diff --git "a/AnnoMi-client/all.tsv" "b/AnnoMi-client/all.tsv" new file mode 100644--- /dev/null +++ "b/AnnoMi-client/all.tsv" @@ -0,0 +1,4714 @@ +video_name text label task +AnnoMi-client_116_163.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_165.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_1.mp4 Uh, just I'm sick of my drinking. I'm drinking too much. Um, I just thought, uh, maybe I need someone to talk to, get some help about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_3.mp4 Yeah, it's just- it's just got worse over the last six months? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_5.mp4 Well, I guess, I drank, you know, like most people do before, um, but I broke up with my boyfriend, uh, about a year ago and then six months ago I guess I wanted to go out again and see if I can meet people. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_7.mp4 And I've been, yeah, getting into this habit of going out every Friday and Saturday, now, uh, drinking a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_9.mp4 Um, to try to meet guys. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_11.mp4 And, uh, in the last few months I've been, you know, just drinking even more on week nights, and I never even used to do that before. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_13.mp4 Yeah. Well, I just, I don't feel comfortable talking to guys normally. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_15.mp4 I don't know what to say, um, and I just, drinking helps. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_17.mp4 Yeah, for sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_19.mp4 Yeah, definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_21.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_23.mp4 I mean, I guess, like most people do when they go out they drink. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_25.mp4 I've been doing that and just drinking more and more I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_27.mp4 Um, and it's just-- it's not even working, I'm not really meeting people and I just end up with massive hangover for the rest of the weekend and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_29.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_31.mp4 Yeah, I mean, I've maybe talked to people but it's just, uh, that I've just I think I'm just too-too drunk and I just, my friends drive me home and just the end of the night I don't-- yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_33.mp4 I guess I just wanna stop. I just feel like I'm drinking more and more 'cause I'm doing it now in the weekdays- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_35.mp4 -and I mean, I just don't-- I don't wanna do that every now and now I just think it's a bit too much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_37.mp4 Yeah, I'm just I'm not eating properly anymore, I'm just eating less or just getting takeaway, getting crap food and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_39.mp4 -um, I'm just, I feel like I'm not exerc-- well I'm not exercising like I used to. So, I just wanna cut, you know, stop drinking so much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_41.mp4 Yeah. Yeah I do. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_43.mp4 Yeah. I don't wanna- I don't wanna, I mean, I don't wanna stop altogether, so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_45.mp4 Yeah and just and all my friends go out and drink. Like I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_47.mp4 -I'd have no social life if I didn't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_49.mp4 "If I just said-said, ""No, I'm not drinking at all,"" and, you know, I don't feel like I'm an alcoholic-" neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_51.mp4 -or I don't feel like I need to neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_53.mp4 Yeah, it just got a bit out of control. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_55.mp4 No, this hasn’t happened before. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_57.mp4 Um, due to just circumstance of, I mean, I just yeah, had my boyfriend for six years before that and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_59.mp4 Um, before that yeah just my friends weren't drinking so much, and yeah it’s just not, it's just new. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_61.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_63.mp4 I believe 80, I mean I guess that’s why I’m here so— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_65.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_67.mp4 Um, I don’t know, I just-just I don’t know, it just sort-- it just got up to a point where just, um, it seemed just too much, like no-nobody else is really drinking as much in the week as well and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_69.mp4 -it seemed, as just, yeah, for the reasons I was saying, just seeing like I need to do something about it now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_71.mp4 Just seeing it’s just gonna get worse, uh, wha-- that’s what it seems like. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_73.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_75.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_77.mp4 Um, I guess that’s why I’m here. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_79.mp4 Just to, uh, but um-- I is-is-- I think the weekdays is what I really need to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_81.mp4 Um, and then, I don’t know, try to plan it out a little bit more on the weekends- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_85.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Yep. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_87.mp4 No, that’s good, that’s-that's, yeah, that's- that is definitely what I’m gonna do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_89.mp4 I just, you know, I'm so out of the routine, not exercising, I need to get back into things. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_117_91.mp4 Yeah, but I mean, I guess, just talking about it makes me think oh yeah, I need to- I need to do something about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_1.mp4 Well, I, um, I did get an interview for a job. Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_3.mp4 Yeah, but I wasn't able to go, um, cause my kids, I didn't have any one to watch them. And, um, you know, so the- that was sort of game over. I just, I had to cancel the interview and this, it's too bad because it was a really, a- actually was a job that would have been good, but I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_5.mp4 Well, yeah, because it's- it's, you know, I didn't really have a choice. I guess I have to be- I have to make sure my kids are taken care of first. And, um, you know, I'm worried that this is gonna keep happening. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_7.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_9.mp4 Um, it sits about at a 10 because yeah, I mean, I'm the only one supporting my kids and, um, you know, it's just, what I'm getting from welfare is just not cutting it. So I really need to have a job and soon. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_15.mp4 I mean, right now, I think I'm about at a three. I just seems like, you know, even if I'm able to get into the interview and get childcare, you know, when I show up, I've got this resume that it's- it's not impressive and it's got all these gaps of employment and I'm not as educated as other people going in for the same job. So I just feel like I'm not, um, I don't know, that employable. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_19.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, because it's so limited and I've been out of the workforce and even when I was working, I mean, it's not, I don't know, it's not stuff that I feel like can lead to the job that I want now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_21.mp4 I just want something that is- is gonna be steady and where I can be, you know, even if my kids are in childcare during the day, that I can be home every night and spending time with them and, um, know you really like to get something where, um, I'm just making good money and- and I don't have to worry all the time about money. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_23.mp4 Yeah. It would be huge. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_25.mp4 Yeah. And it'd be nice to just know what I'm doing and just have my routine. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_29.mp4 Right. Well, it would be good if I knew, you know, that my kids are taken care of too- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_31.mp4 - so I'm not worried about them while I'm at work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_33.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_35.mp4 Well, I mean, being able to make the interviews would be the priority. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_37.mp4 Um, so chi- you know, taking care, having some childcare, having- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_39.mp4 - having someone I trust that I can call when I know I've got an interview. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_41.mp4 Right. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_43.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_45.mp4 Um, I just wish that I had- I had more experience or, um, you know, more education. It seems like everyone's got a college education and I don't have that on my resume. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_47.mp4 I get asked about education and training and – neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_49.mp4 - um, you know, I just, it, as soon as I asked about it, I just feel just like I'm not good enough- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_51.mp4 - since I don't have that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_53.mp4 Yeah. Well, something I could talk about in the interview too. You know, even if I was some type of certification where I could say, I could, you know, with confidence talk about- about that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_55.mp4 I mean, I guess, I just don't really know what it's gonna be because I need to have a job now so I'm not really sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_57.mp4 Right. I almost feel like that's more important than what I'm interested in, you know, because I'm like, I'm not going to go back to school for four years right now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_59.mp4 Yeah or something-- yeah, something that I could get immediate skills that would, you know, get me into some kind of a job now, even if it's not my long-term goal or, you know, career just- just get me into something and then I can always focus on. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_61.mp4 Yeah. Great. Exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_63.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_65.mp4 Yeah, because even those jobs right now don't feel accessible for me. They seem like, you know-- seems like if-- maybe if I were better on the computer or you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_67.mp4 Yeah. I think so- I think so because I don't-- I can't-- I don't really have anything on my resume that talks about— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_69.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_71.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_73.mp4 Yeah, that would be great. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_75.mp4 That would be great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_77.mp4 Well, find the childcare resources- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_79.mp4 - is- seems to be- that seems to be the— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_81.mp4 The priority 'cause I can't even do an interview without that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_83.mp4 And then, um, I mean-- I guess getting into some type of- some type of a training program that's, you know, short- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_119_85.mp4 - like maybe there's a weekend, I mean— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_1.mp4 Oh, thanks so much doctor. I'll just take it easy for a couple of days. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_3.mp4 Yeah, I suppose. I know my weight is a problem, but every time I try to take it off, I end up gaining it back. I don't know what to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_5.mp4 Okay, thank you doctor, but I'm just concerned about how I can possibly lose weight now since work is so busy and the kids take up so much of my time. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_7.mp4 Okay, that sounds great. So, what should I do? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_9.mp4 I knew you were gonna say that, but I don't have time in my schedule. I can't afford to take an hour to go to the gym every day. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_11.mp4 I like to walk. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_13.mp4 Wait a minute, isn't walking too mild to help you lose weight, though? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_15.mp4 Oh, wow, that sounds good. You know what? Come to think of it, I have some time before I have to go back to work and I saw a nice park on the way over here, maybe I can take a short walk after this appointment. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_17.mp4 And you know what? I used to really love to dance, but I haven't done that in such a long time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_19.mp4 Hmm. And I know my family would support me if I could just find some place where I can go dancing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_21.mp4 Yeah, and you know what? I really like to try that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_23.mp4 Actually, I really would. I'm kind of excited about it. What else you got? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. I can do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_27.mp4 Diet, the D word. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_120_29.mp4 Yeah, I like that. Okay, I'll make an appointment and I'll start dancing right away, doc. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_1.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_3.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_5.mp4 From my GP? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_7.mp4 Uh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_9.mp4 What's led me to come here? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_11.mp4 My GP. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_13.mp4 Well, um, you know, I had my sort of, uh, checkup. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_15.mp4 And it revealed that apparently, I might have diabetes 2. Well, that's what he says. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_17.mp4 Um, I-I think that I feel perfectly well. I-I'm, you know-- I understand people with diabetes are a little bit plumper than I am. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_19.mp4 But, um, that's really why I'm here. I'm on his command, almost. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_21.mp4 Well, he did. He says he's going to put me on some sort of program if it gets worse. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_23.mp4 But as I say, I-I feel absolutely fine now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_27.mp4 Mm, I'm very surprised. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_29.mp4 Yes. I think it did. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_31.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_33.mp4 I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_35.mp4 That's what I understand. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_37.mp4 You know, and I'm not overweight. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_39.mp4 I-I sort of look after myself to a limited extent in that way. Um, but I'm a busy person, I suppose I burn off the calories. And- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_41.mp4 I don't know, really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_43.mp4 My lifestyle— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_45.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_47.mp4 No, not at all. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_49.mp4 Well, I-I thought he must be joking. To be honest. I thought- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_51.mp4 -you know, why you are-- Look around you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_53.mp4 um, I just felt that, um-- I mean, I don't think he was wasting my time because why would he do that? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_55.mp4 Right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_57.mp4 Um-- Absolutely right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_59.mp4 He's got a job to do. And obviously, the tests have come through. And I have got these signs of diabetes 2. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_61.mp4 Right? Um, I just think that-- Well, I just don't feel like it, Mark. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_63.mp4 Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_65.mp4 I feel absolutely fine. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_67.mp4 Yeah. Well, physically, I feel absolutely fine. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_69.mp4 I'm-I'm-- I didn't see anything wrong with me at all. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_71.mp4 I mean, I get around, I sleep pretty well- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_73.mp4 I sort of you know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_75.mp4 - I'm-I'm compos mentis. So I don't— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_77.mp4 What is the problem? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_79.mp4 Well, uh, yes. I mean- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_81.mp4 -I must admit, I haven't done too much research. I've been a bit busy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_83.mp4 Um, but he-he was saying something about, I don't know, family or whatever. I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_85.mp4 And I don't know if it's hereditary. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_87.mp4 I think he said something about it being hereditary. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_89.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_91.mp4 Yeah, it could be- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_93.mp4 -because, um, my mother mentioned- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_95.mp4 -that, uh, my father had diabetes- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_97.mp4 -diabetes 2. And if I think about it, um, his brother- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_99.mp4 -uh, I haven't seen him for years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_101.mp4 But he might well have it because he is- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_103.mp4 -a pretty cuddly guy. You know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_105.mp4 He's pretty big. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_107.mp4 Well, yes, the stereotype,- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_109.mp4 Yeah, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_111.mp4 Well, yeah. I mean, as far as I know, I hadn't seen him for- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_113.mp4 -I don't know how many years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_115.mp4 Apparently so. Yes, apparently so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_117.mp4 Mm, I mean, it is hereditary, is it? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_119.mp4 A genetic factor. And so, does that mean that if you've got, um, if you've got a history of this within your family- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_121.mp4 -if it's a gene-- you are more likely than not to get it? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_123.mp4 Also, it's— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_125.mp4 Right. Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_127.mp4 I'm sure you're going to tell me what they are. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_129.mp4 To be frank, Mark, I honestly don't know. I mean, I honestly don't know what causes it because I've never had any reason. It came upon me from the GP and it took me back. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_131.mp4 Um, the hereditary thing I thought, well, maybe that's the explanation. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_133.mp4 And why go any further, it's there? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_135.mp4 Can't help it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_137.mp4 They live pretty long lives, they did, all right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_139.mp4 Relatives relatively went into their 70s. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_141.mp4 Well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_143.mp4 If there's something that you think that-- Yes. Yes, of course. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_145.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_147.mp4 I've heard of it yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_149.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_151.mp4 Are you saying that they-they like they can't digest insulin or is that? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_153.mp4 Oh, I see. So-so it's like a-it's like a balance. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_155.mp4 So insulin you-you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_157.mp4 You have yourself draws bar. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_159.mp4 Or something, and then what balances that out in the body is the insulin taking off the excess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_161.mp4 Or-or digesting? Should I say the excessive sugars? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_163.mp4 Is that what happened? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_165.mp4 Why? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_167.mp4 Right. Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_169.mp4 You mean, personally? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_171.mp4 Well, I didn't know. I mean, the thing is you see that-- I mean, I did think about this a little bit and I thought, well, over time, if things happen slowly, you don't really notice. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_173.mp4 As you get older. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_175.mp4 I mean, I don't-I don't leap over five bar gates like I used to, you know, um, as opposed to, uh, running with the backs now, I tend to spend more time, you know, with my old mates in the bar. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_177.mp4 At the rugby club and-and-and the such like, yeah. And, um, the fish I'm hooking, I'm not after the kings anymore, I go for the snapper now, it's a bit easier, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_179.mp4 Yeah, absolutely. You just do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_181.mp4 You just do. Um, so you're less demanding, I guess, on your-on your body, you realize, and you don't really want to do these things anyway. You know, you let the youngsters get home. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_183.mp4 "Been there, done that. So you don't really notice. So I'm coming back to this diagnosis I had from my GP and him saying, ""You've got diabetes 2,"" well, I should feel like that, shouldn't I?" neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_185.mp4 Yeah, I mean. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_187.mp4 Yeah, I mean I'm a busy person. All right? I uh, my work uh, I work in insurance, so I'm always hopping from one place to another place. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_189.mp4 Um, I haven't noticed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_191.mp4 I really haven't noticed how, um, okay I get a bit--I suppose I get a bit out of breath sometimes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_193.mp4 If I rush too much that-that's true. Um, I suppose, um, I don't go upstairs two at a time anymore, I use one at a time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_195.mp4 Oh, certainly the energy I have is-is not what I-what I had. I mean I do need to, you know, I'm busy but I do need to sit down, um, uh, I do need to sit down and relax with a cup of coffee, you know, and, uh, things. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_197.mp4 Um, more than I would normally. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_199.mp4 But that would be, that would be about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_201.mp4 Um, is it getting worse? I don't know. I-I-I suppose. What worse? Is it-is it increasing? Well, to say, I don't really notice it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_203.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Um, at least, that's what I think. I mean I don't know if you're telling me that I should be more active or my GP is saying I should be more active. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_205.mp4 Um, as I say, uh, you know I-I don't do any regular form of exercise, I have to say, not anymore. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_207.mp4 Um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_209.mp4 But maybe I-maybe I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_211.mp4 I mean I've got uh, well I-I mean I've got a great lifestyle. I mean if it's very-it-it's very good. I mean I've got all my mates in down at the rugby club. And I've got uh, you know even in the summer when that's a bit damn. I used to coach rugby and I coached cricket when I finished playing. So-so I've got the-the guys in the cricket club, um, you know, for the-for the, uh, for the summer evenings. And, uh, and then, uh, the-then, of course, we've got the fishing, and that's all of us combined. We're a big gang, really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_213.mp4 Oh, I think my life yeah. My life is great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_215.mp4 "My life is great, and then you turn around and say, ""Hey you've got-- you-you're ill, you're sick." sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_217.mp4 And um, no I'm not. But you see, he said to me that he's gonna put me on some sort of, uh, a daily monitoring of, is it sugar levels? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_219.mp4 And I'm gonna have to take regular pills. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_221.mp4 Well frankly, the only pills I take are sort of paracetamols. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_223.mp4 For a bit of the head in the morning, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_225.mp4 Um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_227.mp4 Come on, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_229.mp4 Well, life is too short. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_231.mp4 You know it's the truth. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_233.mp4 I mean you know— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_235.mp4 Well there is-there is something that you sort of prompted me to think about, and, um, I split up-- My wife and I, we split up several years ago now. And, um, you know we've been married for many many years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_237.mp4 And um, I think she used to look after me because she used to do the cooking and-and-and stuff like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_239.mp4 And I have to say that I'm not the best cook in the world. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_241.mp4 Um, and-and being on the run all the time and you know once I get back home, it's, you know, it's time to go down to the rugby club or whatever it might be, uh, we're out with the mates. And, uh, I-I do I suppose my food is not as healthy perhaps as it used to be when she was around. She's moved down to Hamilton to live with her mother, if you've met her mother. Anyway, but, um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_243.mp4 Yeah, I mean mates and their wives are pretty cool about it sometimes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_245.mp4 Because, you know, they'll invite me for dinner and so on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_247.mp4 And, yeah, yeah, yeah. I guess, you know, that's when you, well, or whatever reason, you split up in life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_249.mp4 "You start looking at the home life of somebody else, you're thinking, ""Hmm, I use d to have this.""" neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_251.mp4 "And you think, "" This is nice food, "" isn't it? and you know." change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_253.mp4 Oh, she would do all the cooking. Yeah, yeah, neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_255.mp4 I mean, I never bothered to boil an egg in the water, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_257.mp4 Totally. I mean, I was just in charge of the wine, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_259.mp4 Well I-- This is what I'm saying. Maybe I'm not thinking about it. Maybe that's the thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_261.mp4 Maybe I'm just— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_263.mp4 You know, because it-- you know this-- the pizza shop's just on the road. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_265.mp4 And then there's-- I mean, okay, I confess that lunchtime, occasionally, it's uh, I'm hungry and McDonald's is very convenient neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_267.mp4 -or Kentucky Fried or whatever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_269.mp4 You know, it's very easy. and then, um, then you think to yourself, well-- I mean, I do think of myself that maybe I should have a few vegetables around here or whatever. But then you go out into the supermarkets, you know, and you can pick up, uh, your- one of your TV dinners. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_271.mp4 So you bring those in and you open them up and put them in the microwave and there's vegetables there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_273.mp4 Yeah, it looks- it looks fine, you know, et cetera. I mean, so that will happen occasionally if I've got a night in. But cooking-wise, no, I haven't cooked anything, um, other than boil the water for the kettle for a cup o coffee. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_275.mp4 -for ages. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_277.mp4 Yeah. I do miss her breakfast. I have to say, we used to have get a nice breakfast. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_279.mp4 Well— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_281.mp4 Well, I used to be quite a heavy smoker, right? I mean, I'd smoke a pack in a half a day. And I knew that wasn't doing me any good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_283.mp4 I mean the thing is when you're a-- I mean, I've always smoked. So, but when you're young and you're a sportsman, you know— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_285.mp4 Well, the two things they balance out, you know and everybody else is sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_287.mp4 You know, you pass a cigarette down the backline almost, don't you? You know, just before the game gets— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_289.mp4 Yeah, part of the of the whole thing. And it's changed a bit now, because in my day when we were playing, of course, it was a very much more of a social game, which was spent-spent in the rugby club. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_291.mp4 That's why you played and it was a big buddy-buddy thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_293.mp4 That was rugby and cricket was the same really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_295.mp4 Um, but now— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_297.mp4 "Well I-I, yeah. I was getting a bit sort of-- I was getting a bit, you know, a bit wheezy and I thought, ""I'll cut this out.""" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_299.mp4 But I enjoy smoking. I really do enjoy it. So I cut it down to I suppose it's about 10 a day now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_301.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_303.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_305.mp4 Yeah, yeah. I sort of— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_307.mp4 "it-it-it's-- you know, she will, ""Why don't you give up? You've gone so far, why don't you just stop?"" But I don't want to." sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_309.mp4 It's-it's-- I-I enjoy it, um— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_311.mp4 Well, yeah. I mean, you know, the thing is that you get to, you know, you've got to-- when you get down to that, you, uh, you have to regulate sort of- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_313.mp4 You know, you have to be quite strong-willed about, I suppose, in a way. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_315.mp4 "So you say, ""Okay, well, you don't have a cigarette unless you have a cup of coffee. [laughs]" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_317.mp4 Of course, that's a double-edged sword a bit, because then I found I was drinking more coffee, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_319.mp4 Oh, yeah, yeah. I have two sugars. A couple of sugar in coffee. Yeah, yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_321.mp4 So we cut that down as I say. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_323.mp4 But the problem goes that coffee, we're up to 8 or so, 10 cups of coffee a day now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_325.mp4 "No, you know, there's a friend of mine, one of the guys down the rugby club, he said- he said, ""I'm going for my annual, you know-" neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_327.mp4 -warranty of fitness, sort of thing, you know. And I thought, now that's an idea, not been to one of those. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_329.mp4 So I'm 55, and you read in the papers, you know, it's that at 55 you will-- you know, heart disease is more prevalent change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_331.mp4 "-and all these sorts of things that you get around this middle-age time. So I thought, ""Well, I'll go and have one."" And frankly, when I went along, I was very confident. I thought, you know, the doctor is going to saying, ""Hmm, I wish I was as healthy as you,"" sort of thing." neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_333.mp4 Um, but unfortunately, uh, he-he came up with this. And it's the only thing I think he really came up with. I think- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_335.mp4 My cholesterol is quite good, not too bad. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_337.mp4 Yeah-yeah. Not too bad. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_339.mp4 Well, yeah, I've cut it down, yeah. I mean, that's been three years, mind. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_341.mp4 Absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_343.mp4 And then we come to this- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_345.mp4 -too much sugar in the tank, or something. I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_347.mp4 So, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_349.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_351.mp4 I mean, yeah. I mean, you know, the thing is, you see, the thing is, and I mean, and probably you've-- I think you've heard this before, but people, they turn around, oh, uh, you know, doom and gloom prophets, you shouldn't drink. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_353.mp4 You shouldn't smoke. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_355.mp4 "And then I think to myself, ""Well, maybe I shouldn't socialize."" And then after that, ""Well, maybe I shouldn't be alive.""" sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_357.mp4 You know. I mean, what-what-what's going on here? This is- this is- this is so many people's lives. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_359.mp4 "And um, I suppose, you know, if it came down to it, then, and somebody said, ""Well, you can solve this problem by taking a pill once a day, um, you know, it will keep it down, and there will be no problems,"" Then I-I could go with that. But what I don't want to do, um, the doctor was saying, or insinuating, that I'd have to change my lifestyle." sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_361.mp4 Yeah. It was um, and I-I said, well, no. I'm sorry. [coughs] I'm not going to change my lifestyle. I've got to where I am. I'm reasonably happy. Okay, I wish I wasn't separated. Okay, I wish my kids were-were still around, um, you know. One of them is off now in, um, in-- back in Europe playing rugby in France. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_363.mp4 No, I don't want to, because I don't feel that I need to. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_365.mp4 I mean, it's you know, why? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_367.mp4 Um, I can't argue with a medical professional, Mark, because I know nothing, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_369.mp4 So, I mean, what-what-what-what suggestions would you have? I mean, what-what sort of- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_371.mp4 Is smoking related to diabetes then? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_373.mp4 Oh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_375.mp4 Don't help. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_377.mp4 Is it okay if you have one without the other? I'm sorry, it's a silly question. [laughs] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_379.mp4 Where would I start? Well, I-- What if about if I cut down on sugar in the coffee? If we could have long blacks, no milk, and no sugar. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_381.mp4 I think I could- I think I could probably handle that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_383.mp4 Something of a rollover effect. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_385.mp4 Domino effect, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_387.mp4 I mean, how much exercise should I do a week? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_389.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_391.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_393.mp4 Okay, so— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_395.mp4 So, a-are we saying then that-that, really all I need to do, for this moment, is I can forget about everything, but cut out the sugar, uh, in the coffee and the milk-- I don't know, but you might as well, you know, milk without sugar is silly. But, um, if we do that, is that where we start? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_397.mp4 Well, I mean that's something that's not difficult to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_399.mp4 You start off at breakfast and get yourself an apple, a bit-a bit of apple and-and so on. Um— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_401.mp4 Maybe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_403.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_405.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_407.mp4 Well, you know, and this is difficult because I don't feel unhealthy now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_409.mp4 So, I suppose it would be fun to-- Maybe I should join a club or two, that's what I'm thinking because I'll be with mates. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_411.mp4 I love the social aspect of it, and, um, there's-there's-- I know there's a bar in this club as well. I-- Don't-don't misunderstand me, I don't drink- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_413.mp4 -till-- You know, I'm not an alcoholic or anything like that, I— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_415.mp4 So yeah, so to get that balance, and maybe that's what I'm actually missing in life, and maybe this is, um-- I mean yes I do get up in the morning sometimes, and I suppose I do feel a bit— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_417.mp4 You know? Even after a decent night's sleep, you know? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_419.mp4 And you need-- I'm getting this cup of coffee and maybe I'm— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_421.mp4 And that gets me going. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_423.mp4 Yeah, the sugar gives me the boost, I suppose. I-it's fantastic. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_425.mp4 Hmm. If I give up sugar in my coffee, give up the milk, black coffees, right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_427.mp4 if I find some social form of exercise, like squash. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_429.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_431.mp4 Yeah, and then— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_433.mp4 "And then, you know, give this, say, six months, I don't know what period it would be, then go back to the GP and say, ""Test me again.""" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_435.mp4 And so maybe that would, uh— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_437.mp4 Maybe it's an idea. I mean— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_439.mp4 Yeah, like my wife used to. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_441.mp4 "Well, you see, I mean, I'm thinking, ""Actually it might not be a bad idea this,"" because [chuckles] it would mean I could socialize harder, couldn't I? No, no I'm just joking. Uh, but, um, yeah, I mean, why not? Why not? Why not? It might be fun, it's a new path." change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_443.mp4 Well, it would appear that there is something to gain, and-- I mean, I-- What do I lose? I don't know until I do it. But I'm thinking that if I do it and I do what I'm enjoying doing, I won't miss what I'm not doing. Does that make sense? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_445.mp4 Um, yeah I don't mind. I-- It's not a— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_447.mp4 I'll talk to Billy about, um-- Billy is, um, he's the gym bloke. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_449.mp4 I'll have a word with him because I'm due down the club tonight. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_451.mp4 Really. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_453.mp4 Yeah, I think that you say where-where you're at now, where you're going, where— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_455.mp4 -and-and-and this is what I've got to do. I think I'm in a rut. I think that's where I've— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_457.mp4 I'm-I'm just-- I'm-I'm satisfiedly sort of contented, uh, sitting in this- in this rut and, um, that my doctor has actually di-diagnosed me with diabetes 2- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_459.mp4 -which he says can be managed, and you seem to be insinuating that it can be managed. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_461.mp4 Uh, maybe this is a blessing, actually- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_463.mp4 "-because I think to myself, ""Well, if someday, I am diagnosed with diabetes, I'd just carry on and-""" neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_465.mp4 """-sitting in the corner of the bar, and chat, and talk and probably get fat."" I don't know, and make it worse. And, yeah, maybe, maybe, maybe, maybe." neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_467.mp4 Yeah, that's cool. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_469.mp4 That's really cool. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_471.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_473.mp4 Yeah, I mean, I think you're quite right. I think you just— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_475.mp4 I don't know, you become sedentary, don't you? No, it seems that-- No, actually, this is quite exciting. It quite [unintelligible 00:31:28] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_477.mp4 "I think to myself, I think, ""Oh,"" I think go—" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_479.mp4 Yeah. I mean, this is- this is- this is cool, it's like an old challenge again. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_481.mp4 This is good. And, um— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_483.mp4 "I think I am. I mean, I never thought about it, but when I think about it now it's, ""What am I doing here?"" Why am I like this? Why am I just happy contented to drift?" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_485.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_487.mp4 Oh, so if I was obs- if I was sort of- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_489.mp4 -observing as it were? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_491.mp4 Watching myself, what would I say? I-I-- Well, I would say, you know, are you happy? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_493.mp4 That-- Are you contented with that performance of you and your team? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_495.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_497.mp4 I think you're- I think you're right. I think, um-- And again, you put them together and it's-it's-it's becoming-- It's-it's a sort of a-an individual team job, isn't it really? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_499.mp4 That, okay, do a bit of this and do a bit of that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_501.mp4 Yeah, but I don't have to give up anything really, do I? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_503.mp4 No. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_505.mp4 No it's not. It's not. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_507.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_509.mp4 True, true. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_511.mp4 Now that I think about it- now that I think about it, maybe. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_513.mp4 Maybe they were. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_515.mp4 Yeah, you see— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_517.mp4 Mm. When your life comes to a halt- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_519.mp4 -your family splits up, or whatever, and you don't have anymore, I-I think you stop caring really. Uh, y-you know, you stop caring about yourself change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_521.mp4 Because everything is just f- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_523.mp4 Nobody there, [crosstalk] it's true and so,- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_525.mp4 -you know,- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_527.mp4 -you don't care. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_529.mp4 So that's maybe [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_531.mp4 Maybe, a bit selfish but maybe why not? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_533.mp4 Why not? Yeah, that's a good idea. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_535.mp4 Oh right, well, wha-what we talked about. Now, you know, uh, okay, uh, coffee. Right? No sugar. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_537.mp4 I'll start with that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_539.mp4 Um, I'm gonna, um, I'll be talking to Bill, uh- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_541.mp4 -about the gym but- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_543.mp4 -I like the idea of, actually again doing squash- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_545.mp4 -or something else- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_547.mp4 -and I'm gonna go down to the rugby club and I'll- I know that will be accepted. I'll offer my services again because- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_549.mp4 -it was reasonably successful. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_551.mp4 And, uh— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_553.mp4 "No, [crosstalk] oh, well, okay, yeah I didn't- yeah, I'll go back and say-- Well, look, I'd-I'd rather not go back to the doctor and say, ""I'm gonna do this, this, this-" sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_555.mp4 -this and this. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_557.mp4 This is between you and me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_559.mp4 All right? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_561.mp4 But this is what I'm gonna do. All right? And like I said, I'm gonna make the inquiries, I will start there- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_563.mp4 -I will give up, uh, I'll give up the V drinks,- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_565.mp4 -I think, um, look for some better wine. [laughter] Um, and-and I-I'd take an interest really. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_567.mp4 I'll take an interest really and-and, uh, but it is quite exciting, Mark. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_569.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_571.mp4 Not too much. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_573.mp4 Yeah, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_575.mp4 Just give me a bit of background, really. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_577.mp4 Oh, yeah, and what it is- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_579.mp4 -because I don't really know. Yeah, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_581.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_583.mp4 Wha-what are we talking about, sort of few months down the line? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_585.mp4 What, in about a month's time? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_587.mp4 Yeah, okay, I'm up for that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_589.mp4 I'm up for that. Yeah, now-now that's putting me, um, that's very gently putting my head on the block change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_591.mp4 -and I don't mind that because, um, yeah, that's cool. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_593.mp4 Yeah, yeah. I'll see you in a month. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_595.mp4 No worries. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_121_597.mp4 And I appreciate it. Thank you. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_0.mp4 Well, I'm here because my mom wants me to be here. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_2.mp4 I don't really wanna be here, but it-it-- whatever. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_4.mp4 Um, she-she found my stash- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_6.mp4 -and she freaked out, and she's going crazy over it. Um, I don't why she was going through stuff in the first place, but whatever, so, now I'm here. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_8.mp4 Um, I've been hanging out with a new cool crowd of people that I really like. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_10.mp4 Uh, a-and-and that's-that's basically it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_12.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_14.mp4 Yeah, basically. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_16.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_18.mp4 I am. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_20.mp4 I mean, it's my stuff, I don't know why she's— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_22.mp4 I-I don't go- I don't go through her s- I don't go through her stuff. I don't go through her purse. I don't— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_122_24.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_1.mp4 Well, I think, um, like when I was really active in the past, I enjoy going to the gym and I like that regardless of what's happening with the weather outside, that-that's always an option. Um, so I've kind of already started to look and see, like, how much gym memberships cost in the area. Um, I really like one that's like month to month and doesn't require me to pay out for like a year because, in the summertime, I just don't use that when the weather is nice, I like to be outside. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_2.mp4 So, um, I do think that that would be an option. Um, I did enjoy doing yoga in the past. I, um, I don't care for swimming, uh, because it requires a lot of extra prep time, and like, I don't- chlorine in my hair just doesn't really go very well usually. Um, but I really like walking, um, weightlifting, running is okay. Um, that was more at my, like, peak activity level, so I don't think I could start out running now, but I'd like to work up to it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_4.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_6.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_8.mp4 "Yeah. So I just- on my phone, if I'm like in the grocery store, I'm kind of just looking through, and on Google, I'll type in like ""Gyms in the area"" and I'll look and see what's there. And, um, I don't ever want to sign up to learn more 'cause I feel like then they just keep emailing you forever. So at this point, I'm just trying to kind of figure out what I can, based on their website as far as cost goes, but that, um, month to month is kind of really important for me. Just like I mentioned, I don't want to be paying for six months or a year out." sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_10.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_12.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_14.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_16.mp4 Yeah, I think, um, you know, I've kind of looked around and seen what I- what's available to me. Um, I think the next step would be to maybe go visit one place and just see, like, what equipment they have. Um, I also think too, I'd like to be outside when the weather permits. I like to walk. I just- I don't like rain or snow or cold, like, um, I don't like doing things when I'm just not in a climate that's enjoyable. So if there is, uh, decent weather, I think going outside and, you know, getting some steps in or just walking would be a good first start for me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_18.mp4 Right. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_20.mp4 Sure. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_22.mp4 I don't know that I've looked closely at that. I don't know much about their pricing or anything like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_24.mp4 I agree. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_26.mp4 Yeah, definitely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_28.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_30.mp4 Yeah, no, yeah. That's a good-good recommendation. I'll definitely check it out. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_32.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_34.mp4 Yeah. I think, you know, finding ways to walk more would be good, um, even if that is inside somewhere. Uh, I've done the like trick of parking in the back of the parking lot and walking up to the store. Um, and like I've also been in Target and taken an extra lap, which is kind of dangerous too 'cause you might spend more money. Um, but I- I think if the weather's nice too, I would like to get outside and try to find a place to walk. Um, and two, I really did enjoy yoga, it's- it was good for my, like, flexibility and posture, and so I would be interested in maybe seeing too what classes are available in the area. I haven't looked at that at all. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_36.mp4 Home workouts have never really worked for me in the past just because there's so many distractions, and I can, like, set the mat out there and everything and get everything ready, like bottled water, everything's good to go. And then it just sits there and I don't actually do it, whereas if I go somewhere else, I'm already there. And so I'm doing it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_38.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_40.mp4 No, that sounds good. I-I definitely think, um, I'll walk probably more than one time in the next couple of weeks, but, um, I also have this app on my phone that tracks my steps, uh, and it was like built into the phone. It's nothing I downloaded or anything. So I can also use that to kind of see if I'm getting more active 'cause right now I think I'm averaging like 2,000 steps a day, so it's like a lot of sitting. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_42.mp4 Yeah, I think so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_44.mp4 I think I'm at a 10. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_46.mp4 Yeah. I think that, like I said, I think I'll find ways to walk. Um, and I'm at a point now where I've done as much research, I've found out as much information, I think, as I can on the gyms that are local here. Um, but I will check out the- the Y to see if it maybe is a bit cheaper and also a bit more, like, welcoming and doesn't require a- like, a six-month contract or anything like that. So I feel like those would both be good starts. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_48.mp4 Um, well, if I'm trying to walk outside, the weather's always going to be one, but I, again, like I said, if I'm checking, uh, using the app on my phone to see my step count, I can maybe make more of a priority to walk indoors, um, and just find places inside that I could walk, even if it's just around the hallway or whatever that looks like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_50.mp4 Yeah, but hopefully there's one. So, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_52.mp4 No, I feel really good. I think even coming in, I didn't have a like step-by-step idea of what I wanted to do next, but no, this has been helpful to know what those small steps are, and like you said, hopefully, I do start feeling better. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_124_54.mp4 Thanks for having me. All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_125_0.mp4 The baby was up all night and I'm exhausted. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_125_2.mp4 Yes. She was up every three hours to eat, I don't understand it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_125_4.mp4 Yes. My mom told me that I started sleeping through the night when I was a month old, Lilly is six weeks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_125_6.mp4 Well, what is normal for a baby this age? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. Um, yeah, my asthma has just been out of control lately and my doctor says that might be connected to Oscar. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_3.mp4 Um, I've got allergy testing. It's just, uh, the dust makes it bad. I thought the smoking was the main thing- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_5.mp4 -that's cut down. Um, and then they said the drinking might contribute to it, too. So, I got a lot of different things I'm working on. So that's what I know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_7.mp4 The drinking, the smoking and the dust that I got, the, um, the scratch test for. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_9.mp4 And-and-and that's what I know, and that I take the medicine for it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_11.mp4 No, I've had it for-for 12 years and now it's a concern. I don't understand. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_15.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_17.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_19.mp4 Yes, just that work with the [unintelligible 00:01:24]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_21.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_23.mp4 Mm-hmm. I'm a little I'm a couple of down. I used to drink four at night, now I'm down to three at least. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_25.mp4 Uh-huh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_27.mp4 Mm-hmm, what's next, yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_29.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_31.mp4 Well, we keep them clean, like he's cleaned. So, all the dander doesn't really make sense, but I have been noticing that sometimes when he comes on the bed or just beside, I wheeze a little bit, but I think it has to do with, um, the hair, the, in my lungs cleaning itself up from the smoking. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_33.mp4 So, I don't know if it's that-that's where I'm confused. I don't know how this could be happening. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_35.mp4 Mm-hmm, Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_37.mp4 But-but the wheezing is something that I've definitely noticed a little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_39.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_41.mp4 Mm-hmm, Mm-hmm. I just want some medicine and I want to keep Oscar and I wanna feel better about myself because I'm making all these changes in my life and it honestly feels like my-my nose is just above the water. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_43.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah, no, that feels good. That I, you know, at least it is my choice. I just feel like just about, I'm not feeling happy about just all these different things that are coming up. Um, and I'm kind of sad about things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_45.mp4 And I don't know, I don't know what to do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_47.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_49.mp4 Mm-hmm. I want- I want John Carlos to grow up with Oscar. So he has his friend when he's young, too. And, um, I just, it's a lot of stress and a lot of things you-you gotta think about then, um, I'm not feeling good about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_51.mp4 Man, uh, how would I know? I don't know. I think if my asthma got really bad and the medicine- she gave me the strongest medicine and it wasn't working. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_53.mp4 That would be the way right now 'cause I can't see, I don't know how I'm going to give this dog up. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_55.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_57.mp4 No, no. It's something I got to just sit there and-and kind of, um, put the pros and the cons on the table about, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_127_59.mp4 -something's going on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_0.mp4 Wow, I can't believe he stopped crying finally and fell asleep. Poor guy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_2.mp4 No he wasn't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_4.mp4 Yeah, absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_6.mp4 Well, you're right actually, I-I did quit smoking but just last week my mom took Jake for the first time. It was a Friday night, so friends were going out to celebrate a birthday. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_8.mp4 Yeah. At one point in the night, though, they all went out to have a cigarette and I joined them. Since then, I've been having a couple of cigarettes at night, but never near Jake and never near his clothes or his toys. I mean, I've heard about second-hand smoking. And I-I don't want to be- expose him to it, so I've been avoiding him when I smoke. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_10.mp4 Yeah, sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_12.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_14.mp4 Exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_16.mp4 Yeah, well, you know that sounds okay. While he's sick, I might be able to smoke outside in the next couple days or so, but the thing is, usually I'm craving a cigarette the most when I have a glass of wine at the end of the day. I put Jake to bed, I open up a bottle and I pour myself a glass and I'm finally able to unwind, so, I get a craving for a cigarette, so, I'm not sure long-term I'd be able to smoke outside. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_18.mp4 Yeah, exactly and another thing is that sometimes in the morning, after I've had a couple of glasses of wine, I kinda feel tired or groggy or low on energy, so, even that I'm not sure is completely relaxing. Especially if I've had a cigarette the night before, I always feel so bad. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_20.mp4 Exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_22.mp4 Sure. I've never heard of them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_24.mp4 Well, usually I'm having more than two glasses but if you're saying that's gonna minimize some risk and I guess some of the grogginess I'm feeling the next morning, then maybe I should just try and have one glass of wine in the evenings? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_26.mp4 Yeah, I-I'd absolutely maybe reduce. I'll try my best to reduce, but I'm not sure about the smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_28.mp4 Yeah. I think that sounds okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_30.mp4 No. I think just talking about it was helpful, you know, and I'm- I'm glad you've given me some information. Maybe just this week I can think about it a little more, you know, I-I feel pretty overwhelmed right now. There's so much to do. My days are pretty full, so, maybe I can just s-sit on it for a week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_128_32.mp4 All right. That sounds good. Thanks, Dr. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_0.mp4 Dr. Morrow, I'm so relieved I'm not pregnant. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_2.mp4 I really feel like I dodged the bullet. That was- that was probably the scariest like two days of my life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_4.mp4 Yup. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_6.mp4 Yeah, it went so slow. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_8.mp4 Even just being here today is like minutes ticking by. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_10.mp4 It's really good news. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_12.mp4 I don't even know. I'm-I'm not ready to have a kid. I know that. I know my life is not ready for that step. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_14.mp4 Yeah, no. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_16.mp4 Um, I don't really want to go there. I just-- that sort of stuff just weirds me out. Yeah, I take something fun and just makes it really medical. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_18.mp4 No. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_20.mp4 Yeah, I mean I'm-I'm careful. I do what I can, but I don't wanna take anything for that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_22.mp4 "Yeah. It's-it's scary. I mean, this is the first time I've ever had that sort of feeling of ""What am I gonna do?""" neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_24.mp4 And-and that fear was like-- yeah. Up until now, I've been good, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_26.mp4 Yeah. No, it- it's just- it's just weird for me. I don't- I don't like thinking about that stuff, yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_28.mp4 Yeah, maybe another time. Just, I'm not ready for it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_30.mp4 I'm not ready for that conversation right now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_32.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_129_34.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_1.mp4 Well, I suppose you're gonna give me a row and tell me it's all self-inflicted and I've got to change my ways and give up the things I enjoy. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_3.mp4 The doc said I've got to take pills for the rest of my life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_5.mp4 Well, I feel fine, but the-the doc said it could save my life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_7.mp4 Okay, what should I do first? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_9.mp4 Where do you think I should start? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_11.mp4 Yeah, uh, you tell me, stop smoking and lose weight and take more exercise, wouldn’t you? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_13.mp4 Uh, I loved to lose weight but it's so hard giving up the things you enjoy. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_15.mp4 I really should do. Or shouldn't I, neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_17.mp4 Well, I'd like to see my children settled and my grandchildren growing up and I should,suppose I should be an example to them. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_19.mp4 Yes. I want to be there for them, but not a burden to them. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_21.mp4 Uh, I've been thinking about them a lot lately, and I want to be there for them. So have to do what I need to, to improve my health. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_23.mp4 You know, to start with, I could cut down on my drinking. Um, that's adding to my weight and to my blood pressure, isn't it? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_25.mp4 In fact, I think I'll try and cut out the booze altogether. My wife says I drink too much at the weekends. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_27.mp4 And I suppose I could cut out the crisps and pies at works. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_29.mp4 I'm gonna start having soup at lunchtime. I suppose a big bowl of soup would be far better than two pies. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_31.mp4 Well, there's one, one thing uh, I've done already, I've stopped adding salt to my food. The doc said that would help with my blood pressure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_33.mp4 Well, I didn't know that. Um, it's good to know. I'll tell my wife, um, she's still very fond of her salt and her mother had osteoporosis. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_35.mp4 I feel if I go ahead and do as I say with cutting down on the pies, the crisps, um, and cutting out the booze, I feel I'm making a start but let's take it a step at a time and see how it goes. But, uh, the next day when we look at it, the figures might be a lot better. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_37.mp4 Yes, that’s fine with me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_132_39.mp4 Thanks. You too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_1.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_3.mp4 Right. Neat. What, um, what have I changed, what am I— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_5.mp4 I've been thinking about how easy it would be to deal P again. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_7.mp4 I mean, I've been thinking about, um, how I could actually set myself up the right way doing it the wrong way. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_9.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_11.mp4 Well, at the end of, you know, that last week inside, I was- I had that kind of, okay, what's next buzz? And, you know, it just doesn't work out here. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_13.mp4 I don't have a, uh, uh, I don't know what that is. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_15.mp4 Yes. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_17.mp4 Yeah, it's worse. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_19.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_21.mp4 I haven't yet, I mean- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_23.mp4 -the, uh, the offer's there. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_25.mp4 Um, I don't know why I haven't said that I will yet but I mean- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_27.mp4 -it's there. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_29.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_31.mp4 No. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_33.mp4 How long have I been out? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_35.mp4 Three weeks, one day. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_37.mp4 Three weeks, one day. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_39.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_41.mp4 Um, I'd- I- you know, I kind of told myself not to, you know, just before I left. And then I'm just kind of with it and I don't quite know why. [clears throat] I dunno, if, uh, there's no real reason why I haven't yet. It's just that I don't- I just don't think it'll work the way I always dream it will you know, I see myself up like, whatever, if I do that again, the next leg is a long one. A real long one. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_43.mp4 And I-I can't go back there. There's no way I'm going back there. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_45.mp4 No, never lasts. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_47.mp4 Yep. I've been in crossroads for 12 years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_49.mp4 Yeah. And- [crosstalk] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_51.mp4 -sort of opposite, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_53.mp4 You know, we're in the middle, you know, and it's actually at the moment, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_55.mp4 But I don't know. You know, that's quite clear that no fucking idea. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_57.mp4 Do you have an idea? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_59.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_61.mp4 Fiona? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_63.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_65.mp4 She's told me that it's over if I do it. You know, I mean, she-- What tell you about, Fiona I mean she's been with me. She's the one who stayed through all the shit. And I owe her- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_67.mp4 -something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_69.mp4 12 years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_71.mp4 Yeah. She's actually got the black and white line down now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_73.mp4 It's pretty she- you know, she could be pretty full-on. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_75.mp4 Yeah, so it's hard to ignore that line. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_77.mp4 I mean. And it comes with a whole lot of different rules, and you know, she's never been quite like she is now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_79.mp4 Yeah. I think she has. I don't think I have. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_81.mp4 She just wants me. I mean, she just wants someone to be there. Me. She-she remembers me and she wants- she wants him. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_83.mp4 The one that, you know— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_85.mp4 Yeah, that's the one. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_87.mp4 No, no. No one would want him. I don't want him. He's a fuckwit, right? She wants the one that she fell in love with. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_89.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_91.mp4 If I had the answer to that, I wouldn't need to be sitting here. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_93.mp4 And I mean, I honest- I don't know, man. I don't know. I-I wish I knew somewhere I could start that, you know, could give it to her, but I-I can't. I-I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_95.mp4 "I was pretty romantic. I mean, I was pretty quite smooth, and, um, you know, I was on top of my game, like, she- and she loved it. And we used to laugh in the [unintelligible 00:06:45], you know? And just- it was always really sweet, and people used to say, ""Oh, man, you two. You two have just got it,"" you know? And we lost it, so whatever that was, that's what she wants. We were young. How do you become young? Uh, you know, I'm old, and we'll keep growing old, but you know?" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_97.mp4 Like if I'm not careful, I will be. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_99.mp4 Yeah, certainly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_101.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_103.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_105.mp4 Yeah, yep. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_107.mp4 You know what? She hasn't even talked about the dealing, like, she won't even broach that subject. That's how black and white she is. She's- she'll be- she offers suggestions, you know? What I could do, and- or I kind of go with that, but none of them are-- You know, it's lovely that she's really finding things, but they're not the things. I mean, it-- I started kind of placating her and making it okay to keep giving me suggestions, but like, I need to come up with something because it's like awesome love, but you know, not in love, and she's getting sick of it already. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_109.mp4 A little bit that. Yeah, little-little bit tense. Yeah, that's fair. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_111.mp4 No, they are. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_113.mp4 I mean, not like they have been because we've only just started on the new road, but I mean, yeah, tense is the right word. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_115.mp4 Well, I don't know. I haven't got little, um, nuggets of where I could go. I've just got like this feeling that I should go somewhere. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_117.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_119.mp4 Yeah. No idea. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_121.mp4 [nods]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_123.mp4 Yeah. Well, um— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_125.mp4 Not many. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_127.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_129.mp4 Um, oh, I've got. Yeah, one. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_131.mp4 One. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_133.mp4 Mm, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_135.mp4 Okay, so, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_137.mp4 Well, he-he was- he was inside with me the first time I was ever inside, and now he's a drug counselor. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_139.mp4 So, he's the- he did it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_141.mp4 I don't know how the fuck he did that, but, 'cause because he wasn't even a real addict, he was just-- Well, I mean, I don't know. He's very good with people. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_143.mp4 Really good at talking, and, uh, but anyway, I don't know how he did it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_145.mp4 Yeah, but I can't ever be a drug counselor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_147.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_149.mp4 Yeah. I think he would have found some higher power. They find-- I'm not gonna find one of them. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_151.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_153.mp4 I don't know. That's why I'm here. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_155.mp4 I don't know what that is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_157.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_159.mp4 Good luck. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_161.mp4 Yeah, I don't mean to be rude- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_163.mp4 -but I do mean it's a big ask. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_165.mp4 Fucking guts. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_167.mp4 Is it a quality? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_169.mp4 Yeah, I'd need some of them. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_171.mp4 Am I? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_173.mp4 No, not yet. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_175.mp4 Well, no I'm not. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_177.mp4 No, I don't have that-that-that much courage.\ sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_179.mp4 Oh, I have to. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_181.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_183.mp4 Oh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_185.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_187.mp4 All right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_189.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_191.mp4 It's a bit awkward. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_193.mp4 Ah, yeah. I could've done that neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_195.mp4 I'm older, you know? It's not as much fun. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_197.mp4 I used to take the piss outta you guys- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_199.mp4 -all day long. We all do, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_201.mp4 -it's not funny. I mean, and you're-you're a good guy, I imagine. I mean, in fact, you don't deserve my shit. I just-- I don't know. Good luck. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_203.mp4 Oh, sadness. You know, I don't wanna wallow, you know? You know, you've gotta take, you know-- You make your own opportunity in life, don't you? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_205.mp4 I just never did. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_207.mp4 Do they? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_209.mp4 All right. Not to me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_211.mp4 Oh, yeah. Oh, heaps of those opportunities. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_213.mp4 Yeah, well, the different world isn't offering me opportunities. The different world is offering me a night shift, and minimum wage, and, you know, nothing. So it's like, set-set yourself up, set your goal up, or, um, don't, and that's your-your pro-social living, and that's your, you know, old behaviors. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_215.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_217.mp4 The system? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_219.mp4 Man, I've been fighting that system- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_221.mp4 -and all it takes me back is to the-the inside- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_223.mp4 -I mean— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_225.mp4 Well, I can't see it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_227.mp4 You know what, if I knew what they'd look like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_229.mp4 -I-I might, you know, buy that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_231.mp4 Did I? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_233.mp4 Oh yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_235.mp4 Yeah, that's not much fun. That doesn't look very good. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_237.mp4 Yeah, that looks really hard. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_239.mp4 I know that's the right thing, uh, don't get me wrong. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_241.mp4 That is gut right there, going to a job you hate, going home, cooking yet missus a dinner, looking after your kids. I mean, that is-- That's what it real mean does, but I don't have that-- Th-those guts to do- to do what you do. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_243.mp4 I-- Hmm, maybe. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_245.mp4 No. You know, convince me because, you know, I kind of want to be. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_247.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_249.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_251.mp4 It is the little things, yeah, like waking up, and having a cup of tea and sitting on the porch is kind of cool. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_253.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_255.mp4 No, you don't get to sit outside- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_257.mp4 -on the porch. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_259.mp4 No one. It's morning, it's just me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_261.mp4 Birds, trees, yada yada. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_263.mp4 Mm, you know, maybe. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_265.mp4 I don't-- You know, that-that was nice. If it was full of bits like that, sure, but I mean, you know, eventually you have to go off to your job and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_267.mp4 -you know, pay your-your wages, I mean your-your mortgage and-and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_269.mp4 -it's just massive. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_271.mp4 It is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_273.mp4 You know, people like me are unaccepted into that world though. You know? I've got-- I don't have qualifications. All my mates are in Australia working awesome jobs, mining for 160K a year, you know? Just being men digging holes. Like, if I could do that, yeah, all good but fuck, I have just come out of prison, I don't have any NCEA. I, uh, I had one opportunity and I fucked that because I can't do night shift 'cause I'm lazy. You know? Maybe the world is giving me opportunities and I just don't need them. Maybe I can't do that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_275.mp4 No, I'm definitely not convinced. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_277.mp4 No. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_279.mp4 Yeah, I know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_281.mp4 Yeah. I mean, yeah, it is obviously, it is first steps, but I mean, what's that? What's the first step into the pro-social life? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_283.mp4 I just know if I get a job that I hate, I just won't do it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_285.mp4 You know, I can make in an hour what I can make in a night or a week of nights. It's pretty-- You know, from where I'm from that a really-- You know, there's no decision at all, that's just like, what are you up to if you don't? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_287.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_289.mp4 "I just told myself I wouldn't this time and then Fiona said, ""You will not"" this time." change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_291.mp4 Yeah, even if it's the wrong one, yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_293.mp4 Yeah, but I'm that kinda guy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_295.mp4 "Oh no there wasn't a decision to made, I just said, ""I won't yet""." change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_297.mp4 Yeah, I said yet. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_299.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_301.mp4 I hate that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_303.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_305.mp4 Mm, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_307.mp4 And we're still no closer. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_309.mp4 But I mean yeah it's there. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_311.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_313.mp4 Oh, fuck. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_315.mp4 With anyone other than Fiona? No time at all, I'd say for about 10 hours with you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_317.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_319.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_321.mp4 Yeah, 12, nearly 13. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_323.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_325.mp4 Uh, that it-it does kinda seem exciting. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_327.mp4 It does, because it's so different. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_329.mp4 And I'm kinda over that one. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_331.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_333.mp4 Okay, I. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_335.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_337.mp4 Yeah-yeah, it does work for him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_339.mp4 Uh, ringing him. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_341.mp4 Mm, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_343.mp4 You-you know, it was a long time ago that we were inside. I just know that's what he's doing. It would be pretty odd calling but the- he'd probably be okay with it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_345.mp4 Possibility to call yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_347.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_349.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_351.mp4 Mm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_353.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_355.mp4 Well, I just have to do what I'm told. I don't know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_357.mp4 Oh, yeah, I was being, um, chipping, I mean, yeah she has more hopes than me, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_359.mp4 Um, like I do- I do but what it would take, you know, I mean, that's pretty freaking scary shit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_361.mp4 Yeah. And I would never admit to that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_363.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_365.mp4 Yeah, but my-when I made my decision to not do that yet like I was very clear I understood I know that picture. If I'm gonna make a decision to do this, I kinda need to really-really know what that is. You know, not only to talk I mean- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_367.mp4 -what is the whole plan to-to call-call up you know and say, hey bro, hey bro, uh, how did you do that? I mean, really? Is it— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_369.mp4 Yeah, like, I guess I could be wondering that too. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_371.mp4 Hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_373.mp4 There's Fiona. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_375.mp4 [unintelligible 00:26:37] getting out so what-what he did. Um, dad's only as mean. There's Fiona. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_377.mp4 Yeah, okay, uh, all right, yeah. All right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_133_379.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_1.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_3.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_5.mp4 Not really, I haven't been stressed. Uh, I've been working steady, you know, these days, I'm glad to have a job, I really am happy that I'm working, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_7.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_9.mp4 I don't smoke. I smoked, you know, as a young adult, quit 20 years ago. I went cold turkey. I was proud of that, haven't even thought about smoking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_11.mp4 Uh, I do drink beer, I drink, you know, two to three pints on weekdays, sometimes on weekends, maybe four or five. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_13.mp4 Well, I-- you know, my pressure has been high for years and, um, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_15.mp4 Maybe a little bit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_17.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_19.mp4 I don't use heroin or cocaine. I've never even thought about using the hard drugs. Back in school, 20 years or so ago, I smoked reefer, you know. Once I got out of school, I haven't used that at all. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_21.mp4 No, I don't- I don't, uh, really like the idea of taking pills. Uh, as a matter of fact, a couple of years ago, I had this jaw surgery. They gave me a prescription for Percocet. I took one, maybe feel weird. I think they're still sitting in the medicine cabinet. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_23.mp4 Well, I guess I'll try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_9_25.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_10_1.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_10_3.mp4 Well, I'm supposed to come to learn about my-- how to manage my diabetes. Just got diagnosed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_10_5.mp4 Yeah, that's what doctor said. She-she really laid into me about that. Said it was-- I guess, this is really serious stuff. She was talking about losing eyesight, mm, my feet, mm, problems with a lot of other stuff, and it really scared me. Uh, so, [sighs] you know, how-how-how to manage all this, I guess, is what I gotta learn, but it just sounds massive. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_10_7.mp4 That's, uh, that's a huge amount of stuff to do and, I'm not- I'm not certain I can do all that, and on top of it, it's-it's-- if I don't get it all done, all this stuff happens to me? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_10_9.mp4 [sighs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_10_11.mp4 Well, I-I [unintelligible 00:01:35] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_1.mp4 Uh, yeah. I just got off work, and apparently, they're going smoke-free, so I'm-- I-I thought I'd stop by the pharmacy here and see what my options are. Some of my friends have tried nicotine patches and the-- they say they don't work really well. I don't really wanna quit smoking, I just need something to get me through the day. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_3.mp4 Maybe like da-- during the day nicotine replacement. Is that-- I mean, do you have anything like that? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_5.mp4 Well, I don't really wanna quit. I mean, I like smoking. I like go-- after work, I have a beer with my friends, and I'll smoke cigarettes. I mean, it's not really a big deal. Cigarettes aren't that bad. I mean, I know that the-- it's popular to say that smoking is bad for you but, you know, I like it, so I'm gonna be doing it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_7.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_9.mp4 Okay. Well, what are my options? You know, assuming that I'm right, what are my options? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_11.mp4 Well, I mean, I s-- I-I-I smoke barely a pack a day. I mean, I've probably smoked for about five or six years now. It's not really a lot of cigarettes, but it's sort of hard to get through the day at work. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_13.mp4 Sounds good to me. The more nicotine, the better. Is it like gum or something? Could I chew it like while I'm in the office? That sounds pretty great. I mean, do you have— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_15.mp4 Oh. Okay. Well, where is that? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_17.mp4 Well, I-- [sighs] I'm probably not gonna buy anything today. I mean, I just came by to see what my options are. I-- if-- thanks for the input. I mean, do you have anything else, do you have any other advice for me? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_15_19.mp4 Oh, well. Okay. Well, thanks. I mean, I guess that helps a little bit. I'll-- maybe I'll be back later. Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_1.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_3.mp4 No, I would bum cigarettes in college, but I was never a smoker. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_5.mp4 No, not really anything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_7.mp4 Um, a few times a week. Uh, Wednesdays, I'll go to happy hour and have about two or three. And then, um, Thursdays, seven, um, seven or eight. Fridays, probably just a couple of glasses of wine with dinner. Um, but Saturdays are bigger night. And I would probably have a few drinks before I went to the bar. And then have four or five at when-when I was out. So— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_9.mp4 I guess, it sounds like a lot when you say [chuckles] like that. But yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_11.mp4 No. I-I smoked weed in college, but just a little bit. I wasn't a regular smoker. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_13.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_15.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_17.mp4 That's a lot to change. I don't know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_19.mp4 I mean, the stairs were really steep. So— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_21.mp4 Where are these limits from? Um, old- an older population? Because, uh, I drink just as much as my friends do. I mean, everybody drinks like I drink. I'm not even the biggest drinker in my group. So I'm pretty middle of the road. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_25.mp4 I don't know. It's what we do. It's-- this is how we have fun, I guess. It is fun. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_27.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_17_29.mp4 Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah, I de-I definitely don't wanna come back here. But, uh, the doc said Oscar, my dog, is connected to my asthma symptoms. But the- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_3.mp4 -ridiculous part is I've had him for 12 years before, and now it's a problem. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_5.mp4 Yeah, but I-- Um, let me just clarify, I've seen the materials, I have them- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_7.mp4 -I have even read them. All I've been doing is taking the medicine. So, I don't know that much about this. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_9.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_11.mp4 John Carlo, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_15.mp4 Uh, this is a little too much for me now. First of all, John Carlo is taken care of. That's fine. He doesn't have- no asthma from the dog. It's just me. I don't ha— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_17.mp4 "So, Oscar is gonna make me die? He hasn't made me die in 12 years, and the doctor is saying, ""Oh, I don't know if it's the stress, the finances, the drinking."" So, what are we doing saying Oscar could make me die? I've had him for 12 years." sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_19.mp4 Well, they can keep giving me more medicine and give me the strongest one, and I'll keep Oscar. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_27_21.mp4 I understand, but I don't think you get my situation. I've had this dog for 12 years. So, I'm not just gonna up and get him out of my house when I don't even know if that's the main thing. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_32_1.mp4 I-I guess, uh, I don't really remember much. I like it was a week ago, so I was kind of drunk too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_32_3.mp4 Hmm. I mean, not really. I'm gonna be 21 in a couple of months. Um, once I turn 21, the cops can't give me a minor and I mean, I'm not a heavy drinker, like-like my friends or anything. I don't get wasted at all. And, uh, I just need to be careful. I just won't get caught. I'm just trying to find, like, a normal college student. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_32_5.mp4 Whatever, I-I didn't though. I called my roommates for a ride. He was sleepy. So I had to get home somehow. And this isn't even my fault. I give him rides all the time, but I didn't do anything. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_32_7.mp4 No-no. Like I said, this isn't even my fault. Like, are we done here? I have class in 15 minutes. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_32_9.mp4 Look, I really like going on the [unintelligible 00:02:29] and I get what you're saying. You, you're making some really good points and I'll think about them. Okay? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_32_11.mp4 $150, are you serious? I can't pay that. All right, I'm done with this. I'm over it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_1.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_3.mp4 Uh, well, my name is Andrea, as you know, I'm, uh, in the marching band. I play the tenor sax. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_5.mp4 Yeah. I'm involved in music. So I'm also in the jazz band, the wind ensemble, and um, yeah, that's about— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_7.mp4 I'm an IB student. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_9.mp4 Well, saxophone. I started about four years ago, but I've been involved in music for about 10 years now, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_11.mp4 I started off on the violin first. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_13.mp4 So I played that for like six years, once a clarinet, dabbled here and there with different things. And then I found the one- the one for me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_15.mp4 Yeah, the tenor sax. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_17.mp4 Marching band since freshman year. So like three years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_19.mp4 It's fun. It's a- it's a lot of work, long summers taught, but it's fun. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_21.mp4 Oh, I really like the-the group setting. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_23.mp4 You know, getting to work with my other classmates and things like that. And putting on this entire show- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_25.mp4 -it's very exciting, very exhilarating once you're in competition. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_27.mp4 It's very cool. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_29.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_31.mp4 I have, um, you know, I have two-two separate groups. I have my friends from class and then my friends from bra-- from band. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_33.mp4 So. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_35.mp4 Oh, well I have one brother he's older than me, about nine years older than me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_37.mp4 And, uh, my parents and my dog. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_39.mp4 He's a golden retriever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_41.mp4 Charlie. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_43.mp4 He's a big boy. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_45.mp4 Yeah. He's about eight years old now. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_47.mp4 Uh, well, I'm planning on going to school. I'd like to become a doctor one day, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_49.mp4 I'm interested in psychology, psychiatry, something like that, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_51.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_53.mp4 Yeah, psychology, I haven't really thought too about which school, I mean, I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_55.mp4 Everyone wants to shoot for the Ivy leagues, so [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_57.mp4 Uh, they're pretty good, you know, high three-point somethings. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_59.mp4 Uh, I usually go out with my friends. Uh, we'll go to the movies or we'll most likely we'll just meet up at someone's house- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_61.mp4 -and just hang out and things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_63.mp4 Sometimes, [chuckles] I'm gonna be honest sometimes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_65.mp4 Um, depending on how much schoolwork there is When there's not, it might be like every other weekend or like three weekends out of the month or something like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_67.mp4 A little, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_69.mp4 Um, I don't, we don't get blackout drunk or anything. It's more of like a little tipsy kind of thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_71.mp4 I have gotten blackout drunk before- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_73.mp4 -but I kind of did that, learned my lesson, didn't like it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_75.mp4 Like how many drinks? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_77.mp4 Um, it was a good amount. It was the first time I ever drank and it was like three or four cups, but it was mixing different things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_79.mp4 So, I'm not-- Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_81.mp4 Yeah. Yes. Not all of them, but some of them do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_83.mp4 More or less the same amount. So right now the most we'll have is maybe like one cup after that one time, but sometimes one or two, but they can be kind of heavy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_85.mp4 Oh, it's a red, you know, typical. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_87.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_89.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_91.mp4 A little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_93.mp4 Not too much, to be honest. I-I've always thought since it's, you know, within my small group of friends- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_95.mp4 -and we usually sleep over each other's house, we don't get into the problems of drinking and driving, and possibly sexual assaults and things like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_97.mp4 But I haven't really thought about possible alcoholism or anything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_99.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_101.mp4 Yeah, I think I could. I don't need it. For instance, it-it is-- it is used as a kind of, like, let's get the party going. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_103.mp4 But we haven't always had it- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_105.mp4 -obviously. So, I think it would be possible to stop drinking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_107.mp4 "Um, I would probably start off by like, because my friends are also involved, so I'd be like, ""Hey, guys, I don't think I'm gonna drink today.""" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_109.mp4 And kind of see how that goes. Because— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_111.mp4 Yeah. It's, you know, it's one thing to control my own drinking, and it's another thing when everyone else around me is drinking and then there's like that pressure- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_113.mp4 "-of, ""Oh, they're gonna think I look stupid.""" sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_115.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_117.mp4 My close ones, I know they wouldn't be, you know, have a problem with that. But the ones that I'm not that close with, but I'll still like hang out with- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_119.mp4 -those are probably the ones that like might ostracize me for something or. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_121.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_123.mp4 Probably, might be too judgmental. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_125.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_127.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_129.mp4 Um, I think-- I think the possibility. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_131.mp4 I think if you make a good plan, like I think I'd be able to follow through with it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_133.mp4 Yeah. I think I can do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_135.mp4 Um, not-not really. The ones that drink more are the ones like my class friends. My band friends, we’re focused on band- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_137.mp4 -so I can't really— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_139.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_141.mp4 Not too much, to be honest. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_143.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_145.mp4 "Um, what should I-- uh, yeah, I do. So what should I say like once, let's say, I hang out with my friends and they're like, ""Hey, why aren't you- why aren't you drinking?""" change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_147.mp4 Like how should I go about that situation? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_149.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_151.mp4 Mm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_153.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_155.mp4 And-and you know, like professional life as well. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_157.mp4 I don't want that biting me in the butt, [chuckles] in the back. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_159.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_161.mp4 I think I can do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_163.mp4 It'd be easier as-- You know, as a group we-we all work together to become better. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_165.mp4 No. I think- I think I'm good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_167.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_169.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_44_171.mp4 Sound good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_1.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_3.mp4 Okay. Um, my name is Laura and I'm 17 and I'm a senior in high school. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_5.mp4 Um, mostly just hang out with my friends and stuff on the weekends, things like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_7.mp4 Uh, yeah, if it's school-related, maybe like a game or two, or go to the mall, like, to shop or go to the movies or something, and at night, maybe like a party or something if someone's throwing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_9.mp4 Um, I like to read and I like to go outside and, like, take walks and, like, hike and stuff. I'm very outdoorsy, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_11.mp4 Well, I plan to apply to college and maybe, you know, have a good career and something like that, hopefully. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_13.mp4 Well, I'm-I'm looking at the journalism, maybe pre-law. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_15.mp4 -which is a little different, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_17.mp4 Yeah. Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_19.mp4 Yeah, I'm doing okay. I'm getting mostly A's and B's, so I'm pretty good, I'm okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_21.mp4 Um, I think all my grades are A's and B's, so, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_23.mp4 Um, I'm not sure yet, but I'm looking into schools like in the area, so maybe, I don't know, maybe I'll leave home or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_25.mp4 Um, well, I'm definitely not a math or science person, so I started off by there that I started looking at careers that maybe I would like. So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_27.mp4 Um, not really. Maybe one or two drinks at a party at the most. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_29.mp4 Um, maybe like once or twice a month at the most. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_31.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_33.mp4 Possibly, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_35.mp4 Yeah, I guess you can say that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_37.mp4 Um, just two drinks at a party at the most. I don't-- I don't like to drink a lot. I don't-- Getting drunk is not something that appeals to me. So, I just have, like, a drink in my hand, so my friends won't bug me about not drinking. It's just like to look like I'm actually doing something. Most of- a lot of the time, I don't even drink at all. So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_39.mp4 Um, no, not really, maybe tipsy, but not like drunk. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_41.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_43.mp4 Um, yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_45.mp4 No, I have drunk-driven and never got in a car with a drunk driver. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_47.mp4 Um, I mean, I have some friends that drink some more than others, like, my close group of friends don't really drink as much because I'm not really interested in that, but I know that there are people that drink a lot more. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_49.mp4 Yeah. There are kids that drink a lot more than I do. Definitely, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_51.mp4 Not really closely, like, I know who they are and I'll say hi, but not-- They're not really, like, close friends of mine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_53.mp4 Um, yeah. That makes sense. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_55.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_57.mp4 Yeah, yeah, I have. That's, uh, one of the main reasons that I don't like to drink that much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_59.mp4 So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_61.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_63.mp4 Yeah. Definitely, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_65.mp4 Um, yeah, I mean, I guess it's the thing to do at a party, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_67.mp4 Um, definitely not. That's why I don't try to drink that much. Just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_69.mp4 -make it look like I am, kind of. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_71.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_73.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_75.mp4 I definitely agree. I know that there are some other risks involved in alcohol, they are the ones you mentioned, like, health-wise and things like that, so, I agree that alcohol may not be the best thing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_77.mp4 Um, yeah, I mean, it's not, like, a really big part of my life, so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_79.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_81.mp4 Yeah, yeah, definitely. I'll just not have a drink. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_83.mp4 Um, I really can't control what they do, but I'll definitely try to get my closest friends to maybe stop like I will. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_85.mp4 Well, then, I guess, I'll just try to hang around them less or something. I'll try to find things for us to do that don't involve alcohol like a party or anything. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_87.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_89.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_91.mp4 Okay, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_93.mp4 Okay, yeah, definitely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_95.mp4 They would be pretty upset. Yeah. They don't really condone alcohol use. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_97.mp4 So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_99.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_101.mp4 Um, no, no. I think I'm good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_103.mp4 Uh, no. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_105.mp4 I have no questions. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_53_107.mp4 Okay, thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_1.mp4 Yeah? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_3.mp4 Uh, I talked with my doctor about my medicine. That's his job. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_5.mp4 Well, to be honest with you, I'm not even certain I'm going to take the medicine. Now, I know I got high cholesterol, I've got to get that down, but on the other hand, this medicine can cause some severe muscle weakness and I just can't afford that. I'm a truck driver and I haul those heavy boxes in on the dollies and I just can't afford that, so you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_7.mp4 Yeah, down the line, but- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_9.mp4 Well, right now it's the muscle weakness that-that I'm concerned about, and that's, uh, you know, that's the present, uh, I've got to do my job. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_11.mp4 Well, you know- why don't you just give me the medicine, I'll take it home and I'll think about it? But you know, I'm worried about my job. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_13.mp4 Sure. Fine. Just— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_15.mp4 Whatever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_57_17.mp4 Okay, sure. Fine. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_59_1.mp4 Well, it was raining. I didn't want my science fair project to get wet. I knew my parents were— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_59_3.mp4 It really wasn't that big of a deal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_59_5.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_69_1.mp4 I'm sorry, but are you the pharmacist? I just had a question about citalopram. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_69_3.mp4 Okay, but I just wanted to know if it interacts with phenelzine? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_69_5.mp4 Okay, thanks for that. I have an appointment to run to. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_1.mp4 Right. Actually, I do want to speak to you about something that happened during this past weekend. Usually, as, you know, I'm, um, I'm an honor student. I-I usually I'm studying over the weekend and my parents don't let me go out to parties, but I kind of use that to my advantage, to convince my parents to go to this party that my friends were pressuring me to go to. And when I- when I got there, like I'm not used to this like party environment where everything you see in the movies is kind of what happens, where you have people just drinking out of the bottle- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_3.mp4 -or playing random games with alcohol, just to get drunk for no reason. And because I was there in the moment, I felt pressured to do and like conform to what everyone else was doing. So I wouldn't be- I wouldn't be ostracized. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_5.mp4 I understand. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_7.mp4 Okay. Um, I know that it's bad for me. It's-it's bad for my body. It's bad for-for-for-for being on the team, for being an athlete. It hinders my performance. Just, I don't know. I-I feel that my-my friends pressure me. I don't know. I feel I should like go with different friend groups. Maybe. I don't know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_9.mp4 I don't know, like being in a sports team, y-you feel very, you have to like be unified with the group. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_11.mp4 Right. And as being one of the leaders, my fellow teammates expect me to be-- I expect them to lead not only in the sports but also in social environments. And if that's a social- that's a social custom in our society. So it's like— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_13.mp4 I could, but that could also backfire on me. I feel that I could be ridiculed for being, having a stick up my butt, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_15.mp4 I mean, it's just one-- I'm just one person against the voice of the mob. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_17.mp4 I understand. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_19.mp4 Well, I'll dedicate the time, not to party and night. Well, not-not-not party, but, you know, get involved with alcohol to that extent. And like, have it publicized on the internet. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_21.mp4 Like on Facebook, all the pictures that you saw on the internet. Like I w- I will avoid those situations where I have to go to a party where I feel pressured to actually drink alcohol and allow what I do in my own private time to put on the internet so others can see, even though. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_23.mp4 Right. I'll stop. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_25.mp4 I promise. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_27.mp4 Shake. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_72_29.mp4 See you later. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_1.mp4 I'm doing all right. How are you? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_3.mp4 Oh, I got my lip pierced. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_5.mp4 Why? I don't know. I wanted a change and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_7.mp4 -it seems kind of cool neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_9.mp4 Well, I mean, nobody needs a piercing, I wanted one. It was a- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_11.mp4 -nice change. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_13.mp4 Oh, I mean, it's my lip that's pierced, not my teeth. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_74_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_1.mp4 Um, I mean, it was just the, like a social gathering. It wasn't like I was looking for it, uh, the drinks were there and I-- all my friends were doing it and it was just-- it's-it's not something that I like do occa- on occasion, but whenever the opportunity presents itself, it-it's nice to just let loose and have a little bit of fun sometimes. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_3.mp4 I-I get what you're coming from, but I-I-I really did. I-I thought that I had it under control and I didn't let myself get too far gone. I-I didn't want to be, um, how do I put this? Like, I want it to be in control and I wanted to make sure that all my friends were okay, so I didn't let myself drink too much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_5.mp4 Yeah. I-I understand exactly what you're saying. And— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_7.mp4 I-I don't think I'm drinking that much. I mean, it's-it's mainly for social gatherings. Like it's nothing that I do, like by myself or whatever. It's just the— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_9.mp4 Every other weekends, I would say. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_11.mp4 Um, I-I guess I can. I-I can probably be more productive in my schoolwork and rather than going out to parties as much and I-I do get you're coming from and— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_13.mp4 Yeah, I guess I haven't really put it on myself. I guess it's really been forced on their account. And I've just been following in their footsteps just to-- just because it seems like what they're doing is a lot of fun. And I just want to make sure that I'm getting every bit of the high school experience that I can. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_15.mp4 Mm. Yeah. I-I-I do see that maybe me drinking not as much would possibly better my life to-to a certain degree. And I-- it does make a lot of sense. And I-I guess I can put more effort into sort of lowering the level of drinking that— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_17.mp4 Yeah. I mean, alcohol is just so prevalent in our society and it's just around me, wherever I go and parties and stuff that. I-I kind of feel like I should just, uh, get used to it or at least understand its, uh, its effects before I should let it get out of my life entirely. I don't- I don't really see it as something that will completely destroy my life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_19.mp4 Yeah. I-I-I just-- I don't see the problem in it right now and maybe it's because I haven't really had that traumatic of an experience but I'm— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_90_21.mp4 You're-you're right. I-I don't want- I don't wanna be too far gone before it's too late. Like I-I can imagine something possibly happening where it's to a degree where I can't escape. And I-I guess I've never really had any-any real experience where the alcohol has really affected me that much or affected anybody close to me that much. So I guess it's something that I feel like I'm control of, but in reality, I might not have as much control as I think. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_92_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_92_3.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_92_5.mp4 Well, I did a research on the chronic inhaler, and I saw that there were steroids in it, and I do not want my daughter taking steroids. I read about all the side effects of steroids and all the potential health problems. I don't want her taking them, and I just want to tell you right up front, I do not want to hear anything about the fact that I do smoke. Um, I smoke outside, I smoke away from her. I do not ever do it around her. So I do not want to hear about that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_92_7.mp4 Okay, I-I am not going to allow her to take any kind of steroid. I am not going to allow that to happen. She's my daughter. She's my responsibility, and I'm not going to allow that to happen, and I absolutely make sure that the smoking does not affect her. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_92_9.mp4 Fine. I'm in a really big hurry, and I need to get those prescriptions filled as soon as possible, please. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_92_11.mp4 Fine. I just need to get my prescriptions. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_1.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_3.mp4 Well, [sighs] I've been thinking about working out lately. I really want to start working out again. It's-it's been in my mind, I know I need to do it. It's just getting the motivation to do it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_5.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_7.mp4 Well, I don't know if I'm really being lazy about it. I think it's just that I have a busy schedule. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_9.mp4 I just need to find the time to do it. And, yes, I might be lacking a little bit of motivation, but I think it's more timing and trying to fit it in. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_11.mp4 But I think that part of the problem is that I-I don't have three to four times- three to four times a week to do it, or an hour even. I mean, hour is a long time because if I'm working out for an hour that means I'm leaving home to get there- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_13.mp4 -time there, time back. I mean, it's not just an hour, it's like two hours, realistically. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_15.mp4 Well, oh, um, okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_102_17.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_1.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_3.mp4 Yeah, it's pretty stressful for both of us. He gets really upset. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_5.mp4 Yeah, I-- Yeah, I do smoke, but I don't smoke around him. I try really hard not to smoke around him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_7.mp4 I-I don't know. I mean, I try really hard not to smoke around him. I don't smoke in the car. Um, when he's home, I go outside to smoke. I just-- I mean, I know it's bad, and I know it's bad for him, so I don't want him to be around it so I try really hard. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_9.mp4 No, but I don't smoke. I'm-- I-I-I've thought about quitting, but it's just- It's really hard so I just don't know how to do it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_11.mp4 I know, I know. I've heard-- People have told me before, I've heard all that. I just don't know how to do it. How am I supposed to quit? It's-it's so hard. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_13.mp4 I just don't have time for any of that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_15.mp4 I understand that. I know it is. I mean, everybody has problems, right? It's just really-- It's really, really hard. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_17.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_19.mp4 I'll-I'll-I'll go look at all those things and-and I'll find-- I guess I'll-I'll try to find something, and-and I'll talk to my doctor about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_106_21.mp4 Okay, whatever. Okay. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_1.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_5.mp4 Oh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_7.mp4 Gonna get that again. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_9.mp4 I do all the above, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_13.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_15.mp4 Okay. Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_17.mp4 I've heard it all. I-- but I just want to get my teeth fixed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_19.mp4 I did a pill thing, so I did try it. So like, I did try try it. I just did the pills and they didn't work. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_21.mp4 It was a waste and it caused more side effects sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_23.mp4 Or seven lectures along the road. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_25.mp4 No. No, I just feel that way. I get really-- I get very defensive about when they bring-- cause I get it from my family doc, from my cardiologist, everybody. I'm like, I'm not a complete fool. I am for smoking, but— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_27.mp4 -but it's not easy to quit. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_29.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_31.mp4 I guess I got to really want to and-- things I've tried usually caused me more problems than they helped. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_33.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_35.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_37.mp4 Okay. Well, can I go now? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_39.mp4 I-I-I know it, I know- I know, doc, what you're trying to-- but I just don't want to get into that right now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_41.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_43.mp4 I appreciate your care. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_115_45.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_1.mp4 Well, I've got myself all worked up now I've been sat outside. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_3.mp4 I'm not-- I'm now late. I'm sorry. Um, I've come to see you because I've got a really sore throat. It's been like this for a good few days, um, and I think I need some more antibiotics. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_5.mp4 Ah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_7.mp4 I've been sat here for half an hour. Do you not want to know a little bit more about it, or? I mean, it- it's really painful. I- I've barely been able to swallow today and I'm so worried about passing things on to the kids. Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_9.mp4 [sighs] Well, I mean, this is gonna affect my job. I talk on the phone quite a lot at work, and I'm just-- I don't think at the moment I'm going to be able to go to work. Can- can I, at least, get a sick note? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_11.mp4 Well, I don't think my employer are gonna take that. I mean, they- they've given us so much hassle at things in the past. I mean, can- can I get a private note? Can- can I ask you to write me a letter, at least? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_13.mp4 Just- it's just not good enough. I just-- [sighs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_15.mp4 Parace- paracetamol. Do you understand how difficult this is gonna be for me? I mean, I could lose my job or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_17.mp4 I'm sorry, uh, I think I'm gonna say something that I don't- I don't want to, so I'm actually going to go. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_118_19.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_1.mp4 That's great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_3.mp4 I don't smoke cigarettes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_5.mp4 Well, the only thing-- I've never smoked cigarettes ever, um, but, um, when, um, when I go out with my friends, um, we like to go to, you know, we like to go out to lounges. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_7.mp4 And, um, you know, sometimes they're those- those, uh, nice young men that gift you different sorts of things. And we got some of those mini cigars that are Swisher sweets, they come in peach and-and grape and-and, you know, that's the only time that really, you know, I've ever really used anything that-that's got tobacco in it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_9.mp4 Really? Bad? But they're just little, mini, little, cute little girly cigars. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_11.mp4 Well, I only use them just to relax. I mean, it's not like it's something that I would smoke 20 or 30 cigarettes a day, I mean, I only do it when we go out. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_13.mp4 Well, I didn't really know I'd started. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_15.mp4 I didn't really think that it was anything more than just like social drinking, just something that I do in a social setting when me and my friends go out to the bars. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_17.mp4 Uh, maybe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_19.mp4 Well, it's something that I'll have to think about. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_21.mp4 Well, it's just something that I do to relax, and I don't do it that often. And so I probably could cut back. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_23.mp4 Well, I don't believe that they are cigars. And what I do believe is that it's a choice and it's my right, and it's something that I choose to do. And so I will think about cutting back, but I'm not at a point where I'm ready to do that. And I'm not really sure that I even believe that what you're telling me is real. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_123_25.mp4 Well, it's something that I'll think about. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_1.mp4 Yeah. My doctor said he called something in. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_3.mp4 No, not really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_5.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_7.mp4 Okay. Um, why am I taking this medication? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_9.mp4 No, I guess not. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_12.mp4 Yeah. My doctor said he called something in. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_14.mp4 No, not really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_16.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_18.mp4 Okay. Um, so why am I taking this medication? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_20.mp4 I guess not. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_23.mp4 Sure. I'm just getting a few groceries. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_25.mp4 Well, he told me that I had a blood test for cholesterol, and that I should start taking this. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_27.mp4 He didn't really tell me. He just phoned it in. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_29.mp4 Well, I take all of my other medications right before I go to bed. So I guess I could take it then. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_31.mp4 I store my medications, uh, in my nightstand, right by my bed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_33.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_35.mp4 He didn't mention anything about that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_38.mp4 Sure. I'm just gonna take one tablet right before I go to bed with my other medications. And I guess I will switched to orange juice. And if I notice any muscle pain that is severe, I'll call Dr. Ferris right away. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_40.mp4 Uh, I think you answered all my questions. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_43.mp4 Sure. I'm just getting a few groceries. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_45.mp4 He told me that I had a blood test for cholesterol so that I should start taking this medication. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_47.mp4 He didn't tell me, he just phoned it in. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_49.mp4 I take all my other medications right before I go to bed. So I guess I could take it then. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_52.mp4 I store them all in the nightstand by my bed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_54.mp4 No. I don't have any kids. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_57.mp4 He didn't mention anything about that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_60.mp4 Sure. I'm just gonna take one tablet of the cholesterol statin, uh, in the evening with all my other medications. And I guess I'll switch to orange juice. And if I notice any bad muscle pains, then I'll be sure to call Dr. Ferris right away. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_126_62.mp4 I think you answered all my questions. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_0.mp4 Wow. I can't believe he fell asleep after all of that crying, poor guy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_2.mp4 Well, you're right. I-I did quit smoking when I was pregnant, but actually, um, a couple of weeks ago, I went out, my mom was able to take Jake for the night and my friends they were having a birthday party and we had a couple of glasses of wine and it felt like old times. So before I knew it, I was out having a cigarette with them. And since then I've been having a couple of cigarettes a day, you know, just at the end of the day after I put Jake to bed. But that sounds like it has nothing to do with what you're talking about, right? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_4.mp4 Well, I had no idea that it was such a big deal. I-I didn't think it would have anything to do with Jake getting sick or, you know, hurting him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_6.mp4 Well, you know, I-I was doing perfectly well. It was just when I went out with my friends and, you know, usually, I'm fine with the cravings. It's just when I have a glass of wine at the end of the day. And if I have more than two or three, I just get that craving for a cigarette. And if I have cigarettes in the house, it just happens. You know, I'm doing pretty good. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_8.mp4 Okay. Um, well, yeah, I-I guess I can throw the cigarettes. And tomorrow night when I have my glass of wine, I'll-I'll just try to avoid that craving. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_10.mp4 Only a couple of drinks a night. You know, it's pretty rare if I have anything more than that. It's just my way of relaxing at the end of the day. It's been so stressful since Jake came along. It's just how I fall asleep at the end of the night. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_12.mp4 Well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_14.mp4 I guess about- I have about a half a glass a night and maybe two. Very rarely I'll have more than that. You know, it just helps me kind of relax. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_16.mp4 I didn't know it was such a big deal. I-I never thought that there would be any impacts on Jake because of it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_18.mp4 I guess I'll do the same thing. I'll go home and throw out the bottles of wine and stop having a glass at the end of the day. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_130_20.mp4 Okay, I'll try my best. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_1.mp4 Good morning. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_3.mp4 Well, I need some medication if you can offer me some. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_5.mp4 And, uh, whatever else you can do just to get me to go smoke-free. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_7.mp4 It's, uh, just these days-- I think these days I'm-I'm finding that, um, I'm smoking 20, 30 a day, I'm getting sick of it. It's, you know, I've seen my friends have stopped smoking too and it's kind of they're looking at me weird these days like I'm the only one left who's still smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_9.mp4 Especially the other night I was at the restaurant, it was a bit-- you know, it was a bit embarrassing I'm the only one walk walking out. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_11.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_13.mp4 Um, it's expensive these days. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_15.mp4 It's-it's about-- Um, I'll buy and go through a pack a day, so it's almost £7. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_17.mp4 £7 a day today, so- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_19.mp4 -you're talking about £40, uh— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_21.mp4 £50 a week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_27.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_29.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_31.mp4 Well, what you do-- What do you suggest? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_33.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_35.mp4 Um, it's just entertainment. Something, um, when I bored, it's got-- I've got-- I smoke- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_37.mp4 -or sometimes I go out, but as I said, I'm the only one kind of outside. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_39.mp4 The-- Um, it takes away a lot of my stresses. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_41.mp4 Just, uh, when I- when I go down, uh, for-for a break at work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_43.mp4 I never go down, I just need a break away from it all, just shut off. So, uh, I-I really enjoyed that. The cigarette just helps me calm down. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_45.mp4 It's definitely the one at the end of the evening. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_47.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_51.mp4 I guess, um, I'll just- I'll just have, you know, some fresh air as well, but this time without a cigarette in my hand but to try and give myself regular breaks maybe, I don't know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_53.mp4 It's one of those tough things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_55.mp4 I've managed for a couple of weeks. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_57.mp4 It was, um-- To be honest, it was stress from an argument with my partner I remember. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_59.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_61.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_63.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_65.mp4 I guess, um, at the weekend I've got a party coming up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_67.mp4 So, uh, maybe Monday morning. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_71.mp4 Yeah. I'm thinking, um, one of these patches. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_73.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_75.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_77.mp4 I just get irritable. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_79.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_81.mp4 Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_83.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_85.mp4 Yeah, absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_87.mp4 Well, definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_131_89.mp4 A nice phone call. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_124.mp4 No, no. It is an individual but you're right. Yeah. It's— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_126.mp4 But here's the thing is— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_128.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_130.mp4 The thing is after, you know, after the 9/11 attacks, a lot of companies have blindly implemented, you know, those types of situa- and-and there's no- there isn't, at this point-- I mean, I don't think, at this point, there is no real sure fire way to find out what those reports are, you know, accurate or not. I mean, there's a lot of situations where people's reports are not even accurate about their criminal background. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_132.mp4 I think that- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_134.mp4 -blindly, people have implemented those types of, um, measures and they don't have any efficiency with them because they don't- you know, I mean, everybody is offering background checks now and stuff like that. And I'm- that's one of the things that I'm afraid of is that people are implementing all these security security measures, but they don't really know if the reports are even accurate, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_136.mp4 I have. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_138.mp4 Yeah, I do. I have one and, uh, um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_140.mp4 Right, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_142.mp4 Yeah. Thank you. I don't know. I'm just, I guess- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_144.mp4 -what I'm really— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_146.mp4 Yeah, I'm really here because I think I'm- I-I- It's a very dangerous area for me when I'm discouraged because- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_148.mp4 -you know, all the- despite all the good things that I have going for me, the only thing that's loud and clear are the things that I don't have going for me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_150.mp4 If that makes any sense. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_152.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_154.mp4 Yeah, yeah, I am. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_156.mp4 Oh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_158.mp4 Very interesting. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_160.mp4 Yeah, again, it's like who you know, right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_162.mp4 I know that- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_164.mp4 Yeah, well, I think that's what I got. That's what I am doing. That's what I'm sort of involved with now is like, you know, find, um, you know, I'm still continuing to go to school, but I'm also starting, um, work for myself. Um, you know, it's not no Fortune 500 company or anything, but I do have a little bit of income coming in from that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_166.mp4 Um, it-it, uh, you know, it will all come together. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_168.mp4 You know what? Actually, one of the things is that I read is that is that's one of the things you gotta do is just, uh, start your own business. You know what I mean? Uh, you don't have to report to anybody. I mean, obviously, I can't work with, um-- unless I get a waiver I can't work with, like, I think the law says I can't work with kids or, um, like a hazmat stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_170.mp4 Like truck driving and stuff like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_172.mp4 Uh, but that doesn't matter to me. You know what I- you know, I'm kind of- I'm trying to look at the things that I can do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_174.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_176.mp4 No, it's, um, uh, like a party planning event, you know, like a wedding planning, not like a wedding planner, but like— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_178.mp4 Like, you know, like corporate events when they have, you know, like an event, you know, they need- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_180.mp4 -you know, they need chauffeured transportation, limos, they need that type of thing. I, um, I'm involved in the planning of the transportation from airports, uh, hotel arrangements, um, uh, booking of, uh, you know, the rooms. It's just, I guess just an event planner, but it's not through any sort of corporate, um, uh, company [unintelligible 00:19:40]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_182.mp4 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I'm trying to get— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_184.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_186.mp4 I don't know about that, but, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_188.mp4 Yeah, I think that's my only, uh, uh, I know it's not my only- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_190.mp4 -but it's-it's- it's a good, It's a good opportunity to, um, kind of work for myself. I would love to just be able to work for myself, you know? Um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_192.mp4 I am, I am comfortable with it and I do well. I do well at-at, you know, the few opportunities I've had to organize something like that. Um, it's okay. You know, um, at least I'm still going to school though, you know I'm going to be done with that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_194.mp4 I don't want to act out, you know, I mean, I'm, you know, I think I have- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_196.mp4 Well, you know, I dunno, um, going back to a lifestyle, you know, crime or, um, using, or you know, just destructive behavior- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_198.mp4 -and sort of destructive behavior. I don't wanna be destructive. I wanna be productive, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_200.mp4 Like I am now, but it's-it's starting to get-- Like I said, I mean, I wouldn't have come in here if things were just peachy keen, you know what I mean? It sucks. And I'm getting sick of, you know, rejection and it's like almost, it makes me think like, why am I even going to school? You know? Should I just drop out and just, you know, get jobs that are, you know, I mean, that's not enough, that's not a viable option for me either.You know, I just, I don't, I wanna make sure that I'm centered here so that I can go out there and do the best I can with maintaining composure, and then trying to get ahead. But if I'm not okay here, here, you know, I just, I don't think that I have, I don't stand a chance, you know? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_202.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I just recently had one of those where I was gonna be offered. I- he-- I think he was-- I'm pretty sure he was offering him a really good job. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_204.mp4 And, uh, it was an interview given to me by my brother, you know, who knew the guy. And, um, it went great until he gave me the paperwork to sign for a background check. And I said, well, you know, I'll sign it, but I just wanna let you know that this is what you're gonna find. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_206.mp4 No, he did. He said, you know, don't say anything until, you know-- I don't know if I know what he said. I think he said that he's not sure if they do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_208.mp4 He said, just go ahead and give it a shot anyway, you know, and, um, I just, I figured I'd just give her a shot, but I think I like your, I think to spare myself some, uh, frustration and further agony- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_210.mp4 "-I think that I might try that. I think I might try, you know, from now on you know, uh, finding like a tactful way of asking, you know, I don't wanna be blunt about it and go you know, ""Do you hire criminals?"" or anything. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_212.mp4 I'm a former criminal though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_214.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_216.mp4 Right. So, I know that I am a new guy, but, uh, they don't, you know, so I think society's a lot less forgiving. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_218.mp4 And individuals, and um, so I think I'm gonna try-- I think that's a really good idea is to kind of like weed out, you know, but how do you say that? You know. How-how do you possibly tell somebody, you know, how do you- how do you get that out there before you go in? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_220.mp4 Hmm. Seems, uh, sort of forward, you know, but I-I think that it's probably better if I do tell them so I don't waste my time and hope. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_222.mp4 You know, yeah. I think I'm gonna try that from now on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_224.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_226.mp4 Yeah. I mean the interview process- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_228.mp4 -itself, no, I don't think I ever- yeah. No, I-I mean, I don't believe that I have a problem with the actual interview process. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_230.mp4 Yeah. It's been a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_232.mp4 Been a lot, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_234.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_236.mp4 I have heard of it. I haven't- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_238.mp4 -looked into it yet, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_240.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_242.mp4 Yeah. I know. I-I've done some research on it for school. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_244.mp4 And, uh, it turns out it's a big cause of the recidivism rate. You know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_246.mp4 -as far as people going back- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_248.mp4 -to what they know, and, uh, and it's, uh, there is prejud- uh, prejudicial motivation, uh, and there is— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_250.mp4 It's really frustrating. I know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_252.mp4 I think that- I think- I think ignorance is what really— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_254.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_258.mp4 Yeah, exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_260.mp4 You know, I know there's-there's just a lot of- a lot of bullshit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_262.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_264.mp4 Yeah, to figure out [unintelligible 00:27:30] anyway, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_266.mp4 Yeah. I-I, you know, I, you know, like I said, I wanna make sure I come back and, um, kind of get my, um, you know, my overall mental health- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_268.mp4 -you know, um, I wouldn't say stable because I'm not that unstable. I just— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_270.mp4 It has affected it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_272.mp4 Yeah, rejection. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_274.mp4 So, I just wanna make sure that I'm okay. So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_276.mp4 -I'll be back and we can, you know, we can discuss it further if you have any information and I'll share whatever I've got. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_278.mp4 Well, thanks for the suggestions. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_280.mp4 No problem. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_282.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_3.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_5.mp4 I drink wine- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_7.mp4 -mostly. Um, I go down to the little pub down the street. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_9.mp4 Have a few glasses of wine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_11.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_13.mp4 Hmm, for four times a week probably. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_15.mp4 Three to four, five. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_17.mp4 Maybe if it's on a weekend, maybe six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_19.mp4 Over a long-- over a period of time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_21.mp4 Are you serious? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_23.mp4 Seven drinks in a week doesn't seem like that much? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_25.mp4 Yeah, and I-I didn't think it was much, but that makes it look like I'm drinking way too much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_27.mp4 Well, I know my drinking has increased a little since I got divorced and moved to Portland, but I-I don't think it's that much of a problem. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_29.mp4 No, not really. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_31.mp4 I didn't realize that drinking had anything to do with blood pressure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_33.mp4 Oh, well. Well, then I guess that could be a problem. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_35.mp4 I guess I can cut down some. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_37.mp4 I'd probably a 6. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_39.mp4 Well, I didn't realize that drinking was related to my blood pressure problems. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_41.mp4 And I did fall earlier this year on my home from the bar and hurt my shoulder. I don't think the drinking made me fall, but it probably didn't help the situation. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_43.mp4 And though my son keeps telling me that I'm drinking too much, and it's scary to think that my drinking is harmful. It's a big word. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_45.mp4 Sounds like it to me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_47.mp4 I think I can try to do that, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_49.mp4 I guess I could use those numbers, and I can't make any promises, but I could try to drink less than three in a night and less than seven in a week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_51.mp4 That mean I can only drink two or three times a week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_53.mp4 Like I can try that, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_55.mp4 I don't think I need to quit, but I think I can try to cut down. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_57.mp4 That's what I'll shoot for. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_59.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_61.mp4 Sounds good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_101_63.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_1.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_3.mp4 Yes, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_5.mp4 Well, I didn't do anything yet. I didn't go-- I know I was gonna go, but I didn't. But, um, I did look at-- there's the YMCA, they've got some classes that I think will be pretty cool to go to, and then there's this yoga class over at the Women's Center that's only like 10 bucks, so I could do that, um-- but I didn't go because I'm really afraid that like what if-- you know, what if no-one likes me? What if I don't have friends in there? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_9.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_13.mp4 Yeah, but I'm gonna do it anyway, because this is what I need to do to make-- you know, to make friends. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_103_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_1.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_5.mp4 Yeah. Somewhere around eight days. I'm not sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_7.mp4 Um, I really only drink at parties. I don't drink at home or anything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_9.mp4 Um, liquor, whenever people are mixing, um, vodka, sometimes beer, but I don't like beer very much. Um, the drinks at parties are usually like vodka and orange juice or gin and tonics. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_11.mp4 You mean the whole time I'm there? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_13.mp4 Um, probably four or five drinks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_15.mp4 Yeah. It makes me feel relaxed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_19.mp4 Um, I forget how many drinks I've had like when a friend asks me or I forget whose house I'm at. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_21.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_23.mp4 Um, yeah. I was drinking the last time I had sex. Um, the guy had been drinking too, and we didn't use a condom. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_25.mp4 Yeah. We've had sex before and we've used a condom before. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_27.mp4 Well, we just didn't stop to put one on. We weren't thinking that way. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_29.mp4 Yeah. I would've definitely told him to put on a condom if I was sober. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_31.mp4 Well, that's not me. I don't need help from anyone. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_33.mp4 Um, well, it's fun. I like drinking when my friends are drinking too. Um, I laugh more. It's just fun. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_35.mp4 Um, I don't like forgetting where I'm at sometimes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_37.mp4 I really don't want any STDs. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_39.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_41.mp4 Well, I definitely don't want to drink too much again. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_43.mp4 Um, a nine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_45.mp4 Well, I really don't want any STDs and I don't like wondering whether I have one or not. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_47.mp4 Um, well, I wanna count my drinks so I don't have more than two and I want to stop drinking once I start feeling drunk. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_49.mp4 Well, I have this friend who thinks I drink too much. She would probably be willing to make me promise not to have more than two drinks at a party. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_51.mp4 I'm going to talk with him and I'm gonna make him promise that we always use a condom and that we don't have sex drunk. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_104_53.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_1.mp4 Well, um, since we spoke last, I've been to the gym a couple of times. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_3.mp4 I have. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_5.mp4 Yeah, and actually, my pants feel a little better too. I'm very pleased with it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_7.mp4 Um, I do feel better. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_9.mp4 My back— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_11.mp4 Well, my back doesn't hurt nearly so much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_13.mp4 And, um, but it seems like it's, um-- but it's still hard. I'd like to go more often or I-I guess that I'm-- I just need to be a little more patient with myself because it's, um, I'm not, uh, I'm not-- I wanna be able to like spend more time at the gym but right now, it's um, not, um-- Well, I guess I need to build up to it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_15.mp4 Um, well, I guess just sticking with it and not getting, um, sidetracked. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_17.mp4 Like last week, I-I didn't get there at all until like Thursday during the week,- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_19.mp4 -so it was- it was a frustrating week like for the gym that way. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_21.mp4 I was kinda busy with some other things, but, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_23.mp4 I-I got— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_25.mp4 Yeah, and actually, I made it again on Saturday too. So. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_27.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_29.mp4 Yeah. It's been a little-little hectic, you know. And, uh-- But, I-I don't like it too much because there's all these younger guys that can lift a lot more weight than me or they can stay on the treadmill longer and it-it-it's a little discouraging, you know. 'Cause I don't know if you've noticed, I'm not buff and they are. And it's-it's a little discouraging to think how much work it's gonna take to get, you know, kinda back towards that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_31.mp4 No, but, um, when-when I'm not at the gym, and I am my normal rational self, I realize that I'm, you know, way, way past the age of where I would really even want to do that, let alone want to spend the time it takes. But then while I'm at the gym, and I see the buff young guys, you know, lifting a lot of weight and all that stuff, then you know, the-- I don't know, the urge to be buff comes up in me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_33.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_35.mp4 It is. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_37.mp4 Well, I noticed-- Well, I-I still need to work on my diet a lot. I haven't-- I-I'd like to say that by working out at the gym, I have, uh, I've -I've modified my diet, but I haven't very much. I've gotten a little bit better with that, but I'd like to do a lot more. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_39.mp4 "Um, a little bit less junk food. Um, like at times, when I'm like I feel like, ""Oh, I think I'll just go have a candy bar,"" or some worthless thing like that I'll actually have second thoughts before I do it. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_41.mp4 Well, I think, uh, when I really start seeing some results at the gym, it's kinda, uh, I think the way it works in my mind is if I've worked out really hard and I've- and I've-- say I've lost a pound that week- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_43.mp4 "-you know, and then as I'm looking at that double or triple fudge four-decker of ice cream Sunday thing, you know, that somebody is eating, I would say, ""Wow, that would be about two hours on the treadmill."" Then-then that would be probably-- the-- that would keep me from actually ordering one of those. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_45.mp4 Right, decadent-- Why do they put the word decadent in food? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_47.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_105_49.mp4 Okay. But it seems to be going so far so good. I-I guess, you know, I can like, you know, um, I-I'm-I'm pretty pleased with who-- how it's going on. Um, I'm really-- I'm glad we talked that last time 'cause it-it was the impetus to get me to go the first time in a long, long time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_1.mp4 Um, pretty obvious [chuckles]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_3.mp4 What do you mean what I did? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_5.mp4 That's the same as always. Same as always. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_7.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_9.mp4 A razor? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_11.mp4 Do you wanna see it? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_13.mp4 I think have you ever been to an ER when you cut yourself, you'd know why I don't go. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_15.mp4 I was thinking about killing myself. You thought you would help me and you didn't. That's what I want to talk about. I wanna talk about how it is that my life is not going better and you are not helping me, and you are not available to me when I need help. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_107_17.mp4 I cut myself the first time I called you thinking you would help me, you wouldn't help me so then I figured, what the hell I [chuckles] might as well just go all the way. And so, that's why I cut myself that deep. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_1.mp4 Well, um, I have a two-year-old son, and then I work full time as a server at a restaurant, and then recently, I also started going back to night class, so you know, just the combination of all that, you know. I-I've just been feeling really stressed lately. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_5.mp4 Well, I-I told the counselor that I think childcare is probably my-my biggest issue right now. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_7.mp4 Yeah. Um, well, my mom normally watches my son, but lately, it's kind of becoming a problem. You know, she like will back out at the last second, and so I've had to call in at work a couple of times. I've had to miss class a few times. So i-it's just stressful worrying about, you know, whether I'll be able to do those things or not. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_9.mp4 Yeah, exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_11.mp4 Um, well, I have a sister, but I don't really trust her to watch my son, and I don't really know that many people that-- the only thing I can think of, I have this one neighbor who stepped in and helped one time when my mom backed out. She-she actually has, uh, a three-year-old daughter, so you know, kind of worked out. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_13.mp4 Um, I don't really know her that well, but I mean, she seems nice and I-I think she did a pretty good job that night. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_21.mp4 I-- you know, I mean, maybe a little bit, but I don't really make that much money to be able to afford something like daycare or, you know, like full time babysitting. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_23.mp4 Well, I mean, I-I like cooking. I'm-I'm actually in school for culinary arts. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_27.mp4 Hmm. That's, that's interesting. I-I never really thought of something like that, but, yeah, it might work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_29.mp4 Hmm. No, I-- you know, there-there just aren't that many people I trust right now with my son. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_31.mp4 [chuckles] No, no, not at all. He, he really hasn't been in the picture since my son was born. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_33.mp4 It's-it's three nights right now, so I have class on Monday, Wednesday, and Friday nights. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_35.mp4 Um, well, you know, if my neighbor could even just take over one day of watching my son, I think that would help my mom quite a bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_37.mp4 I mean, I think so, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_39.mp4 Mom, you know, just, I guess talking to my neighbor and seeing if she's even interested in this idea, and if she is, you know, telling my mom about it and, you know, hopefully, that will make her feel a little better and maybe a little bit more reliable. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_41.mp4 Just a couple months from now. He's almost three. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_43.mp4 I've heard of it, but I don't know that much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_45.mp4 Yeah, I mean, it sounds like it would be really good for my son and, you know, it would help me out in terms of childcare for sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_47.mp4 [chuckles] Well, you know, I-I've been working on it a couple of weeks now, and honestly, it's been a lot harder than I expected. Um, trying to break my routine in the evenings, especially has-has been hard, but, um, you know, a couple of nights I have reached my goal in terms of, you know, number of cigarettes I'm going to smoke and number of drinks. So, I mean, I've done okay some days, but others, not so much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_49.mp4 Yeah, yeah. I definitely have, so I-I try to never smoke around him, and if I do smoke at home, I always go out to the balcony to smoke. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_51.mp4 Um, well, I guess just first talk to my neighbor and see if she likes this idea, and then if she does, I can talk to my mom about it. Hopefully, that kind of helps her situation out. And then, um, I'm definitely want to look into the Head Start idea because I think that would be really good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_53.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_108_55.mp4 Thanks. All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_1.mp4 Oh, great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_3.mp4 That sounds bad. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_5.mp4 Tobacco. Well, I don't smoke cigarettes. I've never smoked cigarettes. I do go out with my friends. Um, you know, we go out to bars and, you know, we'll have a few drinks and smoke some of those little cigarillo-type things. I mean I wouldn't even think of them as cigars and they're certainly not cigarettes. Um, and I mean I'll have one or two of those in an evening with, uh, with my friends but certainly not 20 or 30 of them a day like you would with cigarettes and that's the only thing that could possibly have anything to do with tobacco. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_7.mp4 But that's- that's just like a- a social thing. That's something that my friends and I do. We-- We-- It's not habit or something that I have to have and, you know, talking about one or two when we go out for an evening. Not packs of them. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_9.mp4 Oh, no. No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_11.mp4 Well, we've-- you have a point there. Mm, now that you mention it, um, I have started having one or two at work, you know, when we have break since I have a couple of friends at work that smoke and so every time we have a break, you know, we all go out to the- the break place outside, um, and so I- now I go with them and I have one of these Swisher Sweets. Um, I like the peach flavor [unintelligible 00:02:32] they're so cute. But that's really only pretty recently. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_13.mp4 Well, yeah, yeah. You know now that you say it like that it's true. Um, I am smoking on a daily basis. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_15.mp4 Well, it's relaxing and it's just nice to be with people, um. Um, and you know, when, you know, I like to go to Las Vegas, and so when we go to Vegas, it's really fun to go to the cigar bars, is kind of sophisticated and fun and so, you know, it's mostly a social thing. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_17.mp4 I wouldn't say I was a chain smoker. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_19.mp4 Well, I was going to ask you about, um, whitening my teeth because I've noticed that they have more stains on them up than a few years ago, and so I imagine that has something to do with the smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_21.mp4 Um. Well, there's the expense, you know. Wi-with the economy and all, um, I- I have to be careful about my money and so, um, there is the extra expense of if I'm buying more of them than I used to. So the-the money aspect is also a concern. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_23.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_25.mp4 Oh, absolutely not. I mean I thought of it more as a- a fun thing to do with my friends, certainly not a smoking habit or anything that would be harmful. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_27.mp4 "Oh, yes. I checked the box on your form when you asked if I use tobacco, I checked ""No,"" because I never thought of myself as a smoker. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_29.mp4 I'm really concerned, I mean, I don't want to, um, develop cancer, lung cancer, or any of the awful things that happen from smoking, and, you know, really, until this conversation, I never really thought of myself as a smoker at all. So- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_31.mp4 -I'm very concerned. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_33.mp4 Really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_35.mp4 Oh, I would. I really would because, like I said, I'm a brand new smoker. I didn't know I was a smoker until I came to see you. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_37.mp4 Oh, I think I will probably be in seven or eight. I'm-I'm pretty confident that I could stop doing this. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_39.mp4 Because it's not a part of my daily life. I don't have to have, uh, a smoke when I get up in the morning. I don't smoke 20 or 30 of them a day, so it's not that much exposure and I-I feel pretty confident that I could stop. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_41.mp4 Um, I'd really like some more information about quitting. I mean, I've heard there's some-some new medications, there are some new things that can be done to help people make quitting more comfortable and I-I really wanna quit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_43.mp4 That'd be wonderful. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_109_45.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_1.mp4 Well, there's a lot of things that bring me here today, but the one thing that I want to focus on is the fact that I really want my son to grow up in a great environment, and just have, like, more than what I had growing up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_3.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_5.mp4 Yes, that's on my mind. I love my son dearly, and I don't complain about the childhood I had, I had a great childhood. I just-- I guess every parent wants the best for their kids- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_7.mp4 -and-and I really want the best for him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_9.mp4 Yes, um, me and his father, like, we're-- We were engaged and, um, we're just not at that connection anymore. We're focused on what we want to do in life, and that's kind of put a hassle on our relationship. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_11.mp4 Yes, I want to become a social worker. I want to help people. That's just what I love to do, and he, um, is currently driving trucks, and so it kind of like puts a damper on everything on our relationship, and we're just like mainly focusing on our son and-and it's just been hard, like, reconnecting. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_13.mp4 Yes, I feel it is, and I just-- I always really wanted like a family, like me and the dad and-and the child. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_15.mp4 I-- That's how I feel, that I love my son dearly, but I want to provide him with that, like, we are together, we're doing it together as a team- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_17.mp4 -because now that we're going away from each other it's made things more difficult. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_19.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_21.mp4 Um, he was my fiance, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_23.mp4 -we called off our engagement. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_27.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_29.mp4 He drives long distance. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_31.mp4 Yeah. Days, and the longest was, like, a week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_33.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_35.mp4 I'm concerned that when he was just local, we were able to do picnics and-and-and do the whole family thing that I just really love, and even though my parents weren't together, we would still, you know-- They were really civil with each other and we would go to Disneyland, we'd go to the-the fairs, and you know, I feel like it's different. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_37.mp4 Even though I'm not saying that we-we probably won't be together ever, there's a possibility that that could happen, but I still want that togetherness than apart. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_41.mp4 I feel like, um, I'm not, like, valued. We're not valued from his perspective. I mean, that's- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_43.mp4 -what I can sense. I can't really make that a final say because he may feel something different. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_45.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_47.mp4 Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_49.mp4 "And so when he is available it's kind of like, I guess where he's at and where I'm at is just like, ""Why is that a problem for you?"" And I'm like, ""It is because I want--"" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_51.mp4 "Yeah, ""why is it a problem?"" He feels like it's always me who wants these things and-- but I-I made it clear that, you know, I want our son to grow up with the togetherness- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_53.mp4 -especially like how my parents had it, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_55.mp4 They weren't the best of friends but they could come together and, you know, it was better together than apart- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_57.mp4 -and so I'm feeling like there's a-a change and I don't know whether to roll with it or just accept it, accept it. And it's all a balance between mind and-and heart and that's the battle. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_59.mp4 Well, my mind says that it's not going that way and you can't make it turn that way, you can't change anybody, they have to change themselves. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_60.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_61.mp4 And if they wanted to do it then, you know, it would definitely work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_63.mp4 And I feel like I don't wanna subject to just accepting things the way they are, especially if that's a concern for me- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_65.mp4 "-as far as dealing with the togetherness, I feel like if I have a problem, I voice it to you and we solve. You know, we'll try to figure out ways so-- I feel like I'm very more like, the collaborating person. Like, we gotta collab together, let's-- you know, I usually am that person that's, ""Let's solve this issue."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_67.mp4 """Let's not go over the problem over and over and over."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_69.mp4 """Let's try to think of ways to make it better."" And I notice that not everyone's like me in that sense. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_71.mp4 "And so, do I wanna eventually hurt myself in the long run? Or, you know, help myself by saying, ""Okay this is just accepting that he's not in that position, so let me just do what's for me in my heart and, you know- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_73.mp4 "-stabilize myself to be the best parent that I can be."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_75.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_77.mp4 Yeah, I'm not sure about that part either. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_78.mp4 Oh, okay, all right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_79.mp4 Because I know that dealing with perspectives you can, you know, you can't really tell someone what their, you know, perspective is- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_81.mp4 -but I don't-I don't sense it, I don't feel it and, um, I think that's just what I'm going by and I feel like probably 98% true. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_83.mp4 And that's where the sickness comes from. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_85.mp4 And that's what I'm confused about because, you know, I'm very-- the type of person that, I don't wanna hold things in but yet I don't want to have to keep explaining- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_87.mp4 -to you, you know like, I don't want to keep going on, iterating what I want in this relationship- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_89.mp4 -especially if I'm listening to you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_91.mp4 "You know, I would want you to listen to me. And I understand by like in the position that I'm in, I've always been the receiver and, um, anybody-- so it's hard for people to like receive, you know, from me so, I'm just like-- Lke I was like sitting, um, yesterday I was kinda feeling down and I just never-- I was looking through my phone actually, this is really funny, I was looking through my phone like, ""Who can I talk to?"" Because I never really opened up to anybody. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_93.mp4 Cause they open up to me and I'm able to listen- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_95.mp4 "-and so I'm like, ""Out of all this, I don't know who I'd-who I'd talk to."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_97.mp4 -and open up to— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_110_99.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_1.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_3.mp4 Uh, sure. What's this about? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_5.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_7.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_9.mp4 Well, you know they just decriminalized it in Virginia, it's not a big deal. I'm not in trouble, am I? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_11.mp4 It's not a big deal. It's just like a couple times a week to relax. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_13.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I'm here on an academic scholarship so I have to keep my grades up and I'm on the debate team, so there's a lot going on. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_15.mp4 Well, yeah. The truth is I'm the first in my family to go to college so I don't know, I guess, I'm in a bit over my head. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_17.mp4 I've always been an anxious person. Pot just helps me calm my nerves. I'm I in trouble? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_20.mp4 Well, some of these kids are just so much more sophisticated than me so I guess when I party with them, I feel like I'm fitting in. I don't know how else to explain it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_22.mp4 I don't know if I feel more accepted, more like I'm trying to fit in by using it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_24.mp4 I'm not sure it is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_26.mp4 Uh, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_28.mp4 I don't know. I- It helps me relax but I guess I'm nervous I'll get caught. Um, my parents would kill me if they knew that I smoked. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_30.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_32.mp4 Well, I don't have the money for it. I just usually bum it off to my roommate, her parents give her a lot of spending money but I don't know, it's kind of embarrassing to have to do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_34.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_36.mp4 I don't know. When you put it that way, it doesn't sound like a very good habit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_38.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_40.mp4 No. We don't do that kind of thing in my family. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_42.mp4 It's just not done. I don't know. It's something for crazy people and we definitely do not have the money for it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_44.mp4 Yeah. I just don't see it happening. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_46.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_48.mp4 Well, I don't have the money for it so I can't pay for it and my parents wouldn't approve. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_50.mp4 What, like suicidal? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_52.mp4 Uh, I would never do that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_54.mp4 Okay. I guess I'll think about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_56.mp4 Do I have to go there? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_111_58.mp4 Okay, sure. I agree, let's go. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_1.mp4 Okay, oh, actually, could I confide something in you that has been bothering me lately. Well, prior to that party, like, as you know, I'm a honor student and my parents, like, they keep me very, like k-kept down out of the, like so- like social life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_3.mp4 And, um, about a month ago, my friends invited me to a party. And they used the fact that, Oh, I'm always doing my homework, I'm always studying that to allow me to go to the party. And on-- well, that party, I managed to convince my parents that I would spend the night at my friend's house. So, that's when I started drinking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_5.mp4 "It was a- it was a unique experience, as you can say. I guess you can say. And, I don't know, I-- It was fun, at least, in the moment. So, I kept doing it. Then this past weekend, instead of studying for an exam, I asked my-- I begged my mom to let me go to another party. And she, kind of, knew what I was doing. She asked me to, like, to promise her of no alcohol, no drugs. Then I'll pick you up by 12:00. And I-I was surprised. 12:00-12:00, that's basically when the party starts, but I told her whatever-- I thought- I thought to myself that I'll-I'll come-- I'll figure out to delay her, can you pick me up later? So later, so she-- I promised that-- She dropped me off, I promised her no alcohol, no nothing. So I-- we go, I have fun like I've been having. And I was drinking. And then the time- the time came for her to pick me up. And as soon-- I couldn't delay her from picking me up. And as soon as she picked me up, and I stepped in the car, she said, ""You drank vodka."" And I'm like, I-I didn't know what to say. I just looked at the floor. And I-I feel terrible because I-I betrayed my mother. I broke my trust with her that she expected me not to indulge in alcohol. And that's exactly what I did. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_7.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_9.mp4 Yes, right. Like I've been noticing I've been more lethargic and apathetic towards schoolwork. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_11.mp4 I haven't really-- I kind of just sit in class like-- I-- my mind is elsewhere, especially on the weekends, where instead of-- I was- I was instead of studying, I caught up with my friends, trying to find where we can-- I get alcohol based on their age and stuff like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_13.mp4 I don't know. It-It's because I'm a very reserved person, for the most part, not when- not when I'm dealing with sports or like-- you know, like a social environment. I tend to keep to myself because I'm very self-conscious, I would say. And when I- when I drink, I feel, I don't know, like, it relaxes me. I'm able to talk or engage with other people more easily. I don't know it just— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_15.mp4 Exactly. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_17.mp4 Kind of. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_19.mp4 Just different groups, friends or groups, girlfriends, like different people that I'm hanging out with because certain people are associated with that type of scene. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_21.mp4 So, that-that-that's also changed. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_23.mp4 A little bit because not all of them are into that. So, like, I'm in one group of friends, and I would talk to another person that's an another group of friends and they just happen to invite me to that first party. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_25.mp4 So, since then, I've been hanging out more with them, getting to know them. But I can also see that oh, I'm just living life, I guess. But that's also not fair to them that I'm not there for them as much as I was before. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_27.mp4 As they are there for me, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_29.mp4 Oh, um, I feel I should st-stop. I mean, like, I'm not-not unrealistic. I understand that situations like this will happen. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_31.mp4 It's just up to me not to take it so far, where I can't remember the night before, if I'm puking. All I remember is the toilet- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_33.mp4 -that's-that's not worth it, either. And I have to slowly build back my trust with my mother because that was that's a big blow. It's little so I guess may seem to other people. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_35.mp4 But to me then it's a big thing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_37.mp4 Of course. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_39.mp4 Exactly. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_41.mp4 A lot at this point because I feel that's a big factor with gaining back my trust with my mother. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_43.mp4 And also getting back on top of my school work again my athletics too. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_45.mp4 So I feel that there-there's a future in that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_47.mp4 I'm pretty confident, especially. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_49.mp4 Probably like an 8 or 9. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_51.mp4 And that can't be a ten there's nothing as ten in life I feel. Like there's too many factors but I feel like I'm determined to. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_53.mp4 Because I don't know I feel deter-determined to-to make sure this happens because I don't like how I felt after I-I betrayed my mother. I don't like remembering that the feeling of like vomiting. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_55.mp4 It's not a pleasant experience. Uh, it's not something that I wish to enjoy. So like even if I do drink, I don't want to drink to the point where that happens, like all the fun that I have and prior to that just it's not worth-it's not worth drinking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_57.mp4 To make sure I have my studies. Well first, try to get-get back my trust with mother- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_59.mp4 -then just focus on my studies. Then if I have time for leisure time like I'll go party with my friends and just be as a party with them doesn't mean I have to drink. And I do one cup is not going to do anything to my life either. But I'd prefer not to do that. I prefer just make sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_61.mp4 Exactly. Just so I take part with the social convention but it's not. Hey guys. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_112_63.mp4 And-and thank you for listening me listening to me. It means a lot to me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_3.mp4 Well, I came today because my daughter's in the hospital as well. I think it's important to quit, but I enjoy smoking. I'm not ready to give it up right now. My life is too much in turmoil. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_5.mp4 I think it's important because I've-- I feel I'm a bad role model for my children, and my daughter's turning 12, and already, some of her friends have tried smoking, so I don't want her to think it's a good thing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_7.mp4 I smoked when I was young, and I certainly don't want it for her. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_9.mp4 Well, that's true. It seems so hard. I'm just not ready for this right now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_11.mp4 It's very enjoyable, relaxing, you know, a stress reliever. When I'm at work, we all go out and smoke and chit chat and, you know, talk about things. I would hate to not smoke, really. I'd be left out. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_13.mp4 Hmm, I like to have a cigarette after I eat. It sort of tells my brain I'm finished, stop eating, I'm full. So it's a- it's a way to-- you know, sometimes I'll have a cigarette instead of a snack, so it's a way to control my weight. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_15.mp4 Let me think. Well, I just enjoy it. I think it's, uh-- it's not good for me, I know, but I'm so used to smoking. I don't really think about quitting too much. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_17.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_19.mp4 That's true. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_21.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_23.mp4 Exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_25.mp4 Well, I-I'm worried about my children. I feel like I'm being a bad parent, and um, I often wonder, you know, they've seen me smoke for years. I certainly don't want my 12-year-old daughter to start smoking, and some of her friends are already smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_27.mp4 Yeah, just this morning, I was outside having a cigarette, and then when I looked up, there she was looking out the window watching me smoke. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_29.mp4 I felt terrible, you know, I was projecting-- I wanna be a good parent, and I don't feel this really is part of the plan. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_31.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_33.mp4 It doesn't fit, you know. It's the opposite side of the coin. You know, I love to do it, but I don't think it's right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_35.mp4 I can't think of anything right now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_37.mp4 I don't have any plans to quit. It's just something I'm thinking about. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_39.mp4 Exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_41.mp4 Oh, sure. Sure, I'll come in. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_43.mp4 We can talk about it some more. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_45.mp4 Okay, okay, I'll give it a try. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_47.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_113_49.mp4 All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_1.mp4 Uh, I guess that sound- that sounds right. I mean, I was- I was kinda drunk and it happened like a week ago. I just, I drove over to my friend's house, um, just to go watch the game and, you know, we're having a couple beers and next thing I know the Vikings are kind of losing pretty big. So we drank a little bit more than usual. And I mean, at the end I had to get home and I couldn't find a ride. So I-I just drove. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_3.mp4 Yeah. That's-that's exactly how it happened. I mean, I'm a normal college kid. I like to drink and hanging out with my buddies. I mean, I, it wasn't a big house party or anything and I got busted. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_5.mp4 Yeah. I tried to be safe. I mean, I tried to call her roommate, but I don't know, getting in trouble anyways. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_7.mp4 Um, well, I wanna say I have a drinking problem. I think I'd probably have more of a, like getting caught problem. I mean, my friends, they-they drink like fishes and I-- they don't ever get caught and you got me over here and I get caught and they left. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_9.mp4 I guess- I guess more problems with police and school and I really don't have like the time or the money for any of that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_11.mp4 God. It's, I guess, super important, because just-just going to detox alone was-was awful, the experience-- I don't want to do that again. And my dad said if I get suspended from school, um, I have to go- I have to go work on my uncle's farm in Iowa and that would just kill my social life. I won't see any of my friends and I mean, it's already bad enough, like my parents took my car away when I got the DUI. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_13.mp4 Well, I guess I- I guess the easy one is I wouldn't- I wouldn't drink so much and I try to avoid situations where I'm more-more likely to get in trouble. So probably I don't wanna drink so much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_15.mp4 Um, I guess I would say like, I don't know, like over halfway. So maybe like a six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_17.mp4 I could probably, um, I don't know. I-I guess, well, the big thing would be like kind of where I drink so like drinking like if I'm only like in my apartment so thenI'm not risking myself to drive or like if I- if I go out to a party waiting till, like, I'm 21 to drink. Um, maybe find stuff to do that doesn't revolve around drinking, like, I'm guessing like a town this size there's got to be more to do than just drink. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_19.mp4 "Um, I mean, I guess the big one would be like I won't- I won't be hungover all the time like I would make it to my 8:00 AMs then, well, even-even when I make it to my 8:00 AMs now like I just, I sleep like I wake up I'm like, ""Oh my god what's going on?"" And then I get to my 8:00 AM and I'll just sleep through and then miss just about everything that's on the test. So I think if I- if I reprioritize what is important to me, I probably help me succeed. I mean, in high school, I had a 3.5 GPA. So I know I could do it here. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_21.mp4 Um, I mean education is really important to me and-and also my family. My parents are always talking about it and I really- I really wanna be an international journalist, to be on the news like, I mean, I have the face for it, um. So I guess if I reprioritize my- if I reprioritize what I need to do I and I won't drink so much. I probably wouldn't be disappointing my parents and I'd be able to get a really good education. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_114_23.mp4 All right, all right. When is the seminar? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_1.mp4 You're welcome. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_3.mp4 Yeah. I stayed home two times already from school just 'cause of the bullying and everything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_5.mp4 And as I was out of school like more rumors started to happen as I was out of school. I come back and like these rumors are going around about me. Like one time when I stayed home, supposedly, I was in the principal's office the whole day and I had security guards like escort me to classes which that was not true 'cause I was home the whole time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_7.mp4 I've been getting blamed ever since like fifth or sixth grade about with every single thing that's going on. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_9.mp4 I think because the kids-- 'cause I like to nag on things. Like when people tell me things, I like to like talk more like with the person instead of just leaving it be, and I think the kids that like blame me for everything say that I'm an easy target to like hit, to like talk about, it's like annoying. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_11.mp4 "If somebody says like, ""Oh, I heard this thing about you."" I go, ""Oh, really, what is it,"" and I just keep talking and like make things worse. Like, if somebody says that they wanna beat me up, I like go on, and say like, ""Okay, then hit me,"" and like I just don't leave it be, like I just don't walk away. I like stay there and like talk more. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_13.mp4 "I think possibly more like talking more like it gets like bigger and bigger. It's just like if you stop it, then they don't know what to say, they-they're like, ""Oh, like she's walking away."" And like that stops everything but like if I talk it-it keeps building up and we both get in trouble- " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_15.mp4 -and like called down to the principal's office. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_17.mp4 -and get talked to. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_19.mp4 Well, usually I try telling myself to just like, leave it be- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_21.mp4 -but if somebody says something about me, it gets me mad 'cause like what the heck, like you're talking about me so like I try to stop but sometimes I just say like a few words. Like I think now I'm trying to get like better. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_23.mp4 "Like there's this one incident that somebody was talking to me, I just said like, ""Oh, wow, this is like really lame, like I'm just gonna leave,"" and I like let the conversation be. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_25.mp4 Yeah. I felt proud of myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_27.mp4 "I was just like thinking of like when I'm- whenever I like I'm saying like stuff back, mom gets really mad at me, she's like, ""Well, I'm not gonna help you anymore."" 'Cause, she tells me to like leave it be, but I really don't lis-listen to her so she gets mad. So I tried like thinking of like her feelings and like what would happen after if I say, ""This is lame, leave me alone,"" 'cause then they'll like stop and I won't get like yelled at anymore. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_29.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_31.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_33.mp4 'Cause usually, if I get in trouble, mom gives me the silent treatment that I don't like. It's like she doesn't talk to me, I'm like trying to talk to her, she don't like wheezing being like, uh, I don't like it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_35.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_37.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_41.mp4 Like they all like stopped talking to me, and the funny thing was that their eighth-graders that like didn't even go to my old school like I don't even know how they said of talking to me, I was like, creepy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_43.mp4 Well, they don't really say that to me like I just like think that 'cause that's what I've like heard from my mom, and people talking to me 'cause I keep talking to them- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_45.mp4 -so they keep coming back at me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_47.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_51.mp4 Yeah. [chuckles] That happens a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_53.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_55.mp4 I was thinking of like, um, if I'm like at school like a peep things are happening during class- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_57.mp4 -I just say, can I use the washroom or something to go like walk and like think of like how to like leave them be. And one time during my gym class, there's this girl that I had her like not talking early. And we're playing pickleball, I don't know if you know that, it's like a- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_59.mp4 -it's like a badminton, big life-size ping pong ball game. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_61.mp4 Yeah, you have like a big bracket— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_63.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_65.mp4 No, [chuckles] there's no pick. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_67.mp4 Mm-hmm. And like I was supposed to be like again turn. I told my-- I went to my gym teacher like silently and said I can't be by this person, can I move to the next court. So he like switched us around so I won't be by her. And that like happened. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_69.mp4 The girls like what the heck like. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_71.mp4 Yeah. Like I would like smacked her in the face or some- [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_73.mp4 -or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_75.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_77.mp4 Yeah, that's like— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_79.mp4 Yeah, there's like four main ones but not that like I can say who. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_81.mp4 And the friends that I have like I know are my true friends, They're like ones that don't really 'cause drama or like— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_83.mp4 I mean, they might but like they're not like bad and they actually like help me. Like some of these girls that like so-called friends like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_85.mp4 "-They're like they come to me saying like, ""Oh, did you really have to like punch this girl."" I'm like, ""No."" It's like you're not a friend if you'd actually believe that, you know what I mean? " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_87.mp4 Yeah, it's kind of annoying, 'cause it's kind of hard like going into high school and like knowing how to believe and who not to believe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_89.mp4 Yeah, 1,003. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_91.mp4 And then there's the sophomores also that you have like another 1,000, so it's like— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_93.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_95.mp4 Yeah, with these like the first rumors had started going around about like my friend and I, and like I lost him just 'cause of rumors. It's like, what the heck. Like I couldn't get over him for like gosh, who knows, it was like three months and I finally just had got over him. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_97.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_99.mp4 I was like really, you're probably just jealous 'cause I was friends with him or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_101.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_103.mp4 I just found like other people and just like forgot about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_105.mp4 I say the ones that like not even that I've known the longest, but like the ones that actually hang out with me a lot, or like texting me a lot, or like calling. And the ones that are actually like that helped you before with like situations. And that they tell you stuff and they know they can trust you. Like one of my friends tells me everything about her. And like that's how I know she's a good friend 'cause she trusts me with things. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_107.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_109.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_111.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_113.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_115.mp4 Yeah, that happens a lot with me with like a lot of friends. Like this one person like we've been friends since like-- Well, we were friends since fourth grade. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_117.mp4 And like she just starts like lying and like just talking smack about me. And it's like, you're not a good friend then. Like I thought you were a friend since you've been my friend since our fourth grade. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_119.mp4 And she just like causes a lot of drama now. And like she came- Like the friends I met at high school, she came like into them like, you're not gonna know-- In college, you're not gonna know who to follow 'cause-- since you keep following with my friends, what are you gonna do in college like not being able to find your own friends? It's kind of annoying 'cause they're my friends and like I can't be by her and she comes to my friends. It's like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_121.mp4 -get your own friends, [chuckles] stop following me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_123.mp4 She just lies a lot and like just starts dramas about me and I haven't even talked to her like since eight grade. We only went to school together and she just like makes me lose other friends 'cause of the drama she starts change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_125.mp4 A nobody. I'm gonna say that. She's like— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_127.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_129.mp4 I do spend time with them. Like I hang out with them a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_131.mp4 Ask for it. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_133.mp4 I just ask them like if I'm like gonna get like sent down to the principal's office for like something happening, I call them to come down to, like, support my, like, backup information. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_135.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_137.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_139.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_141.mp4 Yeah, there's one friend that might wanna like talk about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_143.mp4 And she's really like-- she doesn't know, like, who to talk 'cause her mom is not always there for her. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_145.mp4 And so like she's like doesn't know where to go. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_147.mp4 Like she doesn't know who to believe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_149.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_151.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_153.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_155.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_157.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_159.mp4 I've noticed that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_116_161.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_1.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_3.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_5.mp4 Usually three drinks and glasses of wine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_7.mp4 Something like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_9.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_11.mp4 Well, I usually drink when I'm at home trying to unwind and I drink while I'm watching a movie. And sometimes, um, I take a bath but I also drink when I take a bath sometimes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_13.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_15.mp4 Hmm. Seven? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_17.mp4 Wow. I knew my doctor didn't like me drinking the amount that I did but I didn't know that seven was the limit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_19.mp4 Yes. What-what kind of health problems? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_21.mp4 Hmm. Well, that's not good news. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_23.mp4 Well, to be honest, I drink sometimes when I'm feeling down and I find it more interesting and not so blur. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_25.mp4 Well, then I feel blur again. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_27.mp4 Yes on occasion. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_29.mp4 Sometimes I just don't like how much I drink. I sometimes finish a bottle in one night. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_31.mp4 No, it's not like I get crazy or anything but I just don't like the amount that I'm drinking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_33.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yes, sometimes I feel worse after drinking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_35.mp4 Well, I don't think that I'm ready to cut down to seven drinks a week. That seems like a lot but I would consider cutting back to two drinks a night. I think that would be my goal. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_37.mp4 I'd say an eight. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_39.mp4 Well, I'm more ready than a six because I'm ready to cut back on my drinking and I don't wanna make my depression any worse. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_41.mp4 Maybe having less wine in the house. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_43.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_45.mp4 Well, I like to watch movies, read a book, and take a bath but sometimes I drink when I take a bath. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_47.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_49.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_51.mp4 Sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_0_53.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_1.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_3.mp4 Yeah, but only on the weekend. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_5.mp4 Yeah. Uh, maybe a couple more. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_7.mp4 So, uh, are you saying I drink too much? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_9.mp4 Well, I-- If-if I was getting fallen down drunk or if I drink every night. Um, it's not like I get sloppy drunk or anything. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_11.mp4 So I'm already at the week limit. And then I have four beers a night. Are you sure? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_13.mp4 I have five or six beers when I go out with friends to a bar. It's not a problem for me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_15.mp4 Well, I don't consider my drinking binge drinking. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_17.mp4 I don't chug a lot of beers in a row. I have about five or six beers throughout the entire evening. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_19.mp4 But I'm healthy. What health problems are you talking about? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_21.mp4 Well, I didn't know about those things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_23.mp4 Well, I-I like beer. I like the way it tastes, I like the way it makes me feel. Uh, like when I'm around friends and it's not a problem for me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_25.mp4 Well, that was fine until I came here, uh, but now that I know about the health risk, uh, I have something I gotta think about. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_27.mp4 E-exactly. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_29.mp4 Hmm, I'm not sure. Uh, something I have to think about. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_31.mp4 Uh, I don't know. Maybe if I got sick or something, uh, maybe I'd wanna change things then. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_1_35.mp4 Sounds good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_1.mp4 Well, doc, I know you told me that I need to lose weight. And even though the scale didn't show today, I was able to lose about 5 pounds, but then I gained it right back. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_3.mp4 No, by all means. I know we have to discuss it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_5.mp4 I started watching what I ate and I ate less. I've been eating more fruits and vegetables. I've also been walking a lot. I'm walking up to 20 minutes a day now. I saw the weight come slowly off, um, and I felt better. But then when I watched it come back on again, you know, I gave up. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_7.mp4 I felt great and I felt really proud of myself. I thought that this was something that I could do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_9.mp4 Well, I think it's because I've been eating more fruits and vegetables, that- that's it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_11.mp4 To be honest, I have four or five -- four to six glasses of orange juice a day. Um, I have fruit for lunch and breakfast. I have, uh, usually one to two servings of a vegetable like lettuce or broccoli with thinner. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_13.mp4 No, I didn't know. Um, but doesn't the fruit- food pyramid classify, um, fruit juice as a- a serving? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_15.mp4 Well, this changes quite a bit. I mean, here I'm thinking that my fruit intake is making me healthier and actually it's making me fatter. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_17.mp4 Obviously, I need to cut back on the fruit juice. But boy, do I love that OJ. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_19.mp4 Um, six or seven. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_21.mp4 I guess it's because I know that I need to do it to lose the weight. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_23.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_25.mp4 Getting the fruit juice of the house because I know if it's there I'll drink it. My wife does the shopping for us, so maybe if I ask her not to get the juice, that would solve it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_27.mp4 I suppose I could replace it with, um, a low-calorie drink or drink more water. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_29.mp4 I'd say I didn't have any and I substituted it with, um, sugar-free drinks. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_31.mp4 A 10. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_33.mp4 Great. It sounds good to me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_2_35.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_0.mp4 Well see, my-my wife's been getting on me a lot lately about trying to improve my health habits, and I really don't see what the big problem is. I mean, I've been working real hard. Sometimes I can't come home for dinner, so I'm having to go out to eat at Applebee's or something like that, so-- but she seems to have a bigger problem, I really don't see what the big deal is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_2.mp4 I-I-I feel fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_4.mp4 I mean, my-my work is really man-manual labor-intensive so I'm usually working out in-in the hot sun the majority of the day, so I'm usually sweating out any like bad things I put in my system, so— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_6.mp4 Well, a little bit, but nothing too-- you know. I'm not blo- I'm not bloated or anything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_8.mp4 Well, yeah, I've been to the doctor about maybe last year for a physical, but-- I mean, everything showed up to be fine, so— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_10.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_12.mp4 Well, I mean, not really overreacting. I know that she loves me and I know she-she wants me, uh, you know, live a long time and be healthy, but just sometimes, especially if you work a hard job, like kinda going out to eat at these places kinda makes you feel a little bit better about your situation. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_3_14.mp4 Sure. [unintelligible 00:01:33] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_3.mp4 Yeah, it's been a while. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_5.mp4 Oh, oh, yeah, the—Yeah neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_7.mp4 About a month. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_9.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_11.mp4 Um, I don't know. I just felt like something different. I was getting bored and, I don't know, it's kind of nice to stand out a bit, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_13.mp4 Yeah, change. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_15.mp4 Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_17.mp4 I don't actually, really. I-I mean, I'm sure that it might push on my gums or teeth, but I don't know how much it will impact that much. I've pretty good teeth. I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_19.mp4 I don't really know [unintelligible 00:01:04] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_21.mp4 [laughs] Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_27.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_29.mp4 Well, I definitely don't want it mess with my teeth. I know I kinda already have low gums to begin with, like you've been telling me for a while, and I have to flo-floss, which I- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_31.mp4 Um, which I'm not doing but, um, yeah, I guess, I don't really wanna wreck my teeth 'cause-- Yeah, I didn't really notice any of the chipping. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_33.mp4 I guess I'm not paying attention to it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_35.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_37.mp4 I don't know, I guess if I started to see that it was actually causing a problem, then I might. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_39.mp4 But for now-- I mean, I just got and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_41.mp4 -and it looks pretty cool. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_43.mp4 Yeah, I kinda-- Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_45.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_47.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_49.mp4 Yeah. I guess if I really start to see a problem-- I mean, this might not last forever, but my teeth, I'm hoping- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_51.mp4 -will kind of stick [unintelligible 00:02:30] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_53.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_55.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_4_57.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_5.mp4 Yeah, no, it's easy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_7.mp4 Uh. Meeting's definitely helped. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_9.mp4 Yeah. It's helped- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_11.mp4 -heaps. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_13.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_15.mp4 Just, uh, someone to talk to and just someone to keep me busy and, kind of, keep me in check. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_17.mp4 Um, well, I said I went to the polytech and stuff- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_19.mp4 -and I went back there and got another form and stuff, and just helping me with that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_21.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_25.mp4 Nah. I didn't really think about it frankly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_27.mp4 I don't know. I just thought if, uh, I could get a job and stuff, doing stuff I like, uh, it'll make things easier. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_29.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_31.mp4 Yeah. Oh, I know. After talking to you, I got Donna to help me out, and that's just really helpful. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_33.mp4 [clears throat] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_35.mp4 "[clears throat] Oh, I just said-- I said, ""Uh, could you give me a hand with this?"" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_37.mp4 And, like, she filled them up for me, and I told her what to write. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_41.mp4 Just-- I-I asked her to fill that out for me because I said I'd be too messy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_43.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_45.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_47.mp4 Like, a big difference, but, like, it's not like I don't try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_49.mp4 Like, I'm just not really good with it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_51.mp4 Yeah. Like [unintelligible 00:28:13] if I'd got into polytech and stuff, so I think that's good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_53.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_55.mp4 They're still at home. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_57.mp4 Yeah. If— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_59.mp4 Just take them in. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_61.mp4 Yeah. Uh, I think you can post them, but I'll just drop them in. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_63.mp4 Uh, probably by the end of this week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_65.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_67.mp4 I don't know. I don't know if you have to interview or whatever, but I guess, course-- I don't even know any course that I'll do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_69.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_71.mp4 Well, um-- Well, I don't know. Hopefully, there's not so much of that stuff. Um, oh, well, I don't know. I could find out maybe someone who can help you, like, at the school, at the polytech, maybe somebody can help you out and stuff, or there might be computers there or something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_73.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_75.mp4 Not really fitting in. It kind of just gets in the way. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_77.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_79.mp4 Like like getting on the piss, but with Donna, there kind of keeps me busy. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_81.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_83.mp4 Yeah. I just wanna have a bit of a laugh and like go smash some windows or go and nick a car or something, but yeah. It's kind of harder to think straight. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_85.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_87.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_89.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_91.mp4 I'd probably just go be stupid with my mates. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_93.mp4 Yeah. 'Cause if there's just like if a mate said they're gonna go out and pick a car or something, she just bumps them out and then-then I don't know. She say that's stupid and stuff. And I don't know. It gives me something to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_95.mp4 Just kind of stupid. Well, it's pointless, but still a bit of a laugh. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_97.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_99.mp4 No. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_101.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_103.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_105.mp4 Yeah. You don't really think about that. Well, just in the moment. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_107.mp4 Just have a bit of fun. Not really thinking. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_109.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_111.mp4 No. Just, like, it's not normally my idea, like someone else would just suggest it and you kind of just, yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_113.mp4 "Yeah. You can't really be like, ""Oh no,"" just give me shit. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_115.mp4 Just like, it can be shit and I still do it. They just-just call me a pussy or whatever and I don't know. And they'd talk me into it probably. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_117.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_119.mp4 They'd just think I was joking, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_121.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_123.mp4 I don't see them as much, but like she gets along with them aye, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_125.mp4 I don't think, like, I am not sure they like it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_127.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_129.mp4 They don't lead me into trouble. But- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_131.mp4 Uh, like it's my choice though, they don't make me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_133.mp4 Yeah. I know it's just having grown up with, it's just what we've always done. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_135.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_137.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_139.mp4 My life? Well, what do you mean? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_141.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_143.mp4 I don't know. Just more or less like if Donna was there and maybe if my mates got some girlfriends or something like that would calm them down too. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_145.mp4 So just hang out instead of go and do stuff, like stupid stuff. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_147.mp4 Yeah, 'cause then we could hang out together and stuff- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_149.mp4 -with our girlfriends and stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_151.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_153.mp4 Yeah. Cause I like I feel guilty not spending my time with, yeah, Donna. Like, I miss my mates, like, I get lonely and stuff, but even though they get me into trouble, but- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_155.mp4 -just, kind of, feel stoked that-that I see them on the weekends and stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_157.mp4 It's, like, loyal- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_159.mp4 -yes, someone who's got my back. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_161.mp4 That's about it. It's-- yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_163.mp4 Someone who'll stand up for you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_165.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_167.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_169.mp4 I mean, support me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_171.mp4 Just don't give me shit about, I don't know. Um, yeah, just, if I- if I don't wanna go do something, don't, like, don't give me shit about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_173.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_175.mp4 Yeah, yeah, they [unintelligible 00:36:38] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_177.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_179.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_181.mp4 Just they know that I'm serious. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_183.mp4 I guess, like, if they actually know I'm going to polytech and stuff that they might understand. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_185.mp4 But, like I feel guilty if they wanna go and have fun, and I'm not with them. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_187.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_189.mp4 Yeah. Like, just going out with them or spending some times with them-- time with them, but, like, I really wanna spend time with Donna too- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_191.mp4 -so, it'd be cool if we could spend time together, like, with Donna and my mates. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_193.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_195.mp4 Yeah, like-- Well, I know I get into trouble with them, but they're still my mates, and I- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_197.mp4 -feel-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_199.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_5_201.mp4 No. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_1.mp4 No problem. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_3.mp4 Yeah, it's-it's a bit of an inconvenience I'd say, but I'm here though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_5.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_7.mp4 I don't know, something about changing my life even more. You know, the smoking's been changed, and now it's, you know, cut down the drinking, get rid of those extra smokes, get rid of my dog. I don't know what else have to do. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_9.mp4 Yeah, there's a lot of stress too. My wife's still on maternity leave, she's not getting paid, she's with the baby right now. And I'm the only person that's working right now, and plus I got to change all these things that are going on in my life. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_11.mp4 Yeah, it's a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_13.mp4 Yeah, yeah, it is overwhelming. It is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_15.mp4 Yeah, it just feels like everything's all over the place but I guess we got to start somewhere. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_17.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_19.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_21.mp4 Okay. Um, okay, that sounds good. As long as I'm not changing anything and we're just kind of putting, um, I guess, pen to paper or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_23.mp4 Um, okay, so my asthma. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_27.mp4 Um, the fact that they want me to get rid of Oscar, that's-that's my dog. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_29.mp4 Well, he's-- Yeah, he's saying it's a main-- It's a main contributor to my asthma problems. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_31.mp4 Which I don't- I don't- I don't- I don't buy it and I can't just get rid of him like that, but it's something that's there. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_33.mp4 Yeah. The dog has been there before my wife. I know I've had him longer. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_35.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, it's- it's a big stress, it's like my best friend, so that's one of the important things. Also, I guess, cutting down these last cigarettes I've been working on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_37.mp4 Um, finances is a problem right now too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_39.mp4 Time, I got to come to all these appointments and I'm taking time off work, which obviously is the money factor, right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_41.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_43.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Yeah, there's something going on. And, um, also my drinking, I got to cut down my drinking too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_45.mp4 No. It's just overwhelming when you see them everything they're, you know? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_47.mp4 I think- I think the thoughts about the dog has been definitely bothering me, that's been one. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_49.mp4 And, um, my-my asthma is out of control too. So maybe those two. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_6_51.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_1.mp4 Um, it's really stupid. Uh, I was at a pub crawl last night and you know how pub crawls are. You have a few drinks and then I thought it was a really good idea to catch up with my friends who are, yeah, they're in front of me. So I just like jumped off the stairs of the bus and I was wearing these like stilettos 'cause it was a 90s-themed pub crawl. Anyway, and then I just like fell on my ankle. It was really embarrassing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_5.mp4 It was a lot of fun but I didn't do any dancing after that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_7.mp4 Uh, sure, uh, as long as we don't talk too much about like vodka 'cause I'm still, ugh, a little— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_9.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_11.mp4 A little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_13.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_15.mp4 Well, it's normal. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_17.mp4 Um, well, me and my friends kinda, uh, we party on the weekend and, you know, we're all university students and so it's just normal, um, to have a few drinks. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_19.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_21.mp4 Um, per night, uh, like if we go out oh, it's a lot. It's like I can drink probably like seven or eight drinks like if I'm going hard. Um, and then, you know, like maybe when I get home from school, a long day at the library, have a beer or two, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_23.mp4 No. I-I don't know. It's normal for university students I feel. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_27.mp4 Yeah, sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_29.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_31.mp4 Oh really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_33.mp4 Wow. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_35.mp4 Uh, uh I would say a little over that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_37.mp4 Especially with midterms coming up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_41.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_43.mp4 Um, I mean, the 10 drinks seems like not a lot, uh, for like-for me and like my tolerance. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_45.mp4 I guess I've kind of built it up over the years. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_47.mp4 Um, so that's a little- a little bit, uh, concerning I guess to me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_49.mp4 Uh, any reason to? Uh, I guess health-health reasons. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_51.mp4 Um, well, I mean, clearly I don't feel good right now. Um, and it's-- I definitely feel more productive when I don't have a hangover. Uh, so I see a benefit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_53.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_55.mp4 Yeah change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_57.mp4 Yeah, yeah, I think when I'm feeling a little- a little better. Maybe when I haven't gone all out the-the night before and sprained my ankle. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_59.mp4 Okay, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_61.mp4 Sure. Yeah, just not on a Saturday morning. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_63.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_7_65.mp4 Yeah. Sounds good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_1.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, well, the only reason I'm here is 'cause my wife thinks I've got a problem with smoking. I've been smoking all my life and, uh, six months ago, uh, she thought, she got into this health kick, right? And now everyone who smokes is evil. And, uh, so that's why I'm here just to please her, get her off my back and— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_3.mp4 Yeah. That's an understatement. I mean, I'm supposed to be at work right now, too, right? So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_5.mp4 Yeah, yeah. I'm only here because my wife forced me to come, you know. Like this has come to a head six months of just nagging me, relentless every day, because she was able to quit smoking and now I have to quit. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_7.mp4 Well, she's concerned about my health and she cuts out all these articles from the paper about second-hand smoke and— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_9.mp4 Yeah, I've got to read this. That's my reading assignment for breakfast and I want to go out and have-- We used to go out and have a cigarette together at the table. Now I have to go outside in this weather, you know, what's that about? And she used to smoke more than me and now she's like holier than now? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_11.mp4 And she's got my kids on this against me, you know, my son and my daughter, they're, it's like, they're ganging up on me, you know what I mean? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_13.mp4 Well, the big one of course is how it's affecting my wife and the family. Like my dad's 85, he still smokes. I mean, yeah, you know, sometimes I thought of quitting, but I mean, I don't know. I don't know if I can-- I don't know if I can quit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_17.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. I-I'm just, I don't want to lose her or my family over smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_19.mp4 Well, yeah, I mean, we've been married over 25 years, and uh, we've never had any major problems. Like this is-- this is the first problem. I don't even really see it as a problem cause we used to both smoke and I was trying to accommodate them by smoking outside, but it's feeling like we're going like this and I'm just concerned, like if this keeps going, like. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_21.mp4 So, I can actually do it that way like gradual taber? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_23.mp4 I wish my wife could have come today cause she's feels after like, just stop like right away. So do you think she could come with me at a future appointment or something and she could hear that message? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_25.mp4 Okay. I'll have to talk to her as well because their schedule changes from week to week, she works shifts, so I'll call you back tomorrow and we'll set something up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_27.mp4 All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_8_29.mp4 Okay. Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_1.mp4 They found a little bag of weed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_3.mp4 It's not a lot though. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_5.mp4 It's not like I was gonna sell it or anything. It's like— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_7.mp4 Yeah, whatever, you know. It's California, no one cares. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_9.mp4 How long is this gonna take? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_11.mp4 I just wanna get whatever I need to get done, done. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_11_13.mp4 Yeah neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_1.mp4 Yeah, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_3.mp4 Yeah, um, normally, I'm smoking, you know, like once in the morning, uh, once during my lunch break and then in the evening maybe like five or six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_5.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_7.mp4 Um, honestly, it's probably been over the past year or so that I- I've been smoking a little bit more. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_9.mp4 Yeah. Um, I have a two-year-old son as I mentioned, so I try to never smoke around him. So I'm normally kinda waiting until he gets to bed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_15.mp4 Um, I mean, maybe I'll have like a drink or two. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_17.mp4 Um, maybe like two max. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_19.mp4 I don't know. I mean, I don't really get why you're asking me that. I mean, I just came here, you know, for a regular visit. I-I am not here to talk about my drinking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_21.mp4 Yeah, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_25.mp4 Well, I-I'm just kinda surprised because, I mean, I don't smoke or drink that much. And I mean, compared to people I work with, you know, I-I smoke a lot less, and I feel like I've actually been trying to keep it pretty low. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_29.mp4 Um, maybe like a five. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_31.mp4 Well, I mean, you brought up some kinda scary stuff like, you know, cancer risk or other things like that. And you know, being a mother, I-I don't want something to happen to me obviously. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_33.mp4 Well, I mean, I could maybe try to cut back in the evenings a little bit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_35.mp4 Well, right now, if I'm having like five or six, I could try to smoke three in the evening plus, you know, still the couple during the day. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_37.mp4 Yeah. Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_39.mp4 Yeah, I-I think that would be very helpful. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_41.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_43.mp4 Well, what-what for exactly? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_45.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_47.mp4 I mean, I would like to talk about, you know, my stress, but I'm still not sure with the whole drinking thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_49.mp4 I don't think so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_12_51.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_1.mp4 Oh, I-I don't know if I'm comfortable with that. I've been reading a bunch of stuff lately about them. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_3.mp4 Uh, yeah, well, I was just- I was reading that it's better to let them build up their immunity, like, naturally and stuff in their immune systems. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_5.mp4 Well, yeah. I mean, I had chickenpox as a kid, and now I'm immune. Right? So. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_7.mp4 Uh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_9.mp4 Wow, I didn't realize it was so dangerous. I've never heard of polio. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_11.mp4 Uh, I guess it's okay. I mean, I just I want her to be healthy and safe. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_13_13.mp4 Yeah, I just want to do what's right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_1.mp4 Yeah, I guess so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_3.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_5.mp4 Right now, I'm probably- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_7.mp4 -gonna say a six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_9.mp4 But I know when I go home and I see the food, it's probably gonna drop back down to a four. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_11.mp4 Right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_13.mp4 I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_15.mp4 Because I've been wanting to do this for-for years, like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_17.mp4 -ever since I started becoming conscious of my body. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_19.mp4 Like ever since I started being a teen, like this has always been a goal of mine, like, especially 'cause all my friends play soccer, and like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_21.mp4 -hike, and are like super stick-thin but really healthy and active. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_23.mp4 And so I'm just sort of like, well, I'm not. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_25.mp4 But I want to be like-- I don't want to be like stick-thin, but I really want to be like really healthy and really active. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_27.mp4 And like be able to look nice, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_29.mp4 I wanna be able to look nice. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_31.mp4 I don't even really know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_33.mp4 -honestly. Like, I mean, I know I'm gonna have to keep like telling myself like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_35.mp4 -like this is something that you want- that you've wanted- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_37.mp4 -for years. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_39.mp4 Like, you can do it. Because like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_41.mp4 I know I can do it. Like I can do anything. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_43.mp4 I can do anything- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_45.mp4 -I know that. But it's hard getting to the point where I- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_14_47.mp4 -do something. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_1.mp4 Oh, it's a nice place. It's close to work. It's good living with a mate. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_5.mp4 That's the thing, isn't it? I am-- I don't know if it's the best place for me to be if I'm gonna make those changes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_7.mp4 And Tristan is a good flatmate. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_9.mp4 I have no-- We're going in different-different directions now. He doesn't have the same kind of responsibilities I have and stuff, and so-- And I can't expect him to change his whole life around, just because I wanna change mine. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_11.mp4 I just-- I don't know how keen I am to move in with my- with my aunty and uncle, though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_13.mp4 I sit down and talk with him, asked him for, um, for support and stuff and he's fully, he says fully he'll be there for me. But, like I said, he's, um, he's in a different place in his life than I am in mine. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_15.mp4 He doesn't have kids. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_17.mp4 He doesn't-- I don't know if he can really understand what it means to me. Um, he's a good mate. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_19.mp4 The food would be good. Um, I get- I get support with-- my whānau is really supportive, but I'm- I'm worried about losing- I'm worried about losing my freedom. I'm worried about, um, about them taking over, or, you know what I mean? I have a freedom where I am now, I'm in charge of myself. That would probably be really good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_21.mp4 I don't wanna hang on to freedom if it this- if it means that I lose my kids. Um, I'm just, uh, I'm just worried about-- I'm worried about if I move in with family, that they, even if their intentions are good- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_16_23.mp4 I don't know. I'll do anything to get my kids back. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_1.mp4 I don't really know what issues I need to sort. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_3.mp4 I don't really know what issues I need to- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_5.mp4 -sort. It's just a bit of cash. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_7.mp4 So— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_9.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_11.mp4 Um, I don't think there is much to sort. I have a few drinks like everybody else my age. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_13.mp4 Pokies are at the pubs for the thrills, it's no worries. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_15.mp4 It's not an issue. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_17.mp4 Uh, I suppose when you've got no money in the pocket at the end of the night. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_19.mp4 And some nights you do, so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_21.mp4 Well, I don't really keep track. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_23.mp4 I don't know. A few times a week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_25.mp4 I don't know. It's if you're at the pub, you're, you know, that-that you're out there. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_27.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_29.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_31.mp4 I don't know. A few times, probably when I have it, I might drink a drink. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_35.mp4 It's the unlucky ones. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_37.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_39.mp4 A bit of a rush, I suppose. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_41.mp4 Yeah, I suppose. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_43.mp4 I don't know, I suppose it's lead me to be here, maybe. I don't know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_45.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_47.mp4 Much the same, bunch of party girls. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_49.mp4 Um, I don't know. I suppose they walk away a bit quicker than me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_51.mp4 Sarah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_53.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_55.mp4 We'd just have a laugh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_57.mp4 Uh, no friends or friends should-- She accepts me for who I am. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_59.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_61.mp4 At times. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_63.mp4 I don't know. You don't have any money, so-- And that she-she'll probably be quite happy if I stopped. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_65.mp4 But, um, I don't know. She-she doesn't really discuss it with me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_67.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_69.mp4 Mm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_71.mp4 Um, I don't know if pfft-- maybe I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for gambling 'cause- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_73.mp4 -you know, suppose in some way, I took the money for-for that but I don't know, you know? It's just a few dollars here and there and I didn't really think about it at the time, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_75.mp4 -I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_77.mp4 I don't know. I-I don't think it would have been too much of a problem. I mean I'm not a bad person, I wouldn't have, you know, wouldn't have continued to steal. It was just at the time that I was going through a rough patch. I wasn't intending to make it a long-term thing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_79.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_81.mp4 I don't know, you tell me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_83.mp4 Uh, I suppose I didn't expect the-the money would've added up to what it did, so I guess, at the time, I- [sighs] I wasn't thinking of the reality of it, you know, building up, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_85.mp4 -you know, it did, so I'm here- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_87.mp4 -so, I suppose— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_89.mp4 It's a couple of grand or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_91.mp4 Well, that a little bit here, a little bit there is nothing I didn't work for. [chuckles] I worked [unintelligible 00:10:35] and I was getting paid $18 an hour- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_93.mp4 -$25, you do the math. [chuckles] And that's gonna support me? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_95.mp4 I don't know. I'm usually an open person. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_97.mp4 Just provided it will help me deal with it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_99.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_101.mp4 I don't know. I am just usually pretty open with people. It's a bit different here tonight and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_103.mp4 -just not knowing what to expect then— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_105.mp4 I don't know. I suppose I'm saying that the money did add up, and that was enough for me to end up here, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_107.mp4 -I suppose I'm here for a reason. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_109.mp4 I didn't have a choice. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_111.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_18_113.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_1.mp4 Yeah. I-I just-- I can't shoplift anymore. You know, I got- I got caught again. And uh, you know, I-I got suspended, I got back to school, so I'm-I'm uh-- I'm gonna mess up my whole life here, unless I can stop this. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_3.mp4 Yeah, it's bad. My friends and I, we just-- I mean, it's fun and uh-- so I don't know what to do, but I- but I gotta change. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_5.mp4 I want it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_7.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_9.mp4 Right. I don't know what I'm gonna do, I got some friends. These guys are-- they're bad news, but they're my friends. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_11.mp4 And, uh, and it's fun. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_13.mp4 You know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_19_15.mp4 Nothing-nothing much else going on that's as fun as this. We go in, we steal these CDs. It was working out fine, but— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_1.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_3.mp4 Well, um, It's just me and him and I do smoke. Um, I try really hard not to smoke around him, but I-I've been smoking for 10 years except when I was pregnant with him. But it-- everything is so stressful being a single mom and-and my having a full-time job. And so it's just-- that's why I started smoking again. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_5.mp4 Yeah. Some people have a glass of wine. I have a cigarette. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_7.mp4 I know it's not good for him. I mean, I've read those things about ear infections and asthma and stuff and-and, uh, but other kids have ear infections and their parents don't smoke. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_9.mp4 Right. Yeah. I mean, he doesn't have asthma. Yeah. He-- I don't-- he hasn't had a lot of other problems that his other friends have, so. And I've thought about quitting before in the past, but I just don't- I just don't see how it's possible right now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_11.mp4 Well, he was inside me and we were sharing everything and I knew that he would get some of that. And I didn't-- I just didn't-didn't think I could live with myself if something happened to him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_13.mp4 Yeah, exactly. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_15.mp4 I don't know. I-I think about it now, I don't even know how I did it. I just- I just did it. You know, I just- I just couldn't imagine like him not being born or going into labor early- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_17.mp4 "-and-and him having problems and stuff like that, all the stuff that they talk about with women who smoke. So I-- that was just enough to-to say, ""Okay, you know what, I'm-I'm not going to risk that."" so. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_21.mp4 No, I mean, we're two separate people. And like I said, I don't, I try really hard not to smoke around him. I'm pretty good about that. I-I don't let other people smoke around him. Um, so I, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_23.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_25.mp4 "Yeah. I-I know that I need to, and I, you know, keep every new year I say, ""Okay, this year I'm gonna quit smoking"" but then something happens and it-it just doesn't. And quitting doesn't happen. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_29.mp4 Probably like a 5 . Kind of in the unsure area. Like I know I've done it before, so I know I can do it, but at the same time, it just seems really hard. And it's not the same situation. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_31.mp4 I know- I know all the ways it's bad for me. And I don't want him to grow up thinking that it's okay to smoke. I don't want him to-to use any kind of-- I don't want him to chew or anything like that. Um, so I know I need to, especially before he gets old enough to understand what mommy's doing, but I just don't know if I can do it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_35.mp4 I don't know. I-I'd like some help. I just don't know what kind of help I need. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_37.mp4 I don't like medicine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_39.mp4 That sounds nice, but I'm not sure if I have the time for all that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_41.mp4 That would be really nice. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_43.mp4 I would like that. That would be great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_20_45.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_5.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_7.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_9.mp4 Well, my name is Laura. I'm 17 years old, and I'm a senior in high school. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_11.mp4 Well, hopefully, go to college, get, you know, good enough grades to go to college. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_13.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_17.mp4 Um, I'm not sure yet. Maybe a few schools in the area, I'm looking maybe to apply out-of-state. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_19.mp4 So, maybe move away for college. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_21.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_23.mp4 Yeah, definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_25.mp4 Yeah, maybe um, pre-law. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_29.mp4 Well, um, on the weekends I like to hang out with my friends, maybe go to like a party, or go to the mall to shop, or if there's like a school-related event, we'll go to like a football game or- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_31.mp4 -something like that, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_35.mp4 Um, I would say like a moderate amount. I'm not really-really popular or like, I have no friends. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_37.mp4 So, I'm like normal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_41.mp4 Yeah. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_43.mp4 Um, they're pretty good, As and Bs. So, I'm doing okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_45.mp4 Through college. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_47.mp4 Um, family definitely, uh, friendship, and belonging. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_51.mp4 Well, I-I love them, so I want them to think well of me- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_53.mp4 -and I want them to, um, be accepting and love me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_55.mp4 Yeah, I have one sister. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_57.mp4 Friendship, um, I've-I've grown close to many people that I care about. So, I would like them to be accepting of me as well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_59.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_61.mp4 Yeah, just a sense of like fitting in and not-- And like getting accepted- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_63.mp4 -in general, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_65.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_67.mp4 Um, not much, maybe like one or two drinks at the most. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_69.mp4 Um, I pretty much just have a drink to just have it like, so it looks like I'm drinking, even though I'm not. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_71.mp4 So maybe people won't bug me about drinking or something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_73.mp4 Yeah just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_74.mp4 -kinda hold a drink. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_75.mp4 -have one there and pretending to have it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_77.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_79.mp4 Um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_81.mp4 Maybe one or two weekends a month at the most? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_83.mp4 Not really much. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_85.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_87.mp4 Well, just I guess, at a party or something, someone's house. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_89.mp4 Or, even if it's not a party, like a small social gathering, maybe there'll be like a few beers around- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_91.mp4 -or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_93.mp4 Pretty much, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_95.mp4 Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_97.mp4 Mostly just with us, but, sometimes I'll go to like a close friend's house and like I'm close to a family as well. So, we'll all just hang out. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_99.mp4 Um, like drunk driving? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_101.mp4 Um, definitely not. I've never drunk-driven, and I've never been in a car with a drunk driver. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_103.mp4 Yeah, because I know that's extremely dangerous, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_105.mp4 Um, well, alcohol definitely impairs your judgment. So, I mean, driving under the influence of alcohol can lead to like crashes and accidents and things like that, so I'd rather not be in that situation. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_107.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_109.mp4 Yeah, definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_111.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_113.mp4 Not more than two drinks. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_115.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_117.mp4 Um, I've never really been drunk- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_119.mp4 -so, I can't really say that I like that feeling or not, but, it's just like-- I mean, you're just in a good mood. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_121.mp4 So. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_123.mp4 Yeah, yeah, relaxed. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_125.mp4 Um, no, not really. Like I said, I don't drink that much- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_127.mp4 So, I-I wouldn't be able to tell you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_129.mp4 Um, definitely, yeah. I mean, when I'm at parties and stuff and it's getting a little later, some people, um, that drink-- Like, drank too much, they start throwing up, or they get hurt, or they're really loud and obnoxious, and that's not fun for anybody. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_131.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_133.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_135.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_137.mp4 Um, no, I mean, I've never, you know, been friends with anybody that's gotten into like a serious accident and stuff. It's just- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_139.mp4 -very, like, obnoxious things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_141.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_143.mp4 Um, I know it's definitely risky, but, I mean, I guess, we still do it. [chuckles] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_145.mp4 It's just there. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_147.mp4 Um, well, definitely not in my family life, because my parents don't really condone- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_149.mp4 -alcohol use, but, friendships, I mean, when I'm hanging out with my friends, or we're at a party or something, there's usually alcohol involved. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_151.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_153.mp4 I guess, I mean, since it's just there. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_155.mp4 So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_157.mp4 -it ties in with the whole belonging thing. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_159.mp4 Um, it probably will have a very small role, if any- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_161.mp4 -in my life, considering I have big plans for my future. So. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_163.mp4 I mean, I don't think I would be, you know, drinking as much or going to parties as much if I'm studying for school, or in college, or trying to get in law school and things like that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_165.mp4 Yeah, definitely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_167.mp4 Um, maybe less than I am now. I mean, I don't drink much anyway, so- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_169.mp4 -maybe, like, one drink every once in a blue moon. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_171.mp4 Yeah, definitely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_173.mp4 For sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_175.mp4 Well, I mean, I guess right now I would try to stop in high school, and once I get older, maybe just like, socially once in a while, but not anything big or anything. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_177.mp4 Definitely, yeah. That's a good word. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_179.mp4 Maybe a five or six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_181.mp4 Because, um, it's not something I do not care about at all, but it's not something that's just constantly on my mind that I want to change about myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_183.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Definitely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_185.mp4 Um, I'm pretty confident that I can considering that I'm not really an alcohol user per se. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_187.mp4 I'm not really into that whole scene, so, it's-it's not gonna bedifficult for me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_189.mp4 Um, on a scale of 1 to 10- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_191.mp4 -if I can quit or not? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_193.mp4 Maybe like an 8 or 9. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_195.mp4 Because, like I said, it's not a big part of my life. So, it's not really that difficult change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_197.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_199.mp4 Um, probably to stop, maybe next party I go to, not have a drink at all. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_201.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I can just tell my friends-- My pa-- My friends aren't really that pressuring. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_203.mp4 It's just like outside people that I don't really know that well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_205.mp4 "So, I could just tell them, ""Hey, I don't feel like having a drink today."" " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_207.mp4 Um, definitely, I'll have like all my senses there and I'll be aware of everything that's going on. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_209.mp4 Um, health concerns, I guess. I know alcohol is bad for your health. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_211.mp4 So, that would be one. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_213.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_215.mp4 Yeah, that would be okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_217.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_219.mp4 Right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_221.mp4 Um, how would you, um, advise me to like get maybe my friends to stop drinking? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_223.mp4 Okay, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_225.mp4 Oh okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_227.mp4 Yeah, that's a good idea. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_229.mp4 Yeah, for sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_231.mp4 I mean- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_233.mp4 -I was just planning on telling them that I don't really want to drink anymore. That wasn't me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_235.mp4 So. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_237.mp4 Yeah. I mean, at least my closest friends, for sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_239.mp4 No. No, I think I'm okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_241.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_243.mp4 Okay, great. Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_245.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_21_247.mp4 No problem. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_1.mp4 Yes, um, my top value is family happiness, um, that's- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_3.mp4 -that's number one to me, especially now. I usually do this values clarification sheet, like, every two to three months- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_5.mp4 -just to see if anything changed, and every time it has changed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_7.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_9.mp4 Yes, it's the most important because it's a little lacking, so I know that that's something that is very important to me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_11.mp4 Yeah. Um, I can just pretty much say that my family hasn't been on one accord, so, like, if-- I feel like if we all just can fall in the middle, which I know everybody doesn't really follow that track. So, um, I think for my part, 'cause I can't change anybody, is to be more present and, um, just listen and understand my family members, and-and be able to voice what I feel as far as how important family happiness-happiness is to me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_13.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_17.mp4 And I want them to know how important it is to me, especially now, and I do this, like I said, every two to three months just to see where I am. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_19.mp4 And, um, these definitely are different from- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_21.mp4 -what I usually pick. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_23.mp4 "Um, and then the second one I said is religion. Um, it was number one at first, um, but somehow with a big situation that happened in my family you kind of lose sight of your faith a little bit, which is normal. And not a lot of people-- They, uh-- Well, in my church home, i-it just seems like, ""Oh, you lost touch of God, oh my gosh, you're the devil."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_25.mp4 You know? And it's kind of like, well we all face those challenges every day, we're not perfect, you know? And I feel like my faith is still there but it's-- You know, as long as it's still there, that's all that matters. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_27.mp4 Yeah. I lost faith, and so I'm not afraid to say it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_29.mp4 You know? And once you say [unintelligible 00:03:12] people that don't really feel like that's— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_31.mp4 Yeah, I know that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_33.mp4 I know that it's normal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_35.mp4 Yeah, well, it's a— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_37.mp4 "Yeah, it's like a shock to them when you say something like that. And it's like, ""Well, we all go through things where we're just not sure, and--"" I still have a little bit, I'm not saying that I'm off track, you know? I still have a little bit to go on. And the little bit that I do have are the positive things in my life that I look at and I'm like, ""Okay, well, I'm not in this situation, so I'm thankful,"" and- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_39.mp4 "-you know, I'd still have faith to keep going on, but sometimes you feel as though, ""Where is God?"" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_41.mp4 You know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_43.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_45.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_47.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_51.mp4 "I've accepted that. At first, I was like, ""Whoa,"" I think I was focused too much on the first time I did it- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_53.mp4 -then the second time that I did it-- I did five of these total- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_55.mp4 "-but the second time that I did it I was so focused on, ""What did I read about last time?"" You know? " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_57.mp4 So, and I just went ahead and blanked that out and I just went and I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_59.mp4 "-compared and I was like, ""Oh wow."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_22_61.mp4 "Mm-hmm, and that's what I felt wasn't-- At first I was like, ""Is that not normal?"" You know? " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_3.mp4 Yeah. Um, yeah, I guess it kind of- it kind of started like five, six years ago. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_5.mp4 Um, it kind of escalated a bit. Um, I've just recently moved out, um, from living with my parents. So just made it a bit worse, I think. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_7.mp4 Yeah, I am- Yeah. It's the first time actually, yeah. Um, I was going to a few years ago. I just thought it'd be easier to stay at home, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_9.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_11.mp4 Um, don't know, it's kind of, I haven't really told anyone, so, I mean, it's made it like better in sense. I feel, hopefully this is, this is it like, it- it'll help, but I don't know. I don't like thinking that I've like have to do this. I never thought I'd like be the kind of person you'd have to actually go and like get help if that makes sense. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_13.mp4 It's like scared. I don't know. Hopefully, it will help. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_17.mp4 Um, I thought that they'd be better, but 'cause I thought I'd have to kind of be independent and I suppose actually a lot worse. So I'm-I'm just kind of staying in the house a lot. I don't really have any friends or anything. I mean my family come and visit a bit, but it's not-- I don't know. It's kind of scary because I've just been kind of-- that should just end the flight by myself, which I always thought I'd like, but I don't actually like it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_19.mp4 Um, I mean, I'm-I'm a photographer. Um, so I kind of-- It's-it's been stopping me a bit, my anxiety, from being able to get work and because every time, you know, there's, uh, an opportunity that is kind of involving me having to interact with people, I just tend to just turn it down. So it was kind of making things hard in that respect and um, just kind of friends wise and everything. I just feel like I'm just kind of increasingly more alone. So it's kind of stopping me from making friends and, you know, like relationships and stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_21.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Um, it was kind of easier when I was at home because I was obviously, I mean, my parents, so it's fine, but you know, they would, I'd go to places with, um, or I'd kind of have people there, but more and more, I'm just finding myself just staying in a lot. I mean-- I went like two weeks ago for coffee with my friends and the whole time I was just kind of wanting to go home again. So I don't, I just don't want to-- I don't want that to happen. I don't want to lose everyone. So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_23.mp4 Yeah. Um, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_29.mp4 Uh, I guess I'd finished school about a year before that. Um, and I mean, I-I've always been a bit shy, um, at school, but it was never ever, uh, like it didn't really affect the things as much as not at all as much as it has been doing the last few years ago, I guess. It just started when I- like my friends went to university, and, I don't know, I felt like I was expected to kind of move out or do something and then it just kind of escalated from there.I just stop going to parties or I'd just say no to invitations or I don't know, I thought my job would help because I mean, I love it. I've- I really like doing photography, but I'm just kind of getting less and less work as it goes on, so, which is my thing, you know, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_31.mp4 I guess when it- I have to kind of be working with other people. Um, I don't like that. It's like when I'm trying to kind of- would do an event or something where there's a lot of people there, not just photographers, but actual, you know, if I'm like taking places with people that I don't know, I just kind of find myself saying, you know, I mean, I want to do them, but just is scary. So I just don't do it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_33.mp4 Um, just, I mean, I get really hot and sweaty, and I don't-- I feel like everyone's kind of looking at me and thinking that I'm just like really stupid, and I feel like they're all going to be staring and thinking, I just can't do my job. And I'm just an idiot. And I mean, they'll think that I just look like a weirdo and I just try and-- I mean, I just kind of just try and get out of the situation or just focus on something else. So that's why I like doing shots where it's just me and the camera 'cause I- then I can just put all my attention on that instead of having to, you know, be with other people. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_35.mp4 Um, just makes me feel like an idiot, makes me feel like I just shouldn't even bother trying to do it anymore. I should just go home and I just-- I think I just don't want to be in that situation. I just feel like everyone else is fine and they're normal and I'm just the freak, you can't, like do normal things and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_37.mp4 Um, like a work situation or just--? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_39.mp4 Yeah. I was doing a job where it was kind of like a- a Nature issue and I was having to work with a lot of different people. Um, and, um, when they told me about the job, I thought it would be fine. I thought it was just going to be a few other photographers, but there were actually people and, you know, I was taking photos of people kind of in the trees and stuff like that. And I guess- they asked me to, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_41.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. It was a fashion thing. I think it was for some kind of-- I'm not sure if it was a campaign or something, but, it was- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_43.mp4 Yeah, it was, yeah, it was really cool, but I find it- found it really hard to try and focus on that 'cause I was so- I was kind of feeling really anxious and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_45.mp4 No. No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_47.mp4 That was two weeks ago. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_51.mp4 I just felt really- just really kind of hot. I couldn't really breathe and just felt like I wanted to just get out. And I was kind of trying really, really hard to just focus, and just, you know, like kind of hold the camera and just not think about anything, but I just felt like everyone was looking at me and like, when they'd say 'action' and they're trying to get me to start and I was just felt like everyone was just thinking I was really stupid and I shouldn't have been there and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_53.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_55.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_57.mp4 I was just trying to focus on it. I was just thinking if I could just hold it really tightly, it would just-- I don't know. I'd kind of just be able to just get through it and just focus. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_59.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_61.mp4 Cause I felt like I was getting really like hot and flushed and I just thought, at least if I can just-- I don't know. It sounds weird, but I was just trying to keep my hands still on it. 'Cause my hands were kind of sweaty and like shaking like loads, like, and I could just tell everyone was looking and they could see, and I just thought if I just managed to hold onto it, it wouldn't be as noticeable, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_63.mp4 Just-- I was just, just stupid and it was just really-- just felt really like kind of- like everyone was just going to be staring and just thinking that I-- Like- I just felt like everyone was looking at me and just, they could tell. And then just thinking of what was she doing? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_65.mp4 I was just really like sweaty and just— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_67.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_69.mp4 Yeah, um, I was trying to wear black so this kind of tries to cover it up and just like a lot of layers, so they can't tell but, I mean, my hands, like, they were so shaken. I was really red and just was-- Just wishing that I just wasn't there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_71.mp4 I think just very stupid and, like, I think my face was really red. I could feel it flushing and I knew that I'd- I was probably sweating and shaking, like my hands were definitely really really shaking. Um, and af-- it was, like definitely really noticeable. Everyone could definitely see. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_73.mp4 Um, well, I again was trying to grip the camera, just look down, just trying not to do anything weird or-- 'Cause, I mean, they could probably tell I was being weird anyway, but hopefully if-- I just- I just tried really hard to just focus and look down, not trying, like not kind-- look at anyone else and just, yeah, just kind of trying get on with it as best as I could, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_75.mp4 Yeah, no, I-I always do that even if it's really hot or I wear just loads of layers and just 'cause otherwise I- I'll just be really sweaty and like, people would definitely be able to see, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_23_77.mp4 Um, well, it kind of went on for like an hour or so, and then, um, people were going, um, just a-after every shoot people go out for drinks after just to kind of celebrate like that we've done it. I'd just- I went home straight away, just got on my car and went home. I just didn't want to be around them especially after they would've seen me being weird and I just wanted to get-get home straight away. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_1.mp4 Yeah, I hope so. Um, my workplace has just gone smoke-free. I-I'm not-not very happy about it. I'm gonna keep smoking, but I was wondering if there's anything that-that can help me like get through the day. It's like, you know, go get my beer and smoke cigarettes after work. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_3.mp4 No. I'm not gonna quit smoking. I mean, I like it. It helps me relax. So, I mean, I don't see what the big deal is. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_5.mp4 I mean, I smoke a little less than a pack a day. It's not too bad. Um, I've probably smoked for the last five years, but I-I-I mean, could quit if I wanted to, but I don't really want to right now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_7.mp4 Sure. I can quit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_9.mp4 Well, I mean, I don't see why I couldn't, I-- although I have not ever tried to quit, it's just something that I do for fun, you know, on breaks at work, in the morning, and after work. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_11.mp4 I am probably a two. I-I haven't even thought about quitting and until this great announcement at work today, I- I'm totally not gonna quit smoking. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_13.mp4 Well, I mean, anything's possible. I mean, I-I guess I could maybe be convinced. Yeah. Is there some-- I mean, are there things I can try that would make me like want to quit smoking? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_15.mp4 Okay. Well, that’s good information. I mean, I'm not gonna do anything today. I just need to know my options, but that's encouraging. If I decided to quit smoking, I-I do have at least tools to help me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_17.mp4 I don't know. I guess if my friends, like if one of my friends decided to like quit with me, that would probably help too, but I-- all my friends love to smoke, so I don't see that happening in the near future. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_19.mp4 That's a good point. I hadn't really thought about that. That-that's a good idea. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_24_21.mp4 Okay. Well, thanks a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_1.mp4 Um, I really want to start working out again. Definitely wanna get back in it, have a routine, and just be healthy. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_3.mp4 Um, I'm sick of feeling the way I do. I feel kinda sluggish. Especially with the winter coming, I think I want to have more energy. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_5.mp4 Um, I don't like the way my clothes fit or don't fit me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_7.mp4 Just, I don't feel comfortable. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_9.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_11.mp4 Um, I know exercise is-- in the past, has always made me feel good. I felt good about myself, and just in general, exercise, I know, makes me feel good. I want to be a good example for my kids. I want them to feel like that's a part of life- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_13.mp4 -exercising. So, I want-- I really just want to go get back in a routine. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_17.mp4 Um, I don't know. I'd probably have to sit down maybe with my husband and try to figure out a good time for me to be able to do that, where he'd be home with the kids and I'd be going to do that, whether it's morning-time, evening, maybe the weekends. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_19.mp4 Just to find the time to be able to do it, or what works in our schedule. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_21.mp4 Right, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_23.mp4 Mm, I would like to say a seven or an eight, that that's how important it is to me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_25.mp4 Because I'm really sick of being overweight. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_27.mp4 Not ha-- I just don't like being unhealthy. It doesn't make me feel good, so I'm motivated to change, it's just getting there. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_29.mp4 Exactly, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_31.mp4 Mm, I'll probably, I don't know, find-- Now, while it's still somewhat okay outside, maybe pick days I'm gonna go for walks or runs, um, maybe look for a gym close to the house so that I know I can go there quickly or maybe that has daycare, um, yeah, maybe I'll just start to look for that, and find ways I can do it first. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_25_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_26_1.mp4 I just want my call, that's it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_26_3.mp4 [scoffs] Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_26_5.mp4 I don't know. Some of-- One of the officers, it's like he has it out for me or something. I don't- I don't know what it is. Something about me not making my bed, something about my attitude. I don't know, I just want my call, man. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_26_7.mp4 I just wanna contact my mom, that's it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_26_9.mp4 My dad's birthday is tomorrow. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_26_11.mp4 And I just wanted my call so I can talk to my mom. That's it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_1.mp4 Thank you, my doctor [unintelligible 00:00:05] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_3.mp4 Well am having, um-- I've been an ongoing problem with smoking and trying to quit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_5.mp4 Oh I've been wanting to, for a long long time in years. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_7.mp4 Well I have a 15-year-old daughter and she's highly against it. And, um, health issues, you know, I'm getting-- not getting any younger and I have asthma and I have chronic bronchi-- bronchitis and, um, I'm having a hard time breathing when I exercise and not to mention it's socially unacceptable really. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_9.mp4 Actually it's like being a leper in a non-leper colony. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_13.mp4 Right and, um, she's been expressing, you know, she walks in and she's like shhh and it's embarrassing for her friends and, um, and in-in turn, it's embarrassing for me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_15.mp4 Right right, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_17.mp4 Oh and emphysema the beginning stages of emphysema. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_19.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_21.mp4 I really couldn't tell you, um, I remember when my daughter was like five, um, I was-- it was humid out and I have a problem with humidity- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_23.mp4 -you know, for breathing, um, and, um, I was trying to stick my head out the window to gasp for air- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_25.mp4 -and my daughter became so frightened that she went next door to our neighbor and called 911 and it really— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_27.mp4 Yeah-Yeah she's very intelligent, yeah. Um, and they came they took me, you know, on this chair type of thing in my robe and my daughter was in sure panic, um, thinking she's was gonna lose me and she's 15 so its been 10 years since then and I still I've tried this Chantix- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_29.mp4 -unsuccessfully, uh,-- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_31.mp4 Well, um, I don't know if it's my lack of willpower but, um, also had ve-very bad side effects from it so. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_33.mp4 Um, I had nightmares- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_35.mp4 -nausea- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_39.mp4 Right and it didn't stop me from smoking as well, so that's, uh, [laughs]— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_41.mp4 Um, that was about two to three years ago. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_45.mp4 "I would get a, um, a new prescription refilled thinking, ""Oh I could try it this time."" " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_47.mp4 And I had friends that it worked for- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_49.mp4 Um, and there is a support group that they have that you can go online or call- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_51.mp4 -but of course I didn't do either but- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_53.mp4 -um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_55.mp4 No. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_57.mp4 And agitation really- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_59.mp4 -because, um, you know, um, being at my age I'm going through the menopause stage which is part, you know, you'll have that anyways and then having 15-year-old that causes a little bit more stress so you don't need any extra stress, I don't think, as far as I'm concerned. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_61.mp4 Right, exactly. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_63.mp4 Only when I was in the hospital. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_65.mp4 And even then I-I snuck out and had a cigarette, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_67.mp4 Oh God, I would have to say, uh, three days. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_69.mp4 But it was not really by choice, it was by, um, the situation I was in, I wasn't able to smoke so, yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_71.mp4 Right. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_73.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_75.mp4 Um, constant thoughts about smoking. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_77.mp4 Um, uh, just as, um, a chocoholic craves chocolate- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_81.mp4 Yeah, exactly. Mm-hmm. Yeah. Um, and the first thing when I was able to smoke, I didn't care if I smoke my brand or anybody else's brand, I just wanted that cigarette. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_83.mp4 The nicotine is the addiction. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_85.mp4 And-and also the-the psyche thing, you know, with-- I mean, I wake up in the morning, I want a coffee with- I want coffee with a cigarette. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_87.mp4 Um, if I'm stressed, coffee with a cigarette. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_89.mp4 I mean, just cigarette. Um, so it's always, like, it's-it's a duel kind of problem I think- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_91.mp4 -you know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_93.mp4 -I'm finding it to be. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_97.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_101.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_103.mp4 "As they say, my aunt was like, ""Put another nail in your coffin,"" you know. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_105.mp4 "More on kind of cocky and I say, ""Well, you know, Aunt Kathy, you were my role model, and back in the day, um, I used to envy and watch and think you were so sexy, and all the movies, the old movies."" " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_107.mp4 Yes, yeah. And that's what I associated with at the time and now it's almost, I'm ostracized for it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_109.mp4 So, it's kind of like a double-edged sword. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_111.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_115.mp4 Oh, yeah, and you have to travel like 10 miles- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_117.mp4 -in order to have a cigarette. And not say you're in a situation and you only have a 15-minute break- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_119.mp4 -you can't even finish your cigarette, um, because you have to be back within a certain amount of time and it takes you, like, let's say seven minutes to get to the place where you can smoke and seven minutes to get back- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_28_121.mp4 -and a cigarette, um, for me takes five minutes to smoke. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_1.mp4 Um, I definitely, uh, you know, I-I strive to be physically healthy, but I also have in my life seeing how that impacts me mentally. Um, so I think if I'm- if I'm able to do the things that I wanna do and, um, you know, that I'm feeling good about where I'm at mentally, then that's kind of my end goal, always. Um, yeah, so this body dissatisfaction piece has really just kinda thrown a wrench in that and it's been enough of a challenge that I thought I should seek out someone who can really help me through that piece. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_3.mp4 Yes, please. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_5.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_8.mp4 So, like, for example, having like a-a set out meal plan, um, you know, where I'm eating certain food groups or certain macronutrients, for example, that wouldn't necessarily follow that same approach. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_10.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_12.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_14.mp4 Okay, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_16.mp4 Well, I think it makes sense, especially like-like you said, to be sustainable. Um, yeah, I definitely wouldn't wanna try something where I'm going to crash and burn for days in. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_18.mp4 Um, when you talk about activity and you mentioned like really, um, like rigorous activity types, um, like I go to a gym and I enjoy going to the gym when I was active. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_20.mp4 Um, would that be kind of against that philosophy too or I guess, can you explain that a bit more? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_22.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_24.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_26.mp4 Cool, so both with the foods and the activity, we would be working to find things that I like to do- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_28.mp4 -that I could do for longer periods versus more of like you said, the prescriptive approach. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_30.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah, no, I think that-that all sounds good. Um, you know, I still would want to lose weight. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_32.mp4 Um, and I know you said weight loss isn't really the goal, so I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_34.mp4 -I just want to be upfront about that part with me and maybe that changes or maybe it doesn't, but what do you think about that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_29_36.mp4 Great. Yeah, now that sounds good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_1.mp4 I don't know, and I still don't wanna charge it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_3.mp4 No. I got a lot of stuff to do, I don't need to charge it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_5.mp4 No. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_7.mp4 I guess so. I don't know. I-I-I honestly don't care what the consequences are. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_9.mp4 Sure. I'll listen. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_11.mp4 Whatever. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_13.mp4 No. I just-- I don't care. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_15.mp4 It really [unintelligible 00:00:58]-- I don't care. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_17.mp4 Nope. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_19.mp4 Yeah, whatever. I Know you got to do your job, but I don't care. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_21.mp4 I mean, whatever happens happens. I'll deal with it when it happens. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_23.mp4 I mean, I'll just deal with it when it comes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_25.mp4 Yeah, I guess so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_30_27.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_1.mp4 Hey. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_3.mp4 Yeah, my doctor talked to me about my cholesterol, that-that's-that's his job. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_5.mp4 Yeah, that'd be okay, yeah, you know, I'm not so certain I'm even gonna take the medicine cause, you know, he mentioned muscle weakness, uh, you know, I-I know I got high cholesterol, uh, and that I'm running the risk of stroke and heart attack down line but yeah, he mentioned muscle weakness and I've been thinking about that and, uh, you know I'm a truck driver and I got a haul the heavy boxes out of the truck on a dolly, and I can't afford that right now. Just that-that muscle weakness, uh, that-that bothers me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_7.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_9.mp4 Yeah, that's the problem, that's what I face now with my job. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_15.mp4 That'd be fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_17.mp4 Oh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_19.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_21.mp4 Well, I guess it doesn't worry me quite as much if it's reversible like that. You know, I was thinking this was gonna be a big-time, but, uh, uh, yeah, I guess, it sounds manageable. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_23.mp4 Oh, he just said that the risks are-are up, I think he called it elevated but, uh, you know, uh, that I'm at a higher risk of having a stroke or a heart attack down the line, uh, you know, that's down the line. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_25.mp4 Well, you know, my wife and I wanna retire in about four to five years and we wanna be really active visiting all sorts of places, The Fjords, Norway, things like that so I-I guess having a stroke or a heart attack would really be bad for that so and, you know, we-we-we wanna live our dreams actively. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_27.mp4 Whoa. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_29.mp4 Yeah, no-no we-we wanna able to be very active. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_31.mp4 Well, uh, I guess that's the-the way to go then cause I-I don't wanna be, you know, crippled by a stroke or a heart attack- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_33.mp4 -so take- taking the medicine sounds like the-the end of the game right now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_35.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_37.mp4 Oh yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_39.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_41.mp4 And the medicine can get my cholesterol down? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_43.mp4 Wow, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_45.mp4 Yeah, I'll take the medicine. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_47.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_49.mp4 That'd be fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_51.mp4 Fair enough, hey thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_31_53.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_1.mp4 Hmm, pretty good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_3.mp4 Check it, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_5.mp4 Oh, that was fixed really nice. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_7.mp4 You got rid of that bad- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_9.mp4 -discoloration that was there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_11.mp4 I like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_13.mp4 Mm. Well, the usual suspects, smoking, wine, coffee- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_15.mp4 -all of the above. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_17.mp4 Yeah, I've thought about it. I'm just-- It's not my cup-- I-I-I hear it from everybody, and, uh, I've tried- I've tried before, didn't work. I get it all the time. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_19.mp4 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, [unintelligible 00:01:13] hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_21.mp4 "Yeah, I-I-I know I'm not an idiot and people know that smokers are, you know, ""How can you smoke today?"" [coughs] It's just not that easy to, uh, quit. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_25.mp4 Uh, who wouldn't be? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_27.mp4 You'd have to be a real fool not to do it- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_29.mp4 -if you [unintelligible 00:01:34] was gonna make it like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_31.mp4 I-I just hear it every day. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_33.mp4 I've smoked for 40 years, since I was 14- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_35.mp4 -and quit a couple of times, off and on in my 20s, but, you know, it's been consistent. And I can't see myself changing now. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_37.mp4 No matter what kinda talk I get or what they come up with. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_39.mp4 Not gonna worked for me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_41.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_43.mp4 I know cold turkey is probably the only thing that's ever gonna do it to anybody that's done it. Mysel- My group, it's been cold turkey- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_45.mp4 -and then they fight it, but [sighs] it's my choice- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_47.mp4 -and I don't like lectures about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_51.mp4 Hard to tell 'cause I already had open-heart surgery. That didn't do it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_53.mp4 Prostate cancer, that didn't do it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_55.mp4 I don't know. I really don't know. I just don't really want it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_57.mp4 I just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_59.mp4 -have to- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_61.mp4 Yeah, a while, quite a while. Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_63.mp4 Okay, yeah. I could go for that. I-I, uh, I'm always open to some-- you know, to listen. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_65.mp4 Yeah. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_67.mp4 "[unintelligible 00:03:34] options. I had some-- I had my surgeon just go like, ""You're- you're--"" like, ""Why do I even keep you as a patient?"" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_69.mp4 He's good, though. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_71.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_73.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_75.mp4 Thanks, doc. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_33_77.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_1.mp4 Um, my doctor referred me. He said I had to come because I've- I've been a little irresponsible with this pregnancy. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_3.mp4 Yeah. Um, he said that I was drinking too much with it. Um, I-I haven't been a lot, but he said it was still maybe, um, would screw things up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_5.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. Like I don't- I don't want to screw anything up with this baby, but, um, yeah, I'm just- I'm scared I already did. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_9.mp4 "Yeah. He didn't really tell me what to expect. He just said, ""Go- go see her as well."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_11.mp4 Yeah. Um, I didn't find out I was pregnant until probably two-ish months in- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_13.mp4 -and I had already been drinking then. Um, I've been really trying not to, but, you know, weekends come around, and, um, all my friends are kind of partying and stuff, and it's been hard to, like, break that habit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_15.mp4 A little bit. I think if I- if I talk to them, it would be fine, but it's-it's weird, right? Like I'm the only one of my friends that's, like, taking this step and having a kid, and they don't really know how to handle that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_19.mp4 "Yeah, like, I'm- I'm still, like, I'm only in my 20s, and-and for everyone else, it's like, ""Okay, it's party time,"" and now I kind of have to, like, break out of that. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_21.mp4 There's, yeah, there's part of me that still wants to live that out because I'm not going to have another chance, like once this kid comes, it's-it's going to be over. I know I'm gonna- I know I'm going to have to change. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_23.mp4 Yeah. Probably. And I'm also feeling like it's too late. I already screwed it up. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_25.mp4 "Well, I know, like, they say not to, but I thought because my friends didn't really care, I thought, ""Okay. Like maybe-maybe it doesn't matter. Maybe it's just what they tell you."" Just like drinking, in general, is bad. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_29.mp4 Yeah, like, I should probably have trusted my gut. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_31.mp4 It's telling me that what I'm doing is wrong and it's probably hurting my kid and that- that I'm gonna really regret that once I actually get my kid. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_33.mp4 Um, I'm definitely it's not-- I think I could probably do it. It's just- it-it comes hard when you're, like, in that moment. You're around your friends and they're drinking and you don't wanna be- you don't wanna be the mom at that moment. You wanna be yourself. You wanna be who you were before. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_35.mp4 And so many people, when they have kids, they just vanish from their friends. And I don't wanna be that person. I don't wanna be that person that just has a kid and they're completely-completely different. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_37.mp4 Yeah, suburbs. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_39.mp4 Yeah, I-I guess. Like, I don't wanna- I don't wanna lose my friends because of this. And I don't wanna put pressure on them to change because they're, I mean, they're good people. They're just— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_41.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_43.mp4 I don’t want that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_45.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_47.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_49.mp4 Like, I wanna- I wanna be responsible for this thing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_51.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_53.mp4 I guess so. I feel like I've already made a choice and already made some bad choices with this. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_55.mp4 Well, I-I kept the kid because I wanted-- It was almost like that push, that sign for me to, like, move forward and become like an adult because it's scary, right? Like I-I still feel like a teenager sometimes. And having that push to be a real person is really-- It's a lot of pressure and I-I want to raise this kid well. I don't wanna- I don't wanna let my kid down. I don't wanna, you know, I don't wanna regret choosing to have this kid because I think it's the right time, but I don't wanna- I don't wanna make mistakes that make me realize maybe I'm not ready for this 'cause sometimes it feels like I'm not ready for this. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_57.mp4 Yeah, I just guess it's easier said than done though. Like, it's, like, great, I can make all these changes and I can be a completely new person, but it's, like, at the end of the day, I'm still just who I am. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_59.mp4 Yeah. And I'm just- you know, you can't just one day flick a switch and become a new person. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_61.mp4 Yeah, I guess that voice is just a little more stifled by the other one. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_63.mp4 Yeah, it's gonna be very different when it actually comes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_65.mp4 I think I'm gonna have to be successful. I don't really- I don't have any other choice. Like I have to- I have to take that path. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_67.mp4 Because I need to for my kid. It's- it's gonna be all screwed up if I don't. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_69.mp4 "I don't know, like, maybe- maybe actually talking to my friends and saying like- or maybe them actually being able to see this kid and go, ""Of course, of course, your- your choice makes sense. You--"" Maybe it would, you know, give them a wake-up call too if They actually, like, see it. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_71.mp4 Or at least they'll feel less pressure to be who they want me to be. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_73.mp4 A little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_75.mp4 Definitely my parents, um, and I probably need to, uh, go and meet some other-other people who are maybe, you know, having kids too so that I can see, like how it's done 'cause like, I only have a younger brother who's like not-not even close to that. So I don't really have anyone in my life that I know that's had kids recently. So I-I would like to meet other, you know, young moms out there who, you know, are kind of struggling with the same stuff I am. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_77.mp4 I don't think they realize, uh, that I'm doing it or how much I'm doing it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_79.mp4 And I know that if they found out, they would be really pissed. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_81.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_83.mp4 I think so, yeah, like the telling my parents and [unintelligible 00:13:45] this to my parents is probably the scariest thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_85.mp4 And having to talk to those friends, like right now I don't want to do that. It's- it puts them in a weird place. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_87.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_89.mp4 It feels like I have to lec- I don't wanna have to lecture them and I don't want it to be like a lecture. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_91.mp4 My parents or my friends? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_93.mp4 Yeah, lecture my-- Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_95.mp4 Yeah, and I don't wanna be like that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_97.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_99.mp4 I wanna stay friends with them. I don't want- I don't want them to just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_101.mp4 Yeah, like if there's a- if there's a balance between maybe not the paths, but the worlds, if there's a balance between that- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_103.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_105.mp4 Yeah, like I-I know I just can't cut off my friends altogether. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_107.mp4 Um yeah, like I'm so close anyways, that I know I need to now. Um, and I just also, like, have I completely screwed this up, like, is it already too late? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_109.mp4 Mm-hmm, I have to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_111.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_113.mp4 I don't think so. I think just knowing that it's not too late already is enough kick in the pants to get started. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_34_115.mp4 A little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_1.mp4 Hi, Dawn. Nice to meet you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_3.mp4 Thanks for having me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_5.mp4 So I am, um, 28. And I moved out to Arizona about six months ago. Um, I really enjoy spending time with my family and hanging out with friends whenever I can. Work keeps me pretty busy. Um, But I'm really, um, looking to kind of make some changes to my diet and physical activity. I'm not really happy with where my weight's at right now, and, uh, so I thought it'd be good to come and talk with you about some of that stuff. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_7.mp4 Yeah. Um, I'm really starting to notice how I feel more sluggish and just not-- My mood is shifted a lot too, which at first, I thought was because it's getting colder outside, um, but I do also think it maybe has some relation to my activity, or lack thereof, and also kind of the foods that I'm eating. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_9.mp4 Right. Yeah. Especially during times when I'm more active is when I noticed the biggest cha-change in energy and mood. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_11.mp4 Yeah. Um, well, I played sports in college, so that kept me pretty busy, and that was really fun, um, and I just think back now to, as much that I would cram into a 24 -hour period, and like, wonder how I did that, but I think that part of it was because I was so active physically, um, I just had way more energy throughout the day, mentally and physically to, um, you know, go to school full-time and-and still socialize with friends and do all that stuff. Um, so when I think back to like, probably like the peak of my life of when I felt my best physically, mentally it was that time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_13.mp4 Yeah, yeah, exactly. And now it's not so much the same. Um, like when I get home from work, I'm pretty exhausted, uh, it takes a lot for me to want to be physically active when I've spent all day staring at a computer and thinking and working. And so, um, yeah, that's probably been my biggest, uh, issue is like when work ends, going home and not really doing anything. Um, just trying to like unwind by watching Netflix or something else, right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_15.mp4 Um, well, I think part of it is that when I was in college, it wasn't really an option to go, like, I had to go to practice or I had to do those things because that was, in a sense, my job that was paying for school, um, and now there's not that same commitment to other people or to scholarship money. So that definitely has shifted, um, but I-I do feel like a-an urgency to go it just doesn't seem that like the step that's missing is for me to actually go to a gym or somewhere to be more active. Like, I think I want to it's just the doing it that seems to not happen. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_17.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_19.mp4 Yeah, yeah, I think so. Um, that's not to say like, I wanna go run a marathon but I do think that it would help me a lot in terms of just having a better outlook on life, um, and better energy to- if I were to pick up some type of activity. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_21.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_23.mp4 Just, I'm-I'm just happier and more upbeat and I think that even my outlook is more positive. So like, if I'm sitting in traffic, and I haven't been physically active, I'll probably grumble about it but if I'm sitting in traffic, and I have been, it's like, I just have a different outlook on things and I already feel like I've gotten something accomplished that day. So it just kind of like helps with that ripple effect into my day of like getting more things done. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah, exactly. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_27.mp4 Yeah. And then also to, um, like I mentioned, I'm not totally happy with my weight, um, and so hoping too that that would have some impact there and-and maybe help me, um, if my activity kind of gets resolved or improves, then my nutrition also, maybe would go along with it and get better. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_29.mp4 Uh, probably about three, four months ago. Um, yeah, just my clothes started fitting tighter, which wasn't as comfortable, and, um, yeah, just not really super happy with my appearance, which has never really been an issue, um, in my life up until now. I've usually been pretty okay with that, and then in the last three months, I just feel, um, like I've had a lot more of a negative outlook on it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_31.mp4 Yeah, I think- I think the activity piece and then also to like, the foods that I'm eating, I don't think are that great. So that also kind of does the same thing, I think, to my appearance or the way that I viewed myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_35_33.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_1.mp4 Yes. Morning. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_3.mp4 Hello. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_5.mp4 Well, you can call me Barbara. That'll be fine. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_7.mp4 Yes, Dr. Brown is my doctor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_9.mp4 Well, I've come about my tummy problem. I've got terrible trouble with my stomach and, uh, Dr. Brown just doesn't seem to be able to get to the bottom of it. And I thought perhaps, uh, I'd come and see you to see if you could help. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_11.mp4 Um, well, I-I have this terrible discomfort nearly all the time. Um, it very often feels bloated. I, um, uh, I swing between being constipated and having diarrhea. Um, I have sort of cramping feelings sometimes, and other times it stabs. It's a real stabbing feeling. Um, I often have the urge to go to the toilet and, um, and I pass very smelly wind. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_13.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_15.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_17.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_19.mp4 Well, I, uh, I've traced it back to a holiday I had in Egypt about four years ago. I had, um, a horrible bout of sickness and diarrhea, and, uh, and I don't think my stomach's ever been really right since then. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_21.mp4 Yes. Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_23.mp4 Well, uh, Dr. Brown gave me some muscle relaxants at the beginning. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_25.mp4 Um, but I've been to the health shop and-and they've been really helpful. They've given me lots of different, um, tablets and medicines- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_27.mp4 - for different things. Um, no, oh, and Immodium. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_29.mp4 I have Immodium in my handbag all the time, just in case. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_31.mp4 Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_33.mp4 Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_35.mp4 Oh, well, different tablets, you know, I don't have the same problem every day- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_37.mp4 - so I'll take some tablets for certain, uh, symptoms, and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_39.mp4 - other tablets for other things. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_41.mp4 Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_43.mp4 Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_45.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_47.mp4 Yes, uh, I had, uh, in the early days, I had a gastros-gas-- What are they called? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_49.mp4 That's it. Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_51.mp4 Yes. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_53.mp4 Um, and at the same time I had a barium enema. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_55.mp4 That was very uncomfortable. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_57.mp4 Um, but, um, no, I've tried-- Well, you-- I don't think he's tried enough tests because he said after that, that they didn't find anything- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_59.mp4 -and he-he's-he's just not sent me for anymore. That's it now- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_61.mp4 - as far as he's concerned. Sent me back to the doctor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_63.mp4 Well, you know, I think that actually, the NHS are running out of money, aren't they? And he's- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_65.mp4 - decided that I've had enough tests. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_67.mp4 And, um, you know, if you go on the Internet- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_69.mp4 - there's loads of tests that he could have sent me for. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_71.mp4 Um, if I had a bit more money, I'd go private. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_73.mp4 I just don't think he's got to the bottom of it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_75.mp4 No, he's not. There's loads more he could do. I'm sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_77.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_79.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_81.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_83.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_85.mp4 I'd say so, yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_87.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_89.mp4 Uh, well, it's had quite-quite a big impact. Um, I mean, the first thing, the biggest thing, I suppose, is that I-I went from being full-time to part-time at work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_91.mp4 I just couldn't sit all day comfortably. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_93.mp4 Um, and so I went part-time, but in the end, I, uh, about a year ago, I stopped work altogether. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_95.mp4 Um, I miss that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_97.mp4 I miss the girls. We used to, uh, we used to go out at least once a week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_99.mp4 To the pictures or for a drink. That's one thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_101.mp4 Yeah, so I-- Yes. Yes, we used to have a laugh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_103.mp4 Um, I used to go to Swing and Shape. I used to go to an exercise class- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_105.mp4 - that was, um, I miss the exercise, actually. That was, um, once a week, but you know, the thing was I wasn't comfortable, never felt quite right doing all this exercise. I was always worried I was gonna be taken short or-- So I stopped that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_107.mp4 Um, then-- Well, my husband and I used to go out for meals. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_109.mp4 That's another thing we don't do anymore now. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_111.mp4 Um, mm. Yeah, it's quite a few things, really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_113.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_115.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_117.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_119.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_121.mp4 Well, I potter around the house- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_123.mp4 - um, I spend perhaps a little bit too much time watching. I've got a bit hooked on daytime television, I have to say. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_125.mp4 Um, they draw you in, don't they? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_127.mp4 Um, I read a bit- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_129.mp4 - the old magazines, but, uh, generally, I'm at home. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_131.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_133.mp4 Um, well, last year, um, my son got married- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_135.mp4 - and I-I have to say I was worried that, um, that I wouldn't be able to cope with it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_137.mp4 That I-I wouldn't be feeling well enough, but surprisingly enough, um, I was in good form, and I think it was about three weeks in the summer, getting ready for it- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_139.mp4 - and the whole hoo-ha of the wedding. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_141.mp4 But I was in good- in really good form for that. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_143.mp4 That was a good time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_145.mp4 I hardly noticed them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_147.mp4 Yeah, it, uh, it seemed to, uh, clear up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_149.mp4 Which was good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_151.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_153.mp4 Um, well, it's- I'm-I'm having a bit of a bad patch at the moment. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_155.mp4 It's particularly, um, uncomfortable. Um, I have to say I do notice it when my husband's away. He- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_157.mp4 - he travels with his job, and he- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_159.mp4 - can be away a couple of times a month. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_161.mp4 Um, and that's not-- It-it's very often not good then, I have to say. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_163.mp4 Mm. Maybe I'm thinking about it a bit more, I don't know, when he's not there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_165.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_167.mp4 Well, he's-he thinks it's all in my head. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_169.mp4 You know, he's- he says it's stress. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_171.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_173.mp4 Well, I mean, it can't all be in my head. I get too much physical pain- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_175.mp4 - for it to be in my head. I mean, it's real. It's-it's real pain. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_177.mp4 Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_179.mp4 Well, I mean, I-I did think that perhaps it was an infection that hadn't cleared up- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_181.mp4 - in the early stages, but, um, I think, um, I-I mean, sometimes I think it's IBS. A friend of mines has got that and it sounds similar, and then- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_183.mp4 "- other times I'll think, ""I wonder if it's an ulcer."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_185.mp4 Um, on a really bad day, I start to think it might be cancer. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_187.mp4 Um, my mother-in-law- my mother-in-law died of cancer last year and she had a, um, a growth that- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_189.mp4 - the-the doctor didn't investigate. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_191.mp4 But by the time they'd found it, it was the size of a football- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_193.mp4 - and it was- it was too late to operate then. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_195.mp4 So, you know, when I go to bed at night now, um, I just feel to make sure there's nothing different going on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_197.mp4 And, uh, yeah, I worry about that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_199.mp4 Oh, yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_201.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_203.mp4 I just want to make sure there's nothing changing down there, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_205.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_207.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_209.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_211.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_213.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_215.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_217.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_219.mp4 Yes. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_221.mp4 I'd say so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_223.mp4 Well, I thought, you know, you're a new doctor here- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_225.mp4 - and you've just finished your medical training. I wondered whether, you know, with new eyes and a new way of looking at-at the problem- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_227.mp4 - um, you-you probably know about different tests, new tests, that my doctor doesn't know about, you know, new developments. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_229.mp4 So perhaps you could send me for some different tests. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_231.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_233.mp4 Well, I think there's-there's got to be something that a test might- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_235.mp4 - might reveal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_237.mp4 So-so like, do you think it's all in my head then? You're gonna be like Dr. Brown. You think I'm imagining all of this? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_239.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_241.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_243.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_245.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_247.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_249.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_251.mp4 Well, I can't see that my mind can be causing this amount of pain. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_253.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_255.mp4 What-what sort of approach? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_257.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_259.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_261.mp4 Well, I just can't do them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_263.mp4 I can't- I can't do them anymore. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_265.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_267.mp4 Oh, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_269.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_271.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_273.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_275.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_277.mp4 Hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_279.mp4 Well, two or three months is a long time if there is something going on. I mean, that's what happened to my mother-in-law, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_281.mp4 They-they left her and- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_283.mp4 - didn't spot it and— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_285.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_287.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_289.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_291.mp4 So, uh, what are you saying then? That I should come back and see you? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_293.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_295.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_297.mp4 Okay. Well, uh, to make an appointment for next week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_299.mp4 And come and see you again- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_301.mp4 - and talk about it a bit more? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_303.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_305.mp4 All right. And I'll make a list of the tablets that I'm taking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_307.mp4 I won't bring all the bottles down. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_309.mp4 Okay. All right. I'll do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_311.mp4 I'll make an appointment for next week. Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_36_313.mp4 Okay. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_1.mp4 Kia ora. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_3.mp4 Yeah, yeah fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_5.mp4 Actually, it's been pretty good. I, um, I talked to my mom, which, uh- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_7.mp4 -which is a big deal. And, uh, she was excellent. Um, I knew she would be. Um, and, uh, I've made an appointment for the, uh, for Stopping Violence and [unintelligible 00:16:15] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_9.mp4 Um, I've cut down on the drink. I haven't stopped drinking, but, uh-- Yeah, so, uh, it's okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_15.mp4 Uh, I didn't speak to my brothers and sisters this time, I just spoke to my mom, but, uh, she, uh, she suggested that I go and stay with my, uh, auntie and my uncle. Uh— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_19.mp4 I'm not sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_21.mp4 I'm not sure, I'm thinking about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_23.mp4 Well, I'm not sure if I want to live with my auntie and uncle. [chuckles] Um, I think, yeah, I'll probably need to. I think probably living with, uh, with my mate in his flat is probably not that helpful. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_25.mp4 It was terrible. It was really hard. Uh, I think probably the hardest person to talk to about it, my mom. My, um, my old man, um-- Yeah, it was hard. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_27.mp4 I try. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_29.mp4 Well, I hope it tells you that, um, that I'm a good bloke. That I'm a good dad. That I really- that I'm really serious. I am really serious. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_31.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_33.mp4 Uh, yeah, I talked to her about it. We talked a little bit. Um, and she's not completely convinced. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_35.mp4 Um, but we'll see how it goes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_37.mp4 I need to, um, I need to see all these things that I've started to put into action, I need to see them through to the end. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_37_39.mp4 Well. I need to- I need to, uh, to show her that she can trust me. That I'm serious about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_1.mp4 Yeah, um, last week I met with my nurse practitioner, and I ge-I guess she's worried with how much I'm smoking and drinking right now. I mean, I-I did agree I would work on the smoking and try to cut back on that. But, as far as the drinking, I-I don't really think I drink that much. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_3.mp4 Right, I mean, I don't drink that much and, honestly, it-it's just a good way to relax. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_5.mp4 Yeah, exactly. You know, it's kind of like that me time at the end of the day. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_7.mp4 Yeah. You know, I have a two-year-old son, and then, I work full-time. And, I also started going back to school. So, you know, just trying to juggle all that stuff. You know, it's tiring, and so, you know, at the end of the day, I just- I wanna relax and enjoy myself. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_9.mp4 Yeah, and for work, you know, I'm a server. So, I'm on my feet all day, you know, and it's-it's really tiring. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_11.mp4 Yeah, you know, it's hard trying to please customers all day. And then, at the same time, I'm-I'm worrying, am I making enough money to support my son, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_13.mp4 Yeah, and then, you know, with going back to school, you know, I have to figure out how I'm going to pay for everything. So, you know, i-it's just a lot right now. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_15.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_17.mp4 Well, that's the thing. I-I don't really understand what raised concern. I mean, I don't drink that much, you know. I've-I've gone up to maybe two drinks a day max, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_19.mp4 Not much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_21.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_23.mp4 I don't know, i-it just surprises me because, I mean, two drinks a day, that-that doesn't seem like a problem or risky, you know. And, I have family members who drink a lot more than that per day, and, it's not a problem for them. So, i-it just surprises me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_25.mp4 No. And then, I don't know, I-I'm just getting kind of annoyed, honestly, because, you know, I did agree I would try to work on my smoking, you know. But, with this whole drinking thing, it's like everything that I enjoy, you know, is being taken away from me right now. And so, if I give up drinking, like, what am I going to have to enjoy myself, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_27.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_29.mp4 Yeah, I mean, I guess it has. Probably just with being so stressed out every day, you know. I mean, I'm in my second semester of school right now, and so, adding that to everything, uh, it's a lot. And, you know, I'm trying to figure out child carry. Um, normally, my mom will watch my son, but, lately, she can't always. And so, I'm always kind of worrying like, will she be able to, you know. So, i-it's just stressful. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_31.mp4 Yeah, I-I guess that's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_33.mp4 Uh-huh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_35.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_37.mp4 No. I guess, you know, the one- the one thing I can think of is, I mean, there will be evenings when I just kind of want to get my son to bed a little earlier, just so that I can have that alone time to unwind, you know, maybe-maybe smoke, have a couple drinks. Um, but, I do feel guilty about that sometimes, because, I should enjoy spending time with my son, but, instead, you know, I'm just wanting to be by myself and relax, you know. So— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_41.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_43.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_45.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_47.mp4 No. And, i-it's just, it's really hard to take in right now. I mean, yeah. I-I've never thought about it like this. And, so, you know, I-I do feel kind of worried. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_49.mp4 Yeah. I mean, i-it's part of my routine right now, and, you know, I-I don't want to sacrifice something I enjoy, but, you know, I'm trying really hard, you know, to be a good mom. I'm-I'm trying to, you know, go-go back to school. I'm trying to work. So, I don't know how I can do all of that if I don't have a way to enjoy myself or relax, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_51.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_53.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_55.mp4 Well, you know, if there was some way that I could relieve some of my stress, I think I would feel better, and, you know, maybe at night, I wouldn't feel like I had to unwind in the same way. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_57.mp4 Um, you know, probably my biggest problem is just childcare. You know, my mom normally watches my son, but she's been kind of backing out lately. And so, I'm worrying, am I going to have to call into work today, am-am I going to have to miss class? You know, so, you know, worrying about that really stresses me out, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_59.mp4 Yeah, definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_61.mp4 Yeah. I mean, she watches him so much. I think she's just probably getting stressed out too. And, I feel bad because, you know, it's not her son, so i-it shouldn't be her problem, but, I need something that I can rely on better. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_63.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_65.mp4 Well, I mean, most of my problems always go back to money. You know, i-if I had more money, I could afford daycare, I could work less hours, you know? So, yeah. It's-it's normally related to money. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_68.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I'm ready to consider changing my drinking, but, as far as actually doing it, I-I don't know. I mean, I have a lot of problems that I'm trying to work out right now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_70.mp4 Childcare, probably. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_72.mp4 Not really. I mean, I just normally see if my mom can watch my son, so, you know, I haven't really looked around. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_74.mp4 Yeah, definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_76.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_78.mp4 Yeah, I-I think I would. I mean, it's-it's been nice to just talk about everything that's going on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_80.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_82.mp4 Mm-mm neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_84.mp4 Well, I mean, I could at least try to going back to one drink a night instead of two. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_86.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I-I don't know how it's going to go, especially with trying to cut back on smoking already, but, I mean, I can try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_88.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_90.mp4 I don't think so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_92.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_38_94.mp4 Okay. Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_1.mp4 Every time I go-- Excuse me. -to any doctor, you know, you need to quit smoking and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_3.mp4 Uh-huh and I kind of go, let's move on, you know because I've heard the lecture. Um, and I really don't put much credence into what they say. I did have- I did have a neighbor who was smoked for many, many years and, um, she had the Oxygen-- Oxygen tank that she would have to sleep at night with the oxygen on and even that didn't deter me from that smoking. I don't really know. It's like, um, a power greater than myself. This is controlling me like this, you know, the angels on this side, the devil's on the other. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_5.mp4 Mm-hmm, yeah. And common sense somewhere in the middle. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_7.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_9.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_11.mp4 Well, you know, I was thinking along the lines of meditation. Um, you know, I- I do practice yoga, um, not consistently, but on and off. Um, and when I was in the hospital, I had to do that breathing apparatus and they didn't want to let me go now, like, you know- you know what, I'm not doing that it's already blurry then to this thing, to see the level, um, some pretty obstinate about it and yet I want to do it, you know? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_15.mp4 Right. Which I barely have any. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_17.mp4 Right- right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_21.mp4 Oh, I already have one. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_23.mp4 Yeah, [laughs]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_25.mp4 It came home with me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_29.mp4 It's stuff that I learnt in class. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_31.mp4 That'd be great, yeah, please. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_33.mp4 That's- that's something I'd be really interested in. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_35.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I- I, um, I've always liked therapy itself, and I- I've heard, I don't know if it's accurate, but if you have the willingness that is you're ease- more easily hypnotized, I don't know is it true? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_37.mp4 Well, I mean exercise, but really, you know, I have the mindset, you know, like, okay, tomorrow I'm going to get up and I'm going to do this, but I really am not a follow-through type of person with this. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_39.mp4 Because you know I've never been really athletic. I mean, so it's kind of like, I know that when you substitute something for something else, other than chocolate, which is my best friend too, [laughs]. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_41.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_43.mp4 You know, I've heard of Welbutrin. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_45.mp4 My girlfriend quit smoking. She quit drinking. She quit doing everything with this Wellbutrin. Now I- I- I am on some medications, like some, like I think that's an antidepressant. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_47.mp4 Okay. Um, I'd be open to that and then I'm not sure-- I'm not familiar with the other thing that you had suggested. Um, I don't know what that is. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_50.mp4 Um, you know I'd be-- I've heard a little bit about them, but I mean I do know some people, but they're not exactly reliable, um, as far as you know really having a desire and sticking to it that they smoke on the patch and-and then it causes this you know extreme, you know? Like you're getting double the nicotine or whatever so it's almost like they're getting a buzz from it you know so that's my fear and the cost of the patch because it's not covered you know through your, um, your- your insurance and the Nicorette same thing it's very expensive you know. And I'm not really a gum sure but here I am because— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_52.mp4 [laughs] but I mean I'd be interested I wish they'd make it more affordable for people or you know they haven't covered by insurance because you know the risk of it you know that the premiums for insurance- insurance for people who smoke are so high you would think that they would have like, um, what do they call that? Preventive. Um, I wish I never would have started and I'm proud of my daughter you know because I started smoking a little bit earlier than her age, and I'm proud that she is at this point not smoking this manifestation she might pick it up but it's- it's like- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_54.mp4 Yeah-yeah, maybe I'm the best example of why she doesn't want to [laughs] you know change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_56.mp4 Whatever you know and her friends. I think a lot of her friend's parents don't smoke and I'm constantly running like outside to smoke and-and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_58.mp4 It is. It really is. It's a monkey on my back change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_60.mp4 And um for me smoking is like a calming effect, you know. And some people it's a stimulant you know and then for me, it's like, I look forward to relaxing on my couch after a long day and then watching my you know news or whatever the heck I'm watching or reading and having my cigarette, um, I'll tell you- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_62.mp4 Right. Exactly or you know like I'll do some work, and then I'm like okay you know as my ex-husband says Union break and it's a cigarette break. [laughs] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_64.mp4 Yeah. Absolutely it's not my quote but he actually he would mind. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_66.mp4 Yeah neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_68.mp4 Yeah, you know how those union workers have to have you know, Union break. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_70.mp4 Yeah, financially too, which is [inaudible 00:09:27] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_39_72.mp4 Well, uh neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_0.mp4 Pretty good. It's been three months now. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_2.mp4 Um, and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_6.mp4 Right. It's been three months, and I've been doing pretty well. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_8.mp4 Um, and I met a couple new friends. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_10.mp4 So— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_12.mp4 Right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_14.mp4 Right. It's been good. I haven't answered the phone when he's called- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_16.mp4 -and a couple of my other friends have tried to call me as well, and I haven't answered the phone. Um, so it's been good for me to just reach out and like, meet a couple of new people, um, in the neigh-neighborhood that I'm living in. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_40_18.mp4 Yeah, the new friends, and I've been using the, you know, the breathing exercises you taught me, when I get-- start to feel a little stressed out, and I've been- I've been using those and it helps me. I go for a walk and do my breathing exercises, and it calms me down and kind of gets me through that time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_1.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_3.mp4 I feel great actually. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_5.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_7.mp4 I feel good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_9.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_11.mp4 Yes. It was a good, uh, experience for me. It was different. It was different than usual. There were several things that were different, and, uh, the number one value that I put was self-respect. And I-I don't even know if self-respect has ever been in my top five let alone my number one. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_13.mp4 Yeah. And, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_15.mp4 I do have an idea, I think, why that is. Um, I think that there's been a few things that have happened recently and something that really came to my awareness, when I visited with my family, is that I have consistently through my whole life, probably, put other people first. And I have consistently, uh, almost not even considered myself in the equation. It was, uh, kind of sad in a way, at the time that I realized it. Uh, I didn't realize how severe it actually was, but I was kind of glad that I realized it because I feel like it's never too late to change- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_17.mp4 -and I feel like I can- I can, uh, respect and value myself just as much as I have other people. I know that's important. And I feel like when I do that, I'm a better person for other people as well. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_21.mp4 Because I get stressed, I get resentful, I get overwhelmed and, uh, out of- out of alignment, I guess, out of sorts. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_23.mp4 And I can't be the best- the best me possible. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_25.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_27.mp4 For myself or for someone else, either way, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_29.mp4 I-it's almost-- Like, I think that some people might not even think that I put that first, but in my mind and my emotions, I was carrying concern about what other people think, and I was letting that concern dictate my actions. Instead of letting my own values dictate my actions, I was letting what I thought other people wanted me to do to dictate my actions. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_31.mp4 And that's something that I had done for so long, literally since I was a child, that I didn't even know I was doing it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_33.mp4 Yes, yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_35.mp4 Not aware at all. Completely unaware. Totally unaware, yeah. And so to me, I feel like it's a celebration. I used to, uh, moan and complain about my childhood and about all the things that I didn't get to have, and all the cruel, mean things that people said and did, and I felt-- I feel like I had this aha moment where I realized that I could be my own parent, and I could give myself the things that weren't given to me, now. I can give myself a voice. I can give myself an opinion. I can live like that, if I want to. Nobody's stopping me from it, only me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_37.mp4 So, that's what I want to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_38.mp4 Mm-hmm.And it's the first time in my life I haven't felt guilty for saying that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_40.mp4 I would say so, yeah. I don't know if I've ever said that in front of people and not felt the least twinge of guilt for it. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_42.mp4 No- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_44.mp4 -it's not, it's really not. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_46.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_48.mp4 Well, it makes me feel jubilant. It makes me feel joyful. It makes me feel hopeful. It makes me feel like I count, like I matter. Uh, it makes me feel like I'm going to be able to do what I want to do with more joy and more passion, and less dread and a sense of responsibility, because one of the things that kind of happened along the way I really didn't notice, is that, um-- Like, let's say for example I like being a teacher or I like being a teacher or I like being a counselor to a certain degree but because of all the shoulds and all of the sense of responsibility and all of the caring about what people think, I started to lose joy doing things I actually enjoy doing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_50.mp4 Yes, because it turned into an obligation instead of just really really a sense of like you know passion you know. My passion is gone completely. I don't know I'm just happy to, I feel like I got back in touch with myself. It's like I was like lost for a while and now I'm like back again, yes, now I remember why I wanted to do this or like why this is important to me because it is actually one of my values to be and help, but it just has to be, uh, balanced. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_52.mp4 No, but um, the other ones I have on there, uh are, number two, inner harmony. For the same reason, like I feel like I need to harmonious within myself before I can be harmonious with other people. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_54.mp4 Yes, and then I put family happiness. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_56.mp4 Yes, because I think that when I'm at peace with myself, uh, that automatically contributes to my family happiness. When I am unhappy with myself, I bring my unhappiness to my family. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_58.mp4 Uh, yeah, when I don't have self-respect and I am only giving my family a say on who I am and what I should do, I'm angry at them, I quarrel them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_60.mp4 "I resent them, I really do, when I am in the mode. But when I just say, ""Hey, I'm a person of this family and I deserve this much time and energy and attention and just more than anybody else,"" I don't care, you do what I do I do what I do life goes on [chuckles]. " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_62.mp4 And then I have health and achievement, and to me, this one on achievement says a sense of accomplishment and to me that kind of goes along with what we were talking about earlier like I think I can show up and be a teacher and be a counselor in many different, uh, capacities. I could be your- I could be- I could be a teacher and I could be a really bad teacher. I could still be a teacher you know, I could show up an I could just do a really poor job and I could go home and I probably could keep my job for a while, it wouldn't be the first time right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_64.mp4 But I don't feel good about that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_66.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_68.mp4 Right, right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_70.mp4 It's not enough for me to just show up and get my paycheck. That doesn't, I don't feel fulfilled so it-it, that's the way I see it going together with the helping. It's not just about helping to like look good or to exhaust myself or do what I think I should do but to really give something needy, something substantive, something real. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_72.mp4 Yeah, meaningful, even if it's-it's small. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_74.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_76.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_78.mp4 Well, one of the things about this list that kind of surprised me is almost every time I have done this list, uh, creativity and freedom have been really high up there. And it didn't even make it to my top five. It was in my top 12. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_80.mp4 But I think the conclusion that I came to is that I can be more creative and have more freedom if I have inner peace and self-respect. Part of what- part of what binds me, part of what takes my freedom away is when I just explain all over the place and I don't give any attention to myself. Part of what steals my creativity is when I'm- my mind is reeling around in stress and I am not- I can't even hear myself. I can't even hear myself think. How can you be creative if you can't even hear yourself? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_82.mp4 Yeah, exactly, to me the creativity comes from the silence, comes from the quiet. It's literally-- I can just be in silence for even if for a few moments. It's amazing the ideas that come to me so quickly and so easily that would take me hours to figure out if I'm stressing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_41_84.mp4 Thank you, thank you for listening. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_0.mp4 I don't know, I'm just having a lot of hard trouble trying to lose the rest of the weight. Um, right now, it's like no matter how much I try to exercise, run, or whatever, it doesn't matter like nothing else is coming off. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_2.mp4 No, and I don't know what I'm doing wrong because I keep trying the exercise but nothing's happening. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_4.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_6.mp4 No, and even when I'm coming home, like, I'll go to the gym and then I'm noticing nothing is happening and I'll come home and I try to talk to my mama about it or even my father, and no one even cares about it. Like no one wants to support in it anyway. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_8.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_10.mp4 No, and specifically my father, he just-- Not only does he not want to support me with it but at the same time, he feels like I need to be gaining my weight back. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_12.mp4 So I— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_42_14.mp4 It's as though by me losing weight, it's like I'm somehow disconnecting from my family, and he thinks that I'm trying to form myself to fit into like this perfect American picture and I just want to be healthy, I just want to have a good body and he doesn't think of it that way. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_1.mp4 Um, well, you know, I have a lot of anxiety, and so there's this test that I have to take. It's a big test and I've kind of been putting it off just 'cause I get very anxious. I don't trust in myself that I'm going to do good at it. Um, and so that's something that's like always on my mind, it's been on my mind for many years and it's like, I gotta just do it. Um, but I always stop myself from doing that because of the anxiety. And I just want to, I don't want to feel that way. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_5.mp4 Exactly. So, I just avoid it and put it off. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_7.mp4 Um, maybe like a four or five. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_9.mp4 I mean, because I-I have it set up after like so many years, so I still have a ton of anxiety about it, but I think I'm like kind of making it, maybe that first step. And so that's why I would rate it as like a four or five because I'm making that first step, but it's still scary for me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_13.mp4 Yes. And I already kind of put it off after s-scheduling it too. So, um, now I'm actually enjoying that because I-I already like changed date and everything. So now it's actually coming. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_15.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_17.mp4 Um, well I think it's this kind of long time coming. I just need to do it and then I can figure out, if I don't pass, I have to wait three more months to do it. And then I just study for the next three months. And if I do, then I can have that weight lifted off my shoulders cause it's been all a lot of weight on me and I think about it every single day. And I'm just sick of thinking about it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_19.mp4 Yeah. But then I do worry, you know, that negative talk that, you know, when you have anxiety. So then I worry about if I don't pass it, you know, like people are going to ask me how I did and if I don't pass it I'm gonna have to tell them, it's embarrassing for me. Um, so that makes me really anxious. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_21.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_23.mp4 Uh, I would say maybe like four or five years ago, um, I had to do a recording for work and I did not want to do it. I was trying to find every way that I can get out of during this recording. And, um, and then I played my recording and because of the way sometimes I carry myself, like not confident and very anxious, um, I think other people don't always believe in me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_24.mp4 And so, um, when I played the recording, it actually ended up being one of the best recordings and like my supervisor and our national consultant, they were very like shocked about it because it because of just was the way I carried myself. So I thought, I don't really like compliments that makes me, um, anxious too again people compliment me, but it was a nice feeling because I really didn't trust in myself. And to know that I did a good job. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_26.mp4 Um, it made me feel good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_28.mp4 Yeah, I did. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_30.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_32.mp4 I mean, I think again, like all that anxiety, the same anxiety I had with that I have with those tests. And so, um, but that if I pass this test, if I could have that same feeling that I had, like when I did a good job like the-- you know, I mean, I would like to have that feeling again. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_34.mp4 You know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_36.mp4 Right neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_38.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_40.mp4 Well, considering this test is coming on the way in a few days, um, I think, for me and just like practicing and just really seeing how I do and if I do well, then I think my confidence might go up a little bit. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_42.mp4 And maybe just having that faith in myself that, you know, that I can do it instead of just thinking that I can't. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_44.mp4 Yeah. Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_46.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_43_48.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_1.mp4 Fine. Where do you want me to sign? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_3.mp4 Not really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_5.mp4 Yeah, whatever. I just, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_7.mp4 It's just like the same thing every day like, I don't really know why. Like um, so I signed your paper, why are asking me all these questions? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_9.mp4 Yup. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_11.mp4 I guess so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_13.mp4 So you just wanna know my business? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_15.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_17.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_19.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_21.mp4 Yeah. I mean I guess I'll be here if I have to be but I can't make any promises that I won't leave. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_23.mp4 No, 'cause this just kinda feels like why do you need to know my business? Why do you care? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_27.mp4 It's just like a lot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_29.mp4 And you feel like there's all these rules. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_31.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_33.mp4 Right, I think that's the only thing that I wish I had now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_35.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_37.mp4 I guess like your sign your papers. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_39.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_41.mp4 Not do this again so that I don't ever have to be here and be stuck in my house and all of these people coming to visit me and know my business. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_43.mp4 Yup. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_45.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_47.mp4 Not really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_49.mp4 All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_45_51.mp4 Bye. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_1.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_3.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_5.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_7.mp4 It's not a big deal. Sometimes with my friends, we'll drink a few beers and when we're hanging out or when we're at a party, and sometimes rum and cokes. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_9.mp4 Um, three or four, probably. I don't keep track. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_11.mp4 Um, probably about once or twice a month. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_13.mp4 Probably since last October. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_15.mp4 What do I like about it? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_17.mp4 Um, I don't know. It's just fun to drink with my friends, like when we're at a party at someone else's house, and we're drinking with other people that we don't know. It tastes good. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_19.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_21.mp4 Um, I don't like when I get sick in the mornings 'cause of hangovers and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_23.mp4 -when I start throwing up, that's not- I don't like that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_25.mp4 No, but that happened to someone I know, though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_27.mp4 Um, one time I missed first period of school 'cause I had a hangover and I was late getting up. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_29.mp4 Mm, mom got mad at me 'cause I wouldn't get out of bed and she said she knew I had a hangover. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_31.mp4 No, but I got grounded for two weeks after that. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_33.mp4 Yeah, but I only missed school once. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_35.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_37.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_39.mp4 Um, probably a five. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_41.mp4 Well, I guess I'm just tired of getting in trouble. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_43.mp4 Um, not drink. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_45.mp4 No, not really. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_47.mp4 I could probably do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_49.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_51.mp4 Yeah, probably. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_53.mp4 Um, I could probably drink something else when my friends are drinking, like just coke. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_55.mp4 I can probably hang out with some of my friends who don't drink or inviting them to parties and having fun 'cause not everyone drinks at parties. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_57.mp4 Yeah. The-- My friends who don't drink would probably be happy that I'm not drinking either and yes, they'd support me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_46_59.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_1.mp4 Fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_3.mp4 It's not really any of your business. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_5.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_7.mp4 Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_9.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_11.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_47_13.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_0.mp4 You know that my friends were happy, um, that I'm like this cool person who moved from in the middle of nowhere, has a strange accent that- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_2.mp4 -they like all my stories, they are really receptive- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_4.mp4 -but they don't know that I have one diabetes story. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_6.mp4 That one I haven't shared yet. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_8.mp4 So, I guess I'll make it short to exactly the incident 'cause I know we can't avoid it now. Uh, yeah, well, that one what happened was I-I was invited to my first party in this crew- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_10.mp4 -which I was super excited about. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_12.mp4 But, it was an evening party and we all wore really nice dresses- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_14.mp4 -the short ones, the really huggy ones. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_16.mp4 So I actually decided, and I know this wasn't the smartest decision of mine, but I did not wear my insulin pump. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_18.mp4 Which was the reason why I didn't want quite to address 'cause I know better. I- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_20.mp4 Yes, I know, I know, I know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_22.mp4 Like the learning is done but- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_24.mp4 -but yes I guess it's unavoidable that we address it. [laughter] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_48_26.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_1.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_3.mp4 I suppose, my expectations are a wee bit clearer as to why I'm here. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_5.mp4 I guess, I'm-- It made me think about how much money I have been losing recently. So, yeah. I'm happier to be here. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_9.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_11.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_15.mp4 Yeah. I'm happy to explore it, so to speak. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_21.mp4 Hmm. I don't know, I probably lock off a wee bit. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_23.mp4 Yeah, um. I'm sure you've already noticed. [chuckles] Um, I don't know, probably fidget. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_25.mp4 That's why I am still a bit— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_27.mp4 [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_29.mp4 When I'm feeling uncomfortable? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_31.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_33.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_35.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_37.mp4 [sighs] I suppose it's really serious if I wanna get out of my-my-my debt. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_39.mp4 Credit comes out of my ears, and mom and dad aren't bailing me out anymore, so- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_41.mp4 -I suppose, I've gotta sort it out myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_43.mp4 About 80. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_45.mp4 I'm gonna say, I'm completely confident. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_47.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_49.mp4 What, on my confidence to stop? [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_51.mp4 It's hard when it's part of your lifestyle, you know? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_53.mp4 When I went with my girlfriends to the pub last night and I went and hit a bit of a flutter- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_55.mp4 -so, you know, I think I'm a bit weird if I just sit-sit at the bar on my own. [chuckles] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_57.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_59.mp4 Oh, I had to stop halfway 'cause I'd ran out of money. [chuckles] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_61.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_63.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_65.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_67.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_69.mp4 I don't know, but I'd like to get back on track, but— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_71.mp4 Not really planning on spending my life in debt. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_73.mp4 I don't mind traveling, and, you know, I've got friends that are saving for the [unintelligible 00:18:27] and I'm 25 and working in retail, and got four credit cards- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_75.mp4 -so I won't be doing any traveling any time soon. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_77.mp4 Maybe I wanna have traveled and found the man of my dreams. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_79.mp4 I don't know. Kids maybe, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_81.mp4 -I'm not gonna- [sighs] I'm not gonna make a decent mom the way I am, at the moment, am I? So I probably need to get on track at some stage. [chuckles] I'll be pushing 30 and still in debt, at this rate. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_83.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_85.mp4 [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_87.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_89.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_91.mp4 Party girl at 30s is a bit sad, really, isn't it? [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_93.mp4 I don't know. It's been fun up to now- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_95.mp4 -but I really do wanna travel, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_97.mp4 Um, Egypt, always been, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_99.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_101.mp4 Oh, I just think it's just fascinating. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_103.mp4 Yeah. Just the, um, the outlook, and the culture and the history and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_105.mp4 -somewhere I've always wanted to go. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_107.mp4 It's not the safest place at the moment, mind you, but [chuckles]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_109.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_111.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_113.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_115.mp4 Oh, since I was young, early teens. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_117.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_119.mp4 Yeah, well, I suppose with the amount of money I've spent over the last five years I probably could have gone to Egypt and back five times by now. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_121.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_123.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_125.mp4 I believe then to cut off some of my friendships. Um, 'cause since you see that's, you know, part of their lifestyle. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_127.mp4 Yeah. It will be a big change. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_129.mp4 Seems like a bit of an unrealistic dream. Um, and I'd like to take the first step but, uh, that's gonna be easy. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_131.mp4 Probably, um, [chuckles] cutting up the credit cards for a starter, and trying to restrain myself, and not to be led into temptation, I suppose, so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_133.mp4 You know, if the pokies are at the pubs, just don't go to the pub. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_135.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_137.mp4 Mm. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_139.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_141.mp4 Um, I haven't managed it to-to this point, so [chuckles] I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_143.mp4 Um, I suppose I've just got to get tougher with myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_145.mp4 What? Cutting off some of my friendships? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_147.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_149.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_151.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_153.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_155.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_157.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_159.mp4 Mm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_161.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_163.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_165.mp4 Find the scissors. [laughs] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_167.mp4 Cut out the girls. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_169.mp4 Then, um, I don't know if the debts are still gonna be there or not but I-I've gotta find- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_171.mp4 -a way to pay them off and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_173.mp4 -I don't know how I'm gonna do that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_175.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_177.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_179.mp4 Mm-hmm, that will be good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_49_181.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_0.mp4 So, uh, I guess the issue is that, um, you know, my doctor seems to think that my-my blood pressure's a little high, but I really don't think that there's a problem. And you know, I eat really well. Um. And, you know, she suggested that, um, I watch my caffeine but really, caffeine is not a problem for me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_2.mp4 Well, you know, sometimes it makes me a little jittery and, you know, I have to go to the bathroom more frequently than some of my co-workers, but-- And-and working, um, in the hospital, they don't really look so highly on-on going the bathroom frequently. But you know, it-it keeps me awake, it keeps me aware, it-it makes me more able to like, you know, do my job better. And so I really don't see that it's a-it's a real issue. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_4.mp4 Um, you know, and-and-- I mean, maybe my blood pressure is a little high, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_6.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_8.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_12.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Well, you know, and sometimes, like I said, it does kind of make me a little jittery and, um, I don't know. I-I-I'm not- I'm not as happy and relaxed as I normally am. But you know, I-I really like it, and-and like I said, it makes me more aware of what's going on and-and I'm-- I-I feel like I'm much more observant. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_14.mp4 Yeah. I have about four cups a day. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_16.mp4 Yeah. I mean, I've-- I mean, it's the co-workers that-that work at night. Gosh, they bring in a carafe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_18.mp4 And, uh, I-I can only imagine- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_20.mp4 -what-what their bodies are like. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_22.mp4 Reducing it, like-- what do you mean? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_24.mp4 Yeah, yeah but, I mean, how-how much are we talking? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_26.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_28.mp4 You're probably-- you know, because I-I gotta have that morning cup, I really-- you know I really like waking up and-and that whole ritual. The, um-- you know, making the coffee and- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_30.mp4 -I just really like the flavors. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_32.mp4 So I-I definitely don't want to give that up, but— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_36.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_38.mp4 And then, of course, you know, working a 12-hour shift, I-I really think that, you know, the afternoon to keep me going until the evening is-is a really good idea too. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_40.mp4 I could probably get up the mid-morning. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_42.mp4 Yeah, yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_44.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_46.mp4 I think that does sound all right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_48.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_50_50.mp4 I think I could do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_1.mp4 Uh, well, I know the flu can be pretty bad, but I'm in pretty good health, so I don't really feel like I need it. Uh, it's kind of just more for old people, right? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_5.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_7.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_9.mp4 Well, my grandparents probably wouldn't handle the flu very well- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_11.mp4 -and my co-worker is pregnant too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_13.mp4 So-so, yeah, I guess, I should, uh, get it for their sake. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_51_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_1.mp4 You're welcome. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_3.mp4 Well, a friend and I would snuck out one night to go to the park, and we got a couple of beers from his house, but the cop came by, and so we threw them in the bushes. He was originally gonna give us a curfew ticket but ended up not to. Luckily, he didn't see the beer. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_5.mp4 Yeah, it was. If my mom would have found out, she would've killed me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_7.mp4 Well, I've only tried drinking once or twice. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_9.mp4 Yeah, that's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_11.mp4 Well, I'm not sure if this information is for me, since I've only been drinking once or twice. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_13.mp4 Well, all I really know is that it's not good for you. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_15.mp4 Yeah, and a couple of my friends drink too. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_17.mp4 I really didn't think about how this would affect me playing sports. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_19.mp4 Yeah, I would like to play soccer in college. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_21.mp4 Yeah, I would also like to get scholarships. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_23.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_25.mp4 Well, I will take a look at it, and I'll definitely read it, and I don't wanna become addicted, and I would like to continue to play sports as long as possible. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_52_27.mp4 Thanks for all the information. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_3.mp4 I do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_5.mp4 Well, I just can't seem to get back in the gym. I don't wanna-- I-I used to work out quite a bit, and in the last, I dunno, couple of years I've just-- I stopped going. I got busy, and now I'm out of the habit, and I-I really, I dunno, I feel like I need to get back. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_7.mp4 Okay. Um. All right. Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_9.mp4 Uh, I belong to the-the Sport Fitness Center. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_11.mp4 Just a couple of miles. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_13.mp4 If I walked that far, I probably wouldn't even need to go to the gym, right? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_15.mp4 [inaudible 00:01:33] training. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_17.mp4 It-it-it would be important. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_19.mp4 Well, I-I-I-I would feel better. My-- I'd-I'd be able to wear more my clothes. I've been growing around the middle and I'd like to, uh, you know, go back to where I was, you know, get into a 34, 36 waist, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_21.mp4 I-I'm more comfortable-- I feel better. I think that's the main thing. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_23.mp4 Yeah, yeah. It-it-it-- I-I am- I'm not getting any younger than I [unintelligible 00:02:18] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_25.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_27.mp4 I've gotta make time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_29.mp4 I've gotta make time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_31.mp4 Yeah. Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_33.mp4 All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_35.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_37.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_54_39.mp4 Okay. Very good. Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_1.mp4 Uh, yeah. Yeah, that's fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_3.mp4 Uh, mostly in my left arm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_5.mp4 Uh, no. That's okay. How's that? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_7.mp4 Uh, nope. It feels okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_9.mp4 Uh, yeah, that's fine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_11.mp4 Uh, I don't know. Um, I use maybe a few times a week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_13.mp4 Syringes? Uh, sometimes I'll buy them at Walgreens. Most times I'll just get them from the needle exchange. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_15.mp4 Uh, Northeast Glisan. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_17.mp4 Yeah, I use new needles every time, I never share. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_19.mp4 Yeah, that's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_21.mp4 Mm-hmm, yap. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_23.mp4 Uh, yeah. Yeah, if it's, uh, you know, if it's been a couple of days like I can go two days, three days tops before I start to feel really sick. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_25.mp4 Uh, geez. Yeah, I mean, it's the obvious stuff like my stomach feels sick, I get the body aches, uh, cold, hot, chills. Uh, everything hurts. Everything is in extremes. My emotions are in extremes. Uh, yeah, it sucks. I don't want to do anything. I just want to stay home and just stay in bed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_27.mp4 Yeah, I mean, I start to use, I get loaded. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_29.mp4 Uh, you know, I get loaded and I-I can- I can function. I can go to work and, you know, do normal things, you know. Uh, I mean, there's been maybe just a couple of times where I wasn't feeling all that well, and I, uh, I was late a couple of times to work or it might overslept from the night before or whatever, but it's about it. Uh, I just want to avoid getting sick right now. That's my main priority. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_31.mp4 Um, well, you know, I like the way it feels. Um, you know what I mean? When I shoot up my anxiety, goes away, my depression goes away. Uh, things that usually make life really difficult, uh, get a lot easier. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_33.mp4 Uh, yeah. I mean, I think everybody who uses at least has some concern of overdosing on some level. Right? Uh, so that's something I'm concerned about is accidentally overdosing. And, uh, yeah, I mean, I don't want to get an infection in my arm, you know, just the usual things. I have a hard time hitting veins sometimes, and I gotta dig around a little bit and I would get worried about, you know, hitting something that I shouldn't or, you know, getting infections. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_35.mp4 Yeah, that's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_37.mp4 I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_39.mp4 Uh, are you talking about Narcan? Is that the same thing? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_41.mp4 Yeah, I got some of that already. I got it from the needle exchange. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_43.mp4 Uh, at home mostly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_45.mp4 I mean, that's a concern, of course, right? Uh, I'm on the app just in case somebody nearby is OD-ing and I can get pinged. But no, mostly I just keep it in case I overdose, uh, and, uh, I'm realizing now I have it but I haven't told my roommate about it so— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_47.mp4 Yeah, that's what I'm thinking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_49.mp4 I would really like a little bit of information on, uh, injecting in my arm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_51.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_53.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_55.mp4 I'd probably say 10. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_57.mp4 Well, uh, I don't want to have an overdose and I don't want to get an infection. Seems like easy things to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_59.mp4 Um, well, I can talk to my housemate tomorrow night. I'm pretty sure that he doesn't work tomorrow night so he'll be around. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_61.mp4 Uh, if you could email me that right now, that'd be great. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_55_63.mp4 Uh, yeah, yeah. It's fine. Let's do that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_1.mp4 Pretty good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_3.mp4 Yeah. Um, I'm glad to be there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_5.mp4 Uh, well, I'm glad to see my dog, he's very cute, and it just feels good to be home. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_7.mp4 Yeah. And my garden is coming along, and my neighbors have stuff-- It's-it's good. It's good to be home. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_9.mp4 Well, um. I-I didn't get- go to physical therapy this week, and the- or Tai Chi, actually. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_11.mp4 Yeah. Well, um. Actually, I-I had a little semi fall, I didn't fall down, I didn't fall down completely but I-I did-- I guess I still had the wobblies and I was hoping that the physical therapy and the Tai Chi would be- get me further along than it has, and I-I still don't have the balance. So, I'm thinking that maybe I was pushing too hard, that maybe I should cut back, you know, and kind of not try so hard to-to keep moving like that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_13.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_15.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_19.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_21.mp4 So I'm-I'm-I cut back, and I-I don't know if I should really even continue the Tai Chi because it's-it's very demanding. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_23.mp4 Uh, it's beautiful and-and- but, um, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_25.mp4 That I'll- that I'll fall again. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_27.mp4 I'll really fall and hurt myself, and this way, if I don't move around so much, there's less chance that I will. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_29.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_31.mp4 No, I didn't- it was just more scary, and it was like a-a signal that maybe I'm doing too much. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_35.mp4 Well, yeah, if I- if I lose my balance and fall down, I could- anything, you know, really get hurt, and then-then I wouldn't be able to be home anymore, and that's not what I want. I want to stay home. So I want to do what I have to do to-to-to stay home. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_37.mp4 Yeah. [laughs] Yes, you've put it very well, hunker down- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_39.mp4 Watch the TV and pet my dog. I-I, you know, not to that extreme, but yeah, I think- I think maybe, um, yeah, I was-was going- pushing too hard. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_41.mp4 And I'm not sure about the Tai Chi anymore. I-I think the physical therapy, I can understand that, but I'm not so sure about the Tai Chi. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_43.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_45.mp4 Right, right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_47.mp4 She did. Sh-- Yeah, that's right, that's right. She said that they did studies and that they found that it was really preventative. I think she's- I forget the-the percentage, but yeah, she was really enthusiastic and she does it herself. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_51.mp4 "That's a strong word, isn't it, ""betrayed"". Um, wow. A little, but-but I-I know, I know that it's true. I mean, my friend who does Tai Chi, she just- she loves it. Maybe it's just not for me, you know. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_53.mp4 But, um- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_55.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_57.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_59.mp4 Absolutely, that- because I don't- now I'm-I'm feeling- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_61.mp4 -really a little frightened that what if- what if I fall down and-and-and nobody comes around and I'm lying there for two days, you know. I may have heard about that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_63.mp4 So, um, 'cause I am alone. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_65.mp4 So— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_67.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_69.mp4 Well, the-- I think that there's some things that could be done to-- I know people who live in-in residence, they have a cord they can pull, but how do they get to the cord? Um, is there any- anything else that I could do just to communicate if-if- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_71.mp4 -if something does happen? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_73.mp4 I think I saw something like that on TV. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_75.mp4 Is it- does it really work? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_77.mp4 'Cause you know that they sell so much stuff on TV, it's like you could- [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_79.mp4 It's crazy, it's crazy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_81.mp4 Yeah. I guess so, feeling a little scared- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_83.mp4 -you know, about that happening and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_85.mp4 So, yeah, it's probably a signal to-to make some-some changes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_87.mp4 Like I don't wanna go back to the hospital, right? I really don't. Do I have to? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_89.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_91.mp4 That I will definitely- I definitely wanna do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_93.mp4 I definitely wanna do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_95.mp4 Well, I- maybe they-they-- When I first came home, they had somebody come and show me some things in-in the house, but maybe a refresher of that, and they told me that I should exercise and-and, um, I guess I could-- Maybe support, maybe I'm looking for-for maybe a buddy or something, some way that I could be reminded. I'm feeling a little, you know, I was moving along and things were feeling more positive, it's sort of like two steps forward and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_97.mp4 -one step back, but now it's to step forward and three steps back. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_99.mp4 So, um, is there, yeah, like a support somehow? My daughter is very good and she calls me, but you know, she-she lives in Seattle, she lives- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_101.mp4 -far away. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_103.mp4 So- and I don't wanna impose on my neighbors or my friends. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_105.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_107.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_109.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_111.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_113.mp4 Yeah, that would be good. Do you think I should try to go back to the Tai Chi? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_115.mp4 Yes, great place. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_117.mp4 Yeah. I guess I've kind of gone to the extreme. I tend to do that. [chuckles] Yeah. So, keep moving? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_119.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_121.mp4 Really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_123.mp4 Oh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_125.mp4 Uh-huh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_127.mp4 Okay. Okay. Okay. I-I'm willing to start again, so to speak. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_129.mp4 Yeah. It's scary. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_131.mp4 Well, I'm willing to work through my fears and difficulties to be in my little house with my little dog and my little garden. I've been there for- since my husband and I got married, and that's where we lived, and I don't want to give it up yet. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_133.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_135.mp4 Yeah. I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_137.mp4 -I-I am. And I feel like I have some help. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_139.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_141.mp4 So, am I being a baby? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_143.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_145.mp4 Really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_147.mp4 Really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_149.mp4 Thank you. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_151.mp4 Well, and she- she's not going to throw me back into the hospital? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_153.mp4 Not yet? [laughs] Okay. Yeah. I was sort of- I-I was sort of hesitant to tell you- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_155.mp4 -about- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_157.mp4 -this, but, um, uh, I'm sort of glad I did. I'm very glad I did. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_159.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_161.mp4 Yeah. So the-the caseworker is gonna be able to come and refresh- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_163.mp4 -me? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_165.mp4 And-and that's-- Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_167.mp4 I mean, that alone, to know that I have communication that I w- that was my biggest fear that something- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_169.mp4 -would happen and I wouldn't have any- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_171.mp4 -any way to tell anybody. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_56_173.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_1.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_5.mp4 Well, I'm, uh, I-I used to work out pretty good. I-I would go to the gym several times a week. I had kind of a schedule, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_7.mp4 Yeah, well, you know, it really-- At-at one time, I was running-- I ran a half marathon. I was really into it, and, uh--. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_9.mp4 Well, and I-- But I was working at a different company, where I had a little bit different schedule, a little more free time than I have now, so I just don't have the time like I used to. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_11.mp4 And I-- And really, it's kind of an excuse, I guess, cause I-I could probably make the time, but it's-it's easier to just keep working or- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_13.mp4 -just being in bed or whatever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_15.mp4 I-it was. A-and it was huge for me cause I'd never really been a runner, you know, but it-it was very motivating, and-and— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_17.mp4 I don't know. I guess there's kind of an adrenaline rush to it. Kinda almost like, you know, uh, kind of a high, I guess. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_19.mp4 So yeah-- That's-- I-I really enjoyed it. And I-I liked the feeling that I was doing something good for myself. I liked that, too. I-it kind of-- It so-- It gave me a little bit of self-esteem, I guess. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_21.mp4 I-I subscribed to the magazine a while. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_23.mp4 I did. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_25.mp4 I let-- I lit it on fire but I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_27.mp4 -I did burn for a time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_29.mp4 I got into the whole culture. I was-- I-I felt as good as I’ve felt in many, many years. And now I’ve kind of let that all slide, and-- Well, I had a foot injury, too, which kind of started the whole problem. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_31.mp4 It-it is. And I-- it-it may be why I can’t really run again, but I can certainly, you know, ride a stationary bike- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_33.mp4 -and do all the other things in a gym that you can do when you’re not running, so, it just nakes you to [unintelligible 00:02:23] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_35.mp4 Um, well, um, I like-- The bike is pretty good. Uh, even the uh, you know, the kind of a rolling machine is okay. And the uh, the elliptical. Any of that’s fine. I-I really don’t, uh-- I don’t dislike any of it. Kind of once you get into the rhythm, yeah, it’s fine change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_37.mp4 Probably the elliptical. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_39.mp4 Well, it is. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_41.mp4 It is without any of the impact, so it is true. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_43.mp4 Yeah, I do headphones. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_45.mp4 I got my headphones, and I got my, uh, kind of [unintelligible 00:03:24], if you know what I mean neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_47.mp4 Yeah neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_49.mp4 Yeah. I was going literally every other day, you know. And then, some days I would, you know, I’d run, and I’d go to the gym the next day, so I would-- I was very-- I don’t really feel it necessary to get back to that level, but I need to do something cause I’m doing nothing right now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_51.mp4 I should-- Or next to nothing. I walk to the grocery store or whatever’s handy when I have time, but yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_53.mp4 Well, if I could just get myself over there once, 'cause usually that’s the hardest thing. It’s just going there. So I think that's-- You know, I’ve thought about it a little bit, I think I just need to make that first trip over there and just kind of to take it easy that first time. Just show up 'cause I think that’s really what I need to do. I justt need to go over there. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_55.mp4 Um, knowing that my schedule isn’t gonna be too crazy that day where I could spare an hour or so, and-and just go do it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_57.mp4 And then I-- [unintelligible 00:04:41] kinda nice [unintelligible 00:4:42] gonna be troublesome. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_59.mp4 Um, I don’t know. I think- I think the time has just been the biggest thing, you know, and-and I-I guess the motivation really hasn’t been there. I mean, you know, it’s not like- I don’t really have a goal. I don’t really have a, you know I don't, other than maybe reducing my waistline, you know, I don't really have a-a set number like I'm gonna run a marathon and you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_61.mp4 You know, so I think the just running off the playlist. I-I guess maybe if I made a goal would helped too. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_63.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_65.mp4 Plus there's people who have done that countless times and you can go read what their- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_67.mp4 -regimen was so you get feedback too. And then [unintelligible 00:05:37] did this from this day and so on. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_69.mp4 Yeah. Maybe. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_71.mp4 That might not be be a bad idea. [inaudible 00:05:59] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_74.mp4 I think that'd be great. I-I never have really found anybody that like to exercise with the pace that I wanted to. They were all either going way too fast or not even moving at all. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_78.mp4 -might be a challenge. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_80.mp4 Yeah, that's right, well I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_82.mp4 Okay, that's a great idea I hadn't thought of that-that's- I hadn't really, uh, I-I kinda dismissed that early on, I hadn't really even considered that, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_84.mp4 If I could get there-- I know if I could get there-- if I could pick, you know, uh, these are the days I'm going to go to the gym and I know these things last time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_86.mp4 So if I- if I could-- I mean, I wanna get there three times a week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_88.mp4 I wanna get there on Saturdays or Sundays and Tuesdays and Fridays, or something like that, then I could probably [unintelligible 00:07:34] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_90.mp4 Right, yeah. Well, it's just not- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_92.mp4 Oh yeah, yeah, it doesn't do any good to just try to injure your- injure yourself especially when you're a bit normal like me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_94.mp4 You gotta get over there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_96.mp4 Very good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_98.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_58_100.mp4 All right, bye-bye. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_0.mp4 It's good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_2.mp4 Um, another thing-- Wait, what, I had something, it's just [inaudible 00:00:03] that I wanted to ask you, um, now a lot of my friends have quit smoking. They're getting like ostracized, but, you know, I tend to, like, gravitate, you know, towards-- Like my ex-husband smokes, you know- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_4.mp4 -so I find it like acceptable in that regard. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_6.mp4 Mm-hmm, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_8.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_10.mp4 "Yeah, we share-- ""Okay, oh, a smoker, let's go out and have a smoke together,"" yeah. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_12.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_14.mp4 I like that piece of jewelry, can I? [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_16.mp4 Right. Right, yeah. You can't have my stash. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_18.mp4 Um, you know, I guess I'll have to like, you know, get all of my information together. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_20.mp4 Right, do my homework and set up my like to have everything available to me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_22.mp4 And then maybe set up another appointment with you. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_24.mp4 And maybe I don't know if-if that's like something that you'd be, you know, willing to do with me is to- help me set a date. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_26.mp4 And then you know, the next time I see, see progress, or maybe write-- have like a diary or something, I don't know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_28.mp4 Oh, really? So they didn't have an exact date, they just decided. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_30.mp4 Oh, they didn't realize-- They didn't look at the calendar. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_32.mp4 And-and wait, I'm sorry, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_34.mp4 Oh, yeah. [crosstalk] And you know what I've never done that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_36.mp4 That's coming up in November- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_38.mp4 -that's cool I'll have to find out about that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_40.mp4 "Because it's like people who will start and say, ""I'm going to stop drinking at New Year's Eve. After midnight, I'm not gonna drink."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_42.mp4 That seems to be like, uh, a false setting up, you know, like, come on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_44.mp4 Really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_46.mp4 Or, like, you know, setting up-- but what is that that they say? Um, you know, like, it's- it's the terminology, you know, with all the anxiety and letting go, you know, like I'm gonna [crosstalk]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_48.mp4 Yeah. Uh-huh, uh-huh. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_50.mp4 Right, right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_52.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_54.mp4 Yeah, and you know, another thing, uh, uh, you know, it's so so bang, but the weight gain is like— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_56.mp4 Uh-huh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_58.mp4 Oh, really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_60.mp4 Oh, that's awesome, to know too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_62.mp4 Right, right. Just like [inaudible 00:04:06] Or your chocolate and all that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_64.mp4 So just switching my addiction. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_66.mp4 Yeah, God, I don't think I could. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_68.mp4 You know, I mean like I said three days was like- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_70.mp4 -three years, and all I could think about I was like obsessing about it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_72.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_74.mp4 Yeah. That's true. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_76.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_78.mp4 Yeah. And I mean and that's-that's a reasonable thing- [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_80.mp4 -I don't feel like I'm like you know, it's gonna be-- I think gradually getting my- wrapping my brain around it will help, you know, before I just do, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_82.mp4 You know, I always love, um, I've been in other group therapies- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_84.mp4 -and the feedback is really nice and the support- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_86.mp4 -system is really good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_88.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_90.mp4 All right, great. Good. Great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_92.mp4 And thank you for all the information. I appreciate it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_60_94.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_1.mp4 Well, I remember you. Yeah, we met once before. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_5.mp4 Well, I went once. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_7.mp4 Yeah and, um, it was very-very beautiful to see and the instructor was very nice, but I felt kind of self-conscious because I'm still in my walker. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_9.mp4 And I had to sit in the chair. I couldn't, you know, do what they were doing. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_11.mp4 So, it's-- it was-- I simply felt self-conscious. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_13.mp4 A lot self-conscious. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_15.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_17.mp4 Well, like Dr. Fields told me, it helps with balance, and I'm still having the wobblies. So, I was really hoping that I could get to the point where I could benefit from what they had to offer. Um, yeah, mostly my balance, mostly my balance. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_19.mp4 Not yet. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_21.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_23.mp4 I wanna go home. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_25.mp4 Yes, I really do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_27.mp4 [sighs] Everything. I want to be with my little dog. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_29.mp4 He's really so cute, and I miss my garden. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_31.mp4 And I just miss being independent, going to sleep when I want to sleep and getting up when I want to get up and-and, uh, cooking for myself. The independence. Sure I miss being independent. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_33.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_35.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_37.mp4 Well, they told me that I need to be able to walk down the hallway and back, even with the walker, being secure and not with the wobblies. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_39.mp4 And I haven't gotten there yet. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_41.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_43.mp4 I-I don't want to fall. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_45.mp4 I-I've had friends that had that happen. So, um, I-I agree a little, with some hesitation, but I do agree. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_47.mp4 Oh, it's better. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_49.mp4 It still hurts. It- it's-- I'm getting better. I'm-I'm getting better. It's not quite as painful. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_51.mp4 Yeah, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_53.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_55.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_57.mp4 [sighs] Um, yes-yes I-I do because I-- my friend, I think I told you, really, really loves it and I just, I wish I could go back, and yes I do. I'm not making much sense, but I do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_59.mp4 Oh, I don't really know yet after just one time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_61.mp4 Yeah. It's-it's-- I can't make that-- It wouldn't be fair for me to say it does or doesn't. It didn't that one time, but you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_63.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_65.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_67.mp4 Yeah, I do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_69.mp4 Yeah, I would. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_71.mp4 Well, I'd have to make the arrangements again, that was a little complicated, and, um, I'd have to get my head straight about feeling self-conscious, because I-I know that nobody's really looking at me, but I have to convince myself. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_73.mp4 Yeah, and the arrangement, arrangements a little complicated. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_75.mp4 That I can make the arrangement? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_77.mp4 Five. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_79.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_81.mp4 I-I mean, I know I can, but it's really difficult. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_83.mp4 That I'm doing it by myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_85.mp4 And I would really fe-- If I could have some sup-- Like if somebody could help me do it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_87.mp4 My-my daughter can't visit that often and, um- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_89.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_91.mp4 I would. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_93.mp4 I would. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_95.mp4 Well, she's-- she could, but I'd have to wait at least a week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_97.mp4 I would. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_99.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Is that possible? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_101.mp4 Uh-huh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_103.mp4 That would- that would be good. And then as far as feeling self-confident, I'd have to do that myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_105.mp4 Um, I can't think of any. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_107.mp4 That's-that's the main thing- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_109.mp4 -the arrangements. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_111.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_113.mp4 That's-- Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_115.mp4 That's true. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_117.mp4 You would? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_119.mp4 That would really help. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_121.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_123.mp4 Yeah. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_61_125.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_1.mp4 I'm good, thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_3.mp4 Um, I guess everything's fine. I think my caseworker mentioned something about community service that I have to do or something. I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_5.mp4 I'm not sure of that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_7.mp4 Yeah, I know that she said I have to get so many hours in, but I don't- I don't know. I kind of was half-listening. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_9.mp4 I know that I have to get it done by the end of my probation, except I forgot like how many hours or if I'm supposed to find it or someone else is gonna find it for me or I-I told you I'm confused. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_12.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_14.mp4 Exactly, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_16.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_18.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_20.mp4 Um, yeah, I just, so I still have to find the community service hours myself? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_22.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_24.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_26.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_28.mp4 Okay, so I would do that. And then do you know, can I get all the 24 hours in in like a weekend or how does that work? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_30.mp4 [unintelligible 00:02:20] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_32.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_34.mp4 Yeah, I think, just to keep track of it better. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_36.mp4 I think it's a good idea. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_38.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_40.mp4 I think that's it. I think I was just worried about who was gonna do it for me, but I know I have to, I guess, do it myself and that 25 hours has to be done. It seems like that's the time I'd have to get done. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_42.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_62_44.mp4 All right, thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_1.mp4 Definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_3.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_5.mp4 I do some meth. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_7.mp4 Snort it, always snort it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_9.mp4 Mm-mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_11.mp4 Just, you know, some alcohol. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_13.mp4 Meth? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_15.mp4 Um, two, three times a month. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_17.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_19.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_21.mp4 Yeah, it could be because, uh, I was high when I had unprotected sex and I would not do that if I were not high. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_23.mp4 Definitely, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_25.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_27.mp4 No, I mean, no. I mean, like I said, I only do it in clubs, you know, with my friends, uh, two or three times a month at-at the most. Um, uh, I don't think it's really having other impacts. But I'm-I'm concerned about this one. I never expected to get gonorrhea. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_29.mp4 I-I understand but it's I think that would be a hard thing for me to do. You know, I mean, I know I should but, I mean, that's like my whole social life. You know, I mean, all my friends go to these clubs. That's where- that's where I see them. You know, that's my sex life basically and, uh, meth is just- it's just a part of it. You know, I mean, everyone is doing it there. You know, so it's while I would like to stop it's-it's kind of hard to think about doing that right away. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_31.mp4 Yeah, I don't think it would be easy but I'm not saying that I'm not willing to try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_33.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_35.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_37.mp4 Uh, three. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_39.mp4 I mean, this has been really uncomfortable, you know, gonorrhea is a really bad experience. And, uM, I know I don't think the same, you know, when I'm- when I'm on it. And, uh, I mean, what I have is bad enough, I could easily get AIDS. I could get HIV the same way. So that scares me a lot. That's why it's higher than a one or two. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_41.mp4 Well, I do just snort it but you don't know what it's cut with, you know, there could be something, you know. It could be really bad, um, if it was cut with something dangerous or something. I mean, I-I worry about that sometimes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_43.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_45.mp4 Something else to do on weekends, you know, different social life. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_47.mp4 It's the hard thing, I mean, almost everybody I know uses it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_49.mp4 My sister. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_51.mp4 I haven't really talked to her about it. I think she knows it I do it sometimes. I mean, we're pretty close. I think I could talk to her about it, and I think she would probably help. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_53.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_55.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_57.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_63_59.mp4 Yeah, sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_1.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_3.mp4 Yeah, you too. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_5.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_7.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. pretty straightforward- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_9.mp4 -always good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_11.mp4 No. No, not at all. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_13.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_15.mp4 "Sure. Um, I guess, you know, maybe two or three weeks ago, I had sort of like this group of friends come around to my place, and um, you know, they-they were sort of saying that it was just like a night to hang out and watch DVDs and stuff, and then they sort of sat me down and were like, ""You know, maybe you need to get a bit of help for, you know, drug stuff."" Then, you know, I was sort of like, ""Well, mm."" And I was quite annoyed by that at first, but I-I suppose, you know, I thought about it for a bit and then I was like, ""Well, I guess it can't hurt to talk to someone about it, maybe."" " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_21.mp4 Yeah. I just sort of did a bit of search on the internet and stuff and just read about this place, so I just thought I'll— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_23.mp4 Yeah, I guess. I-I suppose I hadn't really thought about it till they sat me down, and you know- I mean I could, uh, I could understand a little bit of where they were coming from, so yeah, I thought I'd— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_27.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, which kind of was a bit of a sh-shock, I suppose. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_29.mp4 "Yeah. Yeah, 'cause, you know, I don't know. You know, you see on movies when people sort of intervene or say, ""You know, you need to go and get help."" And then-- I don't know. Like you know those characters and, they-they do need help, you know- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_31.mp4 -because they're fucked. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_33.mp4 "And you kind of go, ""Woah. That's not me."" So it's about am I— " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_35.mp4 Yeah, or well, not to that extent, you know what I mean? Like, I-I would-- l didn't think I was at anywhere near a point that I would need to be sat down and intervened with- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_37.mp4 -if you know what I mean. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_39.mp4 I suppose. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_41.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_43.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, 'cause, I mean, you know, they are my friends and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_45.mp4 "- you know, I'm not gonna be so narrow-minded as to say for sure that, you know, they're entirely wrong 'cause there's a big group of them, you know? And they do care, so obviously, there's something there that I might have overlooked. But on the other hand, I'm sort of like, ""Well, was it that bad?"" And you know, ""Was that- was that really necessary?"" But I, you know, I thought I'd give them the benefit of the doubt and- " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_47.mp4 -and just check it up, yep. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_49.mp4 Yeah, pretty right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_51.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_53.mp4 Okay, cool. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_55.mp4 Um, dr-drugs, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_57.mp4 Mm, yeah. Sort of kind of do a bit of P now and again- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_59.mp4 -and, um, I guess less often, I do a bit of, you know, I smoke a little bit and, um, party pills in the- in the weekend sometimes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_61.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_63.mp4 Um, a couple of times a week maybe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_65.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_67.mp4 Mm-hmm, yeah. Yeah. So I guess when I put it that way, it does sound quite a lot, but it doesn't feel a lot, you know? If you know what I mean? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_69.mp4 Right. Um, I suppose it's kind of hand-in-hand with just hanging out with, sort of, some new scene that I've-- Like, um, I moved to Auckland maybe three years ago. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_71.mp4 And, um, I still live in Palmy and, so as you can imagine, it's sort of a bit different down there. And, um, kind of just when I first got here I was sorta introduced a little bit to, um, like do you know Family Bar on-on [unintelligible 00:06:49]? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_73.mp4 "Yeah. It's that sort of- that sorta scene, that kind of, um, gay scene, I guess. And, like, it's not something I'd really thought about before and-- But then kinda hung out there and just met these people that were sort of like you don't really get there much Palmy. Well, I mean I suppose you do, but they're not-- You know, in Auckland bars like that you can just-- Uh, you can just be it out in the open, you know, and I suppose in Palmy you can't as easily. Um, so just to arrive and see that and kind of meet these people that were just really friendly, you know, and-and not judge me into it. I don't know. You know, Palmy often is they're sort of like, ""Oh, you've gotta own a car, and soap it up, and drive up and down the Main Street,"" and I just couldn't give a shit about that, you know, so. Or play rugby and, you know, that didn't interest me at all and sorta come here and have people, you know, talk about interesting stuff and have a good time. I just want to go out and dance and stuff like that. Um, that was quite cool for me to know that that existed because I hadn't seen that before and-and I suppose there's a lot of that that goes on there, you know? " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_74.mp4 "It's quite a heavy party scene most weekends and stuff. So it kind of goes hand in hand with that really, and just, you know, I guess when I have-have a slight-- I don't know, you just feel really good, I guess. Just feel, like, happy, and excited, and just to be surrounded by people that, you know, really care about you, and love you and-- Coming from a place where y-you didn't-- don't get that as much, it's just really cool, you know, to-to be able to go, ""Okay, on this day I can take this."" And it's just that instant, like, ""I know- I know I'll feel good."" I guess that's part of it. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_76.mp4 Yeah, in-in a way. Although I wouldn't have been conscious of that really. I just sort of discovered it here. It's not like I came to Auckland looking for that kinda- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_78.mp4 -lift to get away from, um, you know parents mainly, and that kind of lifestyle, that Palmy sort of lifestyle. But then yeah, I discovered this other thing, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_80.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_82.mp4 No. I didn't really know. I guess you see sort of things like that in-in movies from America you know, but you don't really- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_84.mp4 - think that it would exist in your own country. Well, not if you grew up in Palmy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_86.mp4 Um, I don't mean to be mean about Palmy but, you know, it's just the different kinda attitude, I guess, kinda- this done- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_88.mp4 -to that sort of thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_90.mp4 Yes- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_92.mp4 -plus- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_94.mp4 Yeah, yeah. I definitely wanted to get away from something. I didn't know what too, but then I arrived here and found this thing that was like actually, this was obviously, fate or whatever was pulling me to this thing- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_96.mp4 -'cause-'cause like I found something in myself or something that was missing. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_98.mp4 "Um, now, I guess, now, I'm just a little used to it. [clears throat] When I first got here, I was like, ""Wow, this is amazing."" This is hard, I guess, but, you know, it's been three years now, so it's just kinda like I've gotten used to it. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_100.mp4 "I mean, I guess, I'm, let's say I take it for granted but, um, yes, it's just comfortable now. And, um, it's just a sort of what I do really. Yeah, so, I guess that the drugs are linked to that, I suppose. It's j-- Well, it's just a part of it, I don't really think-- I didn't really differentiate it. It's just kinda, ""Okay, I'm gonna go hang with my friends,"" and that sort of thing, you know, that Saturday, Friday night thing. And then it just happens really as part of that. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_102.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_104.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_106.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_108.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_110.mp4 Well, I guess, now, that I think about it, maybe it's sort of gone beyond that, maybe I didn't notice that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_112.mp4 I mean like I always-- Well, it's, you know it's kind of a thing that happens in the weekends but, I guess, sometimes in the weekdays. You know, I'll-I'll pretty much every weekend I'll have a big night, um, maybe two but sometimes, you know, in the weekdays like on a Tuesday or Wednesday or something if I just kinda feel like doing something then I might do that sometimes to see if someone else wants to come round and join me or, you know, occasionally by myself I might have a smoke by myself or something like that. And I guess that isn't entirely linked to that scene, I suppose. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_114.mp4 Mm. Maybe. I suppose I hadn't really thought about it- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_116.mp4 -until recently. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_118.mp4 Yeah. I suppose just since that kind of intervention thing or I started to give them the benefit of the doubt. And it's- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_120.mp4 -maybe noticing some things that I hadn't noticed but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_122.mp4 Oh, I mean, e-even just now, you know, when you asked me how often. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_124.mp4 "Mm. S-surprised me to-to think about, you know, when there's stuff, and you don't really think about it, but then if someone asked you, you know, how often or-- and then you kind of have to quantify it, I suppose it kinda sound shocking, you know, if I- if I imagine myself sort of saying, ""I do this, you know, a few times a week."" It-it- " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_126.mp4 "-sounds shocking. But to me it-it's- it doesn't feel that way, you know, that's kind of where that, where it kind of doesn't sit right. I, [clears throat] that's why I kind of got a bit miffed at my friends a little bit, or I dunno, a bit defensive there. 'Cause you know, it sounds a lot, but it doesn't feel out of control or anything, you know. It doesn't feel, I dunno, people that need to go and see therapists or whatever you kind of go, ""Oh, they're an addict."" You know. They-- Their health is really bad and they need urgent help right now quickly, Uh, well, at least that's kind of the-the feeling you get. And I don't feel that at all. I don't feel like it's a real urgent thing. So that- " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_128.mp4 -felt a bit weird. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_130.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_132.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_134.mp4 Definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_136.mp4 Yep. Um. Uh, I suppose money is quite a big thing. Like, I used to have a lot more money sorta last year. I had a, quite a good job, like a, quite a regular acting job. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_138.mp4 Um, and it was like quite a lot of money that la-last year. So it wasn't such a problem then. And I suppose I sort of blew that money a little bit. Um, so now I don't have that acting income coming in as frequently and I'm working in a cafe like a sort of part-time and it's not bringing in as much. So now it's kinda like, and sometimes I need to borrow a bit of money or sorta need a bit of help with the rent sometimes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_140.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. A little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_142.mp4 No. But you know, that's the life of an actor, I suppose, ups and downs works and not works. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_144.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_146.mp4 It's not. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_148.mp4 Hmm. Could have been a couple of auditions that I didn't do so well and as I could have 'cause of that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_150.mp4 "Uh, maybe. Maybe it's just my general sort of state. Um,I dunno, sometimes I suppose just kind of weighs on my mind a little bit like, ""What am I doing or why am I spending my money on this?"" I mean, when it's happening, it's like, this is amazing. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_152.mp4 You know am I-- You go in- you go into places, interesting places, but you know, I could just as well have saved that money and actually gone to interesting places I suppose. But I don't know. I wonder if it- if-if it's having an effect. I-I don't know. I can't say for sure, but maybe it's not so good for the face, I dunno. [crosstalk] Dunno if I look tired or-or run down or- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_154.mp4 -or if I actually am tired or run down, I suppose. Again, this is things that I haven't really thought about- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_156.mp4 -but now I'm starting to think about. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_158.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_160.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_162.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_164.mp4 Yeah. Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_166.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_168.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_170.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_172.mp4 "Uh, I guess it's obviously having some sort of effect on my friends and my flatmates, 'cause, you know, they set me down and said, ""Look you gotta- " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_174.mp4 "-look into this or else we can't hang out anymore."" " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_176.mp4 That would be a problem, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_178.mp4 If they didn't wanna hang out, well, then what have I got, I suppose? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_180.mp4 "Yeah. Yeah, and I mean part of it, yeah. Part of it I just wonder 'cause, you know, a lot of those friends that set me down are obviously the ones that are not part of that scene. I mean there were a couple there that-that are, but mostly they were the ones that sort of have always sorta been a bit judgy. You know, like when I first started all this stuff, you know. And clearly, there wasn't a problem like-- 'cause I used to be that guy as well you know, like, ""No never do that 'cause it's bad,"" and then you try it the first time and you go, ""Actually, it's not that bad."" It's not the end of the world if you're sensible with it, then it's not gonna be, you know. " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_181.mp4 You have to take a stupid amount to do any kind of like, or, you know, to die or to end up in a hospital. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_183.mp4 "So it's provided you don't-- you're not stupid with it. Then it's just a bit of fun but you can't really explain that to people who are-- have their walls up. So it's hard not to sit in this room full of people kind of going, ""Oh, you know, you really should stop the drugs, they're bad."" It's like, ""Well actually, you don't know what you're talking about."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_185.mp4 Yep. Yeah, a couple. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_187.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_189.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_191.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_193.mp4 Um, well I suppose the acting thing is a really big concern. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_195.mp4 'Cause I want that to be my job, you know. I'm fucking sick of cafes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_197.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_199.mp4 I'd like it to be, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_201.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_203.mp4 Yeah, 'cause I mean it's all you know, it's partly lacking and partly being at the right place at the right time. And if you're at the right place and at the right time and it is not on your game then there could have been a— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_205.mp4 Yeah, it could be. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_207.mp4 Yeah, and then I suppose also like money is linked into that as well, you know, I've-- I'm not doing as many courses and stuff as I used to be doing, 'cause it's, you know, don't have the money. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_209.mp4 Well, yeah, I mean, obviously I don't wanna keep pissing my flatmates off. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_211.mp4 You know, and it's not- it's not cool to not pay the rent, obviously. It's not something I'm happy with. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_213.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_215.mp4 Yeah, and I don't wanna be that person. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_217.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_219.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_221.mp4 Yeah. Not-not necessarily P or whatever but yeah most people are doing something. Yeah. I suppose yeah it's kind of part of that scene that there's not a huge like, you know, you go to normal bars and most people are just drunk and wasted and like spewing everywhere and stuff and whereas that's a different scene. Like, people drink but they don't drink to that excess but they take other things and have a good time. And, yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_223.mp4 Yeah. I mean there are people that do that. I suppose it-it would be hard. I-I haven't really thought about it, I suppose. That's all it is, all I've known that scene to be, you know, 'cause I'm quite new to it, you know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_225.mp4 -so from the beginning it was always there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_227.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_229.mp4 Oh yeah, well, they must be. I can't imagine everyone is there, I guess just the ma-majority or at least p-- the majority of people that I know, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_231.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_233.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_235.mp4 Yep. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_237.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_239.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_241.mp4 Well, [coughs] I must say I was a bit, um, you know, at the start when I was sort of saying I, you know, this is how often I do it and then I found myself talking about the kind of the weekday stuff I kinda took myself back a bit there. I suppose, you know, on a Wednesday by yourself like it doesn't sound that good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_243.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_245.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_247.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_249.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, but I think you're right about, just something to look forward to, because it's that midweek slump, you know. So far away till people will be in their place where they can- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_251.mp4 -hang out and have a good time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_253.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_255.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_257.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_259.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_64_261.mp4 Yeah. Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_0.mp4 Many people have told me, um, if I quit smoking, I'm going to gain weight. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_2.mp4 Well, food really doesn't taste good, but they say it tastes much better- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_4.mp4 -if you quit smoking. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_6.mp4 Now the downside to that is I'm gonna gain weight. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_8.mp4 That means a new wardrobe, which I'd like to have, but I can't afford it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_10.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_12.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_14.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_16.mp4 Um, withdrawal. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_18.mp4 They say it's awful. Um, being cranky. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_20.mp4 And if I do go through this, I just hope my friends understand and will support me in what I'm trying to do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_22.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_24.mp4 Um, I think everything's on the bad side about smoking, but, um, I've just smoked so long. I-I just can't imagine- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_26.mp4 -not- going through life without smoking. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_28.mp4 I know I've got to stop. Uh, I'm having no health problems from cigarettes- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_30.mp4 -at present, but when the doctor told me this morning what could be waiting for me in the future- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_32.mp4 -that made me rethink- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_65_34.mp4 -everything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_1.mp4 Hey. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_3.mp4 Pleasure to meet you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_5.mp4 Yeah. I'm supposed to learn how to manage it. I just learned that I got diabetes and apparently, it's pretty bad 'cause, uh, she said my blood sugar was sky high, and then she laid all these huge consequences on things that can happen. That just sounds so disastrous and, uh, and then she told me I gotta do all this stuff. And man, I'm just sort of disappointed right now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_7.mp4 She mentioned my legs having troubles and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_9.mp4 Well, that's, yeah. It's not just being scared, you know. I don't want that to happen to me, but then when I, when-when she reels off all these things I gotta do and I'm sort of going oh, oh, you know, I'm not certain I can even get it done. So it's sort of sitting-- well, you know, I'm sitting here thinking that, oh my God, this is- this is what's gonna happen to me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_11.mp4 And it is discouraging, just like discouraging. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_13.mp4 Yeah. It looks like a massive task that I'm may not be able to handle. And then, yeah, all this horrible stuff happens to me. I mean, it's- it's a bleak-looking situation and a lot worse. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_16.mp4 Well, I don't think too much trouble in taking the medicines, especially since I understand my blood sugar is really high. and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_18.mp4 Yeah, I'm pretty- I'm pretty good at taking drugs. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_20.mp4 Yeah. I think I could probably do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_22.mp4 Well, she also mentioned monitoring my blood sugar and all this. And that just seemed like a lot of mumbo jambo to me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_24.mp4 Oh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_26.mp4 Well, I like it that I, you know, that-that we can do it at a step at a time. I mean, that's-- that relieves some pressure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_28.mp4 And being able to talk with you and do this as we go along rather than-- I-I wasn't certain I could just, wham, put this huge program in[chuckles] into effect. Uh, but doing a step at a time and I, you know, that-- getting on the medicine, I don't think that's any big problem. That I can do I am pretty sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_66_30.mp4 Yeah. I think I could do that. Uh, as long as there's no big-time side effects, but, uh- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_3.mp4 Something like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_5.mp4 Uh, I vape. I have a pen, but I don't smoke it though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_7.mp4 Um, a few times a month. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_9.mp4 I did a peppermint oil once, someone shared it with me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_11.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_13.mp4 Well, I don't think it's going to hurt me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_15.mp4 Um, I don't know. It makes me relax, and it's fun to laugh with my friend. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_17.mp4 Well, I don't want to get in trouble like at school. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_19.mp4 Well, I can get suspended and I would get kicked off the team, the basketball team. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_21.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_23.mp4 well, I was thinking to not use when basketball season start. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_25.mp4 Well, I play better when I'm not high. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_27.mp4 Well, I wouldn't get caught with using a pen, so I wouldn't get kicked off the basketball team. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_29.mp4 For about a month. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_31.mp4 Um, seven. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_33.mp4 Well, I'm pretty sure, um, I can stop using for a month. I want to play well. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_35.mp4 Uh, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_37.mp4 Well, if I'm stressed or unhappy, that's when I usually wanna vape. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_39.mp4 Hmm, I like to play video games. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_41.mp4 I can play basketball with my friend Sarah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_43.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_67_45.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_1.mp4 Hi. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_3.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_5.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_7.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_9.mp4 Sure. Um, as you know, I'm Andrea, I, uh, I'm a junior I'm in the marching band. I play the tenor sax. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_11.mp4 Yeah, I'm also in the-- I'm a bit of a band geek. [laughter] I play, you know, in the wind ensemble and the jazz band, things like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_13.mp4 Yeah, [crosstalk]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_15.mp4 Oh, I started playing about 10 years ago, actually. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_17.mp4 Yeah, I started on the violin first, and then I went on, explored a little with the piano, clarinet, finally found the tenor sax, and yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_19.mp4 Um, you know, just hanging out with my friends or go to the beach, things like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_21.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_23.mp4 Yeah [laughs]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_25.mp4 Uh, well I have one older brother he's about eight and a half old- years older than me. My parents, and I have a dog [laughs]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_27.mp4 He's a Golden Retriever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_29.mp4 My big boy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_31.mp4 They're pretty good. Grades have been pretty all right. Still like 3.7 ish. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_33.mp4 Uh, I'd like to, you know, I'd like to, of course, graduate high school, hopefully, go to a nice Ivy League school. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_35.mp4 But I mean, that might not happen. And then I'd like to go on and become a doctor. Study psychology and then become a psychiatrist or something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_37.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_41.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_43.mp4 Um, I think a sense of community and belonging. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_45.mp4 I think those two and, um, respect. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_47.mp4 Yeah. Well, I think community and belonging, I kind of related them. Um, you know how I said I was in the marching band? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_49.mp4 I really, you know, I really enjoy being in that team setting of, you know, being with other people and all working toward- together towards that one goal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_51.mp4 And then in terms of respect, I-I kind of view that as one of like my major like rules. Like, I-I really do think respect is important, to respect myself and respect those around me, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_53.mp4 I place great importance in that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_55.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_57.mp4 Yes, purpose. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_59.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_61.mp4 Definitely, that's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_63.mp4 Um, sometimes we just, you know, go to the movies, go to the beach, like I had said, or sometimes we just get together at someone's house, play some good board games and hang out. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_65.mp4 Yeah, sometimes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_67.mp4 Uh, well it's mostly just for, for parties or party settings is kind of to get things going and get everything loosened up as they say. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_69.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_71.mp4 I'd say, um, on a not busy month, for instance, I'd say about like two weekends out of the month. Two or three. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_73.mp4 The days that we drink are mostly, like I said, they're parties, so it's more of that whole partying and dancing and, you know, having everyone have fun. And then when we don't, it's a lot more relaxed. It's a lot more hanging out, playing board games, watching a movie it's not yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_75.mp4 Definitely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_77.mp4 Um, I think of them as-as different, I think, you know, like in playing board games and things, it's meant to be relaxing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_79.mp4 So it's nice to have like that kind of breather- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_81.mp4 -versus with a party it's a lot more energetic it's, uh, after it all, it's very draining. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_83.mp4 But in the moment it's quite fun to dance and have fun. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_85.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_87.mp4 Um, it's, you know, when we drink, we-we tend to have more fun because I guess we're not, you know, everyone's drinking together. We're a lot more loosened up and relaxed- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_89.mp4 -and not really thinking about stresses or things like that, but it can be--When it's too much drinking, it can be- can be obviously bad. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_91.mp4 Um, a lot of times, it'll make- it'll make people stupid. [laughs] Yeah, you know, people make dumb decisions and things like that. We-we usually try to be as safe about it change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_93.mp4 -as possible. So we'll like sleep over at a friend's house. And so that, you know, we're not driving and it's mostly within our friend group. So we're not worried about strangers putting weird things in our drinks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_95.mp4 But, um, definitely some of the ideas people can have when they're stup- when they're drunk and can be really stupid. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_97.mp4 Yeah neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_99.mp4 Sometimes. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_101.mp4 Well, I, especially don't like it whenever me or one of my friends, like we drink too much and we end up like throwing up or things like that, that I don't- that's not fun. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_103.mp4 It's not. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_105.mp4 For me, that's happened to me once. It was the first time I ever drunk and it was- it was a lot, I didn't know what I was doing. I was mixing all kinds of weird things and just kind of taking anything everyone- anyone gave me change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_107.mp4 -and that didn't end well. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_109.mp4 But after that, I haven't- but I do have friends that still do sometimes, so I'll end up like having to take care of them or something and- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_111.mp4 It kind of puts a downer on my- on my fun. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_113.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_115.mp4 Yeah. People can get a little like sloppy, I guess. Like they're all loose, like with people in corners doing things that should be done in private- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_117.mp4 -and that kind of stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_119.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_121.mp4 I just- I've, you know, I have an aunt who is an alcoholic. So I-I see like the issues that are involved and I've seen movies and things I know that drunk driving is an issue- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_123.mp4 So, I, you know, I wanna be as safe as possible in those terms and be in a setting where like we can let loose but still be safe like in someone's house or sort of my parents will tell me something. But-- So, I- like I know that there are dangers involved and I guess I wanna limit that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_125.mp4 And so be where I have fun. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_127.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_129.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_131.mp4 Then it kind of defeats the purpose? [laughs] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_133.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_135.mp4 In terms of what? In terms of respect? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_137.mp4 I think, well in a way, I do think that drinking is probably a form of disrespect to my own body because I'm not putting things- I'm putting things in it that shouldn't be there. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_139.mp4 And then-- But in terms of at- how it is I am respecting myself, I am- I'm respecting myself by like trying to stay in someone's house and like trying to limit my drinking so I don't get to that blackout like throwing up and everything. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_141.mp4 And try to, you know, let loose but still be in control of my behavior so I'm not gonna go somewhere with a person I met- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_143.mp4 -into I don't know where to, I don't know what, and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_145.mp4 -things like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_147.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_150.mp4 "I usually-- Well, I start off like I make sure that I make my own drink so I know what's in it and how much is in it. So in that way I control how much I drink. So, I usually just, you know, get one of those cups and then make one drink. And then I'll try to make it last as long as possible. And I'll be like, ""All right, this is my one drink"" and I'm good in that way. I still have something in my cup so people aren't gonna be like, ""Oh, here. Have some more."" I'd be like, ""No, I'm good. I have mine,"" and I'll still be, you know, having some to like let loose a little. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_152.mp4 "For the most part, it works pretty well because, like I said, people, you know, people come asking me, trying to pressure me, I'll be like, ""No, I'm good. I have- You know, I still have something. I'll get some later."" And I never end up getting anything. Oh, but sometimes they'll be like, ""Hey, let's take a shot,"" and everyone's gathered around like the kitchen or something ready to take a shot. And then at that point, I'll be like, ""Oh, well, maybe I can take one more."" And that's when I start, you know, falling into- " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_154.mp4 -way too much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_156.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_158.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_160.mp4 Um, I'd like to make sure that I'd, you know, in terms of respecting myself and my body, I'd like to, you know, try to drink less. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_162.mp4 Like I-I-- You know, it is nice to let loose and have fun, but I'd also like it to be so, you know, I'm not damaging my body, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_164.mp4 Like my liver doesn't work by the time I'm like 22. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_166.mp4 And, um, you know, have my friends on board with a similar mentality so we can kind of work at it together as a group, as a- as a community. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_168.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_170.mp4 I'd say about like-like a six or a seven. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_172.mp4 I'd like to work on it but, you know, if I get around to it, I get around to it. If I don't, I don't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_174.mp4 Um, because I still think it's-it's important. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_176.mp4 I still, you know. Like I said, I don't want to hurt my body. Especially going to med school like I know how things affect your body and also affect your-your social and your school work and things like. I know that once I get to college, it's not- it's not gonna-gonna work out being, you know, drinking every weekend and then like trying to wake up early and go to school, take an exam. Like I know that's not- that's not feasible. It's not a good idea. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_178.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_180.mp4 I think I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_182.mp4 I think if I made the decision that I was going to, for sure, then I think definitely like a 10 I know it'd be going through. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_184.mp4 It's just because I know that once I make the decision, I know I can do it. It's making the decision in the first place. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_186.mp4 Um, I'm thinking of maybe like trying to convince my friends without sounding, you know, dorky or something and be like, hey, you know, let's just stay in today. Like, let's not go out or something. Or just be like, hey, I'm not like-- I'm not going to drink today. And then even if my friends do, like being okay with them, drinking around me and not doing it, and then them being okay with me drinking-- Me not drinking and them doing whatever they want. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_188.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_190.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_192.mp4 I think so. I think it's-it's very feasible. I think it's possible. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_194.mp4 I think so. I think that's good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_196.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_200.mp4 Yeah, I'd like to. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_68_202.mp4 Perfect. Nice. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_70_1.mp4 Yeah, I do, just a couple of minutes though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_70_3.mp4 Um, nothing specific. I just am unfamiliar with the medication. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_70_5.mp4 Okay. Uh, what about side effects? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_70_7.mp4 Um, what about does it interact with phenelzine? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_70_9.mp4 Oh, sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_70_11.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_1.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_3.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_5.mp4 Yeah, it'd be good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_7.mp4 I guess it doesn't. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_9.mp4 Uh, I guess I have to keep coming-coming back here and go into court and stuff. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_11.mp4 Yeah. It kinda messes things up. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_13.mp4 Yeah. It makes it harder. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_15.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_17.mp4 Like it's hard to get a job 'cause you have to say that you've done prison time and stuff, so it's pretty hard. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_21.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_23.mp4 Uh, I don't know if-if I would go into polytech, done courses there or something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_25.mp4 Yeah. Like, if they've got jobs now. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_29.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_31.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_33.mp4 Just learn more about cars and just, kind of, hands-on job. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_35.mp4 [sighs] Mechanic, or panel [unintelligible 00:18:02], or just-- I wouldn't care, I just-- as long as it's cars. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_37.mp4 Yes, pretty much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_39.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_41.mp4 Just I have to get that training, I guess, and then probably get a job. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_43.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_45.mp4 Like, sort of, um, just at the polytech. I don't know what exactly it was, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_47.mp4 It took them like-- And, it took them like a year or something, and then they went into apprenticeship. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_49.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_51.mp4 Yeah. I could do it pretty easy. It's just, like, I probably know all this stuff already. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_53.mp4 Like, well, I went out and picked some forms and stuff, but it's real confusing, like, having to apply, so I-I just couldn't-- I don't know. I couldn't do it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_55.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_57.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Passed around and everything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_59.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_61.mp4 Yeah, but I just-- Like, they wouldn't help me out, so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_63.mp4 -I got some forms and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_65.mp4 I asked- I asked them what I had to do, and they said I had to fill out some forms, but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_67.mp4 -well, the forms, it's too confusing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_69.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Well, I got one- I got one for panel [unintelligible 00:19:33], and one for, uh, uh, like, panel and paint- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_71.mp4 -so, learning how to paint cars and stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_73.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_75.mp4 Yeah. I was gonna fill them out there, but then I didn't get them, so I took them home, but I was gonna get Donna to help me, but I just didn't get around to it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_77.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_79.mp4 I didn't understand, like, what you're supposed to write down. Like, yeah. I'm not good at this, maybe too confusing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_81.mp4 I don't really deal with it. I s-- I don't really like writing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_83.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_85.mp4 No, I'm just real messy, so people can't read it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_87.mp4 [chuckles] Yeah, no. It's what they say, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_89.mp4 Yeah, I am. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_91.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_93.mp4 Yeah. Like, a computer or something. If you could write on a computer, I could do that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_95.mp4 But, we don't have a computer. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_97.mp4 Just ask to get someone else to do it I guess. I guess I could ask Donna, but it's been embarrassing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_99.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_101.mp4 Well, I don't know if it's that serious, it's just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_103.mp4 -I'm sure most people can fill them out. I don't know, I just don't get it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_105.mp4 No one. I guess you. You could do it. Would you do it? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_107.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_109.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_111.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_113.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_115.mp4 I guess, I'd go pick them up and I don't know, I guess I could ask Donna, but she'd probably help me, I don't really want to. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_117.mp4 Well, I don't know. Plus, well, I don't know if I could bother getting up at nine o'clock every morning and having to go to Polytec. I've got used to sleeping in. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_119.mp4 At night. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_121.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_123.mp4 Yeah. Uh, it would be cool if it's anything like school. Like, I didn't really enjoy school. [unintelligible 00:22:56] so writing and stuff, and I wouldn't wanna do that. If it's all hands-on though, it would be all good. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_125.mp4 Yeah. No, it does get in the way. I just don't wanna do it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_127.mp4 It's a waste of time. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_129.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_131.mp4 For what? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_133.mp4 Of what? Well, I don't get it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_135.mp4 Yeah. I can't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_137.mp4 Oh, it's pretty [unintelligible 00:23:47], but, like, still-- I don't know, I'm not retarded, or anything. I can write and read. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_139.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_141.mp4 Like-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_143.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_145.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_147.mp4 No, not really. Yeah, I don't really enjoy it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_149.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_151.mp4 I don't know. Hopefully, not many-- not much, but that's what I wanna find out, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_153.mp4 It'd make everything easier. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_155.mp4 Like-- I don't really like reading books or anything, so I don't really care about that but just, say, real-life stuff like going to the bank, and stuff like that- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_157.mp4 -yeah, that have filling out forms. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_159.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_161.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_163.mp4 Yeah, I didn't think about that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_165.mp4 Yeah, that'd suck if you had to read, like, a big manual or something. Hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_71_167.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_0.mp4 He, um, introduced me to it too, so I've tried it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_2.mp4 Oxy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_4.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_6.mp4 Well, yeah he said it was a pain- a pain medicine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_8.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_10.mp4 And it has, but I don't do it as often, it's just sometimes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_12.mp4 Dealing with my grandma's loss. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_14.mp4 Yeah. I feel alone, and I just, I miss her and, it does- it does help but,- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_16.mp4 -I don't wanna have to rely on having to take that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_18.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah, and— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_20.mp4 Right. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_22.mp4 Yeah, it is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_73_24.mp4 Yeah, well, I don't really know too much about it, other than it makes me feel good. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_0.mp4 Hi. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_2.mp4 Good, I'm doing really good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_4.mp4 Yeah, I really like doing this, and, um, I-I rated health as my first- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_6.mp4 -uh, value. Yeah, because I really value physical and mental health, um, spiritual, emotional. Everything as a whole package, I guess, health. Um, and I'm working on, um, a certification to become a fitness trainer. Cal State [inaudible 00:00:40] there's a like extension program. I've been doing that for the last five weeks. I have a final exam coming up, like, Saturday. A little tense about it, I guess, but, um, I'm looking forward to, like, doing it, and I gotta wait for my results. Then, I got into an internship. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_8.mp4 Um, but it's kind of exciting, a different career path in my life. Being an office worker for so long is getting boring too-- physical activity, health, in that respect. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_10.mp4 Yeah, I like being active. You know, if I could, um, be more adept to tennis, and I would love to do something like that coaching people how to play tennis, but I don't. I know enough about the game and play it, but I-I don't think my skill level would be high enough to actually coach other people but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_12.mp4 Yes, I have. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_14.mp4 It's been in the top. It's been up there, yeah. I don't remember if it's always been number one. It's probably definitely been in the top three. Uh, yeah, because I've had problems, um, with inner harmony, I guess in different stages in my life, so I don't get that. This time I put it at number two. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_16.mp4 Yeah, it's just funny how it came out that it wasn't in the top 12. But then when I look at it again it had something to do with, um, peace, uh, inner peace or something or something in there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_18.mp4 And, um, I put that as a higher priority, or top of my value list. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_20.mp4 Yeah. Um, since I've been practicing yoga, and since I learned how to teach yoga, that's been something that I've been, um, coming to terms with more, that I feel like I have a lot more inner harmony. I'm more at peace with myself, and in-in the quiet times, and if I'm meditating. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_22.mp4 Um, I really feel like-- yeah, I feel like really good about myself. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_24.mp4 "Yeah, that's part of it. Yeah, and then just feeling like, um, I don't have to please other people either. It's not a selfish thing to put myself first. And, uh, that's something I've always tried to do, make other people happy, please other people, and-and also put myself second, third, fourth, or whatever it is. And I always thought, ""Well, that's the way a good person should be.They should always put other people first, you know. And then there's times for that, you know. There's something going on, and you wanna go out of your way to help people, and you say, ""Well, my needs aren't so important right now."" I think that is okay to do once in a while. As long as you know- you know that you're not really, um, doing anything detrimental to yourself while you're doing it. And you realize, ""Well, I'm just-- I'm really helping this other person a lot, and it gives me satisfaction."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_26.mp4 "Not out of a sense of, uh, you know, ""I'm obligated to this person."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_28.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_76_30.mp4 Self love. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_1.mp4 [signs] Kind of slow. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_5.mp4 Oh, they have me doing all kinds of things in different machines and stuff. Yeah, it hurts. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_7.mp4 Well, just about every joint like especially my knees. They're really-- They have me doing some leg things that-that-that is it really necessary? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_9.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_11.mp4 I wanna go home. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_13.mp4 Everything. I wanna- I wanna, play with my dog. I miss my dog. I wanna cook for myself. I'm a very independent person and I wanna do things for myself. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_15.mp4 Um, I guess the rehab. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_17.mp4 Not really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_19.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_21.mp4 Uh, I have. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_23.mp4 I have a friend who, uh, does it and she just raves about it. She loves it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_25.mp4 Absolutely. I do not want to fall, for sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_27.mp4 Well, I-I hadn't really thought about it, but yeah I guess, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_29.mp4 Like I said, my friend talks about it and-and it's very pretty. I've seen pictures, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_31.mp4 Well, I don't see how I could do it. I-I'm still in a walker, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_33.mp4 I could? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_35.mp4 And you really recommend this? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_37.mp4 You do Tai Chi? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_39.mp4 Oh, okay. Well, yeah. Um, listen, anything that's going to get me home and if you do it and you recommend it, I'll try it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_77_41.mp4 Okay, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_3.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_5.mp4 It's been- it's been really difficult. Um, I hate to see her gasping for breath. And, um, I'm really worried, you know, when she has to go. Uh, so that's been-- it's really difficult when I have to take her. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_9.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_11.mp4 Well, I did research on the chronic inhaler and I found out that there were steroids in it and that-that I don't want her taking steroids. I did, uh, research on some of the potential side effects and some of the health problems that can result from taking steroids and I-I just don't want her to take those at all. I don't want her exposed to them at all. And then, uh, let me just go ahead and lay this out right now. Uh, because I'm sure it'll come up, but I-I do smoke. But I make sure that I do not smoke around her so that I make sure that it does not affect her. So- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_13.mp4 -I just want to let you know that right off. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_15.mp4 Mm-hmm. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_17.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_19.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_21.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_23.mp4 Well, I-I guess I didn't realize that they weren't the same thing as the anabolic steroids. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_25.mp4 Which are the ones that cause all the problems and everything. So, um, if-if you can assure me that it's not going to have those same side effects and health problems- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_29.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_31.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_33.mp4 Oh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_35.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_37.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_39.mp4 Oh, even when it's just on my clothes? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_41.mp4 She's that sensitive. If I realized that— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_43.mp4 Right. Um, so would it help, um-- You know, the thought of quitting smoking is a pretty daunting aspect. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_45.mp4 I mean, I know people who've tried to quit and it's-it's just it's- it's really difficult, you know. So I know, it'd be better— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_47.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_49.mp4 Yeah, it is. Um. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_51.mp4 Well, I was thinking, um, if since it, you know, it affects her that it's on my clothes, if I only smoked while she was at school, and then changed my clothes before she came home. Would that help? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_53.mp4 Oh, absolutely. I never. Never. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_55.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_57.mp4 Yeah. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_59.mp4 It's really difficult. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_61.mp4 Mm-hmm. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_63.mp4 Oh, really? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_65.mp4 Oh, that's great- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_67.mp4 -because that's always scary when she has to use that one. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_69.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_71.mp4 Okay. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_78_73.mp4 That sounds good. Thank you. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_79_0.mp4 Something clicked, I'd had a bunch to drink and, uh, and I knew I'd messed up. I totally messed up. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_79_2.mp4 Because I was- because I was right there, man. I was right there in the same place when I'd come home and I'd pop a couple of those pills, it was the same deal, like and I wanted to stay there. I wanted to stay exactly right there. And I just felt like I'd ruined everything. You know, Erin's using the phone now, and he called me the next day and it was, uh, great, but I kinda felt ashamed of myself, and I don't want to feel that way again. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_79_4.mp4 Because of what-- Yeah, I guess, I think that's what I mean, yeah, yeah. Because you know, I mean- I mean I could have stayed, I could have got, I could have got absolutely hammered and I could have done it every night for the rest of the week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_79_6.mp4 But I don't know if I stopped because I knew I had to stop or because, you know, it was like right there, that's where I wanted to stay, you know? Anyway, I just, uh-- [crosstalk]. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_79_8.mp4 They're better, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_79_10.mp4 Yeah, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_1.mp4 Hello, doctor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_3.mp4 Well, I did what we discussed. I did the journal- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_5.mp4 -for a week, uh, trying to mark down the-the difference in my smoking, being more aware when I had the urge, if I could stop the urge- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_7.mp4 -and I found it was okay. It got a little bit scary on the weekend because, uh, uh, the urge has kept on coming- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_9.mp4 -to have a cigarette. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_11.mp4 But during the week, I was able to cut down at least two or three cigarettes a week, and that's just in one week. So- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_13.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_15.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_17.mp4 It just seemed to get worse when it was the weekend- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_19.mp4 -and I was going out with friends and I was home a lot of the day- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_21.mp4 -instead of at work. And I found that, um, it was really hard to stop those urges. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_23.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_25.mp4 But I marked it in the book. Uh, that's one thing I said to myself, I'll be honest in my marking down. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_27.mp4 So, I'm gonna have to really be aware of the weekends. Maybe get some kind of hobby or-or join some group or something on the weekends to keep me busy. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_29.mp4 If I can just postpone it- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_31.mp4 "-and-and say, ""Okay, I'm not gonna have it at home- " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_33.mp4 "-I'll have it when I get to work or on the way to work."" " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_35.mp4 'Cause I-I-I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_37.mp4 And then, uh-uh, what I'd like to do is try not to smoke in my house. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_39.mp4 I think I'd just like to do what I did this first week. I liked the idea of marking it down. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_41.mp4 I-- And it took me a week and I'm down two cigarettes a day, I-I figure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_43.mp4 What I'd like to do is maybe go down to five cigarettes, in other words, another three a day. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_45.mp4 And, um, 'cause I smoke a large pack and small pack, maybe just two small packs. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_47.mp4 Yes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_49.mp4 I can try each day to count. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_51.mp4 And I'm still gonna try that when I get the urge to let it go, fight it, and maybe not go out for a cigarette until the next urge comes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_53.mp4 So, if I [unintelligible 00:02:59] between two of them- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_55.mp4 -and also coming back and-and talking to you really helps 'cause I have someone to- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_57.mp4 -discuss it with. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_59.mp4 I wouldn't mind coming back in a week again because this is all new and-and a week, I can handle a week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_61.mp4 Okay, thank you doctor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_80_63.mp4 Yes, thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_3.mp4 Okay. I guess I've been getting bigger. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_5.mp4 Uh, scary I guess. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_7.mp4 Yeah. I-I know there's something in there, I just don't know much about him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_9.mp4 I know you want me to see the doctor, I haven't called yet. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_11.mp4 I don't know. It seems overwhelming to me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_13.mp4 Well, I hate making phone calls and I know I need to fill out all this paperwork. I don't know how to get there and I hate needles. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_15.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_17.mp4 Can you help me make the call? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_81_19.mp4 Can you go with me to the appointment. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_1.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_3.mp4 I would say an eight. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_5.mp4 I would say a four. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_9.mp4 Um, I think it's because you've told me I'm at risk and I have alcoholism in my family and I really don't want to go down that path. So I'm-I'm confident that I can change that at this point. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_11.mp4 Um, well, I have a group of friends that doesn't drink that I hang out with. And I think when I hang out with them, it's not an issue. So that also helps me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_13.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_15.mp4 Nope. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_17.mp4 I would say an eight. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_19.mp4 Every time,- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_21.mp4 -probably a six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_23.mp4 Probably a six. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_25.mp4 Um, I'm a six because I think if I drink less, I'll be more reliable with using birth control. I tend to not use it when I'm-- I drank too much and I don't really care too much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_29.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_31.mp4 Before I leave? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_33.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_82_35.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_1.mp4 Kia ora. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_3.mp4 Yup. That's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_5.mp4 I'm from down south. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_9.mp4 Yes sir. I'm from Invercargill just short of Bluff. All my family is still down there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_11.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_13.mp4 Mm-hmm. Country boy. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_15.mp4 I've been up here since I was 18. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_17.mp4 Just a little while. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_19.mp4 Uh, just my own. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_21.mp4 Um, I was thinking about what you might ask me, what I would say. I'm thinking about my kids, thinking about having to take a day off work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_23.mp4 It's a bit of a bitch. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_25.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_27.mp4 Uh, it's been okay. Um, it hasn't been bad. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_29.mp4 I don't know. Kind of nothing, really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_31.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_33.mp4 Um, I hope that it says that I want to, um, make some changes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_35.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_37.mp4 Yeah. And I still had to walk through those doors so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_39.mp4 -but, um, I just think about my kids, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_41.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_43.mp4 No. No, I don't. I see them, um, once a fortnight. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_45.mp4 It sucks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_47.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_49.mp4 I just-- I'd love to be able to see them whenever I can, whenever I wanted to. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_51.mp4 You know. I, um, they're my whole world and-and I've fucked things up. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_53.mp4 So, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_55.mp4 It's really important. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_57.mp4 It's, uh, um, it's hard because-because I'm, uh, I'm not a bad person. I've just done some stupid shit, but I'm not a bad person. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_59.mp4 In-in regards to my kids, I'd be100- 100%. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_61.mp4 If it means say, I can have my-- see my kids whenever I- whenever I want. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_63.mp4 Um, I-I-I'd hope that they'd be proud of me. I wouldn't want my kids to see me- to see me here though. But I- But I hope they would be proud of me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_65.mp4 'Cause I'm-- Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_67.mp4 Um, oh, my mom. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_69.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_71.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_73.mp4 Yeah, I am. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_75.mp4 I just, um, I don't- don't know where to s-- where to start. I don't know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_77.mp4 Yeah, I hope so. I-- So I would genuinely want to, I genuinely want to do something to help myself. I don't deliberately fuck things up for myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_79.mp4 No, this is important to me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_81.mp4 I have, um, I've-- it's important to me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_83.mp4 I, um, I'm separated at the moment from my missus and- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_85.mp4 Uh, Kirsty. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_87.mp4 I would- I would love f-f-for her to know that I'm doing this and for her to know that I mean it, but, um, I know she wouldn't give a shit right now actually. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_89.mp4 Uh, yeah, I don't know. Maybe, but I don't know if I want them to know though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_91.mp4 Uh, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_93.mp4 I'm pretty much by myself up here. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_95.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_97.mp4 Um, I don't know. I don't, um, have that many people- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_99.mp4 -that I am-- I don't have that many people I trust to support me. My mates, I love them but, um, yeah, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_101.mp4 Yeah, let's give it some thought. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_103.mp4 Yeah. That'll definitely be true. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_105.mp4 Uh, I have a good relationship with my mum,- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_107.mp4 -with my brothers and sisters. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_109.mp4 My mum is actually pretty important to me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_111.mp4 I think she'd be proud of me. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_113.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_115.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. A good, uh, good family. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_117.mp4 Um, I don't know. Um, have some-somebody just to listen. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_119.mp4 She would- she would tell me that she loves me. She would tell me that she believes that I could do it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_121.mp4 For them to have a father they can look up to. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_123.mp4 It is what I want. Definitely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_125.mp4 If I had their support of my-my family and [silence] I want to say that would be higher. I just know I fucked it up in the past. If they were there to support me now, then I’d be 99% sure. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_83_127.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_1.mp4 Yeah, I'm all right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_3.mp4 Just caught the bus. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_5.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_7.mp4 Just a waste of my time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_9.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_11.mp4 Last time didn't really work out that well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_13.mp4 Nothing really helped me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_15.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_17.mp4 Yeah, I'd say so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_19.mp4 She didn't really listen to me, just told me what to do. She just bossed me around. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_21.mp4 Yeah, yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_23.mp4 Yeah, she didn't really care. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_25.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_27.mp4 I-I don't care that you're a woman. It's just- it's that you don't know what it's like to be me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_29.mp4 You have a different upbringing and live in a different place of town. Just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_31.mp4 -you wouldn't understand. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_33.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_35.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_37.mp4 Yeah, so it is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_39.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_41.mp4 Well, not too high. It's not like I'm out killing people or anything. It's just- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_43.mp4 -silly stuff. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_45.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_47.mp4 Mm, lots. When I stop getting caught. Don't wanna be back here again. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_49.mp4 No. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_51.mp4 No, sorry. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_53.mp4 Mm, like what out of a scale it would like fall? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_55.mp4 Mmh, 25. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_57.mp4 Mmh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_59.mp4 Mmh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_61.mp4 Maybe but, mm, yeah, I wanna stop getting into trouble. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_63.mp4 Yeah, but I don't think what I'm doing is that bad. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_65.mp4 Just unlucky. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_67.mp4 Yeah, the cops just have it out for me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_69.mp4 Just 'cause growing up dealing with them and my mates and stuff and there's, you know, guilty before charged or whatever. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_71.mp4 Yeah, me and my mates always get singled out. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_73.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_75.mp4 Just jacking cars and just stealing just, like, stuff and smokes and got done for that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_77.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_79.mp4 Yeah, well, I- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_81.mp4 -wanna stop getting in trouble. Don't wanna- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_83.mp4 -end up in prison for the rest of my life for doing stupid little things. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_85.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_87.mp4 Get some income, some good cash or something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_89.mp4 A nice job. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_91.mp4 A good-- yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_93.mp4 Pretty confident if I had a good job but otherwise, probably have to keep stealing stuff, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_95.mp4 So it depends. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_97.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_99.mp4 Yeah, yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_101.mp4 Yeah, yeah, yeah, 'cause it's just small stuff that, you know, just 'cause I don't have any cash. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_103.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_105.mp4 Yeah, just stupid little shit, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_107.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_109.mp4 Yeah, no. That's- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_111.mp4 -not an excuse but, yeah, I'll probably keep doing it. Just try not to get caught. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_113.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, I just get bored and stuff. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_115.mp4 Yeah, I get bored real easy. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_117.mp4 I don't know. I got a short attention span or something. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_119.mp4 Uh, just can't sit around home all day. I'd wanna go out and do something exciting. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_121.mp4 Mmh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_123.mp4 Just talking about something I like. Like talking about cars is all good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_125.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_127.mp4 I probably just wouldn't listen. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_129.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_131.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_133.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_135.mp4 Well, not too bad. Yeah, getting out of trouble. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_137.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_139.mp4 Ah, I got a lift from Donna. She's- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_141.mp4 Like she's my new girlfriend. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_143.mp4 Ah, just met her a few weeks ago and she's just, uh, real cool. She's really nice. Yeah, get along with her really well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_145.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_147.mp4 Donna is easy to talk to unlike other girls that I don't really get along with. Uh, she's like and a good friend too so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_149.mp4 Yeah. I can hang out with her and stuff and she gets all my mates and stuff. So it's all good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_151.mp4 Yeah, and I'm lucky. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_153.mp4 She's just a really nice girl. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_155.mp4 Yeah, it's good of her. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_157.mp4 She thinks it's good. Yeah. Uh, she doesn't want to get in trouble and stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_159.mp4 Yeah, I was just getting busy with her and stuff. So it's all good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_161.mp4 Just, uh, just hanging out. Just watching movies and stuff just, I don't know, gives me something to do. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_163.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_165.mp4 It's, yeah, just chilling with her. It's good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_167.mp4 Yeah mostly, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_169.mp4 Uh, you know, [chuckles] mostly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_171.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_173.mp4 Oh no, just stupid stuff. Just when she like-- she has to go to work and stuff, so I have to keep myself busy. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_175.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_177.mp4 She just works the whole day just typing numbers and stuff. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_179.mp4 Yeah. She actually goes there four days a week though. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_181.mp4 So we get to chill on Friday. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_183.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_185.mp4 Well, uh, sleeping and then, I don't know, catch up my mates if they're not doing anything and just get up to mischief with them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_187.mp4 It's, uh, [unintelligible 00:13:34] for the cars out there, [unintelligible 00:13:36] no not-not normally. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_189.mp4 Yeah, I'm being careful though so- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_191.mp4 But what do you mean? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_193.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_195.mp4 No, not really. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_197.mp4 She'd tell me off. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_199.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_201.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_203.mp4 Uh, okay, she wants me to be happy, I don't know. Me to get a job or something. So, get a nice car we could cruise around in it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_205.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_207.mp4 Just be able to buy her stuff. Nice car, nice house. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_209.mp4 Just and it'd be good just me, her and just be able to provide for her would be cool. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_211.mp4 Just settle down and maybe have some kids or something, family life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_213.mp4 Yeah. It'd be cool. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_215.mp4 Yeah, I know she'd be a good mum, yeah. So— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_217.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_219.mp4 I'd be all right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_221.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_223.mp4 Uh, I wouldn't boss them around. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_225.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_227.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_229.mp4 I don't know. It's just like-- My dad was really strict on me when I was little, and I don't want to be like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_231.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_84_233.mp4 Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_1.mp4 Well, I'm glad I don't have any of that.[laughter] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_3.mp4 Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_5.mp4 Yeah, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_7.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_9.mp4 Well, you were asking me why I don't like to take my medicine. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_11.mp4 I like to call it mild schizophrenia. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_13.mp4 And-and-and, uh— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_15.mp4 Yeah, just a little schizophrenia. I'm-I'm-- But, I'm okay with it, and so am I. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_17.mp4 Oh, that makes me f-- Yeah, that makes me feel- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_19.mp4 -relaxed. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_21.mp4 I need that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_23.mp4 Um- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_25.mp4 -I gotta be relaxed, you know- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_27.mp4 -if-if you had, you know- if you had to ride around in the back of a garbage truck all day like I do- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_29.mp4 -uh, it's, uh- it's stressful, you know. [clears throat] But, the doctor- you know, the other doctor put me on this medicine and-and I gotta take it every day. And, I-I don't like it. Uh, I'll just be honest with you, I don't like it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_31.mp4 It doesn't-- I don't like the way it makes you feel, um, I don't like the way it makes me act, and it's taken my sex drive, and just thrown it at the back of the garbage truck. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_33.mp4 It is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_35.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_37.mp4 Well, i-it's kinda like I'm in kind of a dreamy world. I-it kind of, I don't know, i-it just seems like I'm kinda like living in the middle of a cotton ball or something like that, where just things are kinda soft and, I don't know, I-- It just, the-the spice of life doesn't seem to be there. It seems like everything's bland, and nothing really-- Food doesn't taste the same, and things don't smell right, and— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_39.mp4 Very dull. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_41.mp4 Very dull. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_43.mp4 That's a good way to sum it up. And it's-- Well, you understand it, uh, it's just- it's not good. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_45.mp4 Well, I feel like it's taken part of my personality and just thrown it away. I don't really feel like I'm all there, right. You know, like, um, I like to be spontaneous and funny, and-and all that night, and I- and I don't-- You know, by the time I come up with a-a funny remark to the situation, everybody's left the room, and-[laughter]-stuff like that. And-and-- [chuckles] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_47.mp4 Absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_49.mp4 And so, as you can can tell, I didn't take my medication today, I'm-I'm-I'm really on my game today. So. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_51.mp4 More like takes the edge off- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_53.mp4 -for sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_55.mp4 Well, you understand that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_57.mp4 You-you can- you can understand why I don't take it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_59.mp4 Right-right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_61.mp4 Well, she wants to know who I am and what did I do with her husband. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_63.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_65.mp4 Yeah. And, uh- and so, she-- Actually, she-- When I first went on the medicine, she thought I was maybe messing around with somebody else, 'cause, I-I just wasn't interested in it at all. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_67.mp4 I canceled my subscription to the spice channel. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_69.mp4 I don't know if they still have it or not. [chuckles] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_71.mp4 Well, if I stay off the medication too long, I-- Some people might say there's a problem with that, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_73.mp4 Well, I guess running around the neighborhood with no clothes on isn't really good. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_75.mp4 Um, I thought I had a, uh— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_77.mp4 Yeah, well, I thought I had my gym shorts on, but they said that I didn't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_79.mp4 Well, I-I ended up in the hospital. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_81.mp4 Don't like that hospital. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_83.mp4 Uh. [clears throat] I'm not sure that the hospital is worse than the cotton ball, but I don't like it either. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_85.mp4 Well, I got a question for you. You're a doctor, why don't you guys come up with some- something else besides either being in the hospital or taking this stuff every day, can you come up with something? I mean, you guys, we put a man on the moon 50 years ago, I mean, and you still got to give me this stuff that makes me feel like a-a zombie with-- That hasn't had a drink or water in four days, it-it just doesn't seem right. Either you guys ought to come up with something better. That's what I think. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_87.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_89.mp4 I suppose. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_91.mp4 Well. Yeah. Well, yeah, I-I'd like to. I don't know, is it-- Can you- can you drink with them, some of these other ones? change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_93.mp4 Well, I don't really drink like people-- Like some alcoholic or something but, I do— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_95.mp4 I-I like to take the edge off- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_97.mp4 You know, with a few drinks, you know, not-not a lot, you know, and-and really- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_99.mp4 Not every day. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_101.mp4 Maybe. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_103.mp4 Maybe not, uh- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_105.mp4 You know, it's not all the time, it's-it's not- it's not a problem. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_107.mp4 Certainly not a problem. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_109.mp4 Well, if I was like getting arrested for drunk driving. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_111.mp4 Well, that's what alcoholics do. I'm not an alcoholic. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_113.mp4 Um, I'm just- yeah I just like to have a few drinks. I mean, you know, obviously, I-I have, uh, this diagnosed condition, and-and I think, you know, if I were able to, you know, maybe take a few hits off of the joint and have a couple of beers, I think that's about the same as taking the medicine. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_115.mp4 Yeah, I-I-I got to be careful with it. If I take more than a hit or two of it, it-it-it can be a bit of a problem. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_117.mp4 I get edgy. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_119.mp4 I-I-I get edgy. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_121.mp4 No-no. I'd-I'd like to just be normal as well. I'd real-- I'd like to just be normal where I don't have to take medicine, and I don't end up in the hospital three times a year, and I don't find myself in the neighbor's yard— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_123.mp4 With a statue. It's— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_125.mp4 They were really ticked about that statue thing this time, and I don't know why I keep going back over there, but— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_127.mp4 I really don't, but, apparently, when I'm in that state, uh, there's something about it, I'm not sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_85_129.mp4 Well, maybe. I-I-I guess that's possible. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_0.mp4 I just feel helpless about this whole deal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_2.mp4 Mm. I just feel helpless about this whole deal. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_4.mp4 No one wants to help me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_6.mp4 No one wants to help me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_8.mp4 Mm-hmm. I really shouldn't have done it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_10.mp4 Mm-hmm. I really shouldn't have done it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_12.mp4 Mm-hmm. I couldn't help myself. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_14.mp4 I couldn't help myself. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_16.mp4 It's actually been a fabulous week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_18.mp4 It's actually been a fabulous week. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_20.mp4 Mm-hmm. I know who to hang out with, I'm not stupid. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_22.mp4 I know who to hang out with, I'm not stupid. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_24.mp4 Mm-hmm. I'm letting the whole family down. They had such high hopes for me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_26.mp4 Mm-hmm. I'm letting my whole family down. They had such high hopes for me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_28.mp4 Mm-hmm. This is not what I want for my life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_30.mp4 This is not what I want for my life. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_32.mp4 Mm-hmm. I really want to get off the program. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_34.mp4 I really want to get off the program. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_36.mp4 Mm-hmm. I still crave smoking, even though I've stopped. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_38.mp4 I still crave smoking, even though I've stopped. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_86_40.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_1.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_3.mp4 Um, yeah, I, [sigh] that, I mean, like, when I was doing those questionnaires, it was weird because, I mean, I guess I don't really think about, like, you know, the drinking being, like, this huge deal and I don't- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_5.mp4 -ever really think about, like-like, how much I drink. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_7.mp4 Um, and, like, fi- like filling out, like, how much I'm drinking every day, it was like, whoa, you know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_9.mp4 -like, I just didn't ever really think about it, like, that I was-- like, if I try to actually count the drinks, it's, kind of, a lot, I mean, it's, kind of, a lot. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_11.mp4 Well, yeah, 'cause, like, I also, kind of, thought that, like, I drink, like, about as much as my friends did and then, like, I went back and I was, like, talking to my roommate about it and I was, like, telling her that, you know, I was drinking, like, like 10 drinks on the weekends, like, including Thursday, so like, Thursday, Friday- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_13.mp4 -Saturday, Sunday. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_15.mp4 "And then she was like, ""Sarah, that's cra-- Like, that is crazy. Why are, you know, like, where are you drinking this?"" And I was- I was like, ""Well, you know, like, different places."" And I-I guess, like, I don't know, my friends didn't, like, know. Anyway, it's, yeah, I don't know. " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_17.mp4 Yeah, and yeah, I guess it was just like, I thought that everybody was, like, doing it, you know- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_19.mp4 -but that's not really what was going on. [chuckles] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_21.mp4 Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_23.mp4 Yeah, so, that was the thing that, like, was really the most weird about doing those- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_87_25.mp4 -forms. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_0.mp4 For me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_2.mp4 Um, I have to start getting the school on time for my first hour. I always miss that class. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_4.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_6.mp4 Uh, so people will get off my back. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_8.mp4 My mom she's always saying, you know, get to school. My PO will be like, you know, if you don't get the school on time, I can bring you back in for sanctions and I don't want to go back in. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_10.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_12.mp4 I will try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_14.mp4 I can't ever get up in the morning. So that's hard and then by the time I do get up, and then I get ready and get dressed, I miss the bus. So then I usually end up walking or see if I can find a ride. So it could be a bunch of different reasons why I'm late. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_16.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_18.mp4 Get up on time would probably be a good start of making me get there on time. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_20.mp4 [sighs] If I'm gonna catch the bus I'll probably need to be up by 6:15 and sometimes that's just so hard to do, 'cause I go to bed so late and I don't know if I can do it. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_22.mp4 Right. I could try- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_24.mp4 - and see how it goes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_26.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_28.mp4 I go about midnight now, so if I tried maybe 11:00. I can try 11:00. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_30.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_32.mp4 Uh, either tomorrow or the next day. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_34.mp4 Let's start tomorrow. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_36.mp4 My mom. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_38.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_40.mp4 [sighs] She can after my alarm goes off, if I don't get up, she could come in and wake me up and remind me that I said to you that I'm going to get up so that I have to do it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_42.mp4 Exactly. Yup. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_44.mp4 [sighs] Not going to bed on time. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_46.mp4 Yup, that's gonna be a struggle for me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_48.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_50.mp4 Just go to bed and turn off the lights, don't have my phone. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_52.mp4 Oh, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_54.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_56.mp4 Have my mom check on me to make sure everything's put away. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_58.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_60.mp4 When I'm at school on time, when the bell rings and I'm in class. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_62.mp4 Absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_64.mp4 Well, yeah, I hope so. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_66.mp4 I'll give it a try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_88_68.mp4 You're welcome. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_1.mp4 Good morning, doctor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_3.mp4 Well, doctor, I-I made an appointment with you finally, because I was diagnosed over three months ago with a pulmonary disease, COPD. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_5.mp4 And although I didn't call right away. I really need some help in quitting smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_7.mp4 So I thought, well, this is my first step. So, uh, it's time to do something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_9.mp4 A respirologist. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_11.mp4 I'm- I'm really scared, uh, 'cause I don't feel well. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_13.mp4 I haven't felt well for a while. I'm getting coughing fits even when I'm on the telephone with customers. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_15.mp4 Mm-hmm. I-I don't know what I'm going to do about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_17.mp4 I'm giving myself six months, six months and-and, uh, that seems like a long time away, but I have a feeling I'm going to fail at this point in time. I don't even have 50%, uh, faith in myself. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_19.mp4 I don't know what to do. I've tried to quit smoking. I've had, uh, I've taken pills, I've taken the patch. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_21.mp4 I've gone through therapy. Uh, nothing's helped. I finally- I went to the doctor. I was actually in the hospital. They took me to the hospital for a week. That's the longest I quit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_23.mp4 I had no choice, I had no choice. And then the next day I was back to smoking again what I smoked. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_25.mp4 Uh, it's part of my life. It's, uh, I started smoking when I was 13, 14 at home. My parents smoked. All of their friends smoked. It was on television. Everybody looked so grand. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_27.mp4 Uh, smoking and all dressed up and-and fancy clothes and maybe having a drink in their hands and having a nice meal, um, I didn't really think about it. It's just an extension of me, I guess. It's-it's good for my nerves. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_29.mp4 "I mean, I feel like it is. I know when I've got that package in my pocket, or I know if there- if I'm going through some stress, I say, ""Oh, well, I'll have a cigarette and think this out."" " sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_31.mp4 That's right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_33.mp4 Um, I enjoy it. It just- it relaxes me. It's great after a meal, um, for me- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_35.mp4 -we all just do it as a little group of people, uh, my family. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_37.mp4 The people I work with, we go out in the courtyard- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_39.mp4 -have a cigarette and talk. That's how you make friends. A lot of people, um, we're like a little group now, we're all- a little bunch of us. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_41.mp4 I-I never thought of it that way, but probably you're right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_43.mp4 Well, it's bad for my health and it's scaring me 'cause I don't feel well. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_45.mp4 I haven't felt well for a while. I'm getting coughing fits even when I'm on the telephone with customers. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_47.mp4 Um, it's expensive, really got expensive, and I smoked 30, 40, sometimes 50 cigarettes a day. And I'm starting to buy different makeup 'cause I'm starting to really age, starting to get lines in my face and wrinkles and my skin is getting really clogged up and I'm spending a fortune on cosmetics. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_49.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_51.mp4 It's for me, for my health, and for the money and everything I've said, I would say it's 10 or- out of 10 that I should quit smoking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_53.mp4 Yes. A hundred percent, one of the most important things. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_55.mp4 Um, I, I'd say 35 or 40% competent. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_57.mp4 Yeah. I'd like to say more, but, um- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_59.mp4 Well, I'm- I guess I'm still a fighter, and I-I-I- it's starting to- I'm starting to realize it and I do feel pretty good that I came to see you. I-I- it was a step and a couple of people who care about me actually, uh, gave me a pat on the back that I came to see you. So- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_61.mp4 -this was a big step. So I guess, yes. Um, it wouldn't have been as high maybe last week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_63.mp4 Maybe if I could come to see you again, or maybe some ideas were suggested, maybe if there was a group or something. I-I don't know, but I-I need some help. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_65.mp4 I-I think so because I feel a little better that I just came to see you today. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_67.mp4 Discussing things helps me. I always feel better when I get things out. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_69.mp4 In other words, think about it more, don't- don't just do it automatically. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_71.mp4 Yeah, yeah. I think so because, um, when I get the urge, I could maybe fight it and, um, maybe wait till the next urge- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_73.mp4 -and maybe mark that down that, uh, I didn't go right away when something went wrong. Um, yes, I-I can try that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_75.mp4 No, that gives me something to work towards until I see you next week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_91_77.mp4 Thank you for seeing me, doctor. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_1.mp4 I think the activity piece is the kind of low-hanging fruit that I see. Um, I feel like it's gonna be harder for me to change some of my nutrition habits right out the gate, but if I can get into maybe an activity routine, that that could be good to help maybe some of the other changes happen later. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_3.mp4 Yeah, I think so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_5.mp4 Yeah, I think just to feeling like physically stronger, um, like physically more able. Uh, last night I like struggled with the jar of salsa, like opening it. So I think that just stuff like that, um, you know, would be in addition to mood and being more productive and energy and all that stuff. Um, yeah, that that would be a definite end goal for me too. And then really to like, I think if I am more active, I think my body image or my body confidence would improve also. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_9.mp4 Hmm, I'd say I'm about an eight. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_11.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_13.mp4 Well, like I said, I just, I've identified like a lot of things that I think would be good. Um, if I were to be more active and I definitely wanna have that improved mood and energy, um, and feel better about myself. Um, so yeah, all of those things I think are what's really driving that- that rating. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_15.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_17.mp4 I don't think so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_21.mp4 Mm-hmm, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_93_23.mp4 Yeah, that'd be great. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_1.mp4 Um, how about if we talk about, uh, the problem that I'm really having is, um, getting somebody motivated to do something, um, such as move out of my house. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_3.mp4 Well, I-I offered my home to somebody and, uh, for, you know, uh, a transitional period. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_5.mp4 You know, and it seems that, um, it's hard for me to be assertive and say I think the, um, the, uh, transitional period is- has come and it's beginning to time to transition. So. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_7.mp4 Yeah, that's, it's absolutely right that I want, I-I want change but I'm not, I am kind of, like, weak in that area where it's, like, the ability to actually say the words. You're right, yeah. I'd like to be able to do that. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_9.mp4 Um. [sighs] I don't know, I'm-I'm, I guess, I'm kind of, um, I care about the person and, you know, there's a certain amount of comfortability of having somebody with you, you know, and I'm just, so, I guess I am at war with myself because part of me wants the comfort of having a companion and the other part of me is just, you know-- I-I cannot-- I am not really sure what I wanna do, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_11.mp4 Yeah, you know, it's kind of, like, the old sock- song saying hit the road Jack, don't you come back no more, no more, no more, no more. [laughs] And— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_13.mp4 [laughs] Well, first of all I think he would hit the road if I started singing that song 'cause I can sing. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_15.mp4 Well, you know, in life you have to have a sense of humor in my- the way I view and otherwise, you know, I'd be like where's the news. [laughs] I mean, it's either— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_17.mp4 Yeah, yeah, I have to laugh, I mean, even comedians say, you know, uh, most of-- What I've heard about comedians is that they are really not always that happy and they use that in a comical way to, you know, deal with life, so, yeah. [laughs] I kind of, maybe I should go into that. [laughs] Like this girl— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_19.mp4 Yeah, like this girl Ruth that I know she's-she's, uh, got a serious job and she kind of does that on the side. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_21.mp4 Mm. Let's see. Well, you know, I'm really not sure, I kind of, you know. Um, I'm having a hard time with that. Um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_23.mp4 Mm, well, I have to really think about it because- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_25.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Maybe some guilt and I, um, uh, I just, you know, [sighs] I go back and forth a little bit, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_29.mp4 Yeah, I-I- yeah. I mean I- thank you. I-I-I appreciate you saying that I'm a good person. Like I feel I am. Um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_31.mp4 Yeah. Oops, it's just hard to- it's just hard to, um, er, yeah. I- my j- my job is done and I have to start to realize that I have to be a little bit more assertive, I think, and a little bit more, um, sure of myself. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_33.mp4 Well, um, I've had co-conversations about with him and sometimes not-not so pleasant, but I'm-I'm just making, you know, 'cause I happen to sometimes just like hold things in. And then finally I- at-at one point I was really, you know, very logical about it. And then the other day I kind of got not so logical about it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_35.mp4 [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_37.mp4 Yeah. That's the good thing that he does. And I mentioned them. I-I-I discussed that with him. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_39.mp4 And that gives me a relie- a sense of relief. Like I'm not just, you know, saying yeah. You know, go find your own place or, you know, I mean, there are places where he has a safety net to go to and that-that is something that I think I feel better about and that it makes it easier to discuss and giving them options that he can-- Yeah, yeah, exactly. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_41.mp4 Been there, done that. [laughs] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_43.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_45.mp4 Well, um, I told him within a couple of days is, you know. I think, um, I-I- cause I have future plans, um, and some things that are up in the air with me as far as where I'm going to be living in. I've had this place for seven years, but I'm not sure, you know. Every day is a new- a new, uh, winding road that we go down, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_47.mp4 Um. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_49.mp4 Oh, God, yeah, yeah. But, you know, and it's scary to have an extra, a huge extra trunk that you have to carry with you [chuckles]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_51.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_53.mp4 But I-I mean and it's not that I don't care about him, I do. But you know, it's just like, we're both- we're all adults here, come on. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_55.mp4 Um, that's the goal, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_57.mp4 And I don't know what his plans are, but those are my plans. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_59.mp4 I like your way of thinking, girl. I-I'll tell him that. [laughs]. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_94_61.mp4 Thank you neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_1.mp4 Um, okay. Just, I don't even know why I'm doing this anymore. I'm-I'm just so stupid. I'm such an idiot. I didn't know what the point of-of this is. I just- I just keep doing the same thing over and over, even though I know it can kill me. I just, I don't have any more willpower, ma'am. Yeah, [foreign language]. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_3.mp4 Mm-hmm. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_5.mp4 No, it just seems that cutting myself is the only way out. And I just get suicidal thoughts and [foreign language], I'm just very, very like depressed and what's going on at home. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_7.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_9.mp4 Yes. Sometimes a pain in-in the body. It's, uh, to [unintelligible 00:01:27] handle and-and the pain inside of me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_11.mp4 Yes. I am. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_13.mp4 Yeah, yeah, suicide. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_15.mp4 [foreign language] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_17.mp4 Yeah, 'cause she's a single mom and she struggles a lot. I wanna help her, but I can't help her. So it just makes me sad. I feel like if I don't live anymore, she'll be okay. And she wouldn't have to worry about me or pay my stuff. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_19.mp4 Yeah. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_21.mp4 I-I think so? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_23.mp4 Because it won't be a burden to her. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_25.mp4 Because she has to pay for my food and my uniforms, um, to have a roof over our heads. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_27.mp4 Um, I try to be a good kid. I tried to go to school. I may not have the best grades, but I'm not failing any classes. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_29.mp4 That's the right one. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_31.mp4 Um, I don't know. I don't know. It's just, um, I'm not sure I can. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_33.mp4 Thank you, ma'am, I feel better. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_95_35.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_1.mp4 Uh, yeah, sure. Um, I guess, well, my doctor referred me to see you. Um, I guess he has some concerns about, um, my- my pregnancy and- and my baby. So, um, yeah, well, I'm doing what I'm told. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_3.mp4 Uh, yeah, he is concerned about my alcohol intake. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_5.mp4 Uh, no. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_7.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_9.mp4 Um, okay. Uh, well, I guess I drink like a glass of wine at supper every night, and just to, you know, relax a little with my friends if I go out. So wine has always been a kind of a family tradition with supper. So- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_11.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_13.mp4 Yeah, and I, you know, I-I have friends who have drank during pregnancy, and-and I see articles on Facebook and-and, you know, things that show that there isn't really a clear link between, you know, abnormalities or, uh, yeah, I just- I just think it's kind of an old wives' tale. So, you know, I'm independent and I'm gonna- I'm gonna do what I want, it's my body. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_15.mp4 Yeah. You know, I've looked it up to see, you know, kinda what I can say back, you know, to support my argument. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_17.mp4 Yeah, which is that, um, I'm going to do what I- do what I wanna do and what I know, right? So it's- yeah. I don't know, but, um, I'm here anyway. So- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_19.mp4 Nope. I never have been. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_21.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_23.mp4 Mm-hmm. I think so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_25.mp4 Yeah. I mean, you know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_27.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_29.mp4 Like right now? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_31.mp4 Uh- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_33.mp4 Uh, yeah, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_35.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_37.mp4 Well, you know, I've-I've heard these kinds of things before, but I just- I don't see the evidence. I don't see the risk, you know, I don't, you know, if someone can like prove to me, or show a direct link or something like that. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_39.mp4 It's the same thing. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_41.mp4 Yeah. It's just a fancy little brochure saying what I've already known, I've already heard. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_43.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_45.mp4 Um, well, I've looked up, um, different articles. Um, and I- as I said, I personally know people who haven't had any problems. Um, so that's about the extent. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_47.mp4 Like, uh, I don't like- have like a bibliography or anything. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_49.mp4 So I can't really- I don't really know when those were published. It's just stuff I've found, supporting the way that I look at it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_51.mp4 Yeah. Well, it's like all this brochure is saying is that, um, the same again, the same thing that I've heard, that the limits and that there is no safe amount of drink during pregnancy, but it's like, why not? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_53.mp4 "You know, it's kind of like the ""why"" that it's like- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_55.mp4 -I never get that information. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_57.mp4 Yeah, like what kind of issues would that cause if any? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_59.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_61.mp4 Yep. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_63.mp4 Um, well, it's-it's really important to me. That's a big priority of mine is to have a healthy baby and bring him or her up well and-and, you know, be a good parent. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_65.mp4 Um, not-not like being there at home with them, not being absent, um, taking care of them, feeding them, um, changing their diaper, which I'm not excited about. Um, you know, kind of the- those basics. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_67.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_69.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_71.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_73.mp4 Yeah, of course. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_75.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_77.mp4 Um, well, I just don't know- I just don't know where-where these brochures get their information or-or anything from, like, where's the hard evidence essentially. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_79.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_81.mp4 Um, well, it surprises me that that's based on research from out of 2011, um, and I must have missed that. I guess, you know, if it is, um, you know, I do wanna do what's best for my baby and for myself. And if I have to quit drinking, um, I guess ultimately I have to-I make that decision, um, but, um, that's a lot of, uh, information to take in today. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_83.mp4 Nope. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_85.mp4 Um, well, first things first, if I could take a brochure home maybe, um, you know, show it to my partner and-and-and get-get their support, um, I think that's really gonna help me, and kind of changing our-our habits, or, you know, putting the alcohol away, out of sight. Um, I think that's probably the best thing I can do, like, today when I get home. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_87.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_89.mp4 Yeah, I think that- I think that would be a good idea, and maybe you could help me, yeah, with, like, ways to approach it because I think that my partner kind of has the same view that I- that I had. So- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_96_91.mp4 Yeah. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_1.mp4 Good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_3.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_5.mp4 What? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_7.mp4 You are joking, aren't you? I mean, look, I've made time in my day to come here. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_9.mp4 I'm kept in your waiting room- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_11.mp4 -for 45 minutes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_13.mp4 It's not acceptable. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_15.mp4 You know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_17.mp4 If I make an appointment with a client for 10:00- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_19.mp4 -I expect them to start at 10:00, not 10:45. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_21.mp4 Yeah, I've got other things to do. I've got accounts to do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_23.mp4 I've got clients they're coming in. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_25.mp4 You know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_27.mp4 Yeah, I mean, okay, fair enough, um, I've got to have my blood pressure- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_29.mp4 -medication changed, but I really haven't got time to talk about my weight. I mean, you know, I'm aware of my weight. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_31.mp4 I'm aware of the problems, and I'm also aware of the solutions. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_33.mp4 Um, so I don't really need a discussion, it's- it's just I've got too much to do at the moment, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_35.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_37.mp4 Well, it's b- it's bad form, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_39.mp4 Yeah, but basically I've got things to do. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_41.mp4 I gotta get back to the office. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_43.mp4 I've got a pile of work- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_47.mp4 And every time- every moment out of my day- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_49.mp4 -means that I have to work in the evening- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_51.mp4 -or the weekends. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_53.mp4 Well, when you're self-employed, you haven't got a choice, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_55.mp4 Well, I'm here now, so yeah, okay, if it's a couple of minutes, yeah? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_57.mp4 Okay, because I really must get on. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_59.mp4 About what-what, losing weight? Well, obviously, I-I want to. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_61.mp4 Um, yeah, I mean, who doesn't? I mean, I'm aware that I'm over my, uh, uh, b-b-b-balance weight, but I now know that it's causing problems. I mean, obviously, I get out of breath if I have to do something a bit howering, and I realize that I'm on this blood pressure- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_63.mp4 -um, and-and maybe that's probably contributing to it. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_65.mp4 Yeah, I mean, there are rather other things, but I mean, yeah, the weight is a- is a- is a- something I would like to get hold off. You get on [inaudible 00:03:17] change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_67.mp4 "Yeah, I mean, I know, um, th- the theories of bit of exercise on a regular basis, um, a balanced diet. Um, but unfortunately, because of my lifestyle, because of being self-employed as an accountant, it's finding the time, uh, to exercise, but also, finding the time to sort of think, ""Okay, I'm gonna go shopping for this, that, and the other""- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_69.mp4 "-""I'm gonna prepare a meal."" " change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_71.mp4 With me, it's very often— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_73.mp4 Yeah, yeah. Food on the run, you know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_75.mp4 Grazing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_77.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_79.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_81.mp4 Yeah, I mean, I, to a certain extent, because of my lifestyle, food is just fuel. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_83.mp4 You know? Um, because I'm juggling all these balls, and I don't want to drop any. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_85.mp4 No. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_87.mp4 Um, okay, I'm up for that, but it's gonna be the same problem of, A, finding time- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_89.mp4 -and B, if I can make an appointment- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_91.mp4 -I don't expect to be kept waiting for half an hour- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_93.mp4 -or whatever, 'cause it's— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_95.mp4 That'd be good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_97.mp4 I'll maybe have a look at my schedule, see whether anything- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_99.mp4 -can be arranged, or I can pass something on- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_101.mp4 -to something on to some-- and-and so it's not a wasted interview. So I can come here and say, okay, I've looked at my schedules, I've looked at things- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_103.mp4 -whatever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_105.mp4 Yeah, of course. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_97_107.mp4 Okay, thanks. Sorry, I went off a bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_1.mp4 Hi, Kathy, nice to meet you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_3.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_5.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_7.mp4 Absolutely. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_9.mp4 Yeah. I got a DUI, and I was speeding, uh, during the DUI, obviously. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_11.mp4 No, I'm fine. Yeah neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_13.mp4 The night of the-the DUI is the last time I drank. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_15.mp4 And then, you know, um, I guess I'm here 'cause my lawyer wants me to go through an assessment- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_17.mp4 -uh, with you, and, um, I'm really not sure what it means or anything like that, but, uh, he said I'm supposed to come here and, uh, just tell the truth, is what he told me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_19.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_21.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_23.mp4 Is it bad, or is it high or? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_25.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_27.mp4 Okay neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_29.mp4 Yeah. He was, well, freaking out. He was-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_31.mp4 I think he was getting a little over the top a little bit, but, you know, again, whatever. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_33.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_35.mp4 Uh, my friend was having a, um- a get together as it was birthday party in, uh, downtown, and, uh, you know, it's not like it's a normal thing, but, uh, I did drink too much that night. You know, I just, uh-- And I used poor judgment. I shouldn't have driven that night. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_37.mp4 Um, I don't really remember. I know, uh, I dunno, I probably had five or six drinks, I would think, something like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_39.mp4 Um, yeah, they were a little bigger than that. I don't really-- I wasn't really counting, so, I don't really know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_41.mp4 Five or six, something like that. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_43.mp4 Um, absolute vodka- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_45.mp4 -and seven off. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_47.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_49.mp4 Normally I drink one or two, and that's kind of it, you know, this one I did, uh- you know, I did feel a little drunk when I was- you know, when I was drinking, I just, uh, used poor judgment. I really shouldn't have drove. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_51.mp4 Um, sometimes I drink, um, you know, maybe one or two, and then I- and then I won't drink for a while, you know. So, it's not really a-- There's not really a pattern- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_53.mp4 -you know, it's not really like a uh- it's not a habit, you know, sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_55.mp4 I-I don't know if I would consider myself alcoholic. You know, I just, uh, um, you know, again, it was poor judgment. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_57.mp4 Oh, no. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_59.mp4 Absolutely not. Mm-mm. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_61.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_63.mp4 Um, there was really not a time that I, uh-- I don't know. I-I don't understand the question really. I mean, it-- There really wasn't-- I don't really drink on a normal basis, so, I don't know-- [crosstalk] sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_65.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_67.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_69.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_71.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_73.mp4 It seems like every time that I, uh, do drink more than a couple of drinks, I tend to get in trouble. And, the two times that I did, I got in trouble both times. [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_75.mp4 Yeah, pretty much. I mean, it's-- It sounds strange, I know, but, uh-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_77.mp4 Yeah. Actually, that-that's followed me around pretty much my whole life, the bad luck thing. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_79.mp4 But the-the-the-the-the alcohol hasn't really at all. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_81.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_83.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_85.mp4 Sure seems like it. Yeah. It sure seems like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_87.mp4 Um, you know, I don't really, um-- I-I don't really, uh, get into a situation where I-I-I drink too much. Um, you know, again, I-I realize it's my second DUI, but,, um, uh-uh, it isn't something that, um, is like a normal everyday process for me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_89.mp4 Um, you know, normally when I drink, I drink one or two drinks and then I stop. Um, so, it's not like it's, um-- You know, it's not like it's something that has become a problem in my life, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_91.mp4 Um, it's normally social. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_93.mp4 Yeah. It's normally social. It would be, you know, maybe in events or something like that is normally when I would, um, maybe drink more than one or two. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_95.mp4 I guess I should probably just call a taxi cab or something, you know. That way, I wouldn't have this problem. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_97.mp4 Um, probably, I think that would help. I think that would be something that I should, uh- I should work on. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_99.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, or I can just stay home probably too. If I was gonna drink, I could probably stay home, then I wouldn't get in trouble either. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_101.mp4 Yeah, a little bit. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_103.mp4 Yeah, obviously, because I just don't-- You know, I don't like getting in trouble, and I don't, uh-- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_105.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_107.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_109.mp4 Um, oh, I'll never get in the car when I'm drinking again. That-- Yeah. I-I would never do that again. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_111.mp4 Uh, I don't want to lose my license, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_113.mp4 I don't, uh, you know, I don't wanna lose my license. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_115.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_117.mp4 Well, and then I-I sell cars for a living too, so-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_119.mp4 -um, you know, that would be, um-- You know, I don't wanna lose my job either. You know, I think those would kind of be connected together. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_121.mp4 And, you know, I-- You're not gonna call my work or anything for this, are you? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_123.mp4 Oh, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_125.mp4 All right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_127.mp4 Okay. I just didn't know how that worked. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_129.mp4 Because I think if they found out, I might, you know, be in jeopardy with my job. So-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_131.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_133.mp4 Well, you know, the Super Bowl is coming up, and that might be an opportunity where, you know, I might-- I could see myself maybe drinking that day, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_135.mp4 So, maybe I would just, uh-- I think I'll just have people come over to my house instead of going somewhere else, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_137.mp4 Yeah, I think so, and probably a smarter thing to do. I don't wanna go through this again, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_139.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_141.mp4 I think so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_143.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_145.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_147.mp4 There you go. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_149.mp4 For my first DUI, I did, uh-- I didn't drink at all for about six months. And, um, I-I-I just didn't think that, um, I really had a problem with it, so, you know, I-I did start drinking again. But, you know, again, it wasn't uh-- You know, it was a little different last time, because I was drinking a little more last time than, you know, now. I don't really drink as-as much as I used to drink, you know, um, and, you know, after you know, I quit for six months, so I kind of knew that I didn't really have a problem. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_151.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_153.mp4 Um, I know it was kind of strange. My friends didn't really hang out with me too much. Um-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_155.mp4 Yeah. You know, I, uh. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_157.mp4 No, my friends. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_159.mp4 Just my social circle, I guess, uh-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_161.mp4 Probably 'cause I didn't- I wasn't drinking with them, I guess. I don't really know. I mean, it seemed, uh-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_163.mp4 Um, no. I really couldn't because my girlfriend really wouldn't let me hang with them. You know? I mean, it was, uh-- She said that if I, you know, kept hanging out with them guys, that she wasn't gonna be with me anymore. And I just thought that it was better for me to, you know, calm down for a little bit and, uh, maybe things would get better with us, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_165.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_167.mp4 Well, it was until she left, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_169.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_171.mp4 Uh, she left when I started drinking again. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_173.mp4 After the six months, she, uh-- You know, it's kinda, I dunno, she just said that it wasn't gonna work out, and, uh, she decided not to continue with the relationship. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_175.mp4 Uh, it was about the same time. I really don't know which came first. It was about the same time. Uh, we were getting in a lot of arguments. I just didn't quite feel myself. You know, I-I-I wasn't-- My friends weren't around. I, uh-- You know, I missed going out with them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_177.mp4 Yeah. It was kind of weird 'cause I felt like she was trying to control me, and, uh- and uh, you know, I, uh-- And she was telling me what to do all the time, and I just, uh, didn't feel right about the whole situation. So, it was pretty much, we both decided, you know, that it just wasn't the right thing to do, so. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_179.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_181.mp4 Well, I guess. Sure. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_183.mp4 [clear throat] Well, let's see. The first one was, uh, three years ago, and then, um, this one was a few weeks ago, so, um, it's been a few years, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_185.mp4 Yeah. It's been a few years neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_187.mp4 I don't really know that I can really compare good or bad. I just, uh-- You know, I just drink to be social, you know, I don't know that it really changes anything about me. It just, uh-- You know, I just drink to be social, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_189.mp4 Yeah, absolutely. Yeah. As soon as my girlfriend left, I could go out with them again, you know. [laughter] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_191.mp4 Well, she didn't want me going out with them. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_193.mp4 She thought that they really-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_195.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_197.mp4 She blamed the first DUI on them. She said, you know, because I was out with them, that it was pretty much, you know, they-they made me drink too much that night. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_199.mp4 I think she was right on that. Yeah, absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_201.mp4 I mean, if they wouldn't have gave me those shots, you know, towards the end of the night, I would've been all right. You know, I could have drove, and I wouldn't have, uh- I wouldn't have hit that mailbox. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_203.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_205.mp4 That was-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_207.mp4 Yeah. I was on-- It was like I was a couple of blocks away from the house and I, uh, rolled up on the neighbor's lawn and I took out their mailbox. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_209.mp4 I don't really remember too much of that night. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_211.mp4 Uh, I don't know if I was blacked out, but I just don't remember a lot of it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_213.mp4 I wouldn't really call it a blackout. I just don't really- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_215.mp4 -remember how that happened. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_217.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_219.mp4 Yeah. Yeah. It's all right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_221.mp4 Yeah, Mary-Mary, just [crosstalk] Well, after-after I got the-the-- After I hit the mailbox- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_223.mp4 -um, I stopped drinking for, you know, like about six months, and, uh, you know, and we were trying to work things out, but it just didn't- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_225.mp4 -it just didn't work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_227.mp4 I think she became a little too possessive at that point. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_229.mp4 Um, I think she just wanted to control me and I was tired of being controlled. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_231.mp4 No, I was-- They just-- No, they weren't- they weren't really controlling me. They just-- They shouldn't have given me the last couple shots, 'cause you, they-they knew I was pretty, you know, uh, messed up before that. So- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_233.mp4 -you know, that when they- when they-- You know, when they gave me the last, you know, couple shots, that kind of put me over the edge. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_235.mp4 Pretty much, pretty much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_237.mp4 Yeah. I mean I guess it was my decision to take the, uh- you know, the other shots, but I-I just-- I don't know. I really don't really remember too much. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_239.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_241.mp4 Yeah. You can blame hindsight a little bit. I mean, that works for me. [laughter] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_243.mp4 Yeah. [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_245.mp4 I mean, they've been my friends since, you know, uh, since high school. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_247.mp4 Yeah, absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_249.mp4 Sure, absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_251.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_253.mp4 Uh, well, like I'll do stuff around the house, you know, uh, cut the grass and stop, do yard work, other than that, um, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_255.mp4 Uh, no, I'm single now, so, you know, I don't really, uh-- [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_257.mp4 It's all right, you know, I date a little bit but, uh, you know, I just don't wanna get serious right now. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_259.mp4 Um, I just don't want to date someone in a regular basis. I don't really feel like I want to be in a committed relationship. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_261.mp4 Sure, absolutely. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_263.mp4 Well, I think I would like really think about-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_265.mp4 Yeah. Well, I mean I-I, uh- I, uh- I wouldn't drink as much, and if I- if I did, I would call, uh, a taxi or, um, you know, get some kind of a ride home, I think, 'cause, uh, you know, I just, uh-- I-I just don't wanna get in trouble, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_267.mp4 Uh, I don't really think about that. I guess I would have to think about that, because if I was gonna go out and drink, I would have to think about that. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_269.mp4 I guess I could call it taxi cab or something, I don't know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_271.mp4 Yeah. I think that will be something. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_273.mp4 Yeah. I think maybe if I take some money, I'll put it like in my wallet- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_275.mp4 -and I'll like put it in there for emergency, and that way, I'll have money. In case I get drunk, I can just call a cab, and I'll use that money to get home. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_277.mp4 What's that? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_279.mp4 Probably in my front pocket, I guess. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_281.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_283.mp4 Yeah. Well, if I put, uh- if I put it away, then I wouldn't spend it though, you know, [unintelligible 00:18:48] have it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_285.mp4 There-there would be a plan that I would have to- change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_287.mp4 -to get home. Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_289.mp4 It'd probably be my wallet for a while, I would think, 'cause I-- Like I said, I don't really think I have a problem with, uh- with the drinking, you know. I just- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_291.mp4 -think that, you know, it was an isolated incident. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_293.mp4 And-and I, uh-- You know, I just, uh-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_295.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_297.mp4 Yeah, well, you gotta have some people over at the Super Bowl, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_299.mp4 I don't really hang out with people that really drink a lot though. I mean, they're-they're not like-- I wouldn't call them drunks, so, I mean, they can, you know, they can handle their-- [crosstalk] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_301.mp4 Sure, I would think, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_303.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_305.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_307.mp4 You know, it was a- it was, uh- it was pretty good. I just didn't feel like I had my friends around, and-and it just-- It seemed kinda boring. I mean, I felt good physically and, uh, you know, I, uh- I was more on time to work, I was doing really good at work and so forth, um, but, you know, it just, um-- The hard part for me was I just, uh- I just didn't have any friends around. I just kinda-- I felt isolated. I just didn't- I just didn't feel comfortable, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_309.mp4 Well, my-my girl- my girlfriend and I were trying to work it out. But it just seemed like we were arguing all the time, you know. It just didn't seem like-- You know what I mean? Like the not-drinking part was good, but it just didn't seem like anything else had changed. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_311.mp4 You know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_313.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_315.mp4 No- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_317.mp4 -and I really don't see that working out really well. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_319.mp4 Well, I don't know. I mean, it's a-- I mean, my friends drink though. So, it's kinda hard to- it's kinda hard to, you know, to be with them, and then-- When I'm not drinking, 'cause it's-- I just don't feel like I fit in, you know. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_321.mp4 Yeah, they don't drink that much, but they-they seem to-- You know, like they do drink though, you know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_323.mp4 I mean, it's just beer. You know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_325.mp4 -it's not like they're drinking whiskey or anything like that. It's-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_327.mp4 You know, but, they'll drink beer, and it's just-- You know, for me, I don't know. Sometimes, uh, I don't-- You know, I have an intention to have a couple of drinks and maybe I'll have, you know, more than a couple, you know- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_329.mp4 -and then I don't know what really makes a-a legal limit. So, I think I can drink what? Like two or three drinks an hour, is that what it is? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_331.mp4 One drink per hour, okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_333.mp4 I'll have to remember that. [laughing] neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_335.mp4 Yeah, One shot. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_337.mp4 Okay. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_339.mp4 Just one though? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_341.mp4 That's it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_343.mp4 Yeah, I guess. I-I think I probably know a couple of friends that don't drink and I don't really, uh, probably-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_345.mp4 I'd have to really think about it. I don't really have too many good friends. You know, I have some acquaintances that don't drink but- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_347.mp4 -pretty much everyone I know like drinks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_349.mp4 Yeah, I, uh-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_351.mp4 I don't know. Just, it's weird, I-I think that, you know, kinda when I go there, you know, and-and hang with them at all, it's, uh-- You know, we- you know- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_353.mp4 Yeah. Yeah, exactly. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_355.mp4 Well, 'cause they're drinking and then- and if I'm drinking soda, they kind of mess with me a little bit. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_357.mp4 Well, they just mess with me until I get-- You know, until I drink a beer with them, you know. So-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_359.mp4 You know, I mean, just- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_361.mp4 -they're just kinda like egging me on, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_363.mp4 You know, I really don't feel like being an outcast, you know what I mean, they're my friends, you know. I-- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_365.mp4 I've been with them since, you know, like high school. So, I can't. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_367.mp4 They mean a lot to me. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_369.mp4 I guess maybe it would probably be not a bad idea to not hang with them for a little bit, I guess. You know, I mean, I-I-I-- Yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_371.mp4 Yeah, sure. I gu- I think that would be something I could probably try. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_373.mp4 Well, if I need to get my license back, I think it would be pretty important for me to stop hanging around with them for a while, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_375.mp4 Yeah, absolutely. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_377.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_379.mp4 Yeah, yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_381.mp4 I think that would be a good idea. Uh, is this gonna help like get my license back, like, at this-- Like, the-the plans that I've made, is that gonna really help me like-- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_383.mp4 Okay, good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_384.mp4 -about the plans that you're striving for. Um, that I-- There would be, um, uh, someone to read this assessment-Mm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_386.mp4 Um, probably just not really drink as much. I mean, if I just didn't drink, I wouldn't have to really worry about that too much either. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_388.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_390.mp4 Yeah. This is true. Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_98_392.mp4 Okay. Thank you. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_1.mp4 Okay, like what? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_3.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_5.mp4 Yeah, uh, on the weekends? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_7.mp4 No, I guess I haven't really thought much of it. Um, you know, I don't really think I drink that much in the first place- sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_9.mp4 -so I have a hard time believing that it's causing my anxiety. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_11.mp4 In fact, on the nights when I don't drink, I-I have a harder time going to sleep. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_13.mp4 Well, I, yeah, I guess I do have abo-about 2:00 AM, I tend to wake up on the nights I drink too much. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_15.mp4 Jeez, no. I didn't think I was that bad. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_17.mp4 I don't know. I mean, this is all news to me. I've, I don't want to do anything to put myself at risk and I've always thought of myself as a pretty healthy guy. I guess I'd put myself right in the middle of the five. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_19.mp4 Well, you know I'm training for the marathon, and that's why I'm coming in, is because I need to be able to get my sleep back on track, but I also don't think of myself as a hazardous drinker, and I'm certainly not an alcoholic. So, that's-that's why the middle-ground, five. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_21.mp4 Yes. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_23.mp4 Well, I-I think the natural thing would be to cut back a little on my drinking. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_25.mp4 Mm, um, you know, I-I guess drinking no more than maybe three or four times a week, and-and on the weekends, which is when I would drink the most, cup back to no more than five or six beers. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_27.mp4 Um, doing the math, I guess no more than 18 drinks a week. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_29.mp4 Thanks. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_99_31.mp4 Sure. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_1.mp4 I don't know. I'm just having a little bit of, uh, having a little bit of trouble dealing with, uh, my criminal history and, uh, you know, trying to stay on the right path, but, you know, um, it's just- it gets, you know, it gets kind of overwhelming, you know. Um, I really wanna be, you know, a good productive member of society, but at the same time, you know, I got this background that nobody will overlook, you know. So it kinda makes it like, well, what, you know, do I go back to what I know?I mean, you can only work for $5, $6, $7 an hour for so long, and it's really frustrating. It's causing, uh, some anger issues to resurface and some depression to resurface and, um, you know, and, um, I don't wanna fall back, you know. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_3.mp4 Yes, it is. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_5.mp4 I don't know what about it is, um— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_7.mp4 Yeah. It has a felony conviction on it. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_9.mp4 And, uh— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_11.mp4 "Yeah, it is. And it's- I hadn't anticipated that it would have been-- You know, so at the time, it was just like, ""Okay, cool. I'm not going to jail."" " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_13.mp4 You know, and, um, now, it's like, okay, so this is more like a life sentence than it was a four-year sentence that they were offering. You know, I mean, I think it would have been bad either way, but, um, I hadn't anticipated that this was gonna be this difficult, especially since I went back to school and, you know, uh, got a degree and actually want to do, you know, some, um, corporate level or, you know, professional type of work. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_15.mp4 No, I'm not. Um, in situations where I don't know about it, I don't know about, I mean, if I'm not considered because of that, I probably-- Um, you know, that sucks too. Don't get me wrong. I mean, I-I don't- I don't get callbacks a lot because of that issue- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_17.mp4 - I'm sure. The ones that really count are-are-are, you know, are kind of just, you know, uh, making me so angry and, you know, kind of spilling over into the rest of my life or the ones that I get face face, especially after a really good interview. And, you know, most of the times, I interview extremely well. And, um, it's, you know, I get the vibe that the job is offered almost halfway through the interview because, you know, they start telling me about what I'll be doing and what I'll be getting.And then, you know, when it comes to sign on the paperwork and I believe in honesty, so I tell them, you know, hey, look, this is what you're gonna find, you know, and, um, try to explain it. It's just-it's almost like night and day. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_19.mp4 "Black and white. It just stops right there. ""I'm sorry. I can't really do much for you. I-- You have to go,"" you know, and it's— " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_21.mp4 "No. I mean, there's different situations, you know. Sometimes they ask and, you know, I'll say something like, you know, ""We'll discuss at interview"". Uh, sometimes, there are situations where if I probably put that, I don't get a callback and those situations I don't know about. You know, but there are also times where I get an interview through, um, you know, uh, uh, some sort of connection or something, or like a buddy of mine or a family member will send me on an interview. You know, I don't have to fill it out- fill out an application for that. They just usually, you know, give you the interview. And at the end- " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_23.mp4 Yeah. It seems like it's a done deal. You just have to go through the motion of having the interview. And then- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_25.mp4 "-when I go through the interview and it goes well, and they're like, ""Okay, well, you know, I think we can do something"" and then, ""Here, sign this, sign that,"" and the other thing. And it's like, but we just had a great, you know, I mean, I qualify. Like what does that have to-- Seven years ago, six years ago, what does it have to do with anything? Now, especially because, you know, the type of conviction, it wasn't a non- it wasn't a violent conviction. It's not like I'm a danger to the staff around me. It's not like it's a, you know, a theft type of thing. It was, you know, it was a possession, you know what I mean? " neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_27.mp4 And neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_29.mp4 No, I didn't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_31.mp4 It's really frustrating because- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_33.mp4 -it's almost like I-I don't wanna give up, but it's like, I'm not given any other choice, you know? sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_35.mp4 I do, yeah. change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_37.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_39.mp4 Not that I can think of, no. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_41.mp4 I think— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_43.mp4 Probably get booted out right away- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_45.mp4 -you know? Um— sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_47.mp4 Well, it's-it's sucks either way. You know what I mean? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_49.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_50.mp4 -you know what I mean? If it's gonna make things more efficient like as if-if you're what you're trying to say is if that's something that I could do and then if they get past it, then now I know that there's an actual intention by the hiring people to hire me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_52.mp4 Yeah, I think as far as maybe efficiency, you know, weeding out the things, not wasting my time, you know, but I had to tell you something, a lot of the people that don't care about that type of thing- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_54.mp4 -are not the sort of jobs that I really wanna be doing. You know what I mean? Um, I don't know, it's just really frustrating. sustain talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_56.mp4 Be an issue. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_58.mp4 Right, and then the other thing is anybody that I might tell that to- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_60.mp4 -that doesn't care- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_62.mp4 -are probably not jobs that, you know, are worth going to get the interview. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_64.mp4 Right. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_66.mp4 Do you know what I mean? If I want to work at a moving company and I tell them off the bat, you know, from the gate, I tell them I have a felony conviction, just so you know before the interview and they don't really mind. I mean, that's great, you know, but at the same time, I don't- I'm not looking to be a mover or- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_68.mp4 -a burger flipper or something like that. Not that there's anything wrong with it, but I feel like I have a little bit more to offer- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_70.mp4 -you know, and, um, I don't know, it's a really, it's-it's like being caught between a rock and a hard place. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_72.mp4 I have done, and my eyes have, you know, just become like mush after all the reading I've done on this situation. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_74.mp4 I found out that I have the type of, um, felony that's expungable, I don't even have the type that's sealable. I have apparently the type that has to go on the governor's desk next to death row, you know, inmates or the candidates for, um, a gov- a governor's, uh, pardon. I-- That's what it all boils down to is that I have a class one felony- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_76.mp4 -that needs to be, if any, you know, options, the only option I have is for, um, governor's clemency and I can't figure out why because it's-it's, I mean, I just, I maybe there is a loophole somewhere, I don't know. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_78.mp4 I've looked into, um, a fe- um, I've looked into a few groups that are supposedly helping convicted felons get- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_80.mp4 -work. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_82.mp4 Um, again, the-the only-- I mean, I think what I saw was a whole bunch of, you know, dead end jobs. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_84.mp4 And the other thing that I saw was that it was very politically charged. You know, I didn't think that, um, I was, uh, you know, allowed to kind of get an interview right away with one of those counselors that they offer. Um, I-- it just didn't seem like a type of place that was willing to help, you know. And-and, uh, I saw that there was a lot of, um, I wouldn't say racism but I would say a little bit of racial favor, I suppose. And, uh, I found it really hard to get in and to get an interview with a counselor to match me up with a job. Um, I think that those-those types of groups are cool if they work. I just haven't had any luck with, um- at working with- through that group. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_86.mp4 You know? neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_88.mp4 Um, you know, I don't know. I don't know if there's anything else out there. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_90.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_92.mp4 Mm-hmm. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_94.mp4 Right. It's-it's, uh-- There is a lot stacked up against me. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_96.mp4 Let's just put it like that. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_98.mp4 You know, uh, but that isn't— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_100.mp4 Well, that's what-- yeah. That's-- I mean, uh, I'm able to, um-- I'm able to carry a conversation. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_102.mp4 So at some point, I would imagine that maybe I strike up conversation with the right person- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_104.mp4 -that would probably want to hire me regardless of that sort of thing. Um, I think that at the this point in time, that it doesn't really matter what degree you have. I don't believe that it matters where you went to school. I think it's all about who you know. You know, we live in a very politically charged city. And I think that even if we didn't live in a politically charged city, at this point, jobs are so scarce that people who know people who know people are the ones that are ending up, um, at work- neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_106.mp4 -and getting jobs. And I think that, um, if I continue to, you know, go to school and, uh, you know, uh, get time from that felony, you know. So it's been seven years now and— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_108.mp4 Yeah. And at some point, I probably don't even have to report it, you know, and I have that going for me. It's been seven years. I have the fact that I'm, you know, uh, good at, um, interaction with people, that's good. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_110.mp4 You know, um, I've been clean from that sort of lifestyle for that long so that's-that's-that's up for me, you know, that's-that's good. Um— change talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_112.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_114.mp4 They don't. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_116.mp4 Yeah. Well, that's my hope. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_118.mp4 Yeah. That's my hope. neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_120.mp4 It is. It should be. You know, I-I— neutral talk_type +AnnoMi-client_100_122.mp4 Yeah. neutral talk_type