoolKidsOnCampus
- WhatsCollege
- StudyHabits
- StudyBuddies
- ProcrastinationStation
- PassTheTimeTV
- ChasingLaughs
- BuiltForLaughs
- WillWork4Tuition
- WillWithFriends
- AmusementAcademy
- CollegeChuckles
**Some Ideas:**
- Winter Speedo Outside Volleyball 1v1
- Skiing to Class
- Airhorn in Library
- Awkward Situations
- etc.
**We have our own ideas but we were wondering what you, as an audience, might like to see!**
Thanks :) | College Kids. Awkward Situations. Funny Situations/Pranks. Improv. On Campus. Name and Video Ideas! |
t3_3twlsw | personalfinance | I may be fired... What do? | So first, some backstory: I'm 18, going to university, and I work for a grocery chain. The last couple of days I have been the victim of debit card fraud and I've been pretty stressed out because my card is frozen. My mom has been calling me a lot in order to help me with this since I've never been through this before. So today at work, I was getting shopping carts in the parking lot and I felt my phone ringing in my pocket so I decided it would be smart to just get in my car and answer the phone real fast so I could know what was happening. The assistant store manager decided to come out of the building to talk to me at that point but didn't see me in the regular lot, so he decided to investigate the employee lot and found me in my car. I had just finished my call so it just looked like I was sitting in my car on my phone, and he started to yell at me for not working and told me to just clock out of my shift and go home without letting me explain. Now I have to come in to talk to my head manager and I might just get fired. I have little experience out of the service industry and cannot get a job in my field due to lack of experience. This job is basically the only thing keeping me out of debt in college so any help would be appreciated. | I was accused of slacking off on work when I was just trying to solve my debit card fraud issue and now I may get fired |
t3_1bscbn | dating_advice | [14/M] first date, it's a double date and I don't really know the girl. Tips? General advice? | To elaborate a little bit there is this girl who goes to my school and we have rarely ever talked but she is really pretty and nice. I found out she was interested in me, one thing led to another and now I'm going on a double date with her, my friend, and his girlfriend. We are only seeing a movie and probably hanging out a bit after but I just would like to know some ways to not make it awkward because we don't really know each other. And any general first date tips would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for reading. | double date, don't know the girl very well, tips |
t3_4qlxsf | relationships | Me [22 M] with my GF [23F] of 1.5 years, Don't know if I should let her go. | Hi Guys,
I have had a great relationship with my GF so far, I still love her very much and we almost always have fun when we see eachother. Like in every relationship we have fight sometimes but nothing we have never recovered from and made up afterwards.
However, I have reached a point where I dont know if I should continue this relationship. I guess i could describe the last 1 - 2 months of our relationship as being in a bit of slump..
We still enjoy meeting up and have fun when we see eachother, however we can get irritated quite fast by eachother and we have more fights than usual, over things that are not very important.
For context, I work and go to school at the same time, as does she. So we are always quite tired when we see eachother in the evenings, however this has not caused fights or problems before.
We have sex once or twice a week (we see eachother twice a week), we don't live together and arent planning on it anytime soon, we both have our own place.
I find myself not having enough energy to really put effort into our conversations anymore and I also feel that she gets angry quite fast as of late, so I try to avoid that, which in turn means i dont say everything that is on my mind, so I dont set her off.
I also can't really decide if I dont want to break up because I still love her and don't want to lose her, or if it is because i will be alone and miss her and i want to avoid that pain.
I dont want to stay in this relationship and hang on to my GF as it would not be fair to her either, its not doing her any good.
Hence my question, should I let her go? Because at this point I dont see any easy ways out of this slump we are in and I am enjoying this relationship less and less.
I appreciate any and all advice from you! | My GF and me are in a slump and I am thinking about letting her go. |
t3_13ms12 | relationships | My mum[46] is mollycoddling me[22f] so much that it's starting to ruin my relationship with her completely | I have an overprotective mum and while I have gotten used to this over the past 21 years of my life, I am now starting to feel completley suffocated. I have a workshop in London tomorrow and it ends quite late...around 7.30 meaning that i would have to catch the train back home (3hours away). my mother wants to travel all the way up to london so that she can travel back with me to be safe.
I know she's looking out for me but it makes me feel incompetent and completely childish. Not only that but she insists on picking me up from university as soon as it gets dark (which is at 5 pm right now). I can get home by bus in 15 minutes but if i do, all hell breaks loose at home. I feel stupid and ridiculous and no amount of me explaining myself will let my mum just let go of me. i am at my breaking point! i do not want to be treated like a child anymore. i feel like my mum is going to be following me around for the rest of my life and that is not something that i am looking forward to. how can i sort this out?!! i am going home in an hour and i know today is going to end up in a fight between me and my mum. anybody else have over protective mothers that makes u feel lile you just want to run away?! | overprotective mum is driving me crazy |
t3_yn21e | travel | Three simple things I learned from developing country travel. What are yours? | 1. If there is a place to wash your hands, do it, even if you just washed your hands. Except those buckets everyone uses after wiping their butts with their hands. Those are bad. Related - always have TP with you.
2. Always, ALWAYS have some snacks and water with you when you are travelling. You never know how long it will be until the next stop or place to eat. The bus might break down, and being thirsty and hungry makes a bad situation that much more unbearable.
3. Your carry-on for buses should look as crappy as possible. Use something dirty, old, and preferably held together with duct tape. Every tourist on a Guatemala bus had their carry-on stolen except mine, cause who the hell wants that crappy looking bag? Well, turns out there was a camera, ipod, and about 300 in cash in the thing. Having all that in my bag was a bad idea, yes, but the crappy bag saved it (or so I am inclined to believe). | Wash your hands when you can. Take snacks and water with you everywhere. Use a crappy carry-on bag. |
t3_302g00 | relationship_advice | I (22/M) am trying to get over my ex (21/F), who left me to get back together with HER ex, and I need help. What can I do? | She and I dated for a while. Her ex-boyfriend was out of the country for two years and when he returned abruptly, she decided to get back together with him (secretly). She tried to break things off with me, though I knew the real reasons, by saying "I'm just not ready for a relationship right now".
I recently spoke with her (via text) where she told me "I'm in a relationship now and I'm happy....I'll probably be getting married in the next few months". It really hurt to hear that, because for a long time, she and I had considered marriage. But she dumped me right when he got back to the states.
This whole situation has been very discouraging to me because she and I were really close. I loved her a lot, and I thought she loved me too. Now, I am scared and too discouraged to try getting into another relationship - for fear of getting close and bringing those kinds of affectionate feelings back, only to have them torn away again. | Ugly break-up left me feeling discouraged, inadequate, and scared. I need help. What can I do to get over her and move on? |
t3_545sq0 | relationships | Foreign ex-coworker[Late20sF] I[24M] kissed while in London is coming to visit my city, wants me to 'be her guide' | Met this girl in March when I was working for my old company, visiting their London office (I'm in California). I hung out with the London coworkers for a few days, this girl a little bit more, and ended up kissing her the day before I left. We didn't talk a whole lot after that but she said she'd see me when she came to visit the California office.
Cut to yesterday, she did exactly that over Facebook messenger, and asked me to be her guide around San Francisco where I live now (and work at a new company). She's working at an office about 40 miles away during the week next week and wants to visit SF that weekend and the weekend after. I asked her what she wanted to do and she said touristy stuff, food, music, and 'whatever the locals do for fun ;)'.
Since she's just here for two weeks I'm thinking we'll have some fun and go our separate ways after. Am I right in assuming she's still interested? And if so, what should I take her to do? And basically just what should I go in to this expecting/aiming for/how do I not fuck this up? | kissed coworker in London six months ago, she's coming to visit and wants me to be her guide, should I still assume she is interested in me/how do I not fuck this up? |
t3_3fvk4p | legaladvice | Business in another state owes me money, what else can I do outside of court? | I'm currently owed just under $8k by a company in Georgia. When I entered into the agreement with the business (a liquidation company) I lived in Illinois. Now I live in California.
I currently have a line of communication with the company. They have sent me a portion of the original amount owed - $1,500 - as "goodwill".
I investigated the option of small claims, but even if I received a favorable judgment, which would take a lot of my time and possibly money, I would still have to find a way to get them to pay. You can garnish a person's wages, but it's trickier with a business.
The company is claiming to have cash flow problems. It doesn't matter if I believe them or not. I accept that they are likely screwing me over with a smile. I think they know I don't really have a way to extract funds from them. However, my continued politeness (relatively) has prevented them from cutting off all contact, which I think is a good thing.
I filed a BBB complaint but the BBB does not assist with situations of owed money, and the company didn't respond to the BBB anyway.
Do I have ANY leverage left? The extent of what I'm owed is fully documented. In fact the company regularly updates me with the figure of what I'm owed. I just don't know what to do next. | A business in another state owes me money but going to court would be a waste of time/money. What options remain? |
t3_2gf21l | tifu | TIFU by squashing my cat | This happened not half an hour ago.
I was taking a bag of shredded paper downstairs to the recycle when I passed by my cat sleeping peacefully on the couch. My first thought was, "hey, I wonder what would happen if I lowered this trash bag full of shredded paper onto this cat." My intention was to lower the heavy bag slowly until the cat reacted by squirming or squeaking or something.
Boy did I get what I was asking for.
As I started lowering the bag, and the cat didn't do anything except wake up and flick it's ears. Boring. So I kept lowering the bag until the the cat was bearing the full weight of this kitchen-sized trash bag full of shredded paper. This is when things started to go wrong.
First, I heard that squelching stomach sound that cats make when they are about to throw up. Uh oh. I pulled the bag off of the cat, but it was too late. The cat kinda sat up a little and just tossed it's cookies all over the couch and the blanket it was sleeping on. Great.
Moral of the story: Don't squash your cat. | Squashed my cat, cat puked all over the couch. |
t3_2n80d4 | relationships | Me [20 M] Someone I love just told me they don't want to be friends anymore. | My ex girlfriend, whom I've been maintaining a friendship with for a month since after we've broken up just told me we can't be friends right now. I felt like I had been being too pushy, trying to kind of pursue her again without actually having any chance. I wanted to be there for her, and I was. She was in the hospital, i visited her, i brought her flowers, i brought her lunch. I genuinely just care about her, as a human, and love spending time and talking with her even if it was just as friends. So i texted her telling her, essentially that i'm going to treat her more like a friend than someone I was still dating. I was happy, thought it would be well received but it just... blew up. She said we can't be friends anymore right now. I just... I don't know...what to do... i'm crying . | my friend whom i love said we can't be friends anymore. |
t3_abuxw | relationship_advice | She's Been Abused, Curious about Sex | Hey all. I've been dating my girlfriend for a few months now, and things are great. She and I see each other often, have great chemistry, everything is dandy. She is a survivor of sexual abuse, and there have been some problems in the bedroom. About a month ago, however, I decided to get rough during a makeout session. As it turns out, it really worked for her! She wants to try intercourse as rough as the makeout session, but I am somewhat hesitant. I have nothing against roughness - surprisingly, I really enjoyed it too - and I am glad I found something that she enjoys. However, I am worried that this will ultimately not do well for her overall psyche: is this fetishising what hurt her in the first place? Or is this her way of coming to terms with her past? Should I endorse this admittedly mutually beneficial act, or should I worry that it is hurting her? | Girl Likes it Rough, But I am afraid I am picking at scabs. Halp? |
t3_12dnzn | AskReddit | Girl troubles. Cliché isn't it? | So I am a junior in high school and never had a girlfriend. I've been waiting for the right person. Sure, I've had crushes, but none like this. I'm going to be 100% honest here. I have friends and stuff, but I'm not really that "popular" guy. Not because I'm weird or anything but because I'm usually pretty quiet. So I walked into class and sat by myself. And noticed there was this extremely cute/shy girl sitting by herself across the room. So a few weeks later we start sitting together and we talk and she is really cool. Now I don't want to say I'm "in love" but I have feelings for her. The feeling aren't because she is attractive but because of.... Her. She is a senior and about to go to college. Should I act on my feelings or not? | I have feelings for a girl that is about to leave for college. |
t3_2kd41j | relationships | my boyfriend is too skinny (19M)and.. because of that.... | First of all,
I'm 19 Female and my boyfriend is 19 Male.
I've been dating with him for 3 months..
Actually I liked him as just a friend but he wanted me as his girlfriend and he asked me to go out with him.
i don't know why but I said ok...
we had so many things in common and .. i guess that's because why.. I like to talk with him..
anyway! we decided to have our.. first experience.. and we're both virgin lol...but whenever I hug him, I can't stop thinking that he's too skinny :(
i weigh more than him :0.. and.. the fact that he's too skinny & i don't really like him as a lover ? make me don't want have sex with him .. What should I do ?
I wanted to break up with him but i think i can't do that.. We already planned Christmas trip together . we sorted out everything like booking hotels... flights.. just everything :( it costed us more than $2000 ... i can't until Christmas .. and I 'm wondering if I should tell him that I don't wanna have sex with him ...
what if he asks me why?
should I tell him honestly?
I feel like I'm such a bad bitc* sorry :( | My boyfriend and I decided to have our first sexual intercourse.We're both virgin. |
t3_c1msu | relationship_advice | Couple of issues (possible long distance relationship and losing my virginity). Help please. | Background: This is a throwaway account. I met a young lady about a month ago and we've been seeing one another fairly regularly since then. Just after I asked her out for our first date but before we went out I lost my job which isn't a big deal in itself. I am, however, starting grad school in the fall--as is she--so I'm leaving the area in a couple of weeks. She's leaving for grad school--somewhere about 2500 miles from where I am going to be--in August. I really like spending time with her and if neither of us were leaving the area we could just let our relationship run its course but we don't have that luxury so I've come to the reddit hivemind for some insight.
Issue 1: How stupid is it even to consider a long distance relationship with her? Of course, I need to talk to her about it but am I being dumb even thinking about trying?
Issue 2: I'm a virgin; she's not. We were fooling around the other night and she said we should talk about STDs and said she was clean. I dropped the bomb that I'd never had sex and had always thought I'd lose my virginity to the person I married. Since I lost my religion a couple years ago I just kind of let that idea stand since the only person I seriously dated in the intervening three years--for two of them in fact--was somewhat religious and wanted to wait. Am I trying to hold onto a (stupid) Christian idea without its theological, metaphysical and anthropological grounding? In other words, is there a good reason for me to not have sex with this beautiful young woman?
Thanks, in advance. | Dating a girl for a month. Both going to grad school far apart. Am I stupid for (1) thinking about a long distance relationship and (2) not having sex with her? |
t3_173qap | relationships | What is the rule (if any) regarding buying flowers for a girl who is in a (somewhat rocky) relationship? | I'm 26, she's 28, we are both in law school.
As the title suggests. I have a good friend who I definitely am attracted to, and while she's in a relationship it appears to be in not the best of shape.
That's not to say that it will end or anything like that, it's just a bit rocky at the moment.
That being said, I know her weekend recently was not the best one in the world. What is the protocol, if any, on buying her a small thing of flowers with a card that's somewhat humorous and is encouraging having a good day? | Want to cheer up a good friend of mine who's been down. Is it OK to buy her a small thing of flowers? |
t3_2uy3jt | relationships | Long distance Valentines Day between me[19/m] and girl I was dating [20/f] | This girl moved to my town in Iowa from Oregon back in November and we've been going out since then. We both have a lot of things in common (engineering majors, same music genre, movie types, football, etc). She was taking a year off from college but unfortunately she had to move back to Oregon last week because she received an internship that required her to be enrolled in college. Since we've only been dating 2 months, i thought it would be too soon to ask for a committed relationship.
Anyways, its been 2 weeks but we still keep in touch and text every now and then. She keeps me updated with snapchat multiple times throughout the day. I don't know if she likes me back as much as I do, but she has kissed me many times and gave me my first kiss. With Valentines Day coming up I was wondering if I should do anything for her. I do not have the money to fly over there for the weekend especially with my class load.
I was first thinking of asking her if she would like to be my Valentine. I don't know if I should call her or text her that though considering we haven't talked over phone since she left I'm leaning towards the latter. If she says yes, I was planning on asking her roommate if she can give me her mailing address so I could surprise her with some flowers.
Would that be a good plan? She is going to a concert with some of her friends on Valentines day so we wouldn't be able to talk or do something special that night unfortunately.
Thanks for all the help guys! | Should I do something special for Valentines Day with a girl I dated for 3 months who is now 2000 miles away |
t3_285rau | relationship_advice | Even 2 years after cutting off contact, I[20/m] still can not stop thinking about her[20/f]. How the heck am I supposed to move on? | I'm currently 20(m).
---------------------------------------The early years-------------------------------------------------
**Grade 8 (7 years ago) to Grade 10 (4 years ago)**, I had an incredibly close (f)riend(same age) who I would *always* hang out with. She and I were two peas in a pod. We were really really close.
**Grade 11 to Grade 12 (high school)** Our interaction decreased significantly because we were sorted in different classes and barely found time for each other amid the exam preparations. Although we were still close, our interactions gradually reduced.
--------------------------------------------The Mistake--------------------------------------------
Note: However I was a stupid cringe-worthy idiot who used to do really foolish stuff and say stupid things.
After school ended (2 years ago), I asked her out. She politely told me that she'd rather be **just friends**. I kept my cool and told her that was fine.
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After high school, I decided not to stay in touch with ANYBODY and completely cut off everyone I knew from school including her. I decided to be a better person and improve myself.
It's been 3 years and not a day goes by when I don't think about her. Every day, I pick up the phone thinking I'll call her but then decide against it as I feel embarrassed about my past-self and how stupid I was.
Every day, I wonder how she's doing and how it would be to talk to her again. Every day, I miss her more than the previous. But I still feel embarrassed of my past-self and his idiocy. I know that talking to her will make me relapse again. I'll fall for her again and won't be able to move on again.
How the heck am I supposed to move on? I just need to stop thinking about this. | Cut off contact with close (f)riend after getting rejected. 2 years later, I still keep thinking about her. How do I move on? |
t3_2yc1qa | relationships | I'm [23 M] not sure how to talk to my girlfriend [21 F] who suddenly stopped putting any effort in the relationship of almost 3 months. | We've been dating for a few months. Lately she's been unmotivated and seems to be rapidly losing interest in me. I feel a breakup coming up.
There is a chance I'm wrong about her losing interest in the relationship. She's the kind of person who wants to prove everyone she is strong. The way she acts makes her seem so carefree but to me it's clearly an act. I know she's having a really hard time handling the stress school is giving her lately. She broke down crying to her mother after getting a bad grade. This is the first time I saw her crying. This confirmed that she was bottling up stress.
A few minutes prior, though, I asked her how her day was because I noticed she was having a hard time and seemed down. I told her to please use me as a vent for her problems. That sharing problems or crying would never scare me away. But "that wouldn't help". So she either wants to act strong in front of me or she just doesn't want to confide in me.
The communication has been almost non-existent the last couple of days. I think everyone handles stress differently. It's not uncommon to cut back on communicating with certain people but shouldn't your boyfriend be one of the last to cut back on?
Now it's come to the point that I'm just confused, depressed and stressed out (hair's getting thinner by the day...). I'm thinking of breaking it off myself before she does just to end it while we're still on good terms. I seriously really REALLY rather not. But it's clear to me something is troubling her and I don't want to be a contributor to her stress.
How should I handle this? Should I talk to her about this? What do I say? Or do I end it to avoid making things worse?
I'm sorry but I'm clueless. I still really adore this girl. | Is my girlfriend done with me or could it be the stress? I allowed myself to get emotionally attached but a breakup seems inevitable how do I handle this like a man? |
t3_1mfcv9 | relationships | How do I [F19] get my Ex [M19] to come get the rest of the shit he left at my house? | Okay, so my boyfriend of over 2 years left me on August 30th, when he left he packed a quick bag & said he'd be back for the rest of it the next day, he didn't come get it which was understandable so he told me he'd come on September 2/3rd to get it...obviously he didn't, the last time I heard from him was the 2nd when he said he was too busy & he would come on the 3rd. He hasn't responded to any attempts at contact, I'm not asking him to do anything other then collect his things so I'm really frustrated & out of ideas. Any Advice? | Stupid fucker will not come for his things or even talk to me about getting them, tired of being used for storage. |
t3_tminn | AskReddit | What is one kind thing someone has gone out of their way to do for you? | So I was walking in Palm Springs (very hot city in California, about 110 degrees) and my nose starting bleeding next to a hotel. I walked to the doors and asked a janitor if he had any napkins. Not having any, he gave me a piece of cloth and said "is clean". So I used it and threw it away. Then I went and sat next to the water fountain by myself hoping it would stop anytime, when I see the guy coming back with a bunch of napkins to help me. I felt really gracious because for one, I did not go to that hotel, and two, it wasn't even his job to help me, but he did. I was really thankful. | Nose started bleeding, janitor came and helped it stop, without that even being his job. |
t3_2wj7kg | offmychest | boyfriend [2yrs] said he didn't know if he wanted to stay at my house this weekend, i irrationally feel like shit | i just needed to vent, that's what this is for hey? if i show that i'm upset my mother would just get annoyed with me
we spent last night together so it shouldn't matter but i feel very down today and all i want is hugs from him and to sleep together (mostly in the non sexual meaning)
i know it's bad that i base almost everything in my life around him, please no one tell me to find other friends or interests - because i desperately want that, i know it probably shows
i have not heard from a friend without initiating contact myself in months, and then, really, it seems forced. i dont get joy from hobbies anymore at all
yep, i'm in therapy but its fucking expensive, and it's been 6 months like this and i'm so fucking done. i'd never kill myself though, at least i don't see it getting that bad because i'm scared f death. so i wouldn't get a hospital admission anyway, they only take you if you're a risk, and then they only keep you 3 days. i've read enough.
without my boyfriend i would have absolutely nothing, it wouldn't be worth continuing this pathetic existence. i often feel i should just break up with him to save him the torment. he could find someone better, better looking, thinner, more successful. he's gorgeous.
i do love him so very much but i worry because this is my first relationship, i think i'm too young to settle down soon, and that's what he wants to do. i do too, but not this soon, but i guess i need to get out of my mothers house before i end up killing myself if she calls me disgusting one too many times more. i fear that maybe i would if i ever lost my boyfriend.
all i want is just one really good friend, enough money to live well and get more therapy, and to eventually feel okay. i'm not always this miserable, today is just harder, idk why | insecure as fuck and my boyfriend wants to spend some time on his own to relax, i should understand this, but why can't he relax with me? why can't we have a quiet night together? i feel so shitty about everything and i think it's all my fault and that maybe he doesn't love me ?? this is insane and i need a lot of hugs |
t3_1k59rw | AskReddit | Online entrepreneurs of reddit, have you or anyone you know tried to sell products directly from Amway? | Last night I attended an infomercial at a company called LTD, Leadership Team Development, about being a startup entrepreneur for a really low payment. Just sitting there and listening to the host, he was claiming he was making a good amount of money selling products directly from Amway, and this company (LTD) was there to support me. It all sounded pretty decent up until he mentioned the pyramid marketing, where the more people you have in your circle the more money the group will make, due to how this program operates. This got me very suspicious, and one of my friends is thinking of trying this out. So, I wanted to know if any redditor has tried this. Was it legit or not? And would you recommend this? Any other information or advice I would appreciate it.
I know if it sounds fishy, it is fishy. But I am concerned that my friend might get scammed. | Skeptical about an infomercial I attended that was selling products from Amway. The company LTD that was holding the infomercial which claimed to make a good amount of money. Wondering if any redditor has tried this. |
t3_4ptojn | relationships | My (18f) roommate is lonely and I'm (25f) not about that life | Hi all, on mobile so forgive formatting.
I posted a few weeks ago about my new roommates and the situation appears to be unfolding as I thought it would. I have a roommate who has no family here and not too much in the way of friends. She and my other roommate (23f) get along great which is great! I'm a more reserved person and I love to have my privacy and time to do whatever I feel like doing. This roommate has straight up told me that she's lonely, has no one to do anything with and always offers food, activities, things like that. I've gone to the mall with her but I really don't want to get in the habit of hanging out every day.
When she gets home, she'll call my name and knock on my door and ask if I want food, or coffee, anything, I can tell she just wants me to come out and talk to her but I have my own plans. I do feel bad turning her down because she's sweet and it feels awful when she brings up different things to do and I shoot them all down. I've even told her that I have anxiety and prefer my own space but she's persistent.
Yesterday we chatted for a few minutes while I did dishes, which was fine. My boyfriend was over though and I excused myself to be with him even though I could tell she wanted me to stay in the kitchen. She retreated to her room. After a few minutes I went out to to reheat leftovers and, from her room, she asked if I was making something then came out and sat in the spot where she'd just been talking to me. It made for another awkward retreat. | I like having my privacy, roommate is conscious of my every move. |
t3_eos1m | AskReddit | Wife might be cheating today, is it worth the effort to catch her in the act or get proof? | Been married 2.5 years, in the past 6 months I've caught her make a couple attempts at starting relationships, but as far as I know no physical cheating has occurred. Last time it happened I made it clear she would get no more chances, and I intend to stick to that.
Looks like it's happening again. She started being more protective of her phone, and after some computer trickery I became fairly certain that she's starting to see this guy she knows from work.
Finally broke down and read her text messages this morning, and all were deleted except for one, from the guy I suspected, that said something like "hey babe, can't wait to see you today". She told me this morning that she was going to leave work a little early to do some shopping.
So, sounds pretty clear that she's actually going to cheat this time. Is it worth my time to follow her after work to see if she goes to some guys house, maybe get a picture of her going in or something? I've never gone through a divorce before, so I don't know what counts as evidence or if I even *need* evidence.
We have a significantly underwater house so if there's any way I can place more of the burden of that on to her in a divorce, I'll try it.
Also, should I make some attempt to save her text messages, or is that illegal/inadmissible? The phone is in her name, but isn't a business phone and is paid for with marital assets.
I live in Michigan btw, in case that changes applicable laws. | my life is fucked |
t3_34xuss | tifu | TIFU by not putting on enough sunscreen, and by eating a "Greek" Omelette | This FU has been 2 days in the making and the two events are totally unrelated. On Sunday I went to the beach with my gf and we put on sunscreen right when we got there, but 4 hours later we were leaving and I had not put any more on.
Here's the damage from that
Anyway, cut to yesterday when we went out to breakfast before school, and I ordered the "Greek Omelette." The ingredients listed were "Spinach, feta cheese, tomatoes and black olives"
Here's the menu, it shows the Greek omelette as being a "customer favorite"
It turns out that barely anything was put into the omelette EXCEPT for olives! There were at last 30 dang olives put into this thing! It didn't taste like egg or cheese or good at all! Just overpoweringly olivey! Cut forward to this morning and you have me diarrheaing for an hour! Everything I ate yesterday was comin out. You have to remember that I am also extremely sunburnt while all of this is going on. | I'm more of a tomato than what got put in my omelette |
t3_u5n66 | AskReddit | I just learned i am about to go work a whole weekend for "merch" as pay. What disappointments have you had recently? | This friend of mine asks me to do him a favor about a week ago. Work this convention for his friend, being in college with finals coming up, i was a bit iffy on helping, until i learned i would be paid $10/hr.
So i have to wake up early to drive 40 miles away to help this guy setup his booth on thursday and it takes 5 hrs. Today i woke up just as early so i can go help at 10m but the convention doesn't open till 2, i am thinking to myself, "whatever, at least i am getting paid." So during this 4 hour prep time, i am talking to the guy i am working for and i learn i am working for $10 trade credit per hour. My jaw drops and i am enrage, i have already worked 5 hours yesterday, 4 today, another 6 hours on the way today and probably the same schedule till monday.
I cant leave this guy hanging because he doesn't have anyone else to help with his booth and he was not the one who told me i would be getting money, it was my friend who works for him.
This was a shitty situation, i just wanted top know if you guys also had your expectations blown recently? | Friend asks for a favor and hypes up experience, Leaves out vital part of program and i get screwed. |
t3_48uphq | askwomenadvice | [19F] I don't want my Little Brother [14M] having a Girlfriend? | Hi, I'm an older sister to twins. I'm nineteen, they're fourteen (a boy and girl). My sister has had a couple boyfriend's before and I'd feel like proud of her, want to talk to her all about it and give advice, and in general I'd just think awehh that's adorable she has a bf, she's growing up. Now my brother has his first girlfriend and I just feel totally weird about it. I feel kind of like I'm "losing" him, and it just makes me territorial and I was kinda rude toward his gf the couples times I've met her. I love both of my siblings equally, I don't know why these feelings are so much stronger towards my brother than her. I worry almost that it could be some sort of strange attraction I have towards my brother? (I don't think I am in any way, but I don't know why else the opposite sex thing would make a difference) I don't want to be that older sibling who interrogates their sibling's SO, I also don't want to be controlling of him or tell him he's not allowed dating or anything. How am I supposed to deal with this and why do you think I feel that way? | I have a little brother and sister, same age. I love them equally but am super overprotective of brother. I don't want him having a girlfriend, I don't know why. |
t3_1sa55h | relationships | [21/F] Have been dating a guy [23/M] for about a month, its going great with him, but I'm experiencing anxiety about getting emotionally close. | The first guy I had a serious relationship with was in my junior year of high school, first guy I had sex with too. I was 16 at the beginning and it lasted 2 1/2 years. He turned out to be controlling, paranoid, inconsiderate of my emotions (would call me names/make negative descriptions of my body) and a general asshat.
After that relationship I only wanted casual relationships for a while, and I enjoyed that. A little time goes by and I enter a relationship- the other guy ends it because he feels like I'm emotionally unavailable. Totally true, I didnt feel motivated to try with that guy and I had some fierce independence going on. That was a year ago, and now I've started to date someone new.
I feel ready to open up and have a meaningful relationship, the timing seems right and casual flings were leaving me feeling unfulfilled. This new guy is amazing and I can definitely see myself entering a long term relationship with him- even though we've been dating a month we had talked online (on OKC) for much longer. We've talked about what we were each looking for in a partner and a relationship and our goals match up.
So far I feel like I'm doing alright and we are moving along at a pace that feels comfortable and natural. But there are times I am gripped with fleeting anxiety. I dont want to end up in the same kind of relationship that I had with my ex. Im very wary, and totally on the lookout for signs that he might be controlling.
I'm fairly sure I'm going to be able to work through this on my own, but I'm curious if anyone has gone through something similar. Does anyone have any tips on how to balance letting your guard down and watching out for red flags? | I really want to have an intimate relationship, but a controlling ex and 3 years of casual flings have left me emotionally reserved. how the hell do I open up? |
t3_2m1hnb | offmychest | Do you ever just feel shitty? | I feel like total shit because my girlfriend is so freaking perfect-she can sing amazingly(got two solos this week in choir), she is a goddess in art and crafts, she is super smart in her science class and actually understands math and can read a novel and dissect it just as the author probably meant for it to be analyzed, she's beautiful and just...perfect. I'm so lucky to have someone do wonderful, caring, and loving towards me. But I can't help but feel...less. I never got a single solo EVER. My art is so bad that no one claps for me when I present it. She gets a freaking standing ovation. I love chemistry, but I can't even get an a on my tests, while she's crying about her a minus on her biology test. Math is getting there for me, but she's still better. And I can't understand English literature for my life. Not to mention my physical appearance isn't that attractive.
Don't get me wrong. I love her so much. And she loves me. But I can't help but feel like shit. | I'm super self conscious because my gf is fucking perfect |
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